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bsh1
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7/29/2015 8:17:26 AM
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Are wierd conditions on wills acceptable, when those conditions are designed to simply micromanaging your kids' lives after your death? See the link for an example. Helicopter parenting becomes ghost parenting. Thoughts?

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7/29/2015 8:59:41 AM
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Rich people are spoiled little babies. If you don't like the conditions, pay your own way through life, instead of taking "rich people welfare". It might not be easy to reject 20 million dollars, but if something compromises your integrity you're a lesser person for accepting it or the conditions.

That's from the child's perspective

From the parents perspective:

They should obviously have raised their kids well enough to avoid needing these stipulations, but if they messed up the raising of them, it's not a bad ideal so that way the wealth is preserved a little bit more and hopefully your grandkids have better sense.

I'm actually a big supporter of helicopter parenting, so long as it doesn't go to far. People are maturing at a slower rate than at times past. It used to be that a 16 year old boy was a mature grown up, but now people don't start reaching maturity until their 30s . Clearly they need helicopter parenting to keep or get their life on track, until they're actually fully mature.
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7/29/2015 5:34:23 PM
Posted: 1 year ago
At 7/29/2015 8:17:26 AM, bsh1 wrote:
Are wierd conditions on wills acceptable, when those conditions are designed to simply micromanaging your kids' lives after your death? See the link for an example. Helicopter parenting becomes ghost parenting. Thoughts?

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The kids have a choice as to whether they'll accept the money or not. If the parent(s) owned the money, then it's his/her/their right to attach strings to it.
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7/29/2015 8:15:27 PM
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At 7/29/2015 8:17:26 AM, bsh1 wrote:
Are wierd conditions on wills acceptable, when those conditions are designed to simply micromanaging your kids' lives after your death? See the link for an example. Helicopter parenting becomes ghost parenting. Thoughts?

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Of course they are acceptable, otherwise, how could there be super wealthy dogs with butlers?
However, I would be conflicted if I had a will that did that. On one hand, it is my right to refuse the will/inheritance. However, I take death wishes very seriously, so I would feel compelled to honor the will.

Now, as to the actual story, I see nothing wrong with stipulations like that. Frankly, there is nothing wrong with delaying the money in a trust until the child is "responsible" enough (read "old" enough). There is a reason why lottery winners go bankrupt within five years so often, and for a teenager to inherit millions, that could spell disaster in so many ways, even if they were "raised well".
I thought the restrictions were far worse than that.
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7/30/2015 12:53:44 AM
Posted: 1 year ago
At 7/29/2015 5:34:23 PM, Vox_Veritas wrote:
At 7/29/2015 8:17:26 AM, bsh1 wrote:
Are wierd conditions on wills acceptable, when those conditions are designed to simply micromanaging your kids' lives after your death? See the link for an example. Helicopter parenting becomes ghost parenting. Thoughts?

https://www.yahoo.com...

The kids have a choice as to whether they'll accept the money or not. If the parent(s) owned the money, then it's his/her/their right to attach strings to it.

I acknowledge that it's the parents' legal right to do that. My question was whether it was acceptable, or whether parents should do that. Just because they can do it, that doesn't mean they should do it.
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