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bsh1
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6/20/2015 2:35:29 AM
Posted: 1 year ago
This is a rather personal question, but I am curious as to whether you would engage in sex before wedlock, or at least before getting engaged? There are a variety of views on this subject (religious, philosophical, practical, etc.), and I know DDO has a diversity of views on the issue.

What would you do, and what is your reasoning for the stance you take?
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6/20/2015 2:47:45 AM
Posted: 1 year ago
I'm married now, so I don't think it applies.

Have I? Oh yeah... farrrr too much.

It has caused a ton of pain and trouble in my life as a result as well. Especially in my marriage; we had my son out of wedlock-- the lil b@stard! lol jk...

So, should I? No, absolutely not.

Knowing what I know now, would I refrain? I don't know... =/ I'm flooded with temptation and lust now and its a pain in the butt, so I could only imagine if I was single again...
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6/20/2015 2:52:22 AM
Posted: 1 year ago
At 6/20/2015 2:35:29 AM, bsh1 wrote:
This is a rather personal question, but I am curious as to whether you would engage in sex before wedlock, or at least before getting engaged? There are a variety of views on this subject (religious, philosophical, practical, etc.), and I know DDO has a diversity of views on the issue.

What would you do, and what is your reasoning for the stance you take?

Hell yes.

1. Sex is pleasurable & fun
2. Satisfies your sex drive
3. It's a way of being more intimate with your partner

There are a number of studies which show a strong link between sex life and marriage quality too - although I don't know if causation has been established. If there is a causal effect from good sex to improved marriage - then it would also serve as a good puts us test for a potentially bad marriage, too.

But rather than beating around a bush, #1 and 2 are the most obvious, and arguably the most substantive reasons to have sex regardless of martial status. No need to dress it up in Shakespeare.
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6/20/2015 2:54:02 AM
Posted: 1 year ago
At 6/20/2015 2:47:45 AM, Paradox_7 wrote:
I'm married now, so I don't think it applies.

Have I? Oh yeah... farrrr too much.

It has caused a ton of pain and trouble in my life as a result as well. Especially in my marriage; we had my son out of wedlock-- the lil b@stard! lol jk...

I was born out of wedlock too, to hell with my unreasonable parents...

So, should I? No, absolutely not.

Knowing what I know now, would I refrain? I don't know... =/ I'm flooded with temptation and lust now and its a pain in the butt, so I could only imagine if I was single again...
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6/20/2015 2:56:29 AM
Posted: 1 year ago
At 6/20/2015 2:54:02 AM, Envisage wrote:
At 6/20/2015 2:47:45 AM, Paradox_7 wrote:
I'm married now, so I don't think it applies.

Have I? Oh yeah... farrrr too much.

It has caused a ton of pain and trouble in my life as a result as well. Especially in my marriage; we had my son out of wedlock-- the lil b@stard! lol jk...

I was born out of wedlock too, to hell with my unreasonable parents...

As was I, and my pops was never really around... but luckily I got a legit step-dad!

so its all good.. lol
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: Don't be. The Catholic Church is ran by Darth Sidius for fvck sake. As far as I'm concerned, you're a bona fide member of the Sith.
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6/20/2015 9:32:33 AM
Posted: 1 year ago
I believe it's better to wait, at the very least waiting is correlated with a ton of positive things. If I could go back, I'd remain a virgin until marriage.
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6/20/2015 11:20:20 AM
Posted: 1 year ago
I think it's immoral to engage in extra-marital sex because God forbids it. The good Lord blessed me with being ugly and weird, so being abstinent has not been difficult at all for me.
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6/20/2015 12:04:55 PM
Posted: 1 year ago
No. But then again, I'm not going to marry either.
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6/20/2015 2:56:42 PM
Posted: 1 year ago
At 6/20/2015 12:04:55 PM, Vox_Veritas wrote:
No. But then again, I'm not going to marry either.

