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Is watching pornography considered cheating?

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1/27/2015 4:51:56 PM
Posted: 1 year ago
At 1/27/2015 4:10:33 PM, Garfield wrote:
When you watch pornography, if you are married or dating, are you cheating on your significant other?

I think that is up to the significant other. Some care some don't.
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1/27/2015 7:31:34 PM
Posted: 1 year ago
At 1/27/2015 4:10:33 PM, Garfield wrote:
When you watch pornography, if you are married or dating, are you cheating on your significant other?

Insofar as one should only be sexually dedicated to their significant other.
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1/28/2015 10:19:43 AM
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At 1/27/2015 4:10:33 PM, Garfield wrote:
When you watch pornography, if you are married or dating, are you cheating on your significant other?

I say no, my wife says yes.

To me, cheating deals with intimacy, which sex is an intimate act, but taking care of your own business is not. I'd also argue that me going out to a movie or other outing with the intent of getting laid is cheating, even if nothing happened.

Sexual release is natural.
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1/31/2015 1:24:45 PM
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At 1/27/2015 5:01:23 PM, Garfield wrote:
At 1/27/2015 4:11:51 PM, Vox_Veritas wrote:
Yes

I am curious why do you say Yes?

He says yes because it is ogling the opposite gender in an attempt to satisfy lusts that should remain between spouses. I'd rather not go into detail but you get my point.
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1/31/2015 1:28:30 PM
Posted: 1 year ago
At 1/27/2015 11:37:06 PM, intellectuallyprimitive wrote:
At 1/27/2015 4:11:51 PM, Vox_Veritas wrote:
Yes

Please explain.

The Fool: He's trolling.
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2/1/2015 4:16:37 AM
Posted: 1 year ago
At 1/27/2015 7:31:34 PM, xXCryptoXx wrote:
At 1/27/2015 4:10:33 PM, Garfield wrote:
When you watch pornography, if you are married or dating, are you cheating on your significant other?

Insofar as one should only be sexually dedicated to their significant other.
is having a wet dream cheating.
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2/1/2015 4:18:36 AM
Posted: 1 year ago
At 2/1/2015 12:39:15 AM, Burzmali wrote:
If I'm watching porn, odds are my wife is watching it with me.
is that having a threesome with your laptop?
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2/1/2015 5:22:41 AM
Posted: 1 year ago
At 1/27/2015 4:10:33 PM, Garfield wrote:
When you watch pornography, if you are married or dating, are you cheating on your significant other?

No, you are not dating the porn actress... You are just watching a movie. It's even worse when your girlfriend can't stop watching Brad Pitt's movies and you just know she loves him more than you!
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2/1/2015 9:52:07 AM
Posted: 1 year ago
At 2/1/2015 4:18:36 AM, codpeace wrote:
At 2/1/2015 12:39:15 AM, Burzmali wrote:
If I'm watching porn, odds are my wife is watching it with me.
is that having a threesome with your laptop?

Watching porn on a little laptop screen? Now that is wrong. We watch porn on our TV, like civilized people.
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2/1/2015 10:03:00 AM
Posted: 1 year ago
At 2/1/2015 4:16:37 AM, codpeace wrote:
At 1/27/2015 7:31:34 PM, xXCryptoXx wrote:
At 1/27/2015 4:10:33 PM, Garfield wrote:
When you watch pornography, if you are married or dating, are you cheating on your significant other?

Insofar as one should only be sexually dedicated to their significant other.
is having a wet dream cheating.

No
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2/1/2015 10:29:02 AM
Posted: 1 year ago
At 1/27/2015 7:31:34 PM, xXCryptoXx wrote:
At 1/27/2015 4:10:33 PM, Garfield wrote:
When you watch pornography, if you are married or dating, are you cheating on your significant other?

Insofar as one should only be sexually dedicated to their significant other.

I can think of an exception. What if you are separated geographicaly from your significant other, and you think about that person while watching the porn.. I think in that instance it is okay, hopefully anyway since I did it last night.
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2/1/2015 10:35:11 AM
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At 1/27/2015 4:10:33 PM, Garfield wrote:
When you watch pornography, if you are married or dating, are you cheating on your significant other?

No, I believe two things here. The first is if your significant other is away on a trip or separated geographifically then you can use porn to satisfy your urges as long as you think of them while watching it. I believe that it can strengthen your bonds. The second is for new ideas. Instead of going for the usual Saturday night rump in the hey you can change some things up and have a little bit of spice in your life.
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2/1/2015 10:35:56 AM
Posted: 1 year ago
At 2/1/2015 4:16:37 AM, codpeace wrote:
At 1/27/2015 7:31:34 PM, xXCryptoXx wrote:
At 1/27/2015 4:10:33 PM, Garfield wrote:
When you watch pornography, if you are married or dating, are you cheating on your significant other?

Insofar as one should only be sexually dedicated to their significant other.
is having a wet dream cheating
lol no..
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2/1/2015 10:37:21 AM
Posted: 1 year ago
At 1/27/2015 4:10:33 PM, Garfield wrote:
When you watch pornography, if you are married or dating, are you cheating on your significant other?

I fvck other people and don't consider it cheating.
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2/1/2015 10:39:07 AM
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At 2/1/2015 10:37:21 AM, Wylted wrote:
At 1/27/2015 4:10:33 PM, Garfield wrote:
When you watch pornography, if you are married or dating, are you cheating on your significant other?

