That when done correctly homeschooling can be a social experience. I would like to point out that home schooling can be social, but it is overall about half as social as regular schooling. A lot of homeschoolers that I have met in clubs, youth group, classes, drama have been labeled the socially awkward kids. People say homeschoolers get to evade the negative experiences of middle school and high school. I say they still go through them at any rate, but they are just oblivious to them. They are socially awkward, and everyone else can see it but them.
I am all for homeschooling, however it does contribute to being socially awkward. There is NO way you can have a complete social experience without going to school with hundreds of totally diverse kids. If I went to school at home I can assure you that I would have NO idea how to deal with ANYONE.
When a child is home schooled, they usually have a sibling or two with them, but that's all. Kids who are at school meet more people, and they have a lot more social experiences than other kids. Children who are home schooled might be in a couple of clubs, but those only happen a couple times a week. That cannot compare to the exposure kids get from being with kids their age for six hours a day. School is a social as well as a learning experience for kids. It helps them connect, and gives them social experience home schooling cannot.
The question was does homeschooling create awkwardness in a child. Yes! School is a social setting where you have to adapt to everything around you. Not just your family or rules in your household. I think homeschooling is awesome. It takes an awesome parent to do it. However I think what's important here is to have balance. I think someone mentioned it already but putting your child in some sort of club or having outside "the home" activities will help them deal with things out of their norm.
In my life, I have met around 20 people who were homeschooled. My main problem is that they seem to be shy, sheltered from the world, and anxious about social interaction. Really, they just seem to have a creepy, bug-eyed air about them. Are there confident, outgoing, and socially confident homeschooled people out there? Probably. I've never personally met any, however.
I was already a shy child, so when I was home schooled for 2 and a half years between 2nd and 4th grade, and then when I went back to public school, I was by far the awkwardest kid in my class. It has been that way off and on to present day (11th grade) I have improved my social skills, but I am still very shy, and awkward. For example, let's say if I'm in a class where I don't know anybody, there's a good chance that I'm going to be that quiet, awkward kid, all year long, because I can't pursue other kids, and make friends for the life of me, and it's extremely painful knowing that I can't do anything about it. Instead I'm stuck, just being aware of how awkward I am, and sitting there in silence, wishing I could be the out going person I want to be. Hopefully I will somehow emerge into that person I know I could be, because I remember being told how fun high school is supposed to be, and I'm almost 3/4 done with it, and yet to experience any of that excitement.
I went to public school most of my life and I have to say it was very social. 7th grade was my last year in public school. And now in 8th grade I am home schooled. I have to say, its a lot faster than regular school but nothing compares to 7 to 8 hours a day of school where you are surrounded by hundreds of people. Homeschooling CAN be a social experience, but out of all the home schoolers I have met, none of them are nearly as social, experienced or well trained in the aspects of social situations. Overall I say homeschooling ,at the maximum, is half as social as regular school. I have learned how to refuse drugs, sex, and alchohal because I went to public school, all of the homeschoolers I know, if faced with the situations I have been in, would most likely scamper and hide.
Home schooling can make a child more socially awkward. If you have a child that is shy and does not have good social skills then home schooling can have a negative impact in that area. A home schooled child is more likely to have less interactions with other kids, therefore the child cannot develop their social skills as much as a child in a public school.
Although there are cases where children who were homeschooled were not socially awkward and other cases where children who went to regular schools did struggle socially, overall I believe that homeschooling has a negative impact on the social skills of students. This is primarily because the people they are exposed to are usually very limited. For example, in cases where kids are homeschooled in small groups, the students do not really interact with a variety of people. These groups usually consist of family friends or those with similar backgrounds. On the other hand, schools put children in situations where they must interact with a variety of people. This usually helps them understand how everyone is different, which should hopefully make them more accepting of others. Homeschooling does not really allow children to do this. Although one can argue that they can get this exposure from other public places such as parks, one must keep in mind that many children may choose to avoid interacting with others they are not familiar with, preferring to remain within their comfort zones. Although this can be possible for students who attend regular schools to also do, it is very hard for this to happen because students are put into situations where they need to interact with others often. For example, there are group projects, school events like sports day, and so on. This is very important as it teaches students important social skills that will help them a lot in the future, enabling them to thrive and better their communities. However, I’m not saying that schools are perfect and that the interactions that occur within them are always beneficial, but overall they expose students to others that are not necessarily similar to them. One can argue that bullying and peer pressure are examples of how these interactions are not always good. I agree that this is partially true but one can look at it from a different point of view. These "bad" interactions allow students to differentiate between good and bad influences. They also help them realize that not everyone has good intentions. I, for example, always grew up thinking that everyone was good and that no one ever had bad intentions. I soon learned, through interacting with others in school, that this was not the case. This helped me understand how I can make good friends and how I can stick to my beliefs and ideas. In addition, one must also remember that regular schooling is something students can bond over. They share a similar curriculum they are learning and so this can facilitate their interactions between one another. This, however, would be very hard with homeschooling as children do not usually follow the same path of learning. I’m not arguing that homeschooling is bad and that it always leads to socially awkward children, but I believe that in most cases children that are homeschooled struggle more with socializing and obtaining important social skills due to the limited interactions they are exposed to.
