People who are offended by it can just look away, it is a natural way and the healthiest way for a baby to get their needed nutrients.
A breastfeeding mother should be expected to show a modicum of discretion in selecting where and when to feed her child, but should be allowed to do so in public. Actions such as sitting towards the rear of a room and covering the breast with a cloth should be considered perfectly acceptable.
I think that our society needs to get over the strange stigma about breastfeeding being "gross." For years, the visual arts have presented us with images of beautiful women exposing their breasts. Advertising has used breasts to promote everything from the Wonderbra to motorcycles. Why should a breast be so shocking to us, really? When we are surrounded by images of sex and violence in the media, isn't it actually lovely to see a woman publicly nursing an infant -- a living demonstration of love, nurturing and peace?
Breastfeeding is one of the most natural and beautiful aspects of life. It's not only feeding, but its bonding. We shouldn't be forced to go to a dirty bathroom to feed our children. If they're bottlefed, should we make them eat in there? The bottle's top is suppose to look like a nipple. How scandalous! We live in a society where breasts are considered indecent and they're over-sexualized. My breasts are NOT indecent. They are like a guy's chest, but I have more fat on mine. No one can take away our right to feed our children or give men the right to go shirtless but not us. If this makes you uncomfortable, I suggest you stay at home, with no TV, no radio, no books or magazines, nothing. Just sit there because boobs are everywhere.
We're humans. We're animals. We shouldn't, in my opinion, even be required to be clothed--so we most certainly shouldn't be required to hide while engaging in a fully natural act. Making women cover themselves or hide while breastfeeding teaches society that it's something to be ashamed of, and it's NOT. We need to show that it's natural, and that it's nothing to be ashamed of.
As I work in the childcare industry, I know how frustrating it can be when people are against one of the most natural things. When carrying a child around with you, you can't just think about yourself and if you are embarrassed by something, if your child needs feeding, you feed it! Those who argue it is disrespectful need to realise that this is a basic right that kept nearly everyone for the first six months of their lives ALIVE.
I don't see the problem in feeding my babies in public as long as I'm discreet about it. The only things you see when I'm breastfeeding is my babies' feet and hands sticking out from under a blanket. To be honest, I don't want people looking at my breasts either. So of course I'm going to cover up.
I definitely believe that public breastfeeding is appropriate. It is simply a mother meeting her child's most basic need.
I thinks it can be done modestly without "exposing" any body parts. Most mothers that I know that do breastfeed in public are able to do it without drawing any attention to themselves. A simple blanket or cover can be used and most observers do not even notice what is happening.
Breastfeeding is the best form of nutrition for an infant. To force mothers choosing to feed their children in this manner to hide or have to leave public places in order to care for their children is beyond ridiculous. As a society we are too uptight with regards to the human body and the natural functions it performs. There is nothing more natural than a mother breastfeeding a baby.
Babies need to be fed at odd times and multiple times a day. So if the mother is outside in public running errands and such, she should be allowed to care for her baby by breast-feeding. As long as she is using some form of cover up so there's no exposure, public breast-feeding should be appropriate for society.
Since the beginning of the mammal species, breastfeeding has been nature's way of providing food to a baby. We are the ones that have put taboo connotations on the naked breast. We are the ones that have put inappropriate ways of thinking on things that are completely natural to every other mammal on the planet. We say it's because we are more civilized but are we? Maybe humans have become a little too detached from our natural behavior.
Public breastfeeding is not only appropriate but ought to be encouraged. Of course, you should be discreet. Breasts were made for this. Everyone else eats in public. I discreetly breastfed five babies everywhere I went. It wasn't too many years ago that it was the only way to go. Wet nurse or do-it-yourself. Many pregnant women I've spoken to were so far as offended when asked if they were going to breastfeed. Breastfeeding is better for the baby, better for the mother, completely natural and a beautiful thing that God created. It's nourishment and treated as if it is a form of oral sex.
I choose to support public breastfeeding because it has been medically proven to better benefit your child. If you are out in public you should have the right to feed your baby when needed without public ridicule.
Breastfeeding is a very normal and natural way to feed ones infants. Doctors recommend this method over bottle feeding. In public, breastfeeding should be acceptable as long as the mother is making an effort to properly cover her breasts during the feeding process. Most mothers do this already as to not become the center of attention. If a mother does feel that others may object, she can ask if anyone minds before she starts feeding in front of others. If others do mind, she may want to move to another location.
I believe that breastfeeding is one of the most natural things in the world and as humans we should be proud that females have the ability to provide babies with the most natural of nutrients.
