I'm a Christian and feel that premarital sex is just fine in a loving and caring relationship. Just don't abuse your partner and use sex as a manifestation of love and respect for yourself and partner. Sex should never be a selfish act. It should have the couples' mutual consent and approval. It is an act of love. Also, be safe and careful in all of your relationships, and don't worry about it being a sin or anything like that if done well.
All people hold different morals. Some morals are influenced by religion, by family and friends, and by personal experience. Personal experience, a lack of trust in religion, and a liberal-minded family life have all led me to believe that there is nothing inherently wrong with premarital sex. In any sexual activity (premarital or marital), one has to be health-conscious and emotionally-conscious in order to have a healthy experience. On another note, not all people want to marry or are legally able to marry, and this should in no way impact their moral right to sexual expression. Sexual expression is a universal need for all people.
This day in age, premarital sex is totally acceptable. Now that being said I'm not advocating going out and sleeping with as many people as possible, but it is absolutely ok to have sex with a person that you care about or are in a committed relationship with. Sex isn't just for reproduction, it can be a totally amazing and satisfying experience under the right circumstances. Human sexuality is big part of relationships and if you dont experience it how will you ever find what you like? What if you end up marrying a person you are totally not sexually compatable with...? DIVORCE CITY.
Why should we need to participate in a RELIGIOUS tradition when we are not religious just to be able to express our love for our partner? It's 2013, we are more knowledgeable and lenient than that these days. Have fun guys. Bone away. It isn't a crime, just a sin. But hey, I'm an atheist so who cares?
And sex has been around long before marriage ever was.Why is that? Because marriage is a man-made concept, and sex is a natural act. You don't need a ring and a piece of paper to show that you love someone, and you don't need to love someone to have sex with them. Marriage is just a way to make offspring "legitimate", being under the impression that your spouse wouldn't be having sex with anyone else. With technological advances, we don't need this trust system anymore, you can find out if it's your kid with a simple blood test.
While some religious leaders preach that premarital sex is immoral, the reality is that the vast majority of Americans engage in premarital sex with little consequence. In fact, teaching children that premarital sex is immoral often prevents the teaching of safe sex practices leading to higher teenage pregnancy rates and incidence of sexually transmitted disease.
Premarital sex has become very widely popular much more in the past few decades than it was in the 1920s. I believe that sex is looked at more as a need than "premarital." Hormones have a lot to do with this, which is where it all started. When younger people started to have sex, younger people started having babies. Which then lead to poor parenting, and more premarital teenage sex, because they had poor examples leading their way.
Premarital sex is morally acceptable because it is no one's business but the couple's. It's a normal and natural desire and to stigmatize it is judgmental and unfair. It doesn't harm anyone outside of the couple and society is changing that marriage isn't necessary anymore and it's unrealistic to think there would be millions of abstinent and chaste adults.
Premarital sex in and of itself is neither moral nor immoral. What is immoral is bringing a child into the world without the secure foundation of a 2-parent family. Therefore premarital sex is morally acceptable only to the extent that the risks of an out-of-wedlock pregnancy is minimized. With proper birth control, premarital sex is morally acceptable. Without it, the risk premarital sex poses makes it immoral.
With whom a person chooses to engage in sexual relations with should be considered one of the most basic personal liberties. Considering that sex is one of the most intimate forms of contact between persons, it should therefore be subject to no one else's opinions beyond those engaging in the act. Frankly, the reasons so many people have moral issues against premarital sex relate to religious or cultural bias; the institution of marriage itself being religious in nature. In a modern world where we have respect for each other's race, culture, religion, gender, and a host of other aspects of their person, we should also have the utmost respect for their choice of when and with whom they choose to share their physical bodies with. As long as people are of legal age and perform their actions in privacy, what they do and when they do it should be of no consequence to anyone other than themselves.
You get pregnant and he leaves you? What if he just wants you for sex? In my opinion, it's not worth the risk. Real love waits and if he can't wait, you should probably just consider a way out. He should be able to respect your decision of waiting till you're ready to do it. Not just rush and pressure you into doing it and threatening to leave you if you won't do it with him.
1. 3 in 10 teen American girls will get pregnant at least once before age 20. That’s nearly 750,000 teen pregnancies every year.
2. Parenthood is the leading reason that teen girls drop out of school. More than half of teen mothers never graduate from high school.
3. Less than 2 percent of teen moms earn a college degree by age 30.
4. About a quarter of teen moms have a second child within 24 months of their first baby.
5. The United States has one of the highest teen pregnancy rates in the western industrialized world.
6. From 1990 to 2008, the teen pregnancy rate decreased 42 percent (from 117 to 68 pregnancies per 1,000 teen girls).
7. 8 out of 10 teen dads don’t marry the mother of their child.
