Social media such as Facebook and Twitter have made us less social. Instead of going out with friends and enjoying your time with family, people just use these sites. Statistics from 2012 show there are 845 million monthly active users on Facebook. Statistics also show that 250 million photos are uploaded onto Facebook in one day in 2012.
People used to need to go out with their friends to find out about their lives but now they can find out from their computer screen without any real human contact or conversation. People no longer need to be able to communicate properly with others due to the fact that the internet is doing it for them. And also the ability to use internet phones to check social media sights has turned places like coffee shops and cafes into non social areas. Instead of approaching strangers to be entertained in new situations people are just pulling out their phones and checking their social media so that they can feel connected to others without actually being connected to others.
Social Media has made us less social because it is easy to log onto facebook, twitter, or any other social media site to talk to friends across the city, country, in different states, or provinces, and see what they are up to. You no longer need to call someone, or write a letter, to find out what your friend has been up to all you have to do is look at their profile page. I have noticed that people now a days will only remember someone's birthday because "Facebook told them" it was. However Social Media is not the only thing causing us to be less social. Text messaging also plays a huge part in our decent to anti-socialism, it is easy to send someone a text asking them a question, before you got your first cell phone you would have to find a phone and call your parents to ask them to come get you, or if you can go out, now we can just text them saying "hey can I go to so-and-so's house" or "hey come get me I'm here," and instead of calling someone seeing when they will be there to get you, you send a text saying "hey dude where are you.", also people are now tenting people who are beside/in front/behind/ or across the room to talk to them instead of walking over to them and having a conversation face to face with that person.... And one of the most common things now a days is when someone is here to pick you up they don't have to get out of the car and walk up to the door to get the person they simply text the person and say "here" that's it. We went from being social creatures to being hermits that hide behind our phones.
The quote above is from Sherry Turkle from her book called “Alone Together: Why We Expect More from Technology and Less from Each Other”. More and more people state that Social Media makes them less social. Even I did it on my personal blog a couple of times. But is it true? Social Media, in my opinion, is a great development on its own. Technology makes it easier for us to communicate and keep in touch with others. Technology makes it also easier for us not to have interaction between each other. Why call someone if you can leave a quick message at their Facebook wall or @Tweet them? We fear the risks and disappointments of relationships with our fellow humans. We expect more from technology and less from each other.
A lot of people rely too much on the digital world and digital contacts. They expect too much from each other when they are communicating online. But does this make Social Media bad? In my opinion the answer would be a big ‘no’. I think it’s more a case of decency.
Although social media seemingly “connects” us to our friends and families, in reality we are pushed farther apart by the illusion that we are connected. In reality for many people it is normal for them to feel connected because they read updates about their friends. However in truth these updates and headlines only encourage us not to truly connect in person or by voice because we think we already know.
Overall the tools we use and the machines we have to facilitate social communication can be deleterious to social interaction. We may have more information, yes, but it is communicated through a machine, not nearly the same as being face to face with someone (except Skype, of course). In a way, people growing will lose face to face communication abilities.
I think the reason people are becoming less social is because of too many social sites. We can get access to it on our phones now, which makes people less social and unaware of their surroundings in public. Also the content on social media makes people insecure, people are very mean and uncensored on social media.
Social media such as Facebook, Twitter, Snapchat are being used instead of going out and enjoying life. Being social means you go out, see things, enjoy life, make eye contact NOT sitting in front of a screen locked up in your room 'talking' to a random person you haven't met. This makes social media NOT social at all, and because of it many people (particularly teenagers) are loosing confidence. Personally because of this I have lost a significant amount of confidence, and when I do go to social gatherings I find myself in weird situations. So of course social media isn't social, because real social skills are being lost.
I really don't understand how people in their right minds could say that social media is not having a negative affect on us as people, society, and world. True, we are "connected" to more people, but what is the quality of those connections? I would say very poor, meaningless and shallow. It's a shame that that we're letting technology do this to us. I have always loved technology and the internet, but once social media sites started taking over the world, it's been getting out of hand. Seems like people don't genuinely care about each other anymore. I miss the days having long phone calls with friends, forwarding emails to our close ones, even plain texting and IMing was fun. Now it seems that you don't belong unless you are corresponding with others via these sites. The only solution is to stop using them so they can slowly die out or not have so much influence over our life's. Our relationships, our marriages, and the future of our children is at stake.
When I was growing up, I had a hunger to socialize and interact with people. In fact, I hated being at home or alone. Now, with the proliferation of social media and the Internet, I often speak to just one person a whole day. It's my opinion that the Internet did this. I find myself longing for real human interaction, but when in public I realize why I tend to keep to myself: People have seemingly lost the ability to interact or have fun in "real life" anymore. Not only are our social skills waning, but motivation and creativity seem to be at an all-time low. People used to create or work for entertainment if for no other reason. Now they check Instagram. People seem so distant even when they're right in front of you these days.
