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3/4/2016 1:19:34 AM
Posted: 9 months ago
At 3/4/2016 1:04:26 AM, Godgirl wrote:
Not any close ones, anyway . . .

That's sad.
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3/4/2016 1:20:11 AM
Posted: 9 months ago
At 3/4/2016 1:04:26 AM, Godgirl wrote:
Not any close ones, anyway . . .

I'll be your close friend :D

Just a PM away, I promise
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3/4/2016 8:27:28 PM
Posted: 9 months ago
At 3/4/2016 1:20:11 AM, Vaarka wrote:
At 3/4/2016 1:04:26 AM, Godgirl wrote:
Not any close ones, anyway . . .

I'll be your close friend :D

Just a PM away, I promise

Thanks. I might need some friends IRL though.
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3/4/2016 8:30:53 PM
Posted: 9 months ago
I think I lied. I do have friends. There are several people whom I regularly spend time with and who are nice to me. I think that a normal middle school girl would be perfectly satisfied with my social situation. I believe that the problem is that I crave deeper relationships than others do.
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3/4/2016 9:04:15 PM
Posted: 9 months ago
At 3/4/2016 1:04:26 AM, Godgirl wrote:
Not any close ones, anyway . . .

Friends come and go. With time comes life experiences, that then cause us to transcend or regress in our relationships with others. In this life, we are truly blessed if we have even 3 real friends. Only the wisest of people really understand this though.

Just remain true to yourself, continue to live your life to the best of your ability, and someday a real friend will come along and keep you company. Learn to love yourself though, develop a good relationship with your self, and soon you won't feel lonely at all, regardless of how alone you are.
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3/4/2016 10:14:30 PM
Posted: 9 months ago
At 3/4/2016 9:04:15 PM, Blade-of-Truth wrote:
At 3/4/2016 1:04:26 AM, Godgirl wrote:
Not any close ones, anyway . . .

Friends come and go. With time comes life experiences, that then cause us to transcend or regress in our relationships with others. In this life, we are truly blessed if we have even 3 real friends. Only the wisest of people really understand this though.

Just remain true to yourself, continue to live your life to the best of your ability, and someday a real friend will come along and keep you company. Learn to love yourself though, develop a good relationship with your self, and soon you won't feel lonely at all, regardless of how alone you are.

Thanks. I needed that. And most people don't stay close to their friends from middle school anyway (or so I've heard)
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3/4/2016 10:15:15 PM
Posted: 9 months ago
At 3/4/2016 9:26:05 PM, liltankjj wrote:
At 3/4/2016 1:04:26 AM, Godgirl wrote:
Not any close ones, anyway . . .

Friends are over rated.

Why do you say that?
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3/4/2016 11:33:38 PM
Posted: 9 months ago
At 3/4/2016 1:04:26 AM, Godgirl wrote:
Not any close ones, anyway . . .

Why would you want friends. Just more people to borrow money from you, that ypu have to fight for, and just that many more people, you'll end up feeling pain for, when you lose them or they die
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3/4/2016 11:38:00 PM
Posted: 9 months ago
At 3/4/2016 11:33:38 PM, Wylted wrote:
At 3/4/2016 1:04:26 AM, Godgirl wrote:
Not any close ones, anyway . . .

Why would you want friends. Just more people to borrow money from you, that ypu have to fight for, and just that many more people, you'll end up feeling pain for, when you lose them or they die

I've never had a friend borrow money from me.
And they would fight for me too.
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3/5/2016 2:17:59 AM
Posted: 9 months ago
At 3/4/2016 9:04:15 PM, Blade-of-Truth wrote:
At 3/4/2016 1:04:26 AM, Godgirl wrote:
Not any close ones, anyway . . .

Friends come and go. With time comes life experiences, that then cause us to transcend or regress in our relationships with others. In this life, we are truly blessed if we have even 3 real friends. Only the wisest of people really understand this though.

You understand this when only the wisest ones understand it?

