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11/11/2015 6:19:32 AM
Posted: 1 year ago
Why is it every semester at college, I have either a stalking issue, or guys who immediately fall in love with me, and want to have my children? -.-

This guy and I met my first semester of college. So, we have known each other for 1 year now. About 5 months ago, he expressed his feelings for me (he has a girlfriend) we stopped talking, then began texting. *Now* this semester, he's been waiting outside my class waiting for me to come out so he can come walk me to my car. He also kept texting me, which I didn't like, and I told him it was inappropriate because he has a girlfriend, and he got mad at me. He also has asked me to kiss him many times. I told him no because he has a girlfriend, and I have no intentions of ever wanting to be with him. He made the reference that kissing another girls isn't cheating, its like "test driving another car" which pissed me the hell off.

So today, as soon as class ended, I had to go out another door to try and hide from him, and it's making me very uneasy and uncomfortable...

I want a guys opinion on this...

*Note: He knows I don't like him, nor do I want to be with him..
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11/11/2015 9:47:37 AM
Posted: 1 year ago
At 11/11/2015 6:19:32 AM, Rosalie wrote:
Why is it every semester at college, I have either a stalking issue, or guys who immediately fall in love with me, and want to have my children? -.-

This guy and I met my first semester of college. So, we have known each other for 1 year now. About 5 months ago, he expressed his feelings for me (he has a girlfriend) we stopped talking, then began texting. *Now* this semester, he's been waiting outside my class waiting for me to come out so he can come walk me to my car. He also kept texting me, which I didn't like, and I told him it was inappropriate because he has a girlfriend, and he got mad at me. He also has asked me to kiss him many times. I told him no because he has a girlfriend, and I have no intentions of ever wanting to be with him. He made the reference that kissing another girls isn't cheating, its like "test driving another car" which pissed me the hell off.

So today, as soon as class ended, I had to go out another door to try and hide from him, and it's making me very uneasy and uncomfortable...

I want a guys opinion on this...

*Note: He knows I don't like him, nor do I want to be with him..

Never, ever text a guy that you've rejected. It sends a mixed message.

Him waiting outside your class to talk to you is fairly innocent, but everything else indicates that he's a creep. If his behaviour is criminal, go to the police. If he's just annoying you, complain to his girlfriend - tell her to put him on a leash or something. At the very least, it'll give him something else to do with his time (since she'll probably give him hell, and rightly so).

Long-term, you need a male protector. A guy friend or older brother will do. The protector's job is to say to the creep, "Are you messing with my girl? Fuck_off, dude." Men are territorial, so that'll discourage 90% of stalkers. If the creep doesn't get the message, that's when your guy friend beats him up (bringing his mates to help is optional). It's brutal, and not very PC, but that's life.
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11/11/2015 12:28:16 PM
Posted: 1 year ago
At 11/11/2015 6:19:32 AM, Rosalie wrote:
Why is it every semester at college, I have either a stalking issue, or guys who immediately fall in love with me, and want to have my children? -.-

This guy and I met my first semester of college. So, we have known each other for 1 year now. About 5 months ago, he expressed his feelings for me (he has a girlfriend) we stopped talking, then began texting. *Now* this semester, he's been waiting outside my class waiting for me to come out so he can come walk me to my car. He also kept texting me, which I didn't like, and I told him it was inappropriate because he has a girlfriend, and he got mad at me. He also has asked me to kiss him many times. I told him no because he has a girlfriend, and I have no intentions of ever wanting to be with him. He made the reference that kissing another girls isn't cheating, its like "test driving another car" which pissed me the hell off.

So today, as soon as class ended, I had to go out another door to try and hide from him, and it's making me very uneasy and uncomfortable...

I want a guys opinion on this...

*Note: He knows I don't like him, nor do I want to be with him..