Why?
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6/20/2015 3:10:01 PM
Posted: 1 year ago
At 6/20/2015 3:05:00 PM, RevNge wrote:
At 6/20/2015 2:56:42 PM, bsh1 wrote:
Answer your own question. :3

Now I won't, just to frustrate you ;)
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6/20/2015 3:30:52 PM
Posted: 1 year ago
At 6/20/2015 2:35:29 AM, bsh1 wrote:
This is a rather personal question, but I am curious as to whether you would engage in sex before wedlock, or at least before getting engaged? There are a variety of views on this subject (religious, philosophical, practical, etc.), and I know DDO has a diversity of views on the issue.

What would you do, and what is your reasoning for the stance you take?

I have engaged in pre-marital sex with a variety of people. My reasoning being horny and not believing moral restrictions behind such things.
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6/20/2015 3:43:37 PM
Posted: 1 year ago
At 6/20/2015 2:35:29 AM, bsh1 wrote:
This is a rather personal question, but I am curious as to whether you would engage in sex before wedlock, or at least before getting engaged? There are a variety of views on this subject (religious, philosophical, practical, etc.), and I know DDO has a diversity of views on the issue.

What would you do, and what is your reasoning for the stance you take?
Though I don't answer your question you might find my story interesting:
When I was younger. I always asked my date at the end of the night "We can either go to my place ;-) OR I can take you home and we can go on to date some more, what would you like? Not once did I ever get the response that they would like to date again. Subsequently I have had more one night stands than I can count and I have never been married. I always wanted to be in somebody, heart, mind and soul, but what I got was enjoyable freaky sex. Though my peers were quite envious of my sexual prowness, I was always left sad and lonely. This could be because of my own flaw in character or my willingness to take advantage of other's character flaws.

MHO Delay of gratification is a top qualifier of someones character. If you know you're going to get some whats the hurry (let the personal relationship climax first).

note: many of those one night stands didn't understand the gravity of what I had proposed and would call or come over with gifts as if they were my girlfriend after the fact and I feel bad for the number of broken hearts I left in my wake.
Feel free to psychoanalyse.
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6/20/2015 4:08:54 PM
Posted: 1 year ago
At 6/20/2015 2:56:42 PM, bsh1 wrote:
At 6/20/2015 12:04:55 PM, Vox_Veritas wrote:
No. But then again, I'm not going to marry either.

Why?

Personal reasons.
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6/20/2015 11:22:19 PM
Posted: 1 year ago
At 6/20/2015 2:35:29 AM, bsh1 wrote:
This is a rather personal question, but I am curious as to whether you would engage in sex before wedlock, or at least before getting engaged? There are a variety of views on this subject (religious, philosophical, practical, etc.), and I know DDO has a diversity of views on the issue.

What would you do, and what is your reasoning for the stance you take?
I'm against it for moral reasons - secular ones, though. I've explained this in an opinion:

http://www.debate.org...

BTW, one of the reasons I support gay marriage is that it will reduce sex without marriage among homosexuals.
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6/22/2015 12:53:24 PM
Posted: 1 year ago
I have a ton. Far, far too much.

I know this is strange due to both my age and the fact I am a female. But it is for these two reasons that I believe my opinion is interesting and my story even more so...and a bit sad.

The reason I started so early was not due to a higher than normal sex drive. It was as a result of sexual abuse that went on for about two years, and I began sleeping around afterwards because I didn't like being in the gray. By some people's definitions I was a virgin, and by others I wasn't, and I didn't want other people to decide for me. So I decided for myself, and became addicted in the process.

Overall, despite all my experiences good and bad, I am still a proponent for pre-marital sex. But I think it is very important for a person to have maturity and a backbone, and thus can determine if the sex is safe, meaning not damaging emotionally or physically.

Necessities for Safe Sex:
1. You feel one hundred percent comfortable with your partner and vice versa, and there is strong mutual trust. You guys are honest to each other and yourselves about what you want and where you see your relationship.
2. You and your partner engage in sex in a safe and comfortable place.
3. You and your partner are protected (condom, birth control, etc..)

