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Why aren't women turned on by porn?

rogue
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12/12/2010 8:32:55 PM
Posted: 5 years ago
I am a bisexual female, and I would think that since I have equal intrest in women as men, I would like porn. But, I've tried to watch it, people have sent me different links they think I might like and I just don't get off on it. I have asked my other bisexual female friends and they are all in the same boat as me. Any theories on why this is so?
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12/12/2010 8:44:38 PM
Posted: 5 years ago
because women aren't as visually stimulated as men... we react more to emotional and mental cues. its the same reason (in reverse) men don't tend to read romance novels lol.

though i will say that *if* i am in the mood for it i can enjoy some porn. its just quite rare. the whole two random people just start f*cking thing doesn't do it for me at all...
evidently i only come to ddo to avoid doing homework...
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12/12/2010 9:03:29 PM
Posted: 5 years ago
At 12/12/2010 8:57:57 PM, Cody_Franklin wrote:
It isn't necessarily true that women aren't turned on by porn.

http://ehis.ebscohost.com...

http://www.newscientist.com...

physical arousal obviously isn't all it takes to be "turned on" since that implies wanting to have sex... which not all women do, even when they are physically aroused
evidently i only come to ddo to avoid doing homework...
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12/12/2010 9:16:34 PM
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There are many different styles of porn... Most of it is going to seem ridiculous but there's bound to be something that will float your boat
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12/12/2010 10:28:27 PM
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At 12/12/2010 9:16:34 PM, Caramel wrote:
There are many different styles of porn... Most of it is going to seem ridiculous but there's bound to be something that will float your boat

hah i hope so. thing is i can get turned on without touching and just with visual stimulation, its just never porn that does it.
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12/12/2010 10:31:29 PM
Posted: 5 years ago
At 12/12/2010 10:28:27 PM, rogue wrote:
At 12/12/2010 9:16:34 PM, Caramel wrote:
There are many different styles of porn... Most of it is going to seem ridiculous but there's bound to be something that will float your boat

hah i hope so. thing is i can get turned on without touching and just with visual stimulation, its just never porn that does it.

I'll bet I could turn you on. :P
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12/12/2010 10:38:41 PM
Posted: 5 years ago
At 12/12/2010 10:28:27 PM, rogue wrote:
At 12/12/2010 9:16:34 PM, Caramel wrote:
There are many different styles of porn... Most of it is going to seem ridiculous but there's bound to be something that will float your boat

hah i hope so. thing is i can get turned on without touching and just with visual stimulation, its just never porn that does it.

I had the same problem. And then I found another porn site. :P
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12/12/2010 11:02:31 PM
Posted: 5 years ago
At 12/12/2010 8:32:55 PM, rogue wrote:
I am a bisexual female, and I would think that since I have equal intrest in women as men, I would like porn. But, I've tried to watch it, people have sent me different links they think I might like and I just don't get off on it. I have asked my other bisexual female friends and they are all in the same boat as me. Any theories on why this is so?

The amygdala and hypothalamus are more active in men. In other words, men are programmed to be more aroused by pornography than women. It's not your fault. http://www.nature.com...

The site says "amydala," but that can't be right. I'm almost certain they meant amygdala. I've never come across any part of the brain called the amydala.
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12/12/2010 11:49:30 PM
Posted: 5 years ago
At 12/12/2010 10:28:27 PM, rogue wrote:
At 12/12/2010 9:16:34 PM, Caramel wrote:
There are many different styles of porn... Most of it is going to seem ridiculous but there's bound to be something that will float your boat

hah i hope so. thing is i can get turned on without touching and just with visual stimulation, its just never porn that does it.

Most porn is garbage - and designed for men's exceedingly simple tastes.
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12/13/2010 10:52:20 AM
Posted: 5 years ago
At 12/12/2010 11:02:31 PM, Freeman wrote:
At 12/12/2010 8:32:55 PM, rogue wrote:
I am a bisexual female, and I would think that since I have equal intrest in women as men, I would like porn. But, I've tried to watch it, people have sent me different links they think I might like and I just don't get off on it. I have asked my other bisexual female friends and they are all in the same boat as me. Any theories on why this is so?