Sounds like a douche bag. Completely ignore him.
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11/11/2015 12:29:40 PM
Posted: 1 year ago
At 11/11/2015 6:19:32 AM, Rosalie wrote:
Why is it every semester at college, I have either a stalking issue, or guys who immediately fall in love with me, and want to have my children? -.-

This guy and I met my first semester of college. So, we have known each other for 1 year now. About 5 months ago, he expressed his feelings for me (he has a girlfriend) we stopped talking, then began texting. *Now* this semester, he's been waiting outside my class waiting for me to come out so he can come walk me to my car. He also kept texting me, which I didn't like, and I told him it was inappropriate because he has a girlfriend, and he got mad at me. He also has asked me to kiss him many times. I told him no because he has a girlfriend, and I have no intentions of ever wanting to be with him. He made the reference that kissing another girls isn't cheating, its like "test driving another car" which pissed me the hell off.

So today, as soon as class ended, I had to go out another door to try and hide from him, and it's making me very uneasy and uncomfortable...

I want a guys opinion on this...

*Note: He knows I don't like him, nor do I want to be with him..

Lol, test driving another car... and then he's gonna want to take it home for a test drive, and then he'll find he doesn't like it and he'll take it right back to where he got it from and leave it there.

Seriously though, the guy sounds really weird. I would cut off all communication with him.
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11/11/2015 12:47:30 PM
Posted: 1 year ago
offer to suck his d!ck

then when you see his d1ck tangling around in front of you, bite the living sh*t out of i till he needs a straw to pee.
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11/11/2015 1:15:04 PM
Posted: 1 year ago
At 11/11/2015 12:47:30 PM, XLAV wrote:
offer to suck his d!ck

then whAwen you see his d1ck tangling around in front of you, bite the living sh*t out of i till he needs a straw to pee.

Aw, now that's just a waste of nice d1ck.
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11/11/2015 2:09:42 PM
Posted: 1 year ago
At 11/11/2015 6:19:32 AM, Rosalie wrote:
Why is it every semester at college, I have either a stalking issue, or guys who immediately fall in love with me, and want to have my children? -.-

This guy and I met my first semester of college. So, we have known each other for 1 year now. About 5 months ago, he expressed his feelings for me (he has a girlfriend) we stopped talking, then began texting. *Now* this semester, he's been waiting outside my class waiting for me to come out so he can come walk me to my car. He also kept texting me, which I didn't like, and I told him it was inappropriate because he has a girlfriend, and he got mad at me. He also has asked me to kiss him many times. I told him no because he has a girlfriend, and I have no intentions of ever wanting to be with him. He made the reference that kissing another girls isn't cheating, its like "test driving another car" which pissed me the hell off.

So today, as soon as class ended, I had to go out another door to try and hide from him, and it's making me very uneasy and uncomfortable...

I want a guys opinion on this...

*Note: He knows I don't like him, nor do I want to be with him..

This is pretty simple. If he isn't leaving you alone, go to the school administration to tell them, and see if they can help.

In the mean time, start recording in a notebook, instances of him doing this stuff. If the administration can't help, contact the police. If you have to, you need to lie and say he threatened to kill you. That way you can get a restraining order, and the restraining order will help the police to have probable cause for an arrest, if he keeps coming around.
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11/11/2015 3:53:35 PM
Posted: 1 year ago
At 11/11/2015 3:27:38 PM, Insignifica wrote:
The drama-free solution:
Tell his girlfriend

I hope your joking because that's the drama max solution
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11/11/2015 3:54:41 PM
Posted: 1 year ago
At 11/11/2015 6:19:32 AM, Rosalie wrote:
Why is it every semester at college, I have either a stalking issue, or guys who immediately fall in love with me, and want to have my children? -.-

This guy and I met my first semester of college. So, we have known each other for 1 year now. About 5 months ago, he expressed his feelings for me (he has a girlfriend) we stopped talking, then began texting. *Now* this semester, he's been waiting outside my class waiting for me to come out so he can come walk me to my car. He also kept texting me, which I didn't like, and I told him it was inappropriate because he has a girlfriend, and he got mad at me. He also has asked me to kiss him many times. I told him no because he has a girlfriend, and I have no intentions of ever wanting to be with him. He made the reference that kissing another girls isn't cheating, its like "test driving another car" which pissed me the hell off.