The human body and the breastfeeding capability should not be seen as embarrassing or shameful. Surely breastfeeding in a public place is better than listening to a crying baby who is hungry?
Breast feeding in public is the same as us eating out in public.that said there are certain ways to do it and not to do it.as long as the mothers breast isnt hanging out and offending others there is absolutely nothing wrong with breast feeding in public areas. Not to mention is natural and very much so healthy for the child.(t.daniels)
Its good for the baby, and as long as the mom covers up, I'm fine with it. However, covering up is important. Flashing people, even unintentionally, is not hard to prevent, a simple blanket is more than enough. So, yes, but only if it's covered up.
A mother is supposed to provide everything her baby needs. Women were built differently from men for a reason. They've got what they need to be able to feed their child, so it makes no sense to not allow it just because someone is grossed out by it. Which, I do not understand considering breasts are breasts. We've all seen them. It's nothing new, and it's far less "gross" than other things we have to see in public. Such as fat guys shirtless. That's not nice to see either, but people are doing fine with it!
The question that should be asked is, why are we, as a nation, obsessed with a women breast and nipple. Keep sexual activities in private and let mothers feed their children. We are the most obsessive country in the world. We seem to confuse and equate nature with sex. How may women proudly flaunt plunging neck lines and go bra less under a shirt? We don't have people in an uproar about that and if we did we would get even more people crying about our rights. I don't get it. Our nation may have started out with puritan values values but Europeans of today don't seem to take issue with breast feeding. Keeping it covered up is what breast feeding moms try to do. Keep nipple slips for the paparazzi and stop giving mothers a hard time.
Breastfeeding is a very natural and necessary activity for mothers and babies. There is nothing to be ashamed of, and with proper location and discreteness, no one should be uncomfortable or embarrassed - not the mother, nor the observer. Breastfeeding is healthier for new babies, and allowing breastfeeding in public encourages more mothers to breastfeed if they are able to.
Not all mothers feel comfortable breastfeeding in public. However, most nursing mothers find themselves forced to do it, due to their hungry infants. Nursing can be done discreetly and in such a way that no one really knows what is going on. There are great products, such as "Hooter Hiders", that women use to shield the nursing baby and her breast. Even if it is not done discreetly, feeding a child should never offend anyone. People wear so few clothes today anyway, and frequently too little is left to the imagination, so breast-feeders have a valid excuse for showing too much skin.
Breast milk is incredibly healthy for babies and is also beneficial for the mother. Moms shouldn't just hide in the bathroom to nurse their little bundles of joy. If you don't want to see breasts, then please avert your eyes. All moms have the right to breastfeed their own children.
And my daughter refuses to take a bottle, no matter what is inside it. Men can walk around with their shirts off, which is nothing I want to see, but I don't just whip my breast out for everyone to see. If you happen to see a little skin, you will live.
Breastfeeding is THE most natural thing in the world and it is unbelievable that it is deemed inappropriate by some truly narrow minded people who quite obviously have no personal experience of breastfeeding a child. It is not just as simple as saying express milk and bottle feed, the milk isn't just available like water from a tap! And when people are forced to feed their babies in public to avoid any such comments is ridiculous. You wouldn't eat your own dinner in a place where you urinate so why feed a baby in there. I think some people in society need to open they're eyes. They would soon complain if a hungry baby cried in their presence so surely a content feeding baby is better than a child screaming for his dinner? As a breastfeeding mother I would not leave my child crying in hunger and getting worked up to appease people who find it unnatural. After reading some of the negative comments in this debate I am absolutely disgusted to find what some people think and have luckily only had positive comments myself about doing the best by my baby. I just hope I never come across anyone who thinks like this!
There is no question that BF should be allowed in public. It is a fully natural way to feed your babies and until it becomes supported by everyone as the BEST WAY to feed your baby, this will continue to be a debate. Why should women have to hide in bathrooms or stay home for fear of retribution? Walk through the nearest mall and see lingerie stores with plenty of breast exposed for all to see. If you don't like it...Look away! And for those who support it...Give a THUMBS UP the next time you see a mom BF in public!
No mother should be made to feel uncomfortable when feeding her child! I say feed whenever you need to feed, no matter where you are or who you are around! Women have been breastfeeding for millions of years so who is society to tell us to cover up or to stop feeding our children because of ignorant people!
Everyone chooses to feed their babies in different ways! We don't tell someone that is feeding a child that its not allowed and this is exactly the same thing. When a baby is hungry you feed it! I do feel that a simple way to make everyone happy is to put on a nursing cover.
