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11/19/2016 2:29:08 AM
Posted: 1 week ago
I've heard a statistic, that parents also favour their natural child more so than their adopted one. My step dad has known me since I was born. I've only met my biological dad twice. But lost contact with him about 5 years ago.

I've been living with my guardian family for about 8 years. My guardian mom and I are very close, as well as my brother. But my mom and I are so close that I think it makes my dad jealous. He does that often. But when my mom and brother hangout he doesn't care.

He always treats my brother far way better than me. Whennwe come home from school, and we're both in our rooms, he will go into my brothers room, sit down with him, and say "hi" etc..but he won't ever come in my room, or say a word to me for the rest of the day.

When my mom was trying to fill out paper work for me to have full guardianship over me..he stole the mouse for the computer...so she couldn't do it. That has stuck in my mind for the longest time. That was 7-8 years ago. When you come to our house, you'll notice that I am his less favorite. He won't say a word to me. And when he does...he's generally complaining about something..or making a comment about what I wear..or rolling his eyes at me for some reason, or mumbling under his breath about me.

I have past diary letters I've written from 6 years ago..abd I talked about the same thing as I'm talking about now..and I hate it. Sometimes I feel it'd just be best to run away, or move to a different state so I can be out of his life..and he doesn't have to deal with me anymore. He hates me...and I hate saying this, but I dislike him too.

I don't know what to do anymore...and I'm fed up with it.
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11/19/2016 3:08:30 AM
Posted: 1 week ago
At 11/19/2016 2:29:08 AM, Rosalie wrote:
I've heard a statistic, that parents also favour their natural child more so than their adopted one. My step dad has known me since I was born. I've only met my biological dad twice. But lost contact with him about 5 years ago.

I've been living with my guardian family for about 8 years. My guardian mom and I are very close, as well as my brother. But my mom and I are so close that I think it makes my dad jealous. He does that often. But when my mom and brother hangout he doesn't care.

He always treats my brother far way better than me. Whennwe come home from school, and we're both in our rooms, he will go into my brothers room, sit down with him, and say "hi" etc..but he won't ever come in my room, or say a word to me for the rest of the day.

When my mom was trying to fill out paper work for me to have full guardianship over me..he stole the mouse for the computer...so she couldn't do it. That has stuck in my mind for the longest time. That was 7-8 years ago. When you come to our house, you'll notice that I am his less favorite. He won't say a word to me. And when he does...he's generally complaining about something..or making a comment about what I wear..or rolling his eyes at me for some reason, or mumbling under his breath about me.

I have past diary letters I've written from 6 years ago..abd I talked about the same thing as I'm talking about now..and I hate it. Sometimes I feel it'd just be best to run away, or move to a different state so I can be out of his life..and he doesn't have to deal with me anymore. He hates me...and I hate saying this, but I dislike him too.

I don't know what to do anymore...and I'm fed up with it.
Yeah it's called the Cinderella effect
https://en.wikipedia.org...

I can relate somewhat. My step dad is way meaner to me than his daughter. And on the flip side, my mom is nicer to me than my step sister. My mom once got really mad at her because she used her shampoo even though it was the only woman's shampoo in the house....
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11/19/2016 3:08:45 AM
Posted: 1 week ago
At 11/19/2016 2:29:08 AM, Rosalie wrote:

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11/19/2016 4:14:56 AM
Posted: 1 week ago
At 11/19/2016 3:08:30 AM, n7 wrote:
At 11/19/2016 2:29:08 AM, Rosalie wrote:
I've heard a statistic, that parents also favour their natural child more so than their adopted one. My step dad has known me since I was born. I've only met my biological dad twice. But lost contact with him about 5 years ago.

I've been living with my guardian family for about 8 years. My guardian mom and I are very close, as well as my brother. But my mom and I are so close that I think it makes my dad jealous. He does that often. But when my mom and brother hangout he doesn't care.

He always treats my brother far way better than me. Whennwe come home from school, and we're both in our rooms, he will go into my brothers room, sit down with him, and say "hi" etc..but he won't ever come in my room, or say a word to me for the rest of the day.