So today, as soon as class ended, I had to go out another door to try and hide from him, and it's making me very uneasy and uncomfortable...

I want a guys opinion on this...

*Note: He knows I don't like him, nor do I want to be with him..

Well that is cheating. Though I can't say that I've been in your position. I've never had people lining up to want to date me. In this case I would get the feeling that he's a "Creeper" and just tell him how you feel. If he doesn't get that then you can always play hardball with him.
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11/11/2015 5:24:51 PM
Posted: 1 year ago
At 11/11/2015 2:09:42 PM, Wylted wrote:
At 11/11/2015 6:19:32 AM, Rosalie wrote:
Why is it every semester at college, I have either a stalking issue, or guys who immediately fall in love with me, and want to have my children? -.-

This guy and I met my first semester of college. So, we have known each other for 1 year now. About 5 months ago, he expressed his feelings for me (he has a girlfriend) we stopped talking, then began texting. *Now* this semester, he's been waiting outside my class waiting for me to come out so he can come walk me to my car. He also kept texting me, which I didn't like, and I told him it was inappropriate because he has a girlfriend, and he got mad at me. He also has asked me to kiss him many times. I told him no because he has a girlfriend, and I have no intentions of ever wanting to be with him. He made the reference that kissing another girls isn't cheating, its like "test driving another car" which pissed me the hell off.

So today, as soon as class ended, I had to go out another door to try and hide from him, and it's making me very uneasy and uncomfortable...

I want a guys opinion on this...

*Note: He knows I don't like him, nor do I want to be with him..

This is pretty simple. If he isn't leaving you alone, go to the school administration to tell them, and see if they can help.

In the mean time, start recording in a notebook, instances of him doing this stuff. If the administration can't help, contact the police. If you have to, you need to lie and say he threatened to kill you. That way you can get a restraining order, and the restraining order will help the police to have probable cause for an arrest, if he keeps coming around.

Really, they don't care...the school doesn't.

I'll just have to be straight-forward with him and tell him to leave me alone.
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11/11/2015 6:09:43 PM
Posted: 1 year ago
At 11/11/2015 6:19:32 AM, Rosalie wrote:
Why is it every semester at college, I have either a stalking issue, or guys who immediately fall in love with me, and want to have my children? -.-

This guy and I met my first semester of college. So, we have known each other for 1 year now. About 5 months ago, he expressed his feelings for me (he has a girlfriend) we stopped talking, then began texting. *Now* this semester, he's been waiting outside my class waiting for me to come out so he can come walk me to my car. He also kept texting me, which I didn't like, and I told him it was inappropriate because he has a girlfriend, and he got mad at me. He also has asked me to kiss him many times. I told him no because he has a girlfriend, and I have no intentions of ever wanting to be with him. He made the reference that kissing another girls isn't cheating, its like "test driving another car" which pissed me the hell off.

Technically, he is not wrong in saying that kissing is like testing car:

https://www.youtube.com...

So today, as soon as class ended, I had to go out another door to try and hide from him, and it's making me very uneasy and uncomfortable...

I want a guys opinion on this...

*Note: He knows I don't like him, nor do I want to be with him..

Record the incident via cell phone(audio) and bring the evidence of the event to authority figures within your school campus.

If it gets to serious, invest in pepper spray as a precaution.
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11/11/2015 6:17:44 PM
Posted: 1 year ago
At 11/11/2015 6:09:43 PM, SamStevens wrote:
At 11/11/2015 6:19:32 AM, Rosalie wrote:
Why is it every semester at college, I have either a stalking issue, or guys who immediately fall in love with me, and want to have my children? -.-

This guy and I met my first semester of college. So, we have known each other for 1 year now. About 5 months ago, he expressed his feelings for me (he has a girlfriend) we stopped talking, then began texting. *Now* this semester, he's been waiting outside my class waiting for me to come out so he can come walk me to my car. He also kept texting me, which I didn't like, and I told him it was inappropriate because he has a girlfriend, and he got mad at me. He also has asked me to kiss him many times. I told him no because he has a girlfriend, and I have no intentions of ever wanting to be with him. He made the reference that kissing another girls isn't cheating, its like "test driving another car" which pissed me the hell off.