8. A sexually active teen who doesn’t use contraceptives has a 90 percent chance of becoming pregnant within a year.
9. Almost 50 percent of teens have never considered how a pregnancy would affect their lives.
10. Teens had fewer babies in 2010 than in any year since the mid-1940s.
*The increase in figures over the years is because of all the 'everyone's doing it' concept that's becoming more and more famous now. Thank you.
I don't think it's moral, and I also disagree with "the definition of what is a moral act is solely that of the party making the moral judgement". If I, a party, decide that I want to kill someone, and so I kill them, is that action moral? I myself deemed it to be moral in my judgement, so is it moral or not?
Marriage is a religious concept, although in many industrialized nations we have woven it into the fabric of our society and culture.
Whether something is "morally" wrong is also a religious and/or cultural concept.
Therefore, when we ask the question "is premarital sex morally wrong?" we are asking, first, whether "our" religion says it is right or wrong and, second, whether our society condones that particular action.
Most religions say that premarital sex is morally wrong. This does not mean that it doesn't happen--just that the religion says people should not do this. And, of course, in realizing this there are many ways that such transgressions can be "forgiven" by the various churches.
Society is a bit trickier. Over 80% of Americans say that premarital sex is "wrong" (the cultural equivalent of the church saying it is "immoral"). Unfortunately, over 80% of males and 60% of females have engaged in premarital sex. Whether we should decide if premarital sex is wrong or immoral based on what people SAY it is or on what people DO--that is something one must ponder.
It seems the immorality/wrongness of premarital sex is less destructive than the hypocrisy of saying one thing and doing another.
Times change but God's Word does not, yes a lot of people do it and many are comfortable with it but that doesn't make it morally acceptable.
1 Corinthians 6:9-11
Or do you not know that the unrighteous will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived: neither the sexually immoral, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor men who practice homosexuality, nor thieves, nor the greedy, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor swindlers will inherit the kingdom of God. And such were some of you. But you were washed, you were sanctified, you were justified in the name of the Lord Jesus Christ and by the Spirit of our God.
Premarital sex also contributes a hundred percent more to chances of divorce in the future. If you haven't committed premarital sex, you will never really know whether your spouse has any shortcomings in 'bed.' More importantly though, this gives a 'confidence' of sorts to spouses in their relationships that they can hook up with anyone they want. If they ever get in a fight, rather than working at it, they would often want to punish their spouses by committing adultery. This, as I've mentioned, is the result of premarital sex, as they think that they can bed anyone they want, regardless of their commitment to a person. Also, in cultures where premarital sex is common, at some point your (premarital) partner just starts to expect this of you, and that doesn't really make it very special when they think you owe it to them. Wouldn't you rather get a college education than raise a child or treat STDs?
Therefore let's look at the standard for all morality. The Bible contains many verses dealing with sexual issues. One of the Ten Commandments says we should not commit adultery. However, what does it say about consensual sex between non-married individuals. The biblical standard of sex is purity. God designed us to be sexual creatures and says sex is to been joyed between a husband and wife within their marriage. Within marriage,we can enjoy an all-inclusive physical, emotional, and spiritual bond that once lost elsewhere cannot be fully reclaimed. Of course, since we are designed to enjoy sex, we might wonder how it could be wrong to engage in any sexual activity.As societies, we must set legal and behavioral boundaries in order to function properly. God has set boundaries so that we might properly function according to His supreme design. Scripture is laid out to show us God's way, which is in our best interest. God designed the path so that we might have an abundant life experiencing His love and the sacred love of a marital spouse.
the rules are simple. you either follow it or you don't. you don't bend around it.what he wants is what matters. you are not oblige to follow but yet there is a consequence to it, that's simple. why is there a need to go around the rules? i'm not perfect and have discredited that "sex can wait thought" and it ought to be right after all.
The unwanted child resulting from such a liaison was never the intent of the parties, whose sole goal was simply to "get off." premarital sex produces, unwittingly, the unwanted child more often than not, or the abortion of that child. a human potentiality, if left untouched, becomes a human being. to create a human life and deprive it of live or love is the most egregious offense human offense. It is worse than murder.
Just because everyone is doing it doesn't make it right. Can you live with the fear of sexually transmitted diseases, abortions, unplanned pregnancy leading to financial woes, being unconnected to a partner that isn't as pure as you? Premarital sex is damaging in so many ways. Real love waits, period.