When my mom was trying to fill out paper work for me to have full guardianship over me..he stole the mouse for the computer...so she couldn't do it. That has stuck in my mind for the longest time. That was 7-8 years ago. When you come to our house, you'll notice that I am his less favorite. He won't say a word to me. And when he does...he's generally complaining about something..or making a comment about what I wear..or rolling his eyes at me for some reason, or mumbling under his breath about me.

I have past diary letters I've written from 6 years ago..abd I talked about the same thing as I'm talking about now..and I hate it. Sometimes I feel it'd just be best to run away, or move to a different state so I can be out of his life..and he doesn't have to deal with me anymore. He hates me...and I hate saying this, but I dislike him too.

I don't know what to do anymore...and I'm fed up with it.
Yeah it's called the Cinderella effect
https://en.wikipedia.org...

I can relate somewhat. My step dad is way meaner to me than his daughter. And on the flip side, my mom is nicer to me than my step sister. My mom once got really mad at her because she used her shampoo even though it was the only woman's shampoo in the house....

I'm sorry.. :(
It's so awkward and uncomfortable.
Do you get along with your sister?
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11/19/2016 6:39:28 AM
Posted: 1 week ago
At 11/19/2016 5:24:57 AM, YYW wrote:
I've only ever wanted to adopt. I've never wanted to have my own kids.

Youve explained this to me once I belive.
It's because you wanted a teen..? You don't want to raise a baby.
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11/19/2016 7:13:50 AM
Posted: 1 week ago
At 11/19/2016 4:14:56 AM, Rosalie wrote:
At 11/19/2016 3:08:30 AM, n7 wrote:
At 11/19/2016 2:29:08 AM, Rosalie wrote:
I've heard a statistic, that parents also favour their natural child more so than their adopted one. My step dad has known me since I was born. I've only met my biological dad twice. But lost contact with him about 5 years ago.

I've been living with my guardian family for about 8 years. My guardian mom and I are very close, as well as my brother. But my mom and I are so close that I think it makes my dad jealous. He does that often. But when my mom and brother hangout he doesn't care.

He always treats my brother far way better than me. Whennwe come home from school, and we're both in our rooms, he will go into my brothers room, sit down with him, and say "hi" etc..but he won't ever come in my room, or say a word to me for the rest of the day.

When my mom was trying to fill out paper work for me to have full guardianship over me..he stole the mouse for the computer...so she couldn't do it. That has stuck in my mind for the longest time. That was 7-8 years ago. When you come to our house, you'll notice that I am his less favorite. He won't say a word to me. And when he does...he's generally complaining about something..or making a comment about what I wear..or rolling his eyes at me for some reason, or mumbling under his breath about me.

I have past diary letters I've written from 6 years ago..abd I talked about the same thing as I'm talking about now..and I hate it. Sometimes I feel it'd just be best to run away, or move to a different state so I can be out of his life..and he doesn't have to deal with me anymore. He hates me...and I hate saying this, but I dislike him too.

I don't know what to do anymore...and I'm fed up with it.
Yeah it's called the Cinderella effect
https://en.wikipedia.org...

I can relate somewhat. My step dad is way meaner to me than his daughter. And on the flip side, my mom is nicer to me than my step sister. My mom once got really mad at her because she used her shampoo even though it was the only woman's shampoo in the house....

I'm sorry.. :(
It's so awkward and uncomfortable.
Do you get along with your sister?

Yeah, she's one of my only closest friends.
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11/19/2016 4:36:08 PM
Posted: 1 week ago
At 11/19/2016 2:29:08 AM, Rosalie wrote:
I've heard a statistic, that parents also favour their natural child more so than their adopted one. My step dad has known me since I was born. I've only met my biological dad twice. But lost contact with him about 5 years ago.

I've been living with my guardian family for about 8 years. My guardian mom and I are very close, as well as my brother. But my mom and I are so close that I think it makes my dad jealous. He does that often. But when my mom and brother hangout he doesn't care.

He always treats my brother far way better than me. Whennwe come home from school, and we're both in our rooms, he will go into my brothers room, sit down with him, and say "hi" etc..but he won't ever come in my room, or say a word to me for the rest of the day.