Technically, he is not wrong in saying that kissing is like testing car:

https://www.youtube.com...

So today, as soon as class ended, I had to go out another door to try and hide from him, and it's making me very uneasy and uncomfortable...

I want a guys opinion on this...

*Note: He knows I don't like him, nor do I want to be with him..

Record the incident via cell phone(audio) and bring the evidence of the event to authority figures within your school campus.

If it gets to serious, invest in pepper spray as a precaution.

I already have pepper spray.
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11/11/2015 6:28:57 PM
Posted: 1 year ago
At 11/11/2015 6:17:44 PM, Rosalie wrote:
At 11/11/2015 6:09:43 PM, SamStevens wrote:
At 11/11/2015 6:19:32 AM, Rosalie wrote:
Why is it every semester at college, I have either a stalking issue, or guys who immediately fall in love with me, and want to have my children? -.-

This guy and I met my first semester of college. So, we have known each other for 1 year now. About 5 months ago, he expressed his feelings for me (he has a girlfriend) we stopped talking, then began texting. *Now* this semester, he's been waiting outside my class waiting for me to come out so he can come walk me to my car. He also kept texting me, which I didn't like, and I told him it was inappropriate because he has a girlfriend, and he got mad at me. He also has asked me to kiss him many times. I told him no because he has a girlfriend, and I have no intentions of ever wanting to be with him. He made the reference that kissing another girls isn't cheating, its like "test driving another car" which pissed me the hell off.

Technically, he is not wrong in saying that kissing is like testing car:

https://www.youtube.com...

So today, as soon as class ended, I had to go out another door to try and hide from him, and it's making me very uneasy and uncomfortable...

I want a guys opinion on this...

*Note: He knows I don't like him, nor do I want to be with him..

Record the incident via cell phone(audio) and bring the evidence of the event to authority figures within your school campus.

If it gets to serious, invest in pepper spray as a precaution.

I already have pepper spray.

Did you inform your teachers/other staff in authority at the college?
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11/11/2015 6:29:17 PM
Posted: 1 year ago
At 11/11/2015 6:19:32 AM, Rosalie wrote:

Hey it's TheOncomingStorm. Hope Max doesn't mind me using Jonelle's account for this.

Why is it every semester at college, I have either a stalking issue, or guys who immediately fall in love with me, and want to have my children? -.-

There's a grotesque amount of guys who are just desperate and act on their impulses only, not realizing that they can get what they want by being patient and considerate of other people.

This guy and I met my first semester of college. So, we have known each other for 1 year now. About 5 months ago, he expressed his feelings for me (he has a girlfriend) we stopped talking, then began texting. *Now* this semester, he's been waiting outside my class waiting for me to come out so he can come walk me to my car.

Well, my parents didn't warn me about this particular situation, but the plan is applicable.

You can walk out of class holding hands with someone if you have a friend in that class that you're that comfortable with. However, I've found that most people are willing to help anyone who's in trouble, especially if it has to do with a creepy guy.

Or just walk out with a friend in general and have them get between you and creepy guy.

I'd suggest having another guy or a girl who knows how to fight though because if he gets mad (which it sounds like he will), you need an intimidation factor.

The lesson here is that there's strength in numbers, and you will make this guy extremely uncomfortable by adding another person to the group. He doesn't want anyone to be added to the situation. He wants to keep you secluded with him.

He also kept texting me, which I didn't like, and I told him it was inappropriate because he has a girlfriend, and he got mad at me.

Next time reply, "Sorry but the number you are texting has been disconnected."

Or block his number, even if that will just anger him.

He also has asked me to kiss him many times. I told him no because he has a girlfriend, and I have no intentions of ever wanting to be with him. He made the reference that kissing another girls isn't cheating, its like "test driving another car" which pissed me the hell off.

You would be completely justified in slapping him across the face (and I would say that's totally appropriate, just make sure you're in public so that he won't be able to retaliate).

Have you tried telling his girlfriend? It doesn't sound like this guy deserves to talk to girls yet.