Social media has, in many ways, made us more social. I don't know about you, but I now know what my brother-in-law in Paris is doing, what my neighbor up the street had for dinner last night, and all about my friend's latest date. Before social media, I was unable to keep up with so many people. Social media did not stop me from going out or seeing people. In fact, it helped me remember more people than I did before (I'm horrible at names!). I bet that when the Pony Express came about, people complained that it was making people less social. "Why don't you go and talk to people like you used to?!?" Yes, some people use it as an excuse not to go out, but then those are the type of people who were anti-social anyhow. To blame a technology for human behavior is ludicrous.
I am getting ready to debate this topic over at a university with my debate program and the fact that we are all connected via facebook makes it a lot easier for us to relate with one another. The fact that social media has made such an impact on our lives today, is amazing. Not only does it let you know when your friends have been at restaurants or show you pictures that you wouldn't normally see in person, but with just those few things it helps us grow a better social understanding with each other. Therefore I personally believe that it does NOT make us less social and if anything it makes us more connected with our friends.
Whenever I come across this word “Social Media”, somehow I am convinced that the word “Social” used here is quite apt to define the entire term itself. Yes, Social Media is actually making us “Social Beings”. I can never think of my story without giving a “#tag” mention to Facebook, Twitter or Whatsapp. I genuinely feel that the virtual world is actually more social and happening than the real world. Who has that precious time to meet their buddies or families or love-mates? In this world of appointments, schedules, time-tables, who has the capacity to deal each and every person with equal efficacy?
I think, my life would have been lonelier if I couldn’t be able to-
• Text my mates at one click.
• Spread my thoughts at the speed of 0-100 persons/second.
• Revolutionize the whole society in an hour.
This list is endless and same goes with the utility of social media in our lives.
What if I can’t meet or be there with my loved ones in the real world, I can be with them anytime, anywhere through the virtual world.
Since the dawn of time people are like rabbits and Earth is full of us now. To communicate with other people, around our beautiful world, we need something quick and efficient. We cannot use pigeons with letter any longer. We have projects that need our immediate attention, work that will fall apart without us, our friends' problems that we should look at. Social media helps us attend everything in our lives on time and it helps us talk to people on the other side of the Earth. From California I can talk (I mean I can actually see him) to my small brother in Europe every weekend.
Social media presents more positive than negative outcomes.
And by the way, aren't we participating in social media right now?
I will agree with the opposing side that yes we see more and more people texting or chatting with their friends while waiting for something. This doesn't necessarily mean that they are being anti-social, they're probably BEING social with someone else, on the other side of the chat-room.
What does social mean though? It means communication with other people, social media is just another way of doing it. A way which hasn't been accepted by the older generations as it is virtual.
The human race is social by nature; WhatsApp, Skype, Facebook etc. allows us to do exactly that.
Besides what about relatives living in other countries? My older brother is currently studying in England and the rest of the family lives in Germany. Yes, we write the occasional letter... But our main communication device is our phone and consequently; WhatsApp and Skype. They allow us to chat and video call with our family members, friends and sometimes even business partners.
These are things that are obviously keeping us in touch with each other; and effectively keep us socializing with people beyond our village.
It gives people thing
s to talk about.
I know me and my friends talk about everything that goes on social media for example, the new game flappy bird. There were so many ads on instagram about this flappy bird a bunch of people downloaded it, everyone started talking about it and you would keep talking to the people who you were talking about an internet craze about other things.
I know more people now then whenever I wasn't on Twitter and Instagram, and I get to see and hear about what they're doing. If you don't ever see these people, but just talk to them on facebook, then yes. But for me no. We get to see and hear about what they're doing.
Friends and family that are countries apart now feel closer to each other. Long-distance relationships are now a reality. Sitting in the UK, we can instantly get news from America to Syria. All this was not possible during the days when it took a month or more for letters to reach one place to another, when newspapers took a day or two to report the happenings of another country.
As for more closer loved ones, we may choose to keep in touch with them through aloof manners like posting on their Facebook wall or texting them rather than visiting them when they live just down the street. But we cannot blame technology for this. If we choose to face them digitally rather than personally, it is our own fault for being too busy or tired (or worse, lazy). There are people using social media to plan old friend reunions and family get-togethers. It's because they used technology to their advantage.
For these reasons, it is not social media that has made us less social -- it is we ourselves who have created distances and barriers.
I am of the opinion that as social media has evolved, we have found ways to make sense off the intense noise that is the deluge of information from these sites. They have provided us with an otherwise rare perspective and made us socially connected in esoteric circles. The argument that social media diverts our attention from the more corporeal aspects of life is unfounded as social media has provided us with all our info needs in a time saving manner giving us more time to spend with family or doing whatever. If people get addicted to these sites, then it is a matter of personal volition.