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kasmic
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7/21/2015 6:07:57 PM
Posted: 1 year ago
I was just told by a friend of ten plus years that our friendship is tedious.
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7/21/2015 7:19:32 PM
Posted: 1 year ago
That's rough. Really. I've been on both ends of the non-reciprocation in relationships. Unless it's a romantic relationship, it does not speak well of their character for them to think such a thing. A friendship might be awkward, but that doesn't give them grounds to disrespect you as a person. There are people more worthy of your time, no matter how much you might respect this friend for other aspects of their character.

On the other hand, if it is a romantic relationship, it's not worth forcing reciprocation. That never works.
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7/21/2015 7:23:14 PM
Posted: 1 year ago
At 7/21/2015 6:07:57 PM, kasmic wrote:
I was just told by a friend of ten plus years that our friendship is tedious.

Then change your friendship circles. Sentiments and commitments are important, but when a friendship is doing more pharm then good then it probably needs to be set aside. You can still be friends, but your relationship needs to change (or be dissolved). You both are almost certainly are not the same person you were 10 years ago, hence you are going to grow in your own directions - you need to choose your circles and environments in a manner which is continually healthy for yourself. It's a tough pill to swallow, but often dead friendships are not within that category.
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7/21/2015 9:31:29 PM
Posted: 1 year ago
At 7/21/2015 6:07:57 PM, kasmic wrote:
I was just told by a friend of ten plus years that our friendship is tedious.

What were the exact words he used?

Elaborate.
Wylted
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7/22/2015 1:22:44 AM
Posted: 1 year ago
At 7/21/2015 6:07:57 PM, kasmic wrote:
I was just told by a friend of ten plus years that our friendship is tedious.

You should have told him, his penis is tedious.
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7/22/2015 2:34:41 AM
Posted: 1 year ago
At 7/22/2015 1:22:44 AM, Wylted wrote:
At 7/21/2015 6:07:57 PM, kasmic wrote:
I was just told by a friend of ten plus years that our friendship is tedious.

You should have told him, his penis is tedious.

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The best cure for depression is to not have any friends. No cause of social sorrow=no depression.
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Wylted
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7/22/2015 2:36:31 AM
Posted: 1 year ago
At 7/22/2015 2:34:41 AM, 18Karl wrote:
At 7/22/2015 1:22:44 AM, Wylted wrote:
At 7/21/2015 6:07:57 PM, kasmic wrote:
I was just told by a friend of ten plus years that our friendship is tedious.

You should have told him, his penis is tedious.

2far2soon

The best cure for depression is to not have any friends. No cause of social sorrow=no depression.

I doubt you're correct about that. Depression isn't really caused by friends, but by your internal belief system, as well as chemical reactions going on inside of your head.
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7/22/2015 2:37:26 AM
Posted: 1 year ago
At 7/22/2015 2:36:31 AM, Wylted wrote:
At 7/22/2015 2:34:41 AM, 18Karl wrote:
At 7/22/2015 1:22:44 AM, Wylted wrote:
At 7/21/2015 6:07:57 PM, kasmic wrote:
I was just told by a friend of ten plus years that our friendship is tedious.

You should have told him, his penis is tedious.

2far2soon

The best cure for depression is to not have any friends. No cause of social sorrow=no depression.

I doubt you're correct about that. Depression isn't really caused by friends, but by your internal belief system, as well as chemical reactions going on inside of your head.

wait, so you're telling me that the only cure to depression is decapitation?
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Wylted
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7/22/2015 2:39:12 AM
Posted: 1 year ago
At 7/22/2015 2:37:26 AM, 18Karl wrote:
At 7/22/2015 2:36:31 AM, Wylted wrote:
At 7/22/2015 2:34:41 AM, 18Karl wrote:
At 7/22/2015 1:22:44 AM, Wylted wrote:
At 7/21/2015 6:07:57 PM, kasmic wrote:
I was just told by a friend of ten plus years that our friendship is tedious.

You should have told him, his penis is tedious.

2far2soon

The best cure for depression is to not have any friends. No cause of social sorrow=no depression.

I doubt you're correct about that. Depression isn't really caused by friends, but by your internal belief system, as well as chemical reactions going on inside of your head.

wait, so you're telling me that the only cure to depression is decapitation?