So today, as soon as class ended, I had to go out another door to try and hide from him, and it's making me very uneasy and uncomfortable...

One solution is making a public scene about it every time it happens. Like go complete Nicolas Cage on him. You don't seem like you'd be comfortable with that, but it would work. But having friends and coming to the situation more passive aggressively works as well.

I want a guys opinion on this...

*Note: He knows I don't like him, nor do I want to be with him..

So yeah, he's definitely just being hormonal in the guy way. Anything you can do to disrupt those feelings he has will eventually cause him to lose interest.

Think about it like treating him as if he's a dog on Dog Whisperer :P

Maybe that helps? I don't know, some people think I'm helpful. I'm sure Jonelle will let me know if you need me to answer anything else.
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11/11/2015 6:55:21 PM
Posted: 1 year ago
At 11/11/2015 6:28:57 PM, SamStevens wrote:
At 11/11/2015 6:17:44 PM, Rosalie wrote:
At 11/11/2015 6:09:43 PM, SamStevens wrote:
At 11/11/2015 6:19:32 AM, Rosalie wrote:
Why is it every semester at college, I have either a stalking issue, or guys who immediately fall in love with me, and want to have my children? -.-

This guy and I met my first semester of college. So, we have known each other for 1 year now. About 5 months ago, he expressed his feelings for me (he has a girlfriend) we stopped talking, then began texting. *Now* this semester, he's been waiting outside my class waiting for me to come out so he can come walk me to my car. He also kept texting me, which I didn't like, and I told him it was inappropriate because he has a girlfriend, and he got mad at me. He also has asked me to kiss him many times. I told him no because he has a girlfriend, and I have no intentions of ever wanting to be with him. He made the reference that kissing another girls isn't cheating, its like "test driving another car" which pissed me the hell off.

Technically, he is not wrong in saying that kissing is like testing car:

https://www.youtube.com...

So today, as soon as class ended, I had to go out another door to try and hide from him, and it's making me very uneasy and uncomfortable...

I want a guys opinion on this...

*Note: He knows I don't like him, nor do I want to be with him..

Record the incident via cell phone(audio) and bring the evidence of the event to authority figures within your school campus.

If it gets to serious, invest in pepper spray as a precaution.

I already have pepper spray.

Did you inform your teachers/other staff in authority at the college?

No...it isn't a big problem yet. Like he hasn't done anything inappropriate yet.
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11/11/2015 7:11:25 PM
Posted: 1 year ago
At 11/11/2015 6:19:32 AM, Rosalie wrote:
Why is it every semester at college, I have either a stalking issue, or guys who immediately fall in love with me, and want to have my children? -.-

This guy and I met my first semester of college. So, we have known each other for 1 year now. About 5 months ago, he expressed his feelings for me (he has a girlfriend) we stopped talking, then began texting. *Now* this semester, he's been waiting outside my class waiting for me to come out so he can come walk me to my car. He also kept texting me, which I didn't like, and I told him it was inappropriate because he has a girlfriend, and he got mad at me. He also has asked me to kiss him many times. I told him no because he has a girlfriend, and I have no intentions of ever wanting to be with him. He made the reference that kissing another girls isn't cheating, its like "test driving another car" which pissed me the hell off.

So today, as soon as class ended, I had to go out another door to try and hide from him, and it's making me very uneasy and uncomfortable...

I want a guys opinion on this...

*Note: He knows I don't like him, nor do I want to be with him..

If I were u i would say to him that if he keeps stalking you then you will report him to the police. Tell him u no longer want to have anything to do with him. Never respond to any text messages from him. If he ignores this and continues to bother u report him to the police.
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11/11/2015 7:21:41 PM
Posted: 1 year ago
...So basically you're being hit on by a bunch of gay dudes?
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11/11/2015 7:38:44 PM
Posted: 1 year ago
At 11/11/2015 6:19:32 AM, Rosalie wrote:
Why is it every semester at college, I have either a stalking issue, or guys who immediately fall in love with me, and want to have my children? -.-

This guy and I met my first semester of college. So, we have known each other for 1 year now. About 5 months ago, he expressed his feelings for me (he has a girlfriend) we stopped talking, then began texting. *Now* this semester, he's been waiting outside my class waiting for me to come out so he can come walk me to my car. He also kept texting me, which I didn't like, and I told him it was inappropriate because he has a girlfriend, and he got mad at me. He also has asked me to kiss him many times. I told him no because he has a girlfriend, and I have no intentions of ever wanting to be with him. He made the reference that kissing another girls isn't cheating, its like "test driving another car" which pissed me the hell off.