I have an high functioning autistic child. We decided to homeschool on the advice of some friends (who I found out later were incredibly religious and west concerned with conversion). It was set up that my child would get the individual attention that he would need in a safe and nurturing environment. It didn't happen. I ended up running my rear off to meet all of his needs whiie still providing a basic education. I can tell you first hand what is missing from socialization of most homeschoolers. They do not have empathy. They really have no connection to others and no way of doing so. They generally exist on an island by themselves with only their siblings for company. Some do get together and do classes or hang out together but you can tell they still do not have the ability to connect to others. From a parents perspective, I noticed an incredible amount of teenagers who still acted like children. I at first thought they were just innocent and enjoying their childhoods. It became painfully obvious that they were completely oblivious to social structure. I used to think it was a great alternative to public school as it allowed learning at your own pace, now I think it shouldn't be allowed (except for certain cases, like missionaries) before 5th grade. Then it should be offered as an independent study option (online?) through their local public school and there should be social requirements (such as participation iin sports or certain classes). I just think religious homeschoolers are hurting their kids when they forget their kids are people and deserve a say in their own lives.
The fact is, the average child in a traditional school setting has very little time to socialize. Throughout the entire six hour school day, maybe an hour is spent on social activities. The homeschooled child that has co-ops, outside activities and belongs to a homeschooling group is actually given many more chances to interact with people than a child in a traditional school.
Social is not just a concept of quantity but more importantly quality. You can put a child within 100 other kids and the social experience he or she gains is not 100 times more than another child who is only play with one friend. It is inaccurate for a lot of parents to think that their kids are socialized purely because their kids are mixed with a lot of other kids. When bigger group of kids play freely the chance is high that they'll pass along some bad habits because good habits always need some sort of discipline. Selected play mates and parents can provide best quality of social experience. This is something the traditional school can never provide. I can picture that if all the kids were home schooled some of the social problems such as drugs etc could be much less.
I am a homeschooled teenager. I have lots of friends and a girlfriend. My social life is awesome. Think for a second, homeschoolers don't just walk into a building everyday and eventually make friends. They have to work harder to have friends and be more outgoing. That is why everywhere I go, I make friends. It is just the way I grew up.
In that case the child's social skills may develop better. I came into college very socially awkward, because I had been bullied and excluded a lot in middle and high school and that sapped by self-esteem. Had I been homeschooled I would not have been exposed to that and would've had more self-esteem to go and involve myself in various clubs and organizations. A child in a school is stuck if they are bullied or excluded by other children. A child who is homeschooled and socializes outside of school can walk away from bullies they encounter and start over somewhere new. One might argue that it's good practice to deal with difficult people but realistically nobody is going to ever meet and socialize with everyone in the world. Socializing in clubs with more of a specific focus on some interest can help the child get to know who they really are and what kind of people they wish to associate themselves with as adults.
Home-schooled kids interact with all different ages of people. Public school kids are isolated with the same aged kids for twelve years. Furthermore, public school kids only learn the values of the state controlled prison camp/ mind control camp. Take responsibility for your children and educate them before you lose them to the state.
I was socially awkward in school and I hung out with other socially awkward people. We were all bullied and depressed. Oh, some say but you got a tough skin right? No, I was a jaded and angry young adult. Eventually, I grew out of it. While I think school can be a great experience; I don't think you need it to learn social skills. It does not always teach good social skills or any for all that matters. I home school my kids, but I didn't always. We moved to a really bad school district. I hasn't really made my children any less friendly, polite and "sociable" to be at home. They have pen pals, internet friends, neighbors, playgrounds, sports, field trips and a whole world of activity to get to know lots of different people.
I'm homeschooled and sometimes I think that I'm more social than other teens my age. I hang out with "normal" teens all the time and even they say that I'm pretty outgoing. It all depends on the person......There are more socially awkward teens that I know that were "regular" schooled then of my friends that are homeschooled.
I have a young daughter I am currently home schooling her. She is outgoing and easy to make friends with other kids. Since she spends a lot of time with me when I go out to do my things she is also quite used to dealing with grown ups. She attends gym class, art class and swim once a week where she meets her friends in those classes. She also practices piano at home. She also has a couple of selected play mates getting together once or twice each week. The reason that she can afford such a busy social life is that she is home schooled and she only needs to spend about 1.5 hour each day on academic stuff. She is now 6 and half years old and is doing grade 3 math and reading junior novels and with her social skills to match.
I knew many "socially awkward" kids in public school, they were also known as the geeks, nerds, outcasts, you name it. Of course you'll find some "socially awkward" kids that are homeschooled. I myself would have been considered "socially awkward" and was public schooled the entire time. The difference between socially awkward kids in school and at home is that those in school unfortunately suffer through labeling, which isn't socially healthy for them, while those socially awkward kids at home get time to mature and grow while experiencing other outlets for true healthy socialization.
I am homeschooled and will be a junior next year. Right now I am the lead in a musical, have an. Attractive boyfriend, tons of friends, and people compliment my fashion sense. So it is possible to live a successful social life while being homeschooled. :) however I have seen many times homeschooled kids that are "socially awkward" simply because they do not spend time with regular schooled kids.