Just remain true to yourself, continue to live your life to the best of your ability, and someday a real friend will come along and keep you company. Learn to love yourself though, develop a good relationship with your self, and soon you won't feel lonely at all, regardless of how alone you are.
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3/5/2016 2:36:25 AM
Posted: 9 months ago
At 3/4/2016 10:14:30 PM, Godgirl wrote:
At 3/4/2016 9:04:15 PM, Blade-of-Truth wrote:
At 3/4/2016 1:04:26 AM, Godgirl wrote:
Not any close ones, anyway . . .

Friends come and go. With time comes life experiences, that then cause us to transcend or regress in our relationships with others. In this life, we are truly blessed if we have even 3 real friends. Only the wisest of people really understand this though.

Just remain true to yourself, continue to live your life to the best of your ability, and someday a real friend will come along and keep you company. Learn to love yourself though, develop a good relationship with your self, and soon you won't feel lonely at all, regardless of how alone you are.

Thanks. I needed that. And most people don't stay close to their friends from middle school anyway (or so I've heard)

Most of my friends are friends I met in elementary/middle school XD
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3/5/2016 7:16:29 AM
Posted: 9 months ago
At 3/4/2016 8:30:53 PM, Godgirl wrote:
I think I lied.

):
I do have friends. There are several people whom I regularly spend time with and who are nice to me. I think that a normal middle school girl would be perfectly satisfied with my social situation. I believe that the problem is that I crave deeper relationships than others do.

Deeper relationships to what extent?
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3/5/2016 3:32:29 PM
Posted: 9 months ago
At 3/5/2016 2:17:59 AM, mc9 wrote:
At 3/4/2016 9:04:15 PM, Blade-of-Truth wrote:
At 3/4/2016 1:04:26 AM, Godgirl wrote:
Not any close ones, anyway . . .

Friends come and go. With time comes life experiences, that then cause us to transcend or regress in our relationships with others. In this life, we are truly blessed if we have even 3 real friends. Only the wisest of people really understand this though.

You understand this when only the wisest ones understand it?
lol
Just remain true to yourself, continue to live your life to the best of your ability, and someday a real friend will come along and keep you company. Learn to love yourself though, develop a good relationship with your self, and soon you won't feel lonely at all, regardless of how alone you are.
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3/5/2016 3:33:02 PM
Posted: 9 months ago
At 3/5/2016 2:36:25 AM, Vaarka wrote:
At 3/4/2016 10:14:30 PM, Godgirl wrote:
At 3/4/2016 9:04:15 PM, Blade-of-Truth wrote:
At 3/4/2016 1:04:26 AM, Godgirl wrote:
Not any close ones, anyway . . .

Friends come and go. With time comes life experiences, that then cause us to transcend or regress in our relationships with others. In this life, we are truly blessed if we have even 3 real friends. Only the wisest of people really understand this though.

Just remain true to yourself, continue to live your life to the best of your ability, and someday a real friend will come along and keep you company. Learn to love yourself though, develop a good relationship with your self, and soon you won't feel lonely at all, regardless of how alone you are.

Thanks. I needed that. And most people don't stay close to their friends from middle school anyway (or so I've heard)

Most of my friends are friends I met in elementary/middle school XD

Okay, I stand corrected.
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3/5/2016 3:38:11 PM
Posted: 9 months ago
At 3/5/2016 7:16:29 AM, SamStevens wrote:
At 3/4/2016 8:30:53 PM, Godgirl wrote:
I think I lied.

):
I do have friends. There are several people whom I regularly spend time with and who are nice to me. I think that a normal middle school girl would be perfectly satisfied with my social situation. I believe that the problem is that I crave deeper relationships than others do.

Deeper relationships to what extent?

Maybe other people do feel this way (did I like again?) I don't want my friends to just be people I hang out with. I want to really know them, have people I can trust with anything and I know they have my back. Right now, I really don't have that.
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3/5/2016 4:00:30 PM
Posted: 9 months ago
At 3/4/2016 1:04:26 AM, Godgirl wrote:
Not any close ones, anyway . . .

