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6/24/2010 12:43:46 AM
Posted: 6 years ago
Currently i am at a 3 day sales meeting at a resort/casino - i don't like these things, but i have to do it. In the course of this event there are about 40 other sales people in our general region (New England, and upper state New York), i know some of them, others not so much, but none that i would actually have a meaningful conversation with.

Now it has occurred to me that the people of this forum are a bit different than the average person - a couple i don't think see the light of day more than once a week ;-) - but my question is, do you get annoyed when you are forced to engage in small talk? At a party or some social event where you need to make some effort in getting along at least in appearance do you find yourself horribly annoyed?
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6/24/2010 2:45:33 AM
Posted: 6 years ago
At 6/24/2010 2:42:43 AM, badger wrote:
have a few drinks.

That typically is a good solution, but i don't drink. Besides, not a good idea to drink a lot when all the bosses are there.
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6/24/2010 2:45:59 AM
Posted: 6 years ago
not too fond of it either. i just don't understand people who strike up conversations in waiting rooms, taxis and the like (unless it's with someone sexy). after a few drinks i'll talk to anyone, though.
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6/24/2010 2:48:01 AM
Posted: 6 years ago
At 6/24/2010 2:45:59 AM, badger wrote:
not too fond of it either. i just don't understand people who strike up conversations in waiting rooms, taxis and the like (unless it's with someone sexy). after a few drinks i'll talk to anyone, though.

After a few drinks i have a few more and there-in lies the problem. I don't mind being friendly with someone, but endless droning on and on about things that i couldn't care less about.
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6/24/2010 2:48:15 AM
Posted: 6 years ago
At 6/24/2010 2:45:33 AM, innomen wrote:
At 6/24/2010 2:42:43 AM, badger wrote:
have a few drinks.

That typically is a good solution, but i don't drink. Besides, not a good idea to drink a lot when all the bosses are there.

yeah, it isn't. that's why i don't go to company christmas parties. free bar isn't worth getting fired for it.
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6/24/2010 2:49:40 AM
Posted: 6 years ago
At 6/24/2010 2:48:01 AM, innomen wrote:
At 6/24/2010 2:45:59 AM, badger wrote:
not too fond of it either. i just don't understand people who strike up conversations in waiting rooms, taxis and the like (unless it's with someone sexy). after a few drinks i'll talk to anyone, though.

After a few drinks i have a few more and there-in lies the problem. I don't mind being friendly with someone, but endless droning on and on about things that i couldn't care less about.

i've the same problem.
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6/24/2010 2:51:18 AM
Posted: 6 years ago
At 6/24/2010 2:48:15 AM, badger wrote:
At 6/24/2010 2:45:33 AM, innomen wrote:
At 6/24/2010 2:42:43 AM, badger wrote:
have a few drinks.

That typically is a good solution, but i don't drink. Besides, not a good idea to drink a lot when all the bosses are there.

yeah, it isn't. that's why i don't go to company christmas parties. free bar isn't worth getting fired for it.

In 45 minutes we have our collective breakfast, just got to fake it for an hour. They're not bad people, but not terribly complex. I think i must look like an idiot because i have this really blank look to me, but it's more a look of complete boredom.
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6/24/2010 3:00:23 AM
Posted: 6 years ago
At 6/24/2010 2:51:18 AM, innomen wrote:
At 6/24/2010 2:48:15 AM, badger wrote:
At 6/24/2010 2:45:33 AM, innomen wrote:
At 6/24/2010 2:42:43 AM, badger wrote:
have a few drinks.

That typically is a good solution, but i don't drink. Besides, not a good idea to drink a lot when all the bosses are there.

yeah, it isn't. that's why i don't go to company christmas parties. free bar isn't worth getting fired for it.

In 45 minutes we have our collective breakfast, just got to fake it for an hour. They're not bad people, but not terribly complex. I think i must look like an idiot because i have this really blank look to me, but it's more a look of complete boredom.

at least you get breakfast.
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6/24/2010 3:23:32 AM
Posted: 6 years ago
At 6/24/2010 3:00:23 AM, badger wrote:
At 6/24/2010 2:51:18 AM, innomen wrote:
At 6/24/2010 2:48:15 AM, badger wrote:
At 6/24/2010 2:45:33 AM, innomen wrote:
At 6/24/2010 2:42:43 AM, badger wrote:
have a few drinks.

That typically is a good solution, but i don't drink. Besides, not a good idea to drink a lot when all the bosses are there.

yeah, it isn't. that's why i don't go to company christmas parties. free bar isn't worth getting fired for it.