I don't think belief systems and chemical reactions are unalterable, but you're correct that decapitation would work.
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7/22/2015 12:14:40 PM
Posted: 1 year ago
At 7/21/2015 6:07:57 PM, kasmic wrote:
I was just told by a friend of ten plus years that our friendship is tedious.

Why does this depress you?
I assume by tedious you mean they find you/your time together boring, which is all subjective. Ten years is a long time, and people change.

I get that it is sad to find out that you bore someone, and someone whom you've known that long, but it leaves room for growth in your relationship. Spice it up, or leave them.
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Kozu
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7/22/2015 5:47:55 PM
Posted: 1 year ago
At 7/21/2015 6:07:57 PM, kasmic wrote:
I was just told by a friend of ten plus years that our friendship is tedious.

Dealing with anyone feels tedious for me, to some extent.

Maybe he's an introvert. I wouldn't take it personally.
TheJuniorVarsityNovice
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8/3/2015 7:57:08 PM
Posted: 1 year ago
At 7/22/2015 2:37:26 AM, 18Karl wrote:
At 7/22/2015 2:36:31 AM, Wylted wrote:
At 7/22/2015 2:34:41 AM, 18Karl wrote:
At 7/22/2015 1:22:44 AM, Wylted wrote:
At 7/21/2015 6:07:57 PM, kasmic wrote:
I was just told by a friend of ten plus years that our friendship is tedious.

You should have told him, his penis is tedious.

2far2soon

The best cure for depression is to not have any friends. No cause of social sorrow=no depression.

I doubt you're correct about that. Depression isn't really caused by friends, but by your internal belief system, as well as chemical reactions going on inside of your head.

wait, so you're telling me that the only cure to depression is decapitation?

This will go down in history as the perfect straw Man
sadolite
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8/3/2015 11:07:18 PM
Posted: 1 year ago
At 7/21/2015 6:07:57 PM, kasmic wrote:
I was just told by a friend of ten plus years that our friendship is tedious.

Suck it up and move on. People are dime a dozen.
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8/4/2015 2:41:29 AM
Posted: 1 year ago
At 7/22/2015 2:36:31 AM, Wylted wrote:
At 7/22/2015 2:34:41 AM, 18Karl wrote:
At 7/22/2015 1:22:44 AM, Wylted wrote:
At 7/21/2015 6:07:57 PM, kasmic wrote:
I was just told by a friend of ten plus years that our friendship is tedious.

You should have told him, his penis is tedious.

2far2soon

The best cure for depression is to not have any friends. No cause of social sorrow=no depression.

I doubt you're correct about that. Depression isn't really caused by friends, but by your internal belief system, as well as chemical reactions going on inside of your head.

I don't understand you at all.
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8/4/2015 3:30:27 AM
Posted: 1 year ago
At 8/3/2015 7:57:08 PM, TheJuniorVarsityNovice wrote:
At 7/22/2015 2:37:26 AM, 18Karl wrote:
At 7/22/2015 2:36:31 AM, Wylted wrote:
At 7/22/2015 2:34:41 AM, 18Karl wrote:
At 7/22/2015 1:22:44 AM, Wylted wrote:
At 7/21/2015 6:07:57 PM, kasmic wrote:
I was just told by a friend of ten plus years that our friendship is tedious.

You should have told him, his penis is tedious.

2far2soon

The best cure for depression is to not have any friends. No cause of social sorrow=no depression.

I doubt you're correct about that. Depression isn't really caused by friends, but by your internal belief system, as well as chemical reactions going on inside of your head.

wait, so you're telling me that the only cure to depression is decapitation?

This will go down in history as the perfect straw Man
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8/4/2015 3:38:26 PM
Posted: 1 year ago
At 7/21/2015 6:07:57 PM, kasmic wrote:
I was just told by a friend of ten plus years that our friendship is tedious.

You're putting way too much value into this person's opinion, as they clearly don't value you.
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8/4/2015 4:04:08 PM
Posted: 1 year ago
At 7/21/2015 6:07:57 PM, kasmic wrote:
I was just told by a friend of ten plus years that our friendship is tedious.

This reminds me of the movie Her. A guy dated and married his childhood girlfriend, but a few years later they grew apart.

Like what some other people said, people change. Yes, you had some good memories, but you have to focus on the present and realize that everything is not like before.

It happens. Hell, I feel like it might happen to me too.