If you keep being nice and patient with people then you'll have friends.
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3/5/2016 4:05:06 PM
Posted: 9 months ago
Are you a regular student? Try joining extra-curricular activities. I'm a homeschooler, but I have bunch of friends. If you have read the story of Heidi, you can make friends if you are a friend.

And plus, you should not seek friends. They come to you.
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3/5/2016 4:21:55 PM
Posted: 9 months ago
At 3/5/2016 4:05:06 PM, CodingSource wrote:
Are you a regular student?
Yes.
Try joining extra-curricular activities.
I am in Drama class/club, and I do know and like most of the people involved. I'm just not close friends with them.
I'm a homeschooler, but I have bunch of friends. If you have read the story of Heidi, you can make friends if you are a friend.
I used to be homeschooled, and I actually feel like I had more friends then.
I loved Heidi :)

And plus, you should not seek friends. They come to you.
Yeah, but if everyone went by that policy, no one would have any friends because they'd all just be waiting.
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3/5/2016 4:33:45 PM
Posted: 9 months ago
At 3/5/2016 3:38:11 PM, Godgirl wrote:

Maybe other people do feel this way (did I like again?) I don't want my friends to just be people I hang out with. I want to really know them, have people I can trust with anything and I know they have my back. Right now, I really don't have that.

I understand your problem, you have friends, but you only hang out with them. This people are just your normal friends. The type of friends you are looking for are 'close' friends. Normal friends are those who you hang out with just because they are there. Close friends are those who you are willing to hang out with anytime and anywhere because you have a special bond with them that you don't have with your other friends.

When I was 13, I started hanging out with 2 guys. We experimented if we were going to be close friends. Well, we didn't become close friends, but we stilled remained friends. I found my best friend when I was 14, and we met through a mutual friend. I also found another close friend just recently in college.

If possible, choose a friend you have right now who you are most comfortable with. Then you can test the waters and start talking and sharing some light secrets with this certain friend. If all is good, then great, you can start sharing some more personal stuff and both of you are close friends.

If you aren't comfortable with anyone yet, then be patient. According to you're profile, you're 13, so you're still starting to develop your unique personality. Find someone who has the same personality as you, or likes your personality and vice versa. Also, go meet new people, experiment and socialize with them and see if they can be a good friend for you.
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3/5/2016 4:35:40 PM
Posted: 9 months ago
At 3/5/2016 4:33:45 PM, XLAV wrote:
At 3/5/2016 3:38:11 PM, Godgirl wrote:

Maybe other people do feel this way (did I like again?) I don't want my friends to just be people I hang out with. I want to really know them, have people I can trust with anything and I know they have my back. Right now, I really don't have that.

I understand your problem, you have friends, but you only hang out with them. This people are just your normal friends. The type of friends you are looking for are 'close' friends. Normal friends are those who you hang out with just because they are there. Close friends are those who you are willing to hang out with anytime and anywhere because you have a special bond with them that you don't have with your other friends.

When I was 13, I started hanging out with 2 guys. We experimented if we were going to be close friends. Well, we didn't become close friends, but we stilled remained friends. I found my best friend when I was 14, and we met through a mutual friend. I also found another close friend just recently in college.

If possible, choose a friend you have right now who you are most comfortable with. Then you can test the waters and start talking and sharing some light secrets with this certain friend. If all is good, then great, you can start sharing some more personal stuff and both of you are close friends.

If you aren't comfortable with anyone yet, then be patient. According to you're profile, you're 13, so you're still starting to develop your unique personality. Find someone who has the same personality as you, or likes your personality and vice versa. Also, go meet new people, experiment and socialize with them and see if they can be a good friend for you.