Pre-marital sex isn't the enemy. It's immature people not following those guidelines.
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6/23/2015 2:53:33 PM
Posted: 1 year ago
At 6/20/2015 2:35:29 AM, bsh1 wrote:
This is a rather personal question, but I am curious as to whether you would engage in sex before wedlock, or at least before getting engaged? There are a variety of views on this subject (religious, philosophical, practical, etc.), and I know DDO has a diversity of views on the issue.

What would you do, and what is your reasoning for the stance you take?

No. I got married in my 30s and there was nothing before marriage. I would make arguments, but they would mostly deny gay sex as well - so probably not interested.
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6/23/2015 4:32:52 PM
Posted: 1 year ago
At 6/20/2015 2:35:29 AM, bsh1 wrote:
This is a rather personal question, but I am curious as to whether you would engage in sex before wedlock, or at least before getting engaged? There are a variety of views on this subject (religious, philosophical, practical, etc.), and I know DDO has a diversity of views on the issue.

What would you do, and what is your reasoning for the stance you take?

I would have to say no. I believe sex after marriage is best. Not only that, but you're saving it for someone special and who you love ^_^
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6/23/2015 4:43:43 PM
Posted: 1 year ago
At 6/20/2015 3:10:01 PM, bsh1 wrote:
At 6/20/2015 3:05:00 PM, RevNge wrote:
At 6/20/2015 2:56:42 PM, bsh1 wrote:
Answer your own question. :3

Now I won't, just to frustrate you ;)

*scoffs* Tease.
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6/23/2015 4:44:10 PM
Posted: 1 year ago
At 6/23/2015 4:32:52 PM, Lee001 wrote:
At 6/20/2015 2:35:29 AM, bsh1 wrote:
This is a rather personal question, but I am curious as to whether you would engage in sex before wedlock, or at least before getting engaged? There are a variety of views on this subject (religious, philosophical, practical, etc.), and I know DDO has a diversity of views on the issue.

What would you do, and what is your reasoning for the stance you take?

I would have to say no. I believe sex after marriage is best. Not only that, but you're saving it for someone special and who you love ^_^

Why not have sex with someone special and who you love BEFORE marriage?
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6/23/2015 4:45:44 PM
Posted: 1 year ago
At 6/23/2015 4:44:10 PM, RevNge wrote:
At 6/23/2015 4:32:52 PM, Lee001 wrote:
At 6/20/2015 2:35:29 AM, bsh1 wrote:
This is a rather personal question, but I am curious as to whether you would engage in sex before wedlock, or at least before getting engaged? There are a variety of views on this subject (religious, philosophical, practical, etc.), and I know DDO has a diversity of views on the issue.

What would you do, and what is your reasoning for the stance you take?

I would have to say no. I believe sex after marriage is best. Not only that, but you're saving it for someone special and who you love ^_^

Why not have sex with someone special and who you love BEFORE marriage?

Because some people just want women for sex. They pretend to love you and treat you special. Then once you have sex with them, they're off. I'm not saying all men are like that because it isn't true, but allot are sad to say.
"Condoms are societal constructs created by the government to restrain 'Murican freedom!"-SolonKR

"But I jest and digress (sick rhymes, yo); every boob is equal in the eyes of the Lord."- SolonKR

"Oh Hey, Seeing Artichokes Makes Me Want to Have Sex."- SolonKR

"Yep, but anyone who touches my hair immediately ascends to the heavens..You're already an angel, so touching my hair can do nothing <3" -SolonKR

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6/23/2015 4:50:01 PM
Posted: 1 year ago
At 6/23/2015 4:45:44 PM, Lee001 wrote:
At 6/23/2015 4:44:10 PM, RevNge wrote:
At 6/23/2015 4:32:52 PM, Lee001 wrote:
At 6/20/2015 2:35:29 AM, bsh1 wrote:
This is a rather personal question, but I am curious as to whether you would engage in sex before wedlock, or at least before getting engaged? There are a variety of views on this subject (religious, philosophical, practical, etc.), and I know DDO has a diversity of views on the issue.