In 45 minutes we have our collective breakfast, just got to fake it for an hour. They're not bad people, but not terribly complex. I think i must look like an idiot because i have this really blank look to me, but it's more a look of complete boredom.

at least you get breakfast.

Yeah, we're at the MGM Grand, it's pretty decent.
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6/24/2010 3:28:51 AM
Posted: 6 years ago
Despite being quite malajusted and odd I have become quite adept at small talk. Maybe it's because as a Brit I have a genetic predisposition to talk about the weather.
I am voting for Innomen because of his intelligence, common sense, humility and the fact that Juggle appears to listen to him. Any other Presidential style would have a large sub-section of the site up in arms. If I was President I would destroy the site though elitism, others would let it run riot. Innomen represents a middle way that works, neither draconian nor anarchic and that is the only way things can work. Plus he does it all without ego trips.
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6/24/2010 3:45:07 AM
Posted: 6 years ago
At 6/24/2010 3:28:51 AM, Cerebral_Narcissist wrote:
Despite being quite malajusted and odd I have become quite adept at small talk. Maybe it's because as a Brit I have a genetic predisposition to talk about the weather.

maybe it's just a genetic predisposition to complain.
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6/24/2010 3:57:34 AM
Posted: 6 years ago
At 6/24/2010 3:45:07 AM, badger wrote:
At 6/24/2010 3:28:51 AM, Cerebral_Narcissist wrote:
Despite being quite malajusted and odd I have become quite adept at small talk. Maybe it's because as a Brit I have a genetic predisposition to talk about the weather.

maybe it's just a genetic predisposition to complain.

No thats a seperate one. So yea... weather & complaints... merge the two... mix it up... the heady heights of small talk are yours to climb!
I am voting for Innomen because of his intelligence, common sense, humility and the fact that Juggle appears to listen to him. Any other Presidential style would have a large sub-section of the site up in arms. If I was President I would destroy the site though elitism, others would let it run riot. Innomen represents a middle way that works, neither draconian nor anarchic and that is the only way things can work. Plus he does it all without ego trips.
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6/25/2010 8:03:44 PM
Posted: 6 years ago
I'm not too fond of it. I think that some people's opinions are better kept to them, and them only. Everyone has an opinion, doesn't really mean it's based on any validity.
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6/25/2010 8:15:38 PM
Posted: 6 years ago
There's almost always at least one common interest you share with someone. So, just spend your time talking about tho common interests, chatting it up, telling stories. Stories about your romantic life are always good. Or movies. Possibly books, too. Current events are also always fun.

Worse comes to worst, talk about sales. ;D
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6/25/2010 8:22:33 PM
Posted: 6 years ago
At 6/25/2010 8:15:38 PM, PoeJoe wrote:
There's almost always at least one common interest you share with someone. So, just spend your time talking about tho common interests, chatting it up, telling stories. Stories about your romantic life are always good. Or movies. Possibly books, too. Current events are also always fun.

Worse comes to worst, talk about sales. ;D

That's true. I was dragged to a party once with my mom and I felt so left out so I kind of just started trying to chat to people and I found one guy who shared my passion for history. We ended up chatting about that most of the night. I ended up having fun in the end.
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6/25/2010 10:28:26 PM
Posted: 6 years ago
At 6/25/2010 8:22:33 PM, InsertNameHere wrote:
At 6/25/2010 8:15:38 PM, PoeJoe wrote:
There's almost always at least one common interest you share with someone. So, just spend your time talking about tho common interests, chatting it up, telling stories. Stories about your romantic life are always good. Or movies. Possibly books, too. Current events are also always fun.

Worse comes to worst, talk about sales. ;D

That's true. I was dragged to a party once with my mom and I felt so left out so I kind of just started trying to chat to people and I found one guy who shared my passion for history. We ended up chatting about that most of the night. I ended up having fun in the end.

Jannah, you know better than to say that. We're on the Internet, after all. ;D
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6/25/2010 10:30:35 PM
Posted: 6 years ago
At 6/25/2010 10:28:26 PM, PoeJoe wrote:
At 6/25/2010 8:22:33 PM, InsertNameHere wrote:
At 6/25/2010 8:15:38 PM, PoeJoe wrote:
There's almost always at least one common interest you share with someone. So, just spend your time talking about tho common interests, chatting it up, telling stories. Stories about your romantic life are always good. Or movies. Possibly books, too. Current events are also always fun.

Worse comes to worst, talk about sales. ;D

That's true. I was dragged to a party once with my mom and I felt so left out so I kind of just started trying to chat to people and I found one guy who shared my passion for history. We ended up chatting about that most of the night. I ended up having fun in the end.