I can walk into a mall or turn on any tv station and see cleavage and breasts being used for advertisement of anything from bras to fast food burgers. Yet it is "inappropriate" for us to see them being used for what they are actually intended for?? Give me a break. As for the argument of not wanting it done in front of children...seems kind of ironic, does it not? It's not difficult to simply explain that that is how some baby's eat.
People say it's indecent but it is natural. Not everyone can afford the powder and the bottle. If women are not supposed to do it in public then why do it at all? They should not have to go in a bathroom because bathrooms are germ-infested and an infants' immune systems are not as strong as a adults' immune systems.
Breastfeeding is the natural way to feed a baby. I do think that mums should make an attempt to at least cover up a little so that not all their breast is on show. I am a very shy person and when i needed to feed my daughter i would find a quiet spot and use a muslin cloth to cover any exposed bits. The argument that there are unnumerable other ways to feed babies is wrong, not every baby will drink from a bottle or can take formula milk, are the mums of these babies not allowed to leave the house until they stop breast feeding. People need to stop being so immature.
How is something so natural inappropriate at all?? It's not harmful or indecent. People sit in public and eat their meals. Why shouldn't babies be allowed to? Sure, if the mother feels uncomfortable she can move to a more private place. I struggle to see how it could ever be deemed 'inappropriate' to breastfeed publicly.
Come on, breastfeeding in public doesnt harm anyone, and the only people who ARE offended by it are probably just over sensitive to everything and not mature enough to know that this is how nature simply works. Breastfeeding in public is like smoking in public, except its healthy for one person and nobody else gets punished by it, minus those who are even bigger babies then the baby being breastfed.
Women where created with breasts for a reason--to supply their babies with breast milk when they are hungry. Tell me when your baby's hungry screaming at the top of their lungs and you're out at lunch with some friends, tell me would you rather try to gather up all your belongings just to leave the restaurant so you can feed your baby, or would you just do what every other mother would do and feed her child? You can't tell a screaming child to wait ten minutes just to be fed because you're in public, it doesn't work like that. For those who are against breastfeeding in public you have some kind of issue that needs to be sorted because being a mother and being able to supply your baby with breast milk at any given time is a blessing. Some mothers don't get to experience that with their babies. Good on you mothers that breastfeed in public. There's no harm in feeding your baby when they need to be fed.
I am a new mom, My baby is now 5 months, it's a little easier than in the beginning but I still struggle to the dirty looks while I breastfeed my baby and I always cover myself up, but still people can be really hard to please... So I now don't even worry about them.
I'm currently breastfeeding and I usually try to cover myself in public because that's how I feel comfortable but it does not bother me at all if someone decides not to cover. If that's how they feel comfortable plus my baby gets really uncomfortable when I cover her cause i never do at home. And NOT ALL BABIES GET THE BOTTLE like some people were commenting for example my baby refuses to get the bottle so I have to breastfeed her wherever and whenever she is hungry. Even if I'm in public if it bothers you can simply turn the other way. :)
I support breastfeeding in public. It's just someone eating. But because the breast, which is also a sexual organ, can be exposed, a cover should always be used. There are bigger covers with straps with help hold it on even if the baby is squirming. I don't understand why many moms want to show their boobs in public. Before the baby latches on and after the baby is done the breast is fully exposed.
As a former BF Mom myself, I believe that it is completely unfair and just plain wrong to discriminate against a BF mother. Babies cannot control when they become hungry and a new mother cannot be expected to be at home all the time because of that. They also cannot be expected to arrange their day according to when their baby may become hungry. People need to get over themselves and stop being so judgmental. If you don't like it, then don't look! Plain and simple! The benefits to BF far outweigh the fears of being made fun of or ridiculed for the decision.
I really can't believe some people have said that it's 'indecent' to breast feed in public. Women have breasts for one biological reason, feeding their offspring and there is absolutely nothing wrong with that. This is a obvious example of men feeling as if breasts belong to them, as sexual things to play with, and have no other purpose. Breasts are udders on women's bodies, which doesn't offend me at all. In some cultures men don't look at the breasts in a sexual way at all because they acknowledge them as something that feeds their children. We have made breasts a sexual thing among a practical thing and in some cultures, children are missing out on the benefits of breast.
For everyone on the opposing side that said "just because its natural doesn't make it appropriate in public, since using the bathroom is natural & so is sex", well eating is appropriate in everyone's eyes to be done in public. The baby is eating, not using the bathroom or having sex! Geez! I agree that women can cover up when able. But if it's hot out & it's a public place, I'm not covering my poor baby's sweaty head with a blanket to appease the judgmental hypocrites who say it's natural & best for every baby, but don't want to see it. I don't think breastfeeding mothers should have to stay indoors for a year so they don't God forbid have to feed in public. & yes bottles are available, but for those that agreed that breast milk is best for the baby; reheating, freezing, & bottling the breast milk changes the composition of the milk. It loses a lot of its nutritional value which is the most important reason to breastfeed to begin with! Look it up! & breastfeeding in front of children, what is so wrong with teaching our children to one day make the best & healthiest choices for their children? & that there is nothing more beautiful than a mother providing the nutrition for her child instead of a cold hard fake nipple & an inferior aluminum can.