So today, as soon as class ended, I had to go out another door to try and hide from him, and it's making me very uneasy and uncomfortable...

I want a guys opinion on this...

*Note: He knows I don't like him, nor do I want to be with him..

Rosalie, my advice is that you put your foot down and tell him he's got a girlfriend and what he's doing is wrong to her. Being shy about this will only promote the perception in his head that you approve of his feelings toward you. Tell him "no" and threaten to hell his friends and/or his girlfriend.
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11/11/2015 7:40:04 PM
Posted: 1 year ago
At 11/11/2015 7:38:44 PM, Juan_Pablo wrote:
At 11/11/2015 6:19:32 AM, Rosalie wrote:
Why is it every semester at college, I have either a stalking issue, or guys who immediately fall in love with me, and want to have my children? -.-

This guy and I met my first semester of college. So, we have known each other for 1 year now. About 5 months ago, he expressed his feelings for me (he has a girlfriend) we stopped talking, then began texting. *Now* this semester, he's been waiting outside my class waiting for me to come out so he can come walk me to my car. He also kept texting me, which I didn't like, and I told him it was inappropriate because he has a girlfriend, and he got mad at me. He also has asked me to kiss him many times. I told him no because he has a girlfriend, and I have no intentions of ever wanting to be with him. He made the reference that kissing another girls isn't cheating, its like "test driving another car" which pissed me the hell off.

So today, as soon as class ended, I had to go out another door to try and hide from him, and it's making me very uneasy and uncomfortable...

I want a guys opinion on this...

*Note: He knows I don't like him, nor do I want to be with him..

Rosalie, my advice is that you put your foot down and tell him he's got a girlfriend and what he's doing is wrong to her. Being shy about this will only promote the perception in his head that you approve of his feelings toward you. Tell him "no" and threaten to hell his friends and/or his girlfriend.

I told him I don't like him, and THAT its inappropriate to text and hangout with me as much as he wants to..he doesn't care. Hell, he hangs out with his ex girlfriends.
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11/11/2015 7:45:13 PM
Posted: 1 year ago
Hmmm . . . the guy seems like a gigolo.

If you want this to stop, you should tell the guy (even if it's not true) that you're a religious girl and that he can spend time with you only on Sundays and only inside Church.

If you don't want to do that, stop texting him altogether to get the message across that you don't approve of what he's doing.
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11/11/2015 8:06:31 PM
Posted: 1 year ago
At 11/11/2015 6:19:32 AM, Rosalie wrote:
Why is it every semester at college, I have either a stalking issue, or guys who immediately fall in love with me, and want to have my children? -.-

This guy and I met my first semester of college. So, we have known each other for 1 year now. About 5 months ago, he expressed his feelings for me (he has a girlfriend) we stopped talking, then began texting. *Now* this semester, he's been waiting outside my class waiting for me to come out so he can come walk me to my car. He also kept texting me, which I didn't like, and I told him it was inappropriate because he has a girlfriend, and he got mad at me. He also has asked me to kiss him many times. I told him no because he has a girlfriend, and I have no intentions of ever wanting to be with him. He made the reference that kissing another girls isn't cheating, its like "test driving another car" which pissed me the hell off.

So today, as soon as class ended, I had to go out another door to try and hide from him, and it's making me very uneasy and uncomfortable...

I want a guys opinion on this...

*Note: He knows I don't like him, nor do I want to be with him..

