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  • Not everyone wants one.

    Some people want to see more than the same person every day. This doesn't mean they lose an emotional connection. Sexual and emotional connections are different and some people are into things their partner isn't. For example, you might have a fetish that your partner is uncomfortable with. If you are in an open relationship, you can experience your fetish and everyone is happy. If you are not, you must repress this and you will be unhappy. You being unhappy reduces your performance. Now your partner is unhappy. Everyone is unhappy. This is not for everyone, but of you want a single person relationship, just remember to be open to your partner's preferences.

  • It is morally wrong.

    Anything that damages proper relationships between human beings is wrong. This is because bonds between humans keep society together as a healthy, functioning system. Any irregularities in these bonds with disrupt the rhythm at which the social system functions. In this case, we are looking at relationships, which, although non-institutional, are a tool to prepare for the institutionalised marriage. Therefore, in preparing for marriage, we ought to impose restrictions similar to those inherent in marriage, and this includes the exclusion of a third party.

    If open relationships were more common, the function of relationships as a tool to prepare for marriage will be weakened, and this will lead to undesirable consequences such as the decline of fidelity as a moral value, a decrease in lasting marriages (which could result from a decrease in marriages or an increase in divorce, both undesirable) and an increase in corrupt values such as promiscuity in society. Thus it is wrong.

  • It demolishes the point of long-term love

    I'm not saying that everyone needs to conform to society's norm or idea of perfection, that disgusts me that we think it is for everyone. However, an open relationship may show signs of love or connection, but a true bond can only be between two people, otherwise it's not a bond. It will only lead to jealousy and heart break. If polygamy is wrong, then so is polyamory, without the Patriarchal roots of polygamy. More options, someone's personal decision you may say to me. Yes, of course if someone chooses to do that, but it is cheating in and of itself, even if it is consensual. If one person agrees to you sleeping with another person, then how could jealousy not heavily arise? Knowing that you have a connection with that person, that you don't have, may be even stronger. So what's the point of being with someone if you know they see another person as special or their soul mate? Multiple friends, multiple family members, but one lover. That's just my take on it, the universe doesn't approve.

  • It is much more honest than cheating, and more emotional than sleeping around.

    Couples agreeing to an open relationship pose no risk to others. They are being honest about their wants with each other, while also enjoying the emotional aspect of a continuing relationship. For people with these desires, it's a better alternative to staying single and without support, or going behind the back of someone who wants a committed relationship.

  • It's a personal choice, a stable society does not depend on sexuality

    What's more important to a stable society is people getting jobs and supporting themselves. All this concern about "sex" in relation to a "stable society" comes from a time where if people didn't know who was related to who it would cause fights over inheritance. Now there is a consensus, a person's "will" determines who gets their money rather than legally enforced rules. And now we have paternity tests so we can also know whose child is whose.

    It also comes from a time period where women were expected to stay in the home instead of work. Then you wouldn't want anything to happen that you would imagine would threaten the relationship since if the relationship ended the woman would have no income.

    The only lingering issue in our society is children who could be adversely effected by a divorce. In some cases disagreements over a relationship may lead to divorce, but that's as true for an open relationship as it is for any other number of things the couple could disagree over. Then what's important is that they both agree about the open relationship and both know each other well enough to trust that they will remain committed to keeping their own relationship as their primary relationship, that is committed to living with each other and putting each other's needs before other people's needs. As long as they have that level of commitment having an open relationship or not is between them. If they try to have a closed relationship and don't really feel that level of commitment for each other then having a closed relationship won't save their marriage.

  • Not my cup of tea

    For various reasons. But that doesn't mean that no one else can decide they would like one. If both parties are honest with each other and the people they sleep with, then I see no harm. And it goes without saying both partners should play it safe. Use protection and test for STIs!

  • It is much more honest than cheating, and more emotional than sleeping around.

    Couples agreeing to an open relationship pose no risk to others. They are being honest about their wants with each other, while also enjoying the emotional aspect of a continuing relationship. For people with these desires, it's a better alternative to staying single and without support, or going behind the back of someone who wants a committed relationship.

  • Different couples can agree or disagree if they want to share their love with the world.

    I, personally, am for open relationships, because if you don't want to be bothered by them, look away. The public can't make it illegal. The opinion on these acts of love in the open change from person to person. When you're on a "date", couples shouldn't just sit there. Why not interact with each other, or else you'd just stay home all day. People in relationships shouldn't hide their love, they should express it to others.

  • Depends on demographics.

    Okay, an open relationship is understandable if there is a large disparity between populations of men and women.
    Otherwise, it's unfair to the partners, and makes it somewhat harder to form an emotional attachment.
    In other news, at least one person is going to be sick of being the backup.

  • They aren't wrong

    While I am not in an open relationship myself, I believe open relation ships are not wrong because both parties have agreed to it. It's not cheating like some people say because the other person is allowing them to do whatever they are doing (ect, sex with someone else) Plus I'm not 100% sure if it's true but apparently it's unnatural for a human to have just one mate.


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