When my mom was trying to fill out paper work for me to have full guardianship over me..he stole the mouse for the computer...so she couldn't do it. That has stuck in my mind for the longest time. That was 7-8 years ago. When you come to our house, you'll notice that I am his less favorite. He won't say a word to me. And when he does...he's generally complaining about something..or making a comment about what I wear..or rolling his eyes at me for some reason, or mumbling under his breath about me.

I have past diary letters I've written from 6 years ago..abd I talked about the same thing as I'm talking about now..and I hate it. Sometimes I feel it'd just be best to run away, or move to a different state so I can be out of his life..and he doesn't have to deal with me anymore. He hates me...and I hate saying this, but I dislike him too.

That is kind of bizarre. I had a similar experience myself. Things like this will not go away on their own...

I don't know what to do anymore...and I'm fed up with it.
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11/19/2016 9:46:38 PM
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At 11/19/2016 2:29:08 AM, Rosalie wrote:
I've heard a statistic, that parents also favour their natural child more so than their adopted one. My step dad has known me since I was born. I've only met my biological dad twice. But lost contact with him about 5 years ago.

I've been living with my guardian family for about 8 years. My guardian mom and I are very close, as well as my brother. But my mom and I are so close that I think it makes my dad jealous. He does that often. But when my mom and brother hangout he doesn't care.

He always treats my brother far way better than me. Whennwe come home from school, and we're both in our rooms, he will go into my brothers room, sit down with him, and say "hi" etc..but he won't ever come in my room, or say a word to me for the rest of the day.

When my mom was trying to fill out paper work for me to have full guardianship over me..he stole the mouse for the computer...so she couldn't do it. That has stuck in my mind for the longest time. That was 7-8 years ago. When you come to our house, you'll notice that I am his less favorite. He won't say a word to me. And when he does...he's generally complaining about something..or making a comment about what I wear..or rolling his eyes at me for some reason, or mumbling under his breath about me.

I have past diary letters I've written from 6 years ago..abd I talked about the same thing as I'm talking about now..and I hate it. Sometimes I feel it'd just be best to run away, or move to a different state so I can be out of his life..and he doesn't have to deal with me anymore. He hates me...and I hate saying this, but I dislike him too.

I don't know what to do anymore...and I'm fed up with it.

You're 20, right? If so, I imagine you won't be living at home for much longer (maybe 2 or 3 more years). If you run away, it'll hurt your relationship with your step mom, even though you have the legal right to do so. Put up with it until the day that you finally move out and learn not to think about your step dad. That's my advice.
Also, have you talked to your step mom about the way that he treats you? Perhaps being open about how you feel might spur her to try and correct the issue.
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11/20/2016 1:05:02 AM
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I'm gonna steal from House M.D. here on Freud, but "instinct of love toward an object demands a mastery to obtain it, and if a person feels they can't control the object or feel threatened by it, they act negatively toward it. Like an eighth-grade boy punching a girl." Sounds like this might apply between you and your step-dad, and so maybe it's a sort of love, really. It's just always easier to love family. Family is a safe investment when it comes to love, sort of.
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11/20/2016 1:07:17 AM
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There's actually a whole bunch of science there about ownership of a thing increasing love of a thing too. And I mean I know that all sounds a bit bleak, but... well, it is bleak. We're all terribly afraid of heartbreak. All love is corrupt as fck.
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11/20/2016 2:13:19 AM
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He probably just doesn't understand you and/or finds it difficult to connect and communicate with you; perhaps because he has it mind that you're not his biological daughter so he feels a little awkward. I would try not to take it personally and if it does bother you, maybe you could try to engage him in some simple conversation or something.
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11/21/2016 1:15:15 PM
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At 11/19/2016 2:29:08 AM, Rosalie wrote:
I've heard a statistic, that parents also favour their natural child more so than their adopted one. My step dad has known me since I was born. I've only met my biological dad twice. But lost contact with him about 5 years ago.

