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The Family Unit

Harper
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1/4/2015 7:17:14 PM
Posted: 1 year ago
After an intriguing encounter with a fellow member of this website on my most recent forum post, it has come to my attention that the topic of the family unit is one that must be discussed, if we are to move forward as a species. (This will be a long post)

I'm sure everyone here is intimately familiar with the family unit, so I will not waste time defining it. Instead, I will provide an alternative that I hope will end the majority of all child abuse.

But before I do that, I must detail the problems with the family unit; as a problem cannot be adequately dealt with if the problem itself isn't clearly outlined. Below is a list of the main reasons why the family unit is a failed social experiment:

1) Children are considered property of their parents, with no rights and no voice. Parents are encouraged to brainwash and coerce their children into the parent's ideologies. This cripples the mind of a child, making it almost impossible for most children to consider opposing world views and expand their minds. Of course, some parents refrain from doing this, but this does not stop the millions of others who don't.
2) The myth of the parental instinct, which is the basis of the family unit, allows parents to be granted rights and obligations to the child, without the consent of either party. Many newborn children are brought into the arms of parents who have no business taking care of children, simply because they are thought to "know what's best" for the child. Humans are no longer primarily instinctually driven like other animals, now we are principally emotionally driven. Now, a parent may have some instinct regarding child care, but the emotions of a parent and their own upbringing have a greater impact. It is for this reason that children are more likely to be abused by their own family than by strangers.
3) Parents are socially coerced to take care of their children, even if they don't want to, which will only make the parents bitter towards the children, and will increase the likelihood of them abusing the kids.
4) Children are likewise socially coerced to have special feelings for their family, simply because they share a bloodline. This causes a child to both become bitter towards others and emotionally crippled as well. Children forced to have feelings for others will never gain emotional autonomy and control. They will be slaves to their own emotions, like the majority of us are now.
5) The individuation of families gives adults and society the moral green light to ignore the plight of children they do not "own", guaranteeing global child abuse.

It is because of the family unit that child abusers are only dealt with after the abuse has already taken place, when it is too late. This must be stopped, and I have a couple proposals to do just that.

So, if children aren't going to be taken care of by their biological parents, then who will? Certified child caretakers, that's who. All adults over the age of 25 will be allowed to go through a psychological exam to test if they are child-care material. The exam will take a look at the individual's crime record, medical history (to check for mental or behavioural problems, like alcoholism), and will psychologically examine him or her for any mental health issues that will prevent him or her from performing as a proper caretaker of the emotionally fragile beings called children.

Those who pass the exam will be given the opportunity to care for children at a live-in child care institution. How will this institution run? Well, this institution will house all local children. No longer will children "belong" to any individual's house. Children in this institution have no brothers or sisters, as all of their fellow children will dwell together, leaving the individual child to pick and choose his or her own companions. The institution will be staffed exclusively by folks who have passed the aforementioned exam. There will be no such thing as a homeless, poor, or orphaned child. All children will be treated equally in their institutions, and homeless children will be brought in. Being parentless will no longer carry a social stigma, as all children will be brought up being taken care of by certified individuals. All children and staff will be psychologically examined every year. Staff who fail the yearly exam will be let off (with a chance to reclaim their position once their problems have been dealt with) and children who are found to be developing psychological problems will be taken care of by none other than child psychologists who themselves have passed the exam.

Children raised in the institution will be taught a couple of indispensable things:

1) How to be emotionally autonomous. I cannot think of a more important skill for any individual to learn, and since children are the best learners, there is no better time to teach them than during these precious years. Being conscious and in control of your emotions is the best path to freedom and enlightenment. Knowing how to separate yourself from your emotions will help you in all facets of life, including: handling the truths of life, expanding your worldview, keeping you from being emotionally manipulated by others and by governments (propaganda works almost exclusively on emotional weakness), and life threatening situations where you must stay calm.
2) How to love themselves and embrace their status as lone minds. We are all alone in our minds, we are the only ones who truly understand ourselves, and we will have to live with ourselves for every moment of our lives. It is thus important to learn to accept, love, and value oneself and learn to enjoy one's own company. Not only that, but learning to enjoy solitude is another key to achieving freedom and enlightenment.

Children under the family unit are deprived of these skills, and thus live out their lives shackled to their own emotions, manipulated by others, unable to love themselves, and unable to think for themselves.

That is all I have to say for now. Thank you for reading, I hope you gained a new perspective and I look forward to reading your responses.
ford_prefect
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1/4/2015 7:22:17 PM
Posted: 1 year ago
What will the ratio of caregivers to children be in these places?
What kind of salary are you going to offer these full time caregivers?
How will the government pay for these institutions?

I think demographics and economics are huge prohibiting factors to this idea ever taking off, even if you miraculously could get around people's widespread opposition to the idea of giving up parental rights.
Harper
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1/4/2015 7:38:49 PM
Posted: 1 year ago
At 1/4/2015 7:22:17 PM, ford_prefect wrote:
What will the ratio of caregivers to children be in these places?
What kind of salary are you going to offer these full time caregivers?
How will the government pay for these institutions?

I think demographics and economics are huge prohibiting factors to this idea ever taking off, even if you miraculously could get around people's widespread opposition to the idea of giving up parental rights.

Hello, and thank you for giving me your input. I will address your points in the order that you phrased them:

1) The ratio of caregivers to children will not be determined by me, as I am no child specialist of any kind. My best guess given my limited education would be about 1 caretaker for every 10-20 children, if possible. I do not think any more are needed, as children seem to be more "at peace" when they are surrounded principally by their peers and friends who understand them, rather than being helicoptered by an adult all of the time.
2) Pay will be determined the same way pay is determined for all government/social service jobs. If the workers want more pay, they can demand more pay. Either that, or the care-takers could be given the option to not be paid, and instead live in the institution with the children, being fed and housed there.
3) The same way other government workers are paid for, however that may be for the respective government. Most often it will be from tax money.
4) I agree, it will be difficult, but it must be done if we are to live in a world free of the majority of child abuse. Child abuse is the cause of almost every other social ill, and it must come to an end.