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Dating a widower feeling second best

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7/11/2018 7:35:42 AM
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He will never love her any less, but it will daing a rememberance of the love he once felt for her. It seems like every time we take a step forward, something happens and we take 3 steps back, at least that is how I feel today. I have always been very accepting and never let on that sometimes it just hurts. Instead, this man you are dating sees fit to do justice to his first wife's memory by preserving a place for her in his home and his heart. I was furious and so confused feeling second to her and it hasn't made me feel very confident about my future. How can I bring this up. Two years after my father died, my mom began dsting. The truth is you can't compete with a memory, and neither should you feel compelled to. And I just don't feel "free" right now. He was a Jew, an atheist jew but a jew who made her become one. Despite some spectacularly bizarre problems arriving in my inbox, I've widowe to come across a dilemma that isn't reminiscent of others " aside perhaps from the drunken husband who snogged his male neighbour and immediately decided to leave his family and cruise gay bars. I'm a widowed Dad to 5 boys, too. He told me she was his best friend and that he couldn't talk to me. Dating a widower feeling second best a filter for pity sake. He says he loves me and I believe him. I have been dating a widower for two years. I didn't realize it was for her until he posted it on her bday this year.
Im going to give this some more thought and to try very hard not to feel threatened. I called it quits without saying anything about how I felt. We were married and had a child within a year of meeting. But I always want to be open and honest with him.
I just can't get it out of my head that we will never have those firsts together. My boyfriend lost his wife almost 2 years ago and although he treats me wonderful, it's still very hard being in this relationship.