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The Individualist Seeks Approval

s-anthony
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2/20/2015 9:39:13 AM
Posted: 1 year ago
The individualist who is only able to empathize with the fortunes of others in as much as they resemble his, or her, own is seeking nothing more than validation. He, or she, seeks the validating experiences of others because he, or she, lacks confidence in oneself. In other words, one seeks that which he, or she, does not have.

The sympathizer who empathizes with those of a different lot, whether perceived as fortunate or not, seeks to validate the experiences of others. He, or she, does not in this regard need validation and from a place of self-approval approves the lives of others.
intellectuallyprimitive
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2/20/2015 6:42:31 PM
Posted: 1 year ago
At 2/20/2015 9:39:13 AM, s-anthony wrote:
The individualist who is only able to empathize with the fortunes of others in as much as they resemble his, or her, own is seeking nothing more than validation. He, or she, seeks the validating experiences of others because he, or she, lacks confidence in oneself. In other words, one seeks that which he, or she, does not have.

The sympathizer who empathizes with those of a different lot, whether perceived as fortunate or not, seeks to validate the experiences of others. He, or she, does not in this regard need validation and from a place of self-approval approves the lives of others.

Interesting for I would have considered the individualist, who advocates individual aspiration and integrity, would possess a wealthy degree of self-esteem or confidence devoid of external approval. Individuality would appear to reflect self-sustaining, self-ambition, self-reliance, and also importantly ,the avoidance of conformity.

So the binary examples you have provided, the individualist and the sympathizer, are essentially an approval seeker and an approval provider?
s-anthony
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2/21/2015 2:19:20 AM
Posted: 1 year ago
Interesting for I would have considered the individualist, who advocates individual aspiration and integrity, would possess a wealthy degree of self-esteem or confidence devoid of external approval. Individuality would appear to reflect self-sustaining, self-ambition, self-reliance, and also importantly ,the avoidance of conformity.

The individualist seeks to set himself, or herself, apart from the group; and, in so doing, he, or she, becomes disagreeable.

This disagreement not only sets the individual apart but also diminishes his, or her, influence. In other words, it weakens the individual's will.

He, or she, seeing his, or her, will as insignificant in being compared to the group's has feelings of alienation and inadequacy.

The individualist compensates for these feelings by seeking confirmation in the very thing from which he, or she, seeks independence.

So the binary examples you have provided, the individualist and the sympathizer, are essentially an approval seeker and an approval provider?

They are both. No one is completely one or the other.