I've been living with my guardian family for about 8 years. My guardian mom and I are very close, as well as my brother. But my mom and I are so close that I think it makes my dad jealous. He does that often. But when my mom and brother hangout he doesn't care.

He always treats my brother far way better than me. Whennwe come home from school, and we're both in our rooms, he will go into my brothers room, sit down with him, and say "hi" etc..but he won't ever come in my room, or say a word to me for the rest of the day.

When my mom was trying to fill out paper work for me to have full guardianship over me..he stole the mouse for the computer...so she couldn't do it. That has stuck in my mind for the longest time. That was 7-8 years ago. When you come to our house, you'll notice that I am his less favorite. He won't say a word to me. And when he does...he's generally complaining about something..or making a comment about what I wear..or rolling his eyes at me for some reason, or mumbling under his breath about me.

I have past diary letters I've written from 6 years ago..abd I talked about the same thing as I'm talking about now..and I hate it. Sometimes I feel it'd just be best to run away, or move to a different state so I can be out of his life..and he doesn't have to deal with me anymore. He hates me...and I hate saying this, but I dislike him too.

I don't know what to do anymore...and I'm fed up with it.

I would honestly suggest confiding this with your mother, since she seems to be very close to you. Even your brothers might be able to help. Since this is mostly a problem caused by a single family member, and you have other family members that don't cause problems, I'd say that doing something as rash as "running away" would be rather...well, foolish I guess.

Now, I'd usually not have as much of a problem with the "running away" thing, but since I've been working on a group project about human trafficking, and have learned that a lot of people who get tafficked are often runaways who are lost, hurt, or vulnerable. Not that you are necessarily any of those, but you're still pretty young (even if you're an adult), so that just makes me want to stress against the "running away" idea, especially since there are many other options, most of which are probably better than that.

Talk to your family, talk with your mom, your brothers, even maybe your dad if you think you need to. Avoidance is just a sign of bad parenting, so it's not really your fault.

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11/21/2016 3:50:05 PM
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At 11/19/2016 2:29:08 AM, Rosalie wrote:
I've heard a statistic, that parents also favour their natural child more so than their adopted one. My step dad has known me since I was born. I've only met my biological dad twice. But lost contact with him about 5 years ago.

I've been living with my guardian family for about 8 years. My guardian mom and I are very close, as well as my brother. But my mom and I are so close that I think it makes my dad jealous. He does that often. But when my mom and brother hangout he doesn't care.

He always treats my brother far way better than me. Whennwe come home from school, and we're both in our rooms, he will go into my brothers room, sit down with him, and say "hi" etc..but he won't ever come in my room, or say a word to me for the rest of the day.

When my mom was trying to fill out paper work for me to have full guardianship over me..he stole the mouse for the computer...so she couldn't do it. That has stuck in my mind for the longest time. That was 7-8 years ago. When you come to our house, you'll notice that I am his less favorite. He won't say a word to me. And when he does...he's generally complaining about something..or making a comment about what I wear..or rolling his eyes at me for some reason, or mumbling under his breath about me.

I have past diary letters I've written from 6 years ago..abd I talked about the same thing as I'm talking about now..and I hate it. Sometimes I feel it'd just be best to run away, or move to a different state so I can be out of his life..and he doesn't have to deal with me anymore. He hates me...and I hate saying this, but I dislike him too.

I don't know what to do anymore...and I'm fed up with it.

Awwwww, pwoor whittle baby. Does dwaddy hate you? pwoor you, I have a solution. Suck. It. Up. Who cares if your dad who's not even your dad doesn't like you? Why does that even bother you? And why are you so hung up over one person who doesn't like you? You've been doing that for 6 years. Move. On.
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11/29/2016 8:41:53 PM
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At 11/19/2016 2:29:08 AM, Rosalie wrote:
I've heard a statistic, that parents also favour their natural child more so than their adopted one. My step dad has known me since I was born. I've only met my biological dad twice. But lost contact with him about 5 years ago.

I've been living with my guardian family for about 8 years. My guardian mom and I are very close, as well as my brother. But my mom and I are so close that I think it makes my dad jealous. He does that often. But when my mom and brother hangout he doesn't care.