Good advice. Thanks.
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3/5/2016 4:41:38 PM
Posted: 9 months ago
Just remember, close friends are usually those people who has the same personality, humor and experience as you, or you have different personalities, but you like his/her personality and he/she also likes your personality.
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3/5/2016 4:48:40 PM
Posted: 9 months ago
At 3/5/2016 4:21:55 PM, Godgirl wrote:
At 3/5/2016 4:05:06 PM, CodingSource wrote:
Are you a regular student?
Yes.
Try joining extra-curricular activities.
I am in Drama class/club, and I do know and like most of the people involved. I'm just not close friends with them.
I'm a homeschooler, but I have bunch of friends. If you have read the story of Heidi, you can make friends if you are a friend.
I used to be homeschooled, and I actually feel like I had more friends then.
I loved Heidi :)

And plus, you should not seek friends. They come to you.
Yeah, but if everyone went by that policy, no one would have any friends because they'd all just be waiting.

I think you misunderstood.

At 3/5/2016 4:33:45 PM, XLAV wrote:

I understand your problem, you have friends, but you only hang out with them. This people are just your normal friends. The type of friends you are looking for are 'close' friends. Normal friends are those who you hang out with just because they are there. Close friends are those who you are willing to hang out with anytime and anywhere because you have a special bond with them that you don't have with your other friends.

When I was 13, I started hanging out with 2 guys. We experimented if we were going to be close friends. Well, we didn't become close friends, but we stilled remained friends. I found my best friend when I was 14, and we met through a mutual friend. I also found another close friend just recently in college.

If possible, choose a friend you have right now who you are most comfortable with. Then you can test the waters and start talking and sharing some light secrets with this certain friend. If all is good, then great, you can start sharing some more personal stuff and both of you are close friends.

If you aren't comfortable with anyone yet, then be patient. According to you're profile, you're 13, so you're still starting to develop your unique personality. Find someone who has the same personality as you, or likes your personality and vice versa. Also, go meet new people, experiment and socialize with them and see if they can be a good friend for you.

+1 kababayan!

I am going to share this story. My grandfather had a very close friend. This 'friend' promised my grandfather, because this friend was very rich, that he would pay all my grandfather's debts which was millions. The friend went off to Paris and never came back. This changed my grandfather forever: from a friendly person to a private person. He shut all the doors to friendship. 15 years had passed since that incident (it was 1986) and he resigned from being a University of the Philippines' professor. He devoted his last years (15 years) to his grandchildren, and that includes me, his closest and eldest grandson.

You see...we should choose our friends. Seize the opportunity to be close friends with the people you often see. I seized the opportunity to be close friends with these 3 peers and guess what, we are!
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3/5/2016 4:52:15 PM
Posted: 9 months ago
At 3/5/2016 4:48:40 PM, CodingSource wrote:

+1 kababayan!

I am going to share this story. My grandfather had a very close friend. This 'friend' promised my grandfather, because this friend was very rich, that he would pay all my grandfather's debts which was millions. The friend went off to Paris and never came back. This changed my grandfather forever: from a friendly person to a private person. He shut all the doors to friendship. 15 years had passed since that incident (it was 1986) and he resigned from being a University of the Philippines' professor. He devoted his last years (15 years) to his grandchildren, and that includes me, his closest and eldest grandson.
Damn bruh. I don't understand why the close friend would even say he would pay your grandfather's debts if he wasn't even going to bother paying it. I feel like something is missing from the story.
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3/5/2016 4:57:09 PM
Posted: 9 months ago
At 3/5/2016 4:52:15 PM, XLAV wrote:
At 3/5/2016 4:48:40 PM, CodingSource wrote:

+1 kababayan!

I am going to share this story. My grandfather had a very close friend. This 'friend' promised my grandfather, because this friend was very rich, that he would pay all my grandfather's debts which was millions. The friend went off to Paris and never came back. This changed my grandfather forever: from a friendly person to a private person. He shut all the doors to friendship. 15 years had passed since that incident (it was 1986) and he resigned from being a University of the Philippines' professor. He devoted his last years (15 years) to his grandchildren, and that includes me, his closest and eldest grandson.
Damn bruh. I don't understand why the close friend would even say he would pay your grandfather's debts if he wasn't even going to bother paying it. I feel like something is missing from the story.

I felt that too, bruh. Certain sources led to this story, especially my mom who was with him until his deathbed. I think that my grandpa requested this guy (and I also heard from his closest colleagues and students that they signed an agreement). I don't know what is that called and it is related in the banking system.