What would you do, and what is your reasoning for the stance you take?

I would have to say no. I believe sex after marriage is best. Not only that, but you're saving it for someone special and who you love ^_^

Why not have sex with someone special and who you love BEFORE marriage?

Because some people just want women for sex. They pretend to love you and treat you special. Then once you have sex with them, they're off. I'm not saying all men are like that because it isn't true, but allot are sad to say.

So, in other words, you can't trust people until after marriage.
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6/23/2015 4:50:43 PM
Posted: 1 year ago
At 6/23/2015 4:50:01 PM, RevNge wrote:
At 6/23/2015 4:45:44 PM, Lee001 wrote:
At 6/23/2015 4:44:10 PM, RevNge wrote:
At 6/23/2015 4:32:52 PM, Lee001 wrote:
At 6/20/2015 2:35:29 AM, bsh1 wrote:
This is a rather personal question, but I am curious as to whether you would engage in sex before wedlock, or at least before getting engaged? There are a variety of views on this subject (religious, philosophical, practical, etc.), and I know DDO has a diversity of views on the issue.

What would you do, and what is your reasoning for the stance you take?

I would have to say no. I believe sex after marriage is best. Not only that, but you're saving it for someone special and who you love ^_^

Why not have sex with someone special and who you love BEFORE marriage?

Because some people just want women for sex. They pretend to love you and treat you special. Then once you have sex with them, they're off. I'm not saying all men are like that because it isn't true, but allot are sad to say.

So, in other words, you can't trust people until after marriage.

If they love you enough, they will wait till after marriage.
"Condoms are societal constructs created by the government to restrain 'Murican freedom!"-SolonKR

"But I jest and digress (sick rhymes, yo); every boob is equal in the eyes of the Lord."- SolonKR

"Oh Hey, Seeing Artichokes Makes Me Want to Have Sex."- SolonKR

"Yep, but anyone who touches my hair immediately ascends to the heavens..You're already an angel, so touching my hair can do nothing <3" -SolonKR

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6/23/2015 4:58:47 PM
Posted: 1 year ago
At 6/23/2015 4:50:43 PM, Lee001 wrote:
At 6/23/2015 4:50:01 PM, RevNge wrote:
At 6/23/2015 4:45:44 PM, Lee001 wrote:
At 6/23/2015 4:44:10 PM, RevNge wrote:
At 6/23/2015 4:32:52 PM, Lee001 wrote:
At 6/20/2015 2:35:29 AM, bsh1 wrote:
This is a rather personal question, but I am curious as to whether you would engage in sex before wedlock, or at least before getting engaged? There are a variety of views on this subject (religious, philosophical, practical, etc.), and I know DDO has a diversity of views on the issue.

What would you do, and what is your reasoning for the stance you take?

I would have to say no. I believe sex after marriage is best. Not only that, but you're saving it for someone special and who you love ^_^

Why not have sex with someone special and who you love BEFORE marriage?

Because some people just want women for sex. They pretend to love you and treat you special. Then once you have sex with them, they're off. I'm not saying all men are like that because it isn't true, but allot are sad to say.

So, in other words, you can't trust people until after marriage.

If they love you enough, they will wait till after marriage.

Will you marry me?
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6/23/2015 4:59:25 PM
Posted: 1 year ago
At 6/23/2015 4:58:47 PM, Envisage wrote:
At 6/23/2015 4:50:43 PM, Lee001 wrote:
At 6/23/2015 4:50:01 PM, RevNge wrote:
At 6/23/2015 4:45:44 PM, Lee001 wrote:
At 6/23/2015 4:44:10 PM, RevNge wrote:
At 6/23/2015 4:32:52 PM, Lee001 wrote:
At 6/20/2015 2:35:29 AM, bsh1 wrote:
This is a rather personal question, but I am curious as to whether you would engage in sex before wedlock, or at least before getting engaged? There are a variety of views on this subject (religious, philosophical, practical, etc.), and I know DDO has a diversity of views on the issue.

