The question is asking multiple opposing yes/no questions. They seems to want the answer to be that Christianity is not loving.
No, Christianity is not a hateful system.
Yes, Christianity is a loving system.
Not all who claim to be Christians act as they should, which is by definition to be like Jesus (Christ the promised messiah). Jesus loved and hung out with people that the religious rejected. He never told them their sin wasn't sin, but loved and accepted them without falsely condoning everything they did. But even if someone does not act in accordance with the truth that does not negate the truth. So the "system" (of truth/beliefs) is loving even if everyone doesn't apply it as they should all the time.
God demonstrated His love to all of us:
John 3:16-17 “For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life. For God did not send his Son into the world to condemn the world, but to save the world through him.
Rom 5:6-8 You see, at just the right time, when we were still powerless, Christ died for the ungodly. Very rarely will anyone die for a righteous man, though for a good man someone might possibly dare to die. But God demonstrates his own love for us in this: While we were still sinners, Christ died for us.
Since God loves us we are to love others:
1 John 4:19-21 We love because he first loved us. If anyone says, “I love God,” yet hates his brother, he is a liar. For anyone who does not love his brother, whom he has seen, cannot love God, whom he has not seen. And he has given us this command: Whoever loves God must also love his brother.
Matt 5:43-44 “You have heard that it was said, ‘Love your neighbor and hate your enemy.’ But I tell you: Love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you,
Real love is truthful and cares about the well being of others. So it doesn't lie just to not hurt feelings. If someone is doing something self-destructive, a loving response is to care enough to help or warn them, even if they don't want to hear it.
You may get angry that someone is beating on your door and woke you up at 3am, but if it is to tell you your house is on fire and to try and save your life, hopefully you can forgive their rudeness.
To know about real Christianity, you have to get to know Jesus. Sometime his followers mess up and get in the way, but they and we are not perfect. So we need to look at the core truth to see that Jesus is loving and so is having a relationship with him when we trust that we need him and trust that he died to pay for our sins.
Multiple places in the Bible is love exalted and praised.
1 Corinthians 13:4-8 Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth. Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. Love never ends. As for prophecies, they will pass away; as for tongues, they will cease; as for knowledge, it will pass away.
Romans 13:8 Owe no one anything, except to love each other, for the one who loves another has fulfilled the law.
There is nothing in the Bible that says anything positive about belittling or hating anyone. Hating is condemned by the scripture. There are people who call themselves "Christians"; however, those people who in one moment say they are Christian and in the next tell people to go to Hell, they are not truly Christians and are not acting in accordance with the teachings of Christianity.
It is a loving belief system. Any nonlove that masks itself of doing what is right is not of Christ or his teaching. He taught love god, love your neighbor and even love your enemy. He taught patience, hope, faith, mercy, and forgiveness. He was meek and humble as we are to be.
How can there be so many different Christian belief systems? Some Christians are awesome and they do love everyone and treat people equally. They say the bible says to love everyone, but how do other Christians say that same bible says to hate gay people? If Christians are using it to justify hate, they are doing it wrong. Many Christians think they are better than others that are not religious.