The amygdala and hypothalamus are more active in men. In other words, men are programmed to be more aroused by pornography than women. It's not your fault. http://www.nature.com...

The site says "amydala," but that can't be right. I'm almost certain they meant amygdala. I've never come across any part of the brain called the amydala.

This is interesting. So it is harder for women to be more turned on by visual stimuli, therefore we are more picky in what turns us on visually? lol
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12/13/2010 10:57:25 AM
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At 12/12/2010 10:31:29 PM, Cody_Franklin wrote:
At 12/12/2010 10:28:27 PM, rogue wrote:
At 12/12/2010 9:16:34 PM, Caramel wrote:
There are many different styles of porn... Most of it is going to seem ridiculous but there's bound to be something that will float your boat

hah i hope so. thing is i can get turned on without touching and just with visual stimulation, its just never porn that does it.

I'll bet I could turn you on. :P
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12/13/2010 1:31:45 PM
Posted: 5 years ago
At 12/12/2010 11:49:30 PM, Caramel wrote:
At 12/12/2010 10:28:27 PM, rogue wrote:
At 12/12/2010 9:16:34 PM, Caramel wrote:
There are many different styles of porn... Most of it is going to seem ridiculous but there's bound to be something that will float your boat

hah i hope so. thing is i can get turned on without touching and just with visual stimulation, its just never porn that does it.

Most porn is garbage - and designed for men's exceedingly simple tastes.

Okay and . . . ?
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12/13/2010 1:49:06 PM
Posted: 5 years ago
At 12/12/2010 8:32:55 PM, rogue wrote:
I am a bisexual female, and I would think that since I have equal intrest in women as men, I would like porn. But, I've tried to watch it, people have sent me different links they think I might like and I just don't get off on it. I have asked my other bisexual female friends and they are all in the same boat as me. Any theories on why this is so?

hmmm that isn't the case with me. Maybe you should try reading stories instead. Women tend to identify more with stories typically with emotional cues then they do with actually seeing it.
I haven't read any of these but I heard this site is good for hentai,so stands to reason it would have good quality of 'normal' stuff.
(p.s I don't like hentai...I just don't pick friends very well lol)
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12/13/2010 3:25:44 PM
Posted: 5 years ago
I think it's pretentious and preposterous when women try to play it off as though they are so much more sexually sophisticated than men.

1.) Physical arousal is being "turned on." Most people don't want to have sex when they watch porn. They want to masturbate. The two are so exceedingly different, they hardly correlate.

2.) Porn is so incredibly diverse, it's ridiculous. Furthermore, there is definitely porn that is geared to women.

3.) The whole theory that women aren't as visually stimulated as men is controversial. From experience, I find it outright retarded. When women see what they want, they are more than stimulated. This goes for things that are both sexual and not.

By the way, an amygdala interacts with the medulla oblongata stem and regulates emotion. The locus for sexual response, which is pretty much the same for men and women, is in the hypothalmus. However, the amygdala is engaged during sexual arousal; in fact, in adults, the responses to sexual arousal and anger are so alike, they are nearly indistinguishable in MRI scans. Both of these responses just so happen to be more intense in women.
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12/13/2010 3:45:07 PM
Posted: 5 years ago
At 12/13/2010 3:25:44 PM, Ren wrote:
I think it's pretentious and preposterous when women try to play it off as though they are so much more sexually sophisticated than men.

1.) Physical arousal is being "turned on." Most people don't want to have sex when they watch porn. They want to masturbate. The two are so exceedingly different, they hardly correlate.

2.) Porn is so incredibly diverse, it's ridiculous. Furthermore, there is definitely porn that is geared to women.

3.) The whole theory that women aren't as visually stimulated as men is controversial. From experience, I find it outright retarded. When women see what they want, they are more than stimulated. This goes for things that are both sexual and not.