He always treats my brother far way better than me. Whennwe come home from school, and we're both in our rooms, he will go into my brothers room, sit down with him, and say "hi" etc..but he won't ever come in my room, or say a word to me for the rest of the day.

When my mom was trying to fill out paper work for me to have full guardianship over me..he stole the mouse for the computer...so she couldn't do it. That has stuck in my mind for the longest time. That was 7-8 years ago. When you come to our house, you'll notice that I am his less favorite. He won't say a word to me. And when he does...he's generally complaining about something..or making a comment about what I wear..or rolling his eyes at me for some reason, or mumbling under his breath about me.

I have past diary letters I've written from 6 years ago..abd I talked about the same thing as I'm talking about now..and I hate it. Sometimes I feel it'd just be best to run away, or move to a different state so I can be out of his life..and he doesn't have to deal with me anymore. He hates me...and I hate saying this, but I dislike him too.

I don't know what to do anymore...and I'm fed up with it.

I always had really loving parents, but I remember years ago as a young teenager asking the question of why I wanted to be popular? Do I need people to like me?

I decided it was insecurity in myself, and I needed others to convince me otherwise. Anyway, I somewhat found who I am as teenagers do, made some mistakes and corrections and the only friends I have left are the ones worth having through thick and thin. Growing up, we tend to worship our parents, and seek their approval before we have our own, and it seems to stick. If yours never came around, you might always have that feeling, but don't let it hold you back. Just be respectful, and respectable, and then if someone says otherwise, you can politely call their bullsh!t without ill conscience.

Don't hold grudges and don't let them be held over you. Surpass them. Respect those whom you can't understand as you can't know what they know, and do not dwell on them as you won't know peace in what isn't right to you, nor disregard them as what they say is somehow tied to what they value.
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11/29/2016 8:47:15 PM
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At 11/29/2016 8:41:53 PM, Quadrunner wrote:
At 11/19/2016 2:29:08 AM, Rosalie wrote:
I've heard a statistic, that parents also favour their natural child more so than their adopted one. My step dad has known me since I was born. I've only met my biological dad twice. But lost contact with him about 5 years ago.

I've been living with my guardian family for about 8 years. My guardian mom and I are very close, as well as my brother. But my mom and I are so close that I think it makes my dad jealous. He does that often. But when my mom and brother hangout he doesn't care.

He always treats my brother far way better than me. Whennwe come home from school, and we're both in our rooms, he will go into my brothers room, sit down with him, and say "hi" etc..but he won't ever come in my room, or say a word to me for the rest of the day.

When my mom was trying to fill out paper work for me to have full guardianship over me..he stole the mouse for the computer...so she couldn't do it. That has stuck in my mind for the longest time. That was 7-8 years ago. When you come to our house, you'll notice that I am his less favorite. He won't say a word to me. And when he does...he's generally complaining about something..or making a comment about what I wear..or rolling his eyes at me for some reason, or mumbling under his breath about me.

I have past diary letters I've written from 6 years ago..abd I talked about the same thing as I'm talking about now..and I hate it. Sometimes I feel it'd just be best to run away, or move to a different state so I can be out of his life..and he doesn't have to deal with me anymore. He hates me...and I hate saying this, but I dislike him too.

I don't know what to do anymore...and I'm fed up with it.

I always had really loving parents, but I remember years ago as a young teenager asking the question of why I wanted to be popular? Do I need people to like me?

I decided it was insecurity in myself, and I needed others to convince me otherwise. Anyway, I somewhat found who I am as teenagers do, made some mistakes and corrections and the only friends I have left are the ones worth having through thick and thin. Growing up, we tend to worship our parents, and seek their approval before we have our own, and it seems to stick. If yours never came around, you might always have that feeling, but don't let it hold you back. Just be respectful, and respectable, and then if someone says otherwise, you can politely call their bullsh!t without ill conscience.

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Don't hold grudges and don't let them be held over you. Surpass them, and recognize when you've surpassed them. Respect those whom you can't understand as you can't know what they know, and do not dwell on them as you won't know peace in what isn't right to you, nor disregard them as what they say is somehow tied to what they value.
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