Can teens under the age of 18 have any serious relationship?
it is an emotional time but sharing it with someone makes it easer!
Learning how to love someone, support someone, and ultimately compromise takes time. If all relationships started when people turned 18, they'd be just as clueless as a high school freshman. The point is, even if relationships don't work out, they help people to learn about what went wrong and fix that for their next relationship. Some people under 18 have achieved this, while fully mature adults have not. It's not age that matters, it's maturity.
Don't you remember your high school sweet heart and all the nice things you used to do for each other while that lasted? Now think about all of the high school sweet hearts that got married and are still happily in love with each other :)
I myself am one of them. I met my boyfriend when we were 16. We waited a year to get to know each other, and then started dating. We just celebrated our 3 1/2 years. Yes, there have been rough times, but we stuck by each other, like when his mother passed, and his father was verbally abusive. He stuck by me when my mother would get into arguments, and when I was in the hospital. I stood by him when he had pneumonia and fought with his dad to take him to the hospital because his fever was 103. Yes ,there are rocky times, but we stayed committed ( sorry I forgot teens can't do that). Not all teens just want to get laid. I had many guys trying to get with me, but I knew they only wanted one thing. I could tell the difference between him and them, so yes I think they can do it.
Some teens wish to have a relationship in which they can share their inner most thoughts and feelings with a mate. With this sex may follow. Not many young teens are capable of forming a lasting relationship. They don't know what they want and go out with a mate for two days to 2 weeks and break up moving onto the next mate. They go from person to person in the same manner. I've seen this with my daughter and her friends. My daughter wants a real relationship with a boy and she is in her early teens. She is mature and knows what she wants in a boy and does not go hopping around from boy to boy. She found a trusting and loving boy in which she has a constant dependable relationship. She is very content with herself and life as this is what she wanted at this time in her life. She is very happy. None of her friends are capable of maintaining a stable relationship. My little girl is young but for some reason she is more mature in a healthy boy/girl relationship. My husband and I felt that she was too young however she seems to be doing much better and happy in her relationship.
I do not disagree that the teen years are an emotional time and such, but i do believe that teens can be mature enough to maintain a serious relationship. It may be rare, but the fact is that there are a number of teens who can, indeed, hold a serious relationship and CAN be committed. Also in fact, there are a number of adults who are married and have been in a relationship since their teen years.
In terms of only adults being committed, take into account that many adults are just as guilty, if not more guilty, of cheating, adultery, and of many things that teens are guilty of. This makes these adults "not capable of being committed" and the acts are considered by many a "bad decision." There are many famous bands and artists who, along with many adults, jump from person to person to "have fun" or to "love;" this is just a simple example.
I do believe that adults can be capable of maintaining serious relationships, as my parents are a fine example. In no way am i saying that adults are incapable of love. The correct thing would be to say that SOME teens and SOME adults CAN be committed to having serious relationships, but not ALL teens and ALL adults are capable of such.
Being under the age of 18, I believe it is possible. Sure, there are plenty of teens under 18 that can't have a relationship that lasts more than a week, let alone a serious one. But there are many others (myself included) that are mature enough to have a serious relationship.
My girlfriend is 16 and I am 14 and we have been dating for 4 months now which is a long time for a high school relationship. We do not plan on breaking up any time soon and we want to stay together forever and get married. We both love each other more than anything in the world and would never want it to be any other way. We are both completely mature enough for a serious, long-lasting relationship, which is why I say that it is possible.
I feel that they can have a serious relatoinship. They are exploring the people and everything aroiund them. They are learning who they want to be and who they are. In my opion teenagers are just exploring the opposite sex and their emotions. It's harmless.
Levels of maturity don't depend entirely on age, maturity varies from person to person. I myself am an example that process teens can have serious relationships. I am 18, and have been with the same person for nearly 5 years. We just fit together perfectly. We have lengthy conversations about our future plans, and even make financial decisions together. When there's a problem we talk things out, and always try to understand how the other is feeling.
I agree with everything that's been said in this section, so there is no point in re-stating everything. However I wish to add that I've known more than a few teenagers who can keep a long term relationship going, while taking responsible decisions and having no trust issues (I am myself one of them)
I have to agree though that most teens are not mature enough for a commited relationship mainly because of their hormonal changes and emotional imbalance. What's more, some immature teens see it as a"not cool" thing because of what they see in the media (where the "trendy" thing to do is sleep around and change parners every single day).
Teenagers are known for their quasi-periodic emotional states. Although it can be argued that a relationship could actually aid in the management of this condition, there are many other variables which must be taken into consideration such as religion, culture, ethical background, setting, circumstances, degree of maturity, responsibility etc. Such are the principle factors from which a true and sincere relationship is founded. And due to the lack of a "versatile platform" teenagers are most likely incapable of upholding all of these factors. Thus, I believe the answer is no.
No they are too young and haven't experienced life, which means they don't know what is a relationship. They need to grow and experience life before actually believing they have a relationship.
Take boys for example, some can hold a relationship while others cannot. This doesn't mean they should settle down at 15! They need to have a life and experience what is right for them. They need to have fun before the time's up, then you get more serious and begin to have long relationships. Take me for example, I'm 25 now and I've slowed down but when I was young I wanted to live and had many a girlfriend, some lasted even more than a year and some only a week. Teens NEED to see whats right for them.
A child is a child, regardless of whether they are a young child or an old child. If teens are able to have serious relationships under 18 then they should also be able to have serious children to raise and serious careers and serious mortgage payments and hey why not let 16 year olds vote in the presidential election as well. Now all that sounds ridiculous and so does the idea of a 16 or 17 year old being in a serious relationship, because serious means marriage and children, fatherhood and motherhood.
No, I disagree that teens under age 18 can have a serious relationship, because being a teen is an emotional time, and teens are not fully mature to deal with serious relationships like an adult is. Teens under age 18 are not fully mature and are not capable of making rational decisions like an older adult is. Teens are going through growth, hormonal changes and other growing stages. They are not settled enough to make decisions about serious relationships and, most likely, will make bad decisions or move too fast. Older adults, however, are more rational and often make better decisions when it comes to a serious relationship. Plus, teens are not capable of being as committed, as a serious relationship requires.
Nowadays, many teenagers, ages 13 to 17, are in a romantic relationship. Some of them can handle it, but some cannot. In my own opinion, committing in a relationship is for adults, ages 18 and above. I also believe that an effect of early relationships may be an early pregnancy.
Serious relationships generally have one common goal: marriage. Marriage is more than sex and feelings. It's a devotion to support your spouse, raise a family, and counsel each other on important decisions. Teenagers cannot have serious relationships because they are not adults. They don't understand the big picture. All they see is the feelings and sex, friendship and good times.