This.
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12/13/2010 11:21:35 PM
Posted: 5 years ago
At 12/13/2010 1:49:06 PM, lovelife wrote:
At 12/12/2010 8:32:55 PM, rogue wrote:
I am a bisexual female, and I would think that since I have equal intrest in women as men, I would like porn. But, I've tried to watch it, people have sent me different links they think I might like and I just don't get off on it. I have asked my other bisexual female friends and they are all in the same boat as me. Any theories on why this is so?

hmmm that isn't the case with me. Maybe you should try reading stories instead. Women tend to identify more with stories typically with emotional cues then they do with actually seeing it.
I haven't read any of these but I heard this site is good for hentai,so stands to reason it would have good quality of 'normal' stuff.
(p.s I don't like hentai...I just don't pick friends very well lol)

I've read stories before and that doesn't work either because I can't take them seriously.
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12/14/2010 12:09:28 AM
Posted: 5 years ago
At 12/13/2010 11:21:35 PM, rogue wrote:
At 12/13/2010 1:49:06 PM, lovelife wrote:
At 12/12/2010 8:32:55 PM, rogue wrote:
I am a bisexual female, and I would think that since I have equal intrest in women as men, I would like porn. But, I've tried to watch it, people have sent me different links they think I might like and I just don't get off on it. I have asked my other bisexual female friends and they are all in the same boat as me. Any theories on why this is so?

hmmm that isn't the case with me. Maybe you should try reading stories instead. Women tend to identify more with stories typically with emotional cues then they do with actually seeing it.
I haven't read any of these but I heard this site is good for hentai,so stands to reason it would have good quality of 'normal' stuff.
(p.s I don't like hentai...I just don't pick friends very well lol)

I've read stories before and that doesn't work either because I can't take them seriously.

You take sex seriously?

Like, you go to bed with your hella serious face on?
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12/14/2010 10:49:31 PM
Posted: 5 years ago
At 12/14/2010 12:10:21 AM, Ren wrote:
"GET ON THE BED!!!

We're gonna do this! NOW!!"

<.< not like that kind of serious. but if i felt like sleeping with someone was a joke then I couldn't do it.
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12/14/2010 11:20:58 PM
Posted: 5 years ago
Alright, let me ask you this: do you really want to look at naked people, voyeuristically watch people having sex, or read about sex with the intention of masturbating, because that arouses you?

Or, are you the sort of person who does not need a stimulant while masturbating?

Perhaps, you have an aversion to masturbation?

If you're really curious, let's get to the bottom of this. :)
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12/15/2010 12:23:53 PM
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There is such a product as female-friendly porn. I think it has more of a backstory/emotional connections/more tenderness and foreplay.

http://www.marieclaire.com...

This site lists a number of female-friendly porn sites.
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12/15/2010 10:34:16 PM
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At 12/14/2010 11:20:58 PM, Ren wrote:
Alright, let me ask you this: do you really want to look at naked people, voyeuristically watch people having sex, or read about sex with the intention of masturbating, because that arouses you?

Or, are you the sort of person who does not need a stimulant while masturbating?

Perhaps, you have an aversion to masturbation?

If you're really curious, let's get to the bottom of this. :)

Woah hold on this is getting really full of assumptions. The point is that if porn turned me on, its be easier to masturbate and yes I need some kin of stimulant. I don't have an aversion to masturbation. If I did, I probably wouldn't be talking about it so openly lol.
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12/16/2010 4:03:23 AM
Posted: 5 years ago
First, generalizations are always for the win, and the biological aspects have already been posted. With that said, do you tend to over-think the expectations of the said action? [OR] Is the environment distracting such as, noise, to perform? If all else fails remove yourself from your mind and focus only on the feeling and provoking stimuli. Enjoy the moment as it is suppose to be is my only unscientific, unwarranted, advice I have
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12/16/2010 10:04:47 AM
Posted: 5 years ago
At 12/15/2010 10:34:16 PM, rogue wrote:
At 12/14/2010 11:20:58 PM, Ren wrote:
Alright, let me ask you this: do you really want to look at naked people, voyeuristically watch people having sex, or read about sex with the intention of masturbating, because that arouses you?

Or, are you the sort of person who does not need a stimulant while masturbating?

Perhaps, you have an aversion to masturbation?

If you're really curious, let's get to the bottom of this. :)

Woah hold on this is getting really full of assumptions. The point is that if porn turned me on, its be easier to masturbate and yes I need some kin of stimulant. I don't have an aversion to masturbation. If I did, I probably wouldn't be talking about it so openly lol.

