When you are fighting a war it is important to do what you have to in order to win the war. When going for love it is also important to do as much as you can for the people that you love. For these two things i am a firm believer in the means justifying the ends.
You cannot use atomic bomb to destroy the enemy because your enemy has friends and they have atomic bomb also.. If you use your atomic bomb to finish your enemy off then your enemy's friend will use theirs against you and after all the whole planet will be gone forever where not to be left to survive.. So think for a while, will it be fair to use atomic bomb in a war..? The answer would come up from you as "No" or "Never" because if you play unfair your life existence will be threaten and fall in risk.. Similar logic is applied here, if you play unfair in love your love will be just gone in sixty seconds because you played unfair so viewers have shown your game, become inspired by you and have made made a logic unfair game is fair against unfair a player.. So the inspired viewers will play fairly with you in the most unfair way.. Therefore it's healthy or good (whatever you say..!) for all of you to play fairly so that the outcome from the game doesn't hit you like a boomerang ...
Whenever we fall in love, we only dream everything. We don't see our object of love as a normal human being with flaws. Whenever we stalk somebody, we think we're doing a good thing but we don't know that while we love them, we're annoying to them. Yes, even in war too we become blind. We don't see our enemies as a human like us. We don't think they also have the right to live peacefully. Blindness leads to nothing but darkness where we can't see reality.
When it comes to your heart, everything is a war. Whether one is trying to maintain a relationship or get over one. Who is to say what is fair when nothing makes sense. It is a question that will take you round and round. I would like to think that if you find that one person who makes your world spark, that you let nothing stand in your way. Fight and fight, just know the consequences, some wars end peacefully, some lose, and some win. Just know that love is pain, and know your limit for how much pain you can endure. I do not care for the pain, so I say fight and listen to what you believe to be fair.
Just because you are put into a dangerous situation or a situation that feels do or die (like love) doesn't mean that you should abandon all your morals, particularly in the latter. There is also the saying "stick to your guns" which contradicts that statement in a way. I don't believe in doing either of those things 100 percent of the time, but rather just being rational and fair.