He didn't tell me about that story either. Perhaps that tells it why, after his retirement, isolated himself from the outside for the last 15 years.
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3/5/2016 4:58:44 PM
Posted: 9 months ago
At 3/5/2016 4:57:09 PM, CodingSource wrote:

I felt that too, bruh. Certain sources led to this story, especially my mom who was with him until his deathbed. I think that my grandpa requested this guy (and I also heard from his closest colleagues and students that they signed an agreement). I don't know what is that called and it is related in the banking system.
Loaning?

He didn't tell me about that story either. Perhaps that tells it why, after his retirement, isolated himself from the outside for the last 15 years.
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3/5/2016 4:59:20 PM
Posted: 9 months ago
At 3/5/2016 4:58:44 PM, XLAV wrote:
At 3/5/2016 4:57:09 PM, CodingSource wrote:

I felt that too, bruh. Certain sources led to this story, especially my mom who was with him until his deathbed. I think that my grandpa requested this guy (and I also heard from his closest colleagues and students that they signed an agreement). I don't know what is that called and it is related in the banking system.
Loaning?

He didn't tell me about that story either. Perhaps that tells it why, after his retirement, isolated himself from the outside for the last 15 years.

Maybe...
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3/5/2016 5:02:38 PM
Posted: 9 months ago
At 3/5/2016 4:59:20 PM, CodingSource wrote:

Maybe...

Well if you want to hear my theory, I think this 'friend' loaned money from your grandpa and ran.
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3/5/2016 5:08:34 PM
Posted: 9 months ago
At 3/5/2016 4:48:40 PM, CodingSource wrote:
At 3/5/2016 4:21:55 PM, Godgirl wrote:
At 3/5/2016 4:05:06 PM, CodingSource wrote:
Are you a regular student?
Yes.
Try joining extra-curricular activities.
I am in Drama class/club, and I do know and like most of the people involved. I'm just not close friends with them.
I'm a homeschooler, but I have bunch of friends. If you have read the story of Heidi, you can make friends if you are a friend.
I used to be homeschooled, and I actually feel like I had more friends then.
I loved Heidi :)

And plus, you should not seek friends. They come to you.
Yeah, but if everyone went by that policy, no one would have any friends because they'd all just be waiting.

I think you misunderstood.
Okay, could you explain it to me, then?

At 3/5/2016 4:33:45 PM, XLAV wrote:

I understand your problem, you have friends, but you only hang out with them. This people are just your normal friends. The type of friends you are looking for are 'close' friends. Normal friends are those who you hang out with just because they are there. Close friends are those who you are willing to hang out with anytime and anywhere because you have a special bond with them that you don't have with your other friends.

When I was 13, I started hanging out with 2 guys. We experimented if we were going to be close friends. Well, we didn't become close friends, but we stilled remained friends. I found my best friend when I was 14, and we met through a mutual friend. I also found another close friend just recently in college.

If possible, choose a friend you have right now who you are most comfortable with. Then you can test the waters and start talking and sharing some light secrets with this certain friend. If all is good, then great, you can start sharing some more personal stuff and both of you are close friends.

If you aren't comfortable with anyone yet, then be patient. According to you're profile, you're 13, so you're still starting to develop your unique personality. Find someone who has the same personality as you, or likes your personality and vice versa. Also, go meet new people, experiment and socialize with them and see if they can be a good friend for you.

+1 kababayan!

I am going to share this story. My grandfather had a very close friend. This 'friend' promised my grandfather, because this friend was very rich, that he would pay all my grandfather's debts which was millions. The friend went off to Paris and never came back. This changed my grandfather forever: from a friendly person to a private person. He shut all the doors to friendship. 15 years had passed since that incident (it was 1986) and he resigned from being a University of the Philippines' professor. He devoted his last years (15 years) to his grandchildren, and that includes me, his closest and eldest grandson.

You see...we should choose our friends. Seize the opportunity to be close friends with the people you often see. I seized the opportunity to be close friends with these 3 peers and guess what, we are!