We all make judgments about who we want to be around. We all sit back and decide what things cross our boundaries, and what kinds of things signal that a person is a good companion, romantic or otherwise.
If a person looks misshapen/ ugly, we are biologically driven to be repelled, as we are, at our core, driven to find the strongest mate and the strongest companions for our social groups. It is survival.
Outside this, think of different physical triggers we find repulsive - if a person is smelly, it can be looked at as the person being sickly, or not having the personal care and self respect to take care of themselves. While not necessarily true, we can't avoid that revulsion. If a person is unkempt/ messy, the same sort of thing applies. How you conduct yourself, what care you take of yourself, speaks to the kind of person you are, how dependable, reliable, how solid you are as a person.
From there, a person can either prove themselves to be good in other ways, or prove that they are not. But you have to get through the superficial first.
So yeah, looks matter. There is no should, there is no 'look deeper just in case you would overlook a diamond'. We are pattern seeking creatures. Most of those tells are pretty reliable. While we shouldn't discriminate in terms of rights on those grounds, each individual, each business, has full autonomy of association.
I know we fight against this, but we kind of have to accept it as a cultural necessity. Otherwise, there is no way to influence bad behaviours. Do we want people to just be okay with being unclean? Do we want people to uncomfortably associate with people they feel uneasy around, pretend they like people when they don't?
I dunno... Telling people that looks shouldn't matter is assuming that people ONLY base things on looks (patently false if you look at the majority of society). It is also condemning people for finding people attractive. You don't decide what is attractive to you. Didn't we learn this lesson with gay rights? You can't tell people who to be attracted to. Telling people that they are horrible for being attracted to what they think is beautiful is the exact same thing as telling gay people they shouldn't be attracted to people of the same sex.
Maybe, we should not, however preferring something or someone which are more good looking is part of the human nature, or even the nature of animals. It is the truth
Come on, we all want to dress nice in parties and so on right? So up to a certain point, it does matter.
Just like men are attracted to women physically first, women are attracted to men physically first. You can then screw it up by being stupid or boring, but they want you to approach them in the first place if your attractive. Being a tall, thin, youthful. Good looking man, I can say with all honesty life is much easier if you dress well, stay in shape, smile and be proud of your appearance.
When you walk into a store your not going to buy something that is squished or ripped are you, like if you buy a new top you're not going to buy a top that is dirty and has stains on it are you.
That's why I think looks do matter.
Looks matter first, but personality matters even more. We don't see the personality in someone right after we see them for the first time. If you come or approach them because of how they look, then you probably stay because they had great morals. Let's just say: if we compare the two in percentage, personality would be: 90%, while looks would be 10%. Looks aren't just about the face. It's also about hygiene, and how decent someone dresses up.
Yes. In the end looks do matter. Studies have be done that show those that are considered handsome or beautiful receive better jobs and make more money. I personally think that beauty is in the eye of the beholder (I know cheesy), but there is someone for everyone. Where one may think that one has beauty others may not se it. Again, in the end, looks do matter; ethically, looks should not matter.
Before i start i want to say that this situation would never occur but it still proves a point. Lets just say that you are a women because i think that women would vote no more to this then men. Ok so you meet two men who have exactly what you want in a man. They are charming and funny and blah blah blah. They behave the exact same way they have the exact same personality. The only difference is that one of them is ugly and the other is stunning. Who do you pick to continue your life with? Obviously you would pick the man who is better looking. Why? Because looks matter.
Looks do matter no matter if people say it doesnt it does every person cares looks are apart of there personalitiy it shows if that they can walk around and be proud of what they look like if people dont care what is people going to look like they should be comfortable
So everone on the side opposition is saying that appearance doesn't really matter for them at all. However, here's the question: How about the society?
Can you say that the society we are living in does not judge a person by his or her looks at all? I believe not. "Lookism" exists in our society and is quite rampant. This is what drives women to get plastic surgery. Yes, there's a point that not everyone is "lookists" but not everyone is generous about a person's appearance either. If nobody judges a person by his or her appearance, wonder why there still exists bullied people or badly treated people because of their looks in this world. Moreover, wonder why some people failed to get job due to their looks even they were much more talented than some good looking people who got jobs so easily. This debate is not just about how you think about "judging a book by its cover" but is also about how looks influnces our lives and make lookism in this society. Can't say it does not influence at all, right?
Imagine going to the store and seeing a box that's all chewed up. Is anyone going to buy the product inside, even if it happens to be perfectly fine? Most won't take the chance, they'll look for a box with a better presentation.
People are very similar. Someone who doesn't take care of themself and show at least some effort in grooming, clothing, and presenting themselves might be a wonderful person "on the inside", but few will ever know it. More often though, problems on the inside manifest visibly on the outside; for example if you go to the home of a hoarder and see the chaos of their living conditions, that is an expression of the inner chaos they are experiencing. Why would an employer hire someone who looks sloppy? Why go on a date with someone unattractive when you can just as easily spend your time with someone you desire?
Bottom line: it is your responsibility to look your best and put your best foot forward. Some have it easier than others, but if you don't at least try do this, then you have no room to blame others for not giving you a chance.
Always lived by those words. I don't make friends with people because of their looks. I make friends with those who have a similar personality or interests like me. Looks don't matter. Take it from the Disney movie of Hunchback of Notre Dame and II. Those two become his best friends and that girl in the second one was his soul mate, and I know "Life isn't a Disney movie" but that movie gave a lesson. Don't judge people based on their looks!!
IT WOULD of course help if the person you're with is pretty, or handsome, or just nice to look at in general. However, you wouldn't want to date the prettiest person, but also the meanest, pickiest, and nastiest person ever! If you really like or love the person you want to or are with, then she or he wouldn't have to be beautiful on the outside. Haven't you all heard the saying: What matters is on the inside. And also: Beauty comes from within.
Looks might matter at first. For example, the first day of an important event such as a meeting, school, a date etc. But when you actually get to know the person everything changes. Someone can be incredibly beautiful or handsome but if they have an awful personality, like if they're mean, rude, all those other nasty characteristics then they become an ugly person as a whole and same thing but the opposite. So looks don't matter any relationship wise.
I'm not saying you shouldn't take care of yourself but people need to realize that your outside isn't all that important. Soon, you'll become old and you won't be handsome or pretty. Then, when we die, we all turn to dust. People spend too much time caring about what they look like on the outside.