I wasn't assuming anything. :S Those that enjoy watching porn literally become aroused by voyueristically watching people have sex, masturbate, or commit other sexual acts.

Those who are aroused by sex in general, rather than flirtation or interaction, are aroused by erotic literature (which, I may add, is often not all that silly--you can certainly find sites that allow story ratings, so that you can filter out the asinine ones).

My point is that if those things aren't what float your boat, then porn isn't for you. However, I'd have to say that the vast majority of people like seeing things that they enjoy. For example, most people salivate, or even feel the sensation of hunger, when viewing their favorite food. You may not. You may see your favorite food, penis, and vagina, and feel wholly unmoved.

However, if you find that thinking about sex and seeing sex causes arousal, then it's likely that you don't have a problem with porn in general, but rather, the porn to which you've been exposed.
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12/16/2010 11:07:21 AM
Posted: 5 years ago
At 12/16/2010 10:04:47 AM, Ren wrote:
At 12/15/2010 10:34:16 PM, rogue wrote:
At 12/14/2010 11:20:58 PM, Ren wrote:
Alright, let me ask you this: do you really want to look at naked people, voyeuristically watch people having sex, or read about sex with the intention of masturbating, because that arouses you?

Or, are you the sort of person who does not need a stimulant while masturbating?

Perhaps, you have an aversion to masturbation?

If you're really curious, let's get to the bottom of this. :)

Woah hold on this is getting really full of assumptions. The point is that if porn turned me on, its be easier to masturbate and yes I need some kin of stimulant. I don't have an aversion to masturbation. If I did, I probably wouldn't be talking about it so openly lol.

I wasn't assuming anything. :S Those that enjoy watching porn literally become aroused by voyueristically watching people have sex, masturbate, or commit other sexual acts.

Those who are aroused by sex in general, rather than flirtation or interaction, are aroused by erotic literature (which, I may add, is often not all that silly--you can certainly find sites that allow story ratings, so that you can filter out the asinine ones).

My point is that if those things aren't what float your boat, then porn isn't for you. However, I'd have to say that the vast majority of people like seeing things that they enjoy. For example, most people salivate, or even feel the sensation of hunger, when viewing their favorite food. You may not. You may see your favorite food, penis, and vagina, and feel wholly unmoved.

However, if you find that thinking about sex and seeing sex causes arousal, then it's likely that you don't have a problem with porn in general, but rather, the porn to which you've been exposed.

I think that is the best example yet.
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12/16/2010 1:47:48 PM
Posted: 5 years ago
At 12/16/2010 10:04:47 AM, Ren wrote:
At 12/15/2010 10:34:16 PM, rogue wrote:
At 12/14/2010 11:20:58 PM, Ren wrote:
Alright, let me ask you this: do you really want to look at naked people, voyeuristically watch people having sex, or read about sex with the intention of masturbating, because that arouses you?

Or, are you the sort of person who does not need a stimulant while masturbating?

Perhaps, you have an aversion to masturbation?

If you're really curious, let's get to the bottom of this. :)

Woah hold on this is getting really full of assumptions. The point is that if porn turned me on, its be easier to masturbate and yes I need some kin of stimulant. I don't have an aversion to masturbation. If I did, I probably wouldn't be talking about it so openly lol.

I wasn't assuming anything. :S Those that enjoy watching porn literally become aroused by voyueristically watching people have sex, masturbate, or commit other sexual acts.

Those who are aroused by sex in general, rather than flirtation or interaction, are aroused by erotic literature (which, I may add, is often not all that silly--you can certainly find sites that allow story ratings, so that you can filter out the asinine ones).

My point is that if those things aren't what float your boat, then porn isn't for you. However, I'd have to say that the vast majority of people like seeing things that they enjoy. For example, most people salivate, or even feel the sensation of hunger, when viewing their favorite food. You may not. You may see your favorite food, penis, and vagina, and feel wholly unmoved.

However, if you find that thinking about sex and seeing sex causes arousal, then it's likely that you don't have a problem with porn in general, but rather, the porn to which you've been exposed.

Hm. It's odd because it isn't absolute. I have been turned on by all those things but in other situations other than porn. Like, I have been turned on by visual, auditory, by reading books that are sexy or about sex or show sex, but porn has never done that for me.