Should guys have a say in...

Should guys have a say in whether or not their spouse should keep the baby or not. Meaning if the father wants to keep the baby but his spouse does not, should he be able to have a word to "no" I want this baby. Should there be a law allowing guys to keep their baby? whether the Mother likes it or not. Please give your reasoning and please elaborate, Thank You!

Are you talking with regards to abortion?

At 9/8/2009 4:24:31 PM, Nags wrote:
Are you talking with regards to abortion?

Yes Sir I am

Should they have a say? Sure.
Should they be able to disagree with the final decision? Probably not.

Of course abortion/childrearing in and of itself is not the end of everything. There's always divorce...

At 9/8/2009 4:27:47 PM, Rezzealaux wrote:
Should they have a say? Sure.
Should they be able to disagree with the final decision? Probably not.

Of course abortion/childrearing in and of itself is not the end of everything. There's always divorce...

Ick. I don't care too much for all that divorce nonsense.

At 9/8/2009 4:08:44 PM, Ashley17 wrote:
Should guys have a say in whether or not their spouse should keep the baby or not. Meaning if the father wants to keep the baby but his spouse does not, should he be able to have a word to "no" I want this baby. Should there be a law allowing guys to keep their baby? whether the Mother likes it or not. Please give your reasoning and please elaborate, Thank You!

Wow, you certainly like to start up controversial threads Ash.

When my daughter was conceived, her mum and me had already split up and were not in a stable relationship. She was close to aborting her but I managed to talk her out of it.

This was not my right however as it was merely my seed rather than my own body involved. I think the father's feelings should certainly be considered but it is ultimately a woman's choice.

To answer your question,

No, I don't think guys should have a say in the final decision. They don't own the women's body and they don't own the fetus. Women should have the same rights as men, which means men don't make decisions about a woman's body, and vice-versa.

At 9/8/2009 4:32:53 PM, Nags wrote:
To answer your question,

No, I don't think guys should have a say in the final decision. They don't own the women's body and they don't own the fetus. Women should have the same rights as men, which means men don't make decisions about a woman's body, and vice-versa.

Personally, I think that it's somewhat like this: Assuming it's a stable couple, and the woman got pregnant, and she didn't want it, then the couple shouldn't have been having sex. Furthermore, (ideally speaking) a couple should think of themselves as a man and a woman, but as a single unit; ergo, I think the decision should be weighted evenly, as far as a legal perspective is concerned; ultimately, abortion is not only a decision about "a woman's body", but it's a decision about the couple's future, ergo, it needs to be the couple's decision, especially since, as two equal people in a couple, they both have equal rights within their relationship; that, and, I don't count a body as personal property. :P

At 9/8/2009 4:32:11 PM, feverish wrote:

This was not my right however as it was merely my seed rather than my own body involved. I think the father's feelings should certainly be considered but it is ultimately a woman's choice.

...and that's the thread.

At 9/8/2009 4:40:16 PM, Cody_Franklin wrote:

Personally, I think that it's somewhat like this: Assuming it's a stable couple, and the woman got pregnant, and she didn't want it, then the couple shouldn't have been having sex.

Focussing on the should or shouldn't have aspects does not solve the situation when it arises but if you are just saying that both have a responsibility then I agree.

Furthermore, (ideally speaking) a couple should think of themselves as a man and a woman, but as a single unit; ergo, I think the decision should be weighted evenly, as far as a legal perspective is concerned; ultimately, abortion is not only a decision about "a woman's body", but it's a decision about the couple's future, ergo, it needs to be the couple's decision, especially since, as two equal people in a couple, they both have equal rights within their relationship; that, and, I don't count a body as personal property. :P

So if your body is not your property you would have no problem with other people using it as they see fit?