I don't want to cone across as biased; I an myself in High school so it would be fair to say that I've never experienced REAL love. But biased on the question, how would you determine real love? If the love that you consider to be real is the one that many picture - couples who feel affectionate but yet still trying to sort out their lives and face the issues of growing old together. Sometimes they manage it, but Sometimes these relationships fall apart. When you are in High school, or just being a teenager in general, its probable that you will be going through puberty and that people will cone across to you as especially attractive. This means that your judgement of certain people will be clouded. However, when you are young, nothing ever feels like it is getting old. In other Words, you will feel as if you have all the time in the world. You will also not be looking for a relationship with problems, bad says and realism; you will just be looking for a perfect relationship. This is because young people try to mirror what they think adults do and attempt to do it better, by having a relationship with no issues. Most or the time
People who say you can talk fall in love in highschool, are far from correct. Love is a chemical proccess, built to help us determine if our companion Is a suitable mate. That said, love in highschool may not be able to survive afterwards, as the environment is different, leading to different traits and qualities being more favorable, and some of the former traits and qualities no longer being favorable. In highschool, relaxed is a good thing, because you don't need to be intensely worried about the future. Outside of highschool, the world becomes a much more difficult place to live in.
Essentially, apply evolutionary psychological thinking, and you will probably come to the same conclusion.
High school can be a very confusing time for many teens. I am a highschool math teacher and despite the fact that most of my students think that I am oblivious, I still hear a great deal about all of the gossip going on around the school which of course includes all of the who is dating who and what not. But despite my somewhat biased opinion, I met my wife who I've been married to for 11 years now my sophomore year of highschool, and we most certainly were, and still are, truly in love. And every single day, I am bombarded with hormone induced teens who think that they are in love because they kissed for 5 minutes or held hands down the hallway. But amongst these shallow displays of affection, there is a relationship that I can see has true potential, and it isn't because they find each other "hot" or "sexy", it's because they find stability within themselves and respect one another as something more like a trophy or a prize. Now when you find that, I don't care what anyone else says, but you're in love. With these things, trust, comfort, and maturity are the so called "side effects" which I think should be really more of a good thing then bad. I wish that I could be more specific, but every relationship is different and whether it is between 2 girls, 2 guys, or a girl and a guy, love is a very confusing and undeniable feeling that has only 1 requirement that is the same with every relationship. That requirement is that love comes when you are 100% truthful and trusted, only then is it absolutely love, everything else beyond that is a guessing game of what it could and can be. But love or not, I'm betting that you were thinking of someone while you were reading this. How you felt about them while you were reading should give you what your looking for, but remember, not everything is as it seems. I'm really just another freshman girl in high school who has an abnormally high IQ for her age that causes her to sound older and more mature than her age typically is. Now don't forget to dig a little deeper, because not everything or everyone is exactly as they seem. Sorry, I've probably gone on for too long, so thank you to anyone who made it to the end... ;D
Love guys isint something you think it is. Love is when you have exream feelings for another individual other than yourself. Yes i see love all the time all over high school. Now is it true love? Most of it i doubt it, but some of the couples do last a very long time and sometimes even get married. I know a couple of people who it has happened to. It just depends on wheather the person your with is truley the right person for you. And what i mean by that is, do you get along with each other? Do you laugh at stupid jokes that yall make up together? Do you enjoy being together all the time? Do you feel like you lost a part of yourself when their not with you? People if you have these symptoms with your boyfriend/girlfriend you have found true love. And they dont have to be compleatly perfect. Because nobody is perfect.
I say this becuse eben girs and boys i ahve dream and wished and we can find out which gir or boy is right for us and we do know how ove is and what to do and i think that this put that some other kids dont understang about young kids
I understand what you are saying but that isn't quite accurate! Real love in high school doesn't look like a flirty girl with a boy with no shame. Love doesn't look like that. Love in high school is more like something that a student does not chat to her friends about or blurts out all at once. I have experienced it. He was one year below me and we knew each other for sometime but he was just a friend; until form 2. I was in year 7 and no feeling occurred but when I reached year 8 things changed. He was supposed to go to a different school but my school had more to offer so he came here. Since first day I would walk past his locker hoping to run into him and would make up an accuse to leave were my friends and I ate so I could hopefully see him. I didn't mention any thing to him or my friends even though I knew they would never tell anyone I didn't know very well. It was not a crush; t was love, although I didn't want to love him. It drove me mental; the wanting. School was more important. So back on topic, yes love is possible in high school!
The random hooking up isn't necessarily like love of course, but love and relationships in high school overall can definitely be very significant...Trust me... And breakups happen usually when they get to know each other better and discover bad things and get into like arguments and stuff :\ It doesn't make the relationship they had "insignificant". Some dating isn't really love, and some is or becomes...I mean like you just can't generalize...
High school love is sometimes all about having fun and spending quality time together. But yes..It can be beyond that too. It can be serious. I have seen it in my own school... A four year relationship. That's not the only thing to ensure that it always happens. But still it does. In very few cases. When people who take life seriously get inton relationships, the magic works!! They become soul mates forever. It is not always a play boyish relationship. High school kids are old enough.
I'm in high school and I promise I'm not going to freak out on you people who think we can't. I do personally believe that it is possible for a person in high school to know what real love is. I believe this because I've seen it. I've seen kids who have dated all through high school and to the best of my knowledge they are still together. I don't think that just anyone can fall in love, but I think that when you meet the right person, you just know it. I also think that if you are attracted to the other person in a way that's more than just physical attraction, such as their personality, then you may actually love them. I myself have had a crush on my best friend who is a guy (I am a girl), for two years now and to be honest I don't think it's just a little crush anymore, I believe that I truly maybe even love him. I care about him and I wouldn't want to see anything bad happen to him. I always think of him and whenever something funny happens I can't help, but to tell him about it. He means so much to me and he even said that he cares about me back. I don't know if we'll ever be together, I hope we do, but if that isn't loving someone than I don't know what you people consider love.
Yes, high school love can be real life, if the students are mature enough to understand what real life is. In most cases, it is not real love, but over time, the students can appreciate that what they had when they were young can be real love. Students can have real love feelings just like adults.
Personally I think there is no such thing as true love in high school. As a high schooler myself, I notice that the only real reason that people date is because they both think they're good looking. It's not because they have "A great personality" or "Understands" them. Those are merely excuses on why they think they should date that person. Why do you think girls' fathers are so concerned about meeting her "boyfriend". It's because he knows that the guy is probably is just another high school guy who likes his daughter because she's pretty. In rare cases some people do date in high school and eventually get married but those kinds of relationships happen very rarely and the path to that marriage is filled with a bunch of break ups and confusion amoung the two which doesn't sound like true love anyways. Honestly wait till college is over. You have your degree and you've got your life going to where you actually have time for a relationship. And by that time you're old enough to understand what real love is and not the dull reality of high school "love".
You don't fully understand what love is at such.Msuch a young age. Even if you think you do you're wrong. Kids in high school picture love to be so fairy tail but love is messy and in high school there aren't any major messes in your life conparred to real life. They say your brain isn't fully developed until the age of 28 so how do you know/understand love at age 16.
High schoolers know what it is to be attracted to one another or to lust after one another, but REAL love is something you don't really understand until you get a bit older. Exactly when that happens is hard to say and is probably an individual thing, but for most people it is extremely unlikely to happen during high school.