What would you do, and what is your reasoning for the stance you take?

I would have to say no. I believe sex after marriage is best. Not only that, but you're saving it for someone special and who you love ^_^

Why not have sex with someone special and who you love BEFORE marriage?

Because some people just want women for sex. They pretend to love you and treat you special. Then once you have sex with them, they're off. I'm not saying all men are like that because it isn't true, but allot are sad to say.

So, in other words, you can't trust people until after marriage.

If they love you enough, they will wait till after marriage.

Will you marry me?

Never.
"Condoms are societal constructs created by the government to restrain 'Murican freedom!"-SolonKR

"But I jest and digress (sick rhymes, yo); every boob is equal in the eyes of the Lord."- SolonKR

"Oh Hey, Seeing Artichokes Makes Me Want to Have Sex."- SolonKR

"Yep, but anyone who touches my hair immediately ascends to the heavens..You're already an angel, so touching my hair can do nothing <3" -SolonKR

My hubby Hayd <3 <3
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6/23/2015 5:01:51 PM
Posted: 1 year ago
At 6/23/2015 4:59:25 PM, Lee001 wrote:
At 6/23/2015 4:58:47 PM, Envisage wrote:
At 6/23/2015 4:50:43 PM, Lee001 wrote:
At 6/23/2015 4:50:01 PM, RevNge wrote:
At 6/23/2015 4:45:44 PM, Lee001 wrote:
At 6/23/2015 4:44:10 PM, RevNge wrote:
At 6/23/2015 4:32:52 PM, Lee001 wrote:
At 6/20/2015 2:35:29 AM, bsh1 wrote:
This is a rather personal question, but I am curious as to whether you would engage in sex before wedlock, or at least before getting engaged? There are a variety of views on this subject (religious, philosophical, practical, etc.), and I know DDO has a diversity of views on the issue.

What would you do, and what is your reasoning for the stance you take?

I would have to say no. I believe sex after marriage is best. Not only that, but you're saving it for someone special and who you love ^_^

Why not have sex with someone special and who you love BEFORE marriage?

Because some people just want women for sex. They pretend to love you and treat you special. Then once you have sex with them, they're off. I'm not saying all men are like that because it isn't true, but allot are sad to say.

So, in other words, you can't trust people until after marriage.

If they love you enough, they will wait till after marriage.

Will you marry me?

OMG YES

How sweet.
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6/23/2015 5:02:13 PM
Posted: 1 year ago
At 6/23/2015 4:59:25 PM, Lee001 wrote:
At 6/23/2015 4:58:47 PM, Envisage wrote:
At 6/23/2015 4:50:43 PM, Lee001 wrote:
At 6/23/2015 4:50:01 PM, RevNge wrote:
At 6/23/2015 4:45:44 PM, Lee001 wrote:
At 6/23/2015 4:44:10 PM, RevNge wrote:
At 6/23/2015 4:32:52 PM, Lee001 wrote:
At 6/20/2015 2:35:29 AM, bsh1 wrote:
This is a rather personal question, but I am curious as to whether you would engage in sex before wedlock, or at least before getting engaged? There are a variety of views on this subject (religious, philosophical, practical, etc.), and I know DDO has a diversity of views on the issue.

What would you do, and what is your reasoning for the stance you take?

I would have to say no. I believe sex after marriage is best. Not only that, but you're saving it for someone special and who you love ^_^

Why not have sex with someone special and who you love BEFORE marriage?

Because some people just want women for sex. They pretend to love you and treat you special. Then once you have sex with them, they're off. I'm not saying all men are like that because it isn't true, but allot are sad to say.

So, in other words, you can't trust people until after marriage.

If they love you enough, they will wait till after marriage.

Will you marry me?

Never.

What if I offered to buy the ribbed condoms?