Probably easier than it sounds, but why don't you just ignore him like he is not there? If he waits outside your class, just walk by like he is not there(no eye contact, no body language to signal that you acknowledge his presence). If he blocks your path to get your attention, turn around and find a different route with out speaking or looking at him.
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11/11/2015 10:19:08 PM
Posted: 1 year ago
Do you have experience that suggests that the school doesn't care? If that's the case, that's messed up. The whole "don't lead him on" train of thought makes the best of a screwed up situation, but, as you've already clearly articulated that you don't want to be with him, that's probably not going to solve the problem. Surely there's someone you can contact. You don't have to wait until he tries to pull something worse before you go to school authorities; as long as you can articulate why he is making you uncomfortable, and, optimally, show that you've asked him to stop what he's doing, that should be enough. I'm fairly certain that sexual harassment can legally be verbal, so the school is obligated to respond.
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11/12/2015 1:05:38 AM
Posted: 1 year ago
At 11/11/2015 6:19:32 AM, Rosalie wrote:
Why is it every semester at college, I have either a stalking issue, or guys who immediately fall in love with me, and want to have my children? -.-

This guy and I met my first semester of college. So, we have known each other for 1 year now. About 5 months ago, he expressed his feelings for me (he has a girlfriend) we stopped talking, then began texting. *Now* this semester, he's been waiting outside my class waiting for me to come out so he can come walk me to my car. He also kept texting me, which I didn't like, and I told him it was inappropriate because he has a girlfriend, and he got mad at me. He also has asked me to kiss him many times. I told him no because he has a girlfriend, and I have no intentions of ever wanting to be with him. He made the reference that kissing another girls isn't cheating, its like "test driving another car" which pissed me the hell off.

So today, as soon as class ended, I had to go out another door to try and hide from him, and it's making me very uneasy and uncomfortable...

I want a guys opinion on this...

*Note: He knows I don't like him, nor do I want to be with him..

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11/12/2015 1:08:06 AM
Posted: 1 year ago
At 11/12/2015 1:05:38 AM, tvellalott wrote:
At 11/11/2015 6:19:32 AM, Rosalie wrote:
Why is it every semester at college, I have either a stalking issue, or guys who immediately fall in love with me, and want to have my children? -.-

This guy and I met my first semester of college. So, we have known each other for 1 year now. About 5 months ago, he expressed his feelings for me (he has a girlfriend) we stopped talking, then began texting. *Now* this semester, he's been waiting outside my class waiting for me to come out so he can come walk me to my car. He also kept texting me, which I didn't like, and I told him it was inappropriate because he has a girlfriend, and he got mad at me. He also has asked me to kiss him many times. I told him no because he has a girlfriend, and I have no intentions of ever wanting to be with him. He made the reference that kissing another girls isn't cheating, its like "test driving another car" which pissed me the hell off.

So today, as soon as class ended, I had to go out another door to try and hide from him, and it's making me very uneasy and uncomfortable...

I want a guys opinion on this...

*Note: He knows I don't like him, nor do I want to be with him..

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11/12/2015 1:41:01 AM
Posted: 1 year ago
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11/12/2015 2:05:38 AM
Posted: 1 year ago
At 11/12/2015 1:05:38 AM, tvellalott wrote:
At 11/11/2015 6:19:32 AM, Rosalie wrote:
Why is it every semester at college, I have either a stalking issue, or guys who immediately fall in love with me, and want to have my children? -.-

This guy and I met my first semester of college. So, we have known each other for 1 year now. About 5 months ago, he expressed his feelings for me (he has a girlfriend) we stopped talking, then began texting. *Now* this semester, he's been waiting outside my class waiting for me to come out so he can come walk me to my car. He also kept texting me, which I didn't like, and I told him it was inappropriate because he has a girlfriend, and he got mad at me. He also has asked me to kiss him many times. I told him no because he has a girlfriend, and I have no intentions of ever wanting to be with him. He made the reference that kissing another girls isn't cheating, its like "test driving another car" which pissed me the hell off.

So today, as soon as class ended, I had to go out another door to try and hide from him, and it's making me very uneasy and uncomfortable...

I want a guys opinion on this...

*Note: He knows I don't like him, nor do I want to be with him..

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