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Shield
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8/13/2015 3:43:46 AM
Posted: 1 year ago
I'm at risk of losing the most important thing to me. This most important thing is willing to compromise what it is in order to allow me to keep it, in which case it would still retain its importance to me. However, in order to keep this most important thing, it requires that I compromise who I am to people of equal importance to it as I am to it, in order for it to remain important to those other people. This most important thing is telling me to let go of it if I am not willing to compromise who I am, as it will not allow me to keep it if I don't do so, and as such it believes I and it are wasting our time, and that we should both move on. It should be noted that this most important thing is willing to compromise what it is and that I am seemingly unwilling to compromise who I am, and also that I do not want it to lose its importance to those other people.

Am I a coward and a hypocrite? I do not want to lose this most important thing. Nothing is more important to me in the whole entire world. I need help/advise.
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8/14/2015 9:23:06 PM
Posted: 1 year ago
Depends on lot's of things. Depends on what you're compramising and such.
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8/16/2015 5:10:32 AM
Posted: 1 year ago
If you are changing yourselves for each other, why don't you stay the same? how did it become important to you? How did you become important to it? I think it needs to prioritize over you and those other people. If it can't, then a little change is in order. But you have to decide where change is due. Think: is it a life long decision? If so, is it worth it? Do you absolutely need it in your life? Can you let it go? I think the most important decision is: are you willing to sacrifice yourself for it to it? And do you need it that bad? Answer these questions calmly and one by one, then come to a conclusion.
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8/16/2015 2:07:25 PM
Posted: 1 year ago
Perhaps the important thing is to keep wanting to keep compromising what you want so you can keep wanting its importance to other important people compromised. Then you can compromise over wanting it, important or not, depending on other important people wanting to keep being kept it compromised over, which is the important thing not to compromise about. Ever. Otherwise you are wasting time that could be important to you, or to other people, even if that does means being a hypocrite.
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8/16/2015 9:53:19 PM
Posted: 1 year ago
At 8/13/2015 3:43:46 AM, Shield wrote:
I'm at risk of losing the most important thing to me. This most important thing is willing to compromise what it is in order to allow me to keep it, in which case it would still retain its importance to me. However, in order to keep this most important thing, it requires that I compromise who I am to people of equal importance to it as I am to it, in order for it to remain important to those other people. This most important thing is telling me to let go of it if I am not willing to compromise who I am, as it will not allow me to keep it if I don't do so, and as such it believes I and it are wasting our time, and that we should both move on. It should be noted that this most important thing is willing to compromise what it is and that I am seemingly unwilling to compromise who I am, and also that I do not want it to lose its importance to those other people.

Am I a coward and a hypocrite? I do not want to lose this most important thing. Nothing is more important to me in the whole entire world. I need help/advise.

If you "let it go", will you be compromising what you actually are, or rather what people think you are?
Romanii
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8/17/2015 2:12:13 AM
Posted: 1 year ago
At 8/13/2015 3:43:46 AM, Shield wrote:
I'm at risk of losing the most important thing to me. This most important thing is willing to compromise what it is in order to allow me to keep it, in which case it would still retain its importance to me. However, in order to keep this most important thing, it requires that I compromise who I am to people of equal importance to it as I am to it, in order for it to remain important to those other people. This most important thing is telling me to let go of it if I am not willing to compromise who I am, as it will not allow me to keep it if I don't do so, and as such it believes I and it are wasting our time, and that we should both move on. It should be noted that this most important thing is willing to compromise what it is and that I am seemingly unwilling to compromise who I am, and also that I do not want it to lose its importance to those other people.

Am I a coward and a hypocrite? I do not want to lose this most important thing. Nothing is more important to me in the whole entire world. I need help/advise.

It would be a lot easier to make sense of that big paragraph up there ^ if you got a little more specific...
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8/17/2015 4:18:59 AM
Posted: 1 year ago
I'm sensing this is about a girl or guy who won't stay with you unless you change. Two things you need to ask yourself; 1. Would I rather live my life pretending to be someone I'm not? 2. Would I rather be myself and find someone who loves me for me?

It's hard to decide between thoose questions. You'd be much happier to find a girl or guy that loves you, for you.

You don't want to spend your life pretending to be someone you aren't, because your partner won't love you for who you are.
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