I fvck other people and don't consider it cheating.

Polyamorous?
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2/1/2015 10:49:54 AM
Posted: 1 year ago
At 2/1/2015 10:39:07 AM, lannan13 wrote:
At 2/1/2015 10:37:21 AM, Wylted wrote:
At 1/27/2015 4:10:33 PM, Garfield wrote:
When you watch pornography, if you are married or dating, are you cheating on your significant other?

I fvck other people and don't consider it cheating.

Polyamorous?

More like semi-monogamous unless I meet another special someone.
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2/1/2015 11:04:59 AM
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At 2/1/2015 10:49:54 AM, Wylted wrote:
At 2/1/2015 10:39:07 AM, lannan13 wrote:
At 2/1/2015 10:37:21 AM, Wylted wrote:
At 1/27/2015 4:10:33 PM, Garfield wrote:
When you watch pornography, if you are married or dating, are you cheating on your significant other?

I fvck other people and don't consider it cheating.

Polyamorous?

More like semi-monogamous unless I meet another special someone.

Interesting.
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2/1/2015 11:25:11 AM
Posted: 1 year ago
At 2/1/2015 11:04:59 AM, lannan13 wrote:
At 2/1/2015 10:49:54 AM, Wylted wrote:
At 2/1/2015 10:39:07 AM, lannan13 wrote:
At 2/1/2015 10:37:21 AM, Wylted wrote:
At 1/27/2015 4:10:33 PM, Garfield wrote:
When you watch pornography, if you are married or dating, are you cheating on your significant other?

I fvck other people and don't consider it cheating.

Polyamorous?

More like semi-monogamous unless I meet another special someone.

Interesting.

I've seen studies that should semi monogamous relationships were more happy and trusting.
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2/1/2015 11:27:54 AM
Posted: 1 year ago
is this a serious debate?
1.what do you consider "cheating"?
2. what do you consider the basis of any relationship?

If you consider anything which destroys or damages 2. then yes obviously.the real question is: Does leaving a partner open to experimenting pornography also cheating? as in denial?
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2/1/2015 7:28:04 PM
Posted: 1 year ago
At 2/1/2015 11:27:54 AM, Banesto wrote:
is this a serious debate?
1.what do you consider "cheating"?
2. what do you consider the basis of any relationship?

If you consider anything which destroys or damages 2. then yes obviously.the real question is: Does leaving a partner open to experimenting pornography also cheating? as in denial?

This is a thread not a debate.
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2/1/2015 9:44:11 PM
Posted: 1 year ago
First off, "cheating" is not a technical term. It is a verbal contract between (normally) two people in a relationship. With that being said, many couples never get to talking about it. In that case, it is definitely a form of infidelity, albeit a minor one. It is not the same as giving yourself to another person, however.

I had a particular low-point in my life in 2007 where I was using pornography without my partner knowing, and I degraded into voyeurism at my worst. I've come to learn from that experience that using porn is detrimental to your relationship; there's no need to get into the ethics of it. Sure, you can get away with using it and not actually cheating, and you can still maintain a sex-life with your partner (i.e., argument that it's a victimless crime). But the real question remains: can you still give your partner 100% if you are masturbating to porn in between having sex with them? Most certainly you can't. I had a very good-looking girl-friend, somebody most people would give their left arm to have a night with, and I didn't want to sleep with her because I was using all I had on porn. When she did push me into sex, I had a hard time staying potent and probably faked an orgasm or two just because I was having such a hard time performing. And I'm the type of guy who likes having lots of sex, not somebody who usually has any problems in that area.

If you want to do the "right" thing, then you should be thinking of your partner while in a relationship. "Lust" is when you concentrate on your own desires, not your partner's - hence why some sex is lustful and some isn't. What works for me, and works very well, is when I can't have sex with my partner I think about her when I masturbate. This gives the distinct advantage to her when she is with me, that having her for real is much better than fantasizing with her. So I know I will always be very excited for her, for the real (better) thing. I make sure I don't think about other girls or use porn when I am in a relationship because I am only going to start hurting my sex life. If I'm not dating, I feel free to do what I want... however I do think there's something to say about supporting a porn industry which works to degrade women. Even if you're just browsing without actually paying, you're still slightly supporting it. Again I am not innocent of it myself, I will use 4chan if I am not feeling very mentally creative :P
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2/3/2015 4:53:43 AM
Posted: 1 year ago
At 2/1/2015 11:25:11 AM, Wylted wrote:
At 2/1/2015 11:04:59 AM, lannan13 wrote:
At 2/1/2015 10:49:54 AM, Wylted wrote:
At 2/1/2015 10:39:07 AM, lannan13 wrote:
At 2/1/2015 10:37:21 AM, Wylted wrote:
At 1/27/2015 4:10:33 PM, Garfield wrote:
When you watch pornography, if you are married or dating, are you cheating on your significant other?

I fvck other people and don't consider it cheating.

Polyamorous?

More like semi-monogamous unless I meet another special someone.

Interesting.

I've seen studies that should semi monogamous relationships were more happy and trusting.

Its not exactly cheating if there are no formal rules. Fidelity isn't assumed or implied, its stated.
Here we have an advocate for Islamic arranged marriages demonstrating that children can consent to sex.
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