Jannah, you know better than to say that. We're on the Internet, after all. ;D

No, no. It wasn't in a dirty way. The guy was like 50. >.>
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6/25/2010 10:32:50 PM
Posted: 6 years ago
I don't care too much for small talk.

I don't mind speaking with a random stranger if he / she seems nice and has something to contribute towards a conversation. Other than that, it's kind of awkward for me to engage in small talk.
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6/27/2010 9:20:46 AM
Posted: 6 years ago
At 6/25/2010 10:30:35 PM, InsertNameHere wrote:
At 6/25/2010 10:28:26 PM, PoeJoe wrote:
At 6/25/2010 8:22:33 PM, InsertNameHere wrote:
At 6/25/2010 8:15:38 PM, PoeJoe wrote:
There's almost always at least one common interest you share with someone. So, just spend your time talking about tho common interests, chatting it up, telling stories. Stories about your romantic life are always good. Or movies. Possibly books, too. Current events are also always fun.

Worse comes to worst, talk about sales. ;D

That's true. I was dragged to a party once with my mom and I felt so left out so I kind of just started trying to chat to people and I found one guy who shared my passion for history. We ended up chatting about that most of the night. I ended up having fun in the end.

Jannah, you know better than to say that. We're on the Internet, after all. ;D

No, no. It wasn't in a dirty way. The guy was like 50. >.>

Sounds right up your street.
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6/27/2010 10:14:40 AM
Posted: 6 years ago
At 6/25/2010 8:15:38 PM, PoeJoe wrote:
There's almost always at least one common interest you share with someone. So, just spend your time talking about tho common interests, chatting it up, telling stories. Stories about your romantic life are always good. Or movies. Possibly books, too. Current events are also always fun.

Yeah, talking about my romantic life wouldn't alienate anyone... sure.
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6/27/2010 8:04:12 PM
Posted: 6 years ago
At 6/27/2010 9:20:46 AM, I-am-a-panda wrote:
At 6/25/2010 10:30:35 PM, InsertNameHere wrote:
At 6/25/2010 10:28:26 PM, PoeJoe wrote:
At 6/25/2010 8:22:33 PM, InsertNameHere wrote:
At 6/25/2010 8:15:38 PM, PoeJoe wrote:
There's almost always at least one common interest you share with someone. So, just spend your time talking about tho common interests, chatting it up, telling stories. Stories about your romantic life are always good. Or movies. Possibly books, too. Current events are also always fun.

Worse comes to worst, talk about sales. ;D

That's true. I was dragged to a party once with my mom and I felt so left out so I kind of just started trying to chat to people and I found one guy who shared my passion for history. We ended up chatting about that most of the night. I ended up having fun in the end.

Jannah, you know better than to say that. We're on the Internet, after all. ;D

No, no. It wasn't in a dirty way. The guy was like 50. >.>

Sounds right up your street.

Umm...no... xD
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6/27/2010 8:31:01 PM
Posted: 6 years ago
I'm more likely to end up conversing with a hobo at a bus stop on politics than I am to create "small talk" or enjoy others' attempts at it.
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6/28/2010 2:42:22 AM
Posted: 6 years ago
I love small talk. It's not always appropriate or comfortable, but I enjoy chatting with people about generally anything. How people get annoyed I don't really know, lol.
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6/28/2010 4:27:56 AM
Posted: 6 years ago
I hate those sort of events as well. It's not a good idea to drink though. Sadly, they must be endured.

I avoid talking about politics and religion (and also business because that's boring) and stick to sport and cars if it is a man and holidays (vacations) and children if it is a woman.
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6/29/2010 4:47:07 AM
Posted: 6 years ago
At 6/27/2010 8:31:01 PM, Ragnar_Rahl wrote:
I'm more likely to end up conversing with a hobo at a bus stop on politics than I am to create "small talk" or enjoy others' attempts at it.

I hate it when that happens!
I am voting for Innomen because of his intelligence, common sense, humility and the fact that Juggle appears to listen to him. Any other Presidential style would have a large sub-section of the site up in arms. If I was President I would destroy the site though elitism, others would let it run riot. Innomen represents a middle way that works, neither draconian nor anarchic and that is the only way things can work. Plus he does it all without ego trips.
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7/1/2010 7:49:59 AM
Posted: 6 years ago
At 6/29/2010 4:59:22 AM, Nags wrote:
I despise small talk. I try my hardest to avoid it at all costs.

Why does that not surprise me at all?