Breasts are intended for breastfeeding. That's why women have them - to feed their baby in the event that they have one. Unless a baby has specific dietary issues with breast milk, it's the best option for a healthy child. The baby's head usually covers a good deal of the breast anyway and anyone who has a problem with it should be able to look the other way. If someone has a problem with smoking cigarettes or obesity it is expected that they go about their day and accept that it happens, not harass the individual in question. The very least can be asked of those who dislike mothers breastfeeding in public
I'm a man but I don't see how it is so offensive to people. Breast feeding is the way of nurturing in the mammal world. Seeing as how humans are also mammals, it is very appropriate. Every mammal, to a point, breast feeds. Also, seeing a breast of another female shouldn't bother anyone. If a female wants to breast feed her newborn, then I say more power to them.
I believe that breastfeeding is appropriate, yes you should not show your whole breast area. But you should be able to breastfed your child, without any smart comments about how disrespectful it is. Breastfeeding is natural and is the best way for an infant to get the nutrients he/she needs. Most women will cover up because that is their choice and do not want everything hanging out. So yes I believe that it is appropriate.
If you can't control yourself around an exposed breast covered by an infant you have a list of other problems, and I'm saying that as a 22 year old single guy. And if you don't think children should see that and you breastfed, you're a hypocrite. The thing being breastfed IS A CHILD. Every other country doesn't have a problem with exposed breasts.
I have a hard time understanding what kind of person has a problem with this because mothers I would just automatically assume wouldn't, and guys that act like they've never seen a breast before need to get over it.
We should all be encouraging mothers to breastfeed, wherever and whenever their baby gets hungry. Breastfeeding is hard enough without having to constantly search for privacy in order to do so. Bathrooms are disgusting, who wants to eat in a bathroom? Blankets and covers make you hot and get in the way. Boobs are for feeding babies. Adults eat in public without hiding, babies shouldn't be held to some ridiculous standard because western society has developed a culture in which boobs are considered private parts. The more women go out and breastfeed their babies in public, the more boring and commonplace this will be. There are so many more reasons why breastfeeding, in public, or wherever, should be normal, but I don't have 3 hours to list them all.
I know this may come as a shock to a lot if people, but not everything is about sex. If a man had a legitimate reason for having his penis out, it wouldn't bother me in the slightest. If your children see it, you just might have to *GASP* parent your child. Just say the woman is feeding her baby. Two seconds. Tops. It's a boob, people. Get over it. Americans are so weird.
As long as the mother is trying to be discreet about it. Most of the time the baby's mouth is on the mother's nipple anyway so it's not like anyone is going to see anything inappropriate unless they watch the entire time. Breast milk is also the healthiest option for babies.
People can't have it both ways. They shame women for breastfeeding in public and say it is indecent, yet if you go to a bar they have explicit music videos playing on the big screens with bare breasts everywhere. If you say anything against women baring their breasts you are prude, yet if you are for public breast feeding you are repulsive.
I am not worried about the comfort of your eyes. I am worried about the immediate satiation of my baby. My baby needs my breastmilk, not your approval. Also, if we were in many other countries where breasts are not sexualized, there would be no issue. So... Remember what breasts are ACTUALLY for, feeding children.
I don't see what is the issue. As long as the mother takes the proper courtesy to cover her and her child as it is being done, then may life go on. It is not physically harming you or a child, and not to be frank, it is something any child will endure in life soon enough.
It is acceptable for women to run around in bikini bathing suits, sports bras and booty short, and in some cases naked, so why is it inappropriate and unacceptable to breastfeed in public? It is a way of feeding her child, not a way to try and show off her breast to the world. It is one of those double standards that should be done away with all together. We do not tell you to go bottle feed your children in a private room so do not tell us to go breastfeed our children in private either. It is the same thing just healthier for the child in the long run. Don't believe me, go look up breast vs bottle feeding benefits and educate yourselves.
Of course it's appropriate. Babies need nutrition several times a day. Breastfeeding is the normal way to feed a baby. The World Health Organization, and Health Canada recommend exclusive breastfeeding for 6 months and breastfeeding for at least two years and beyond...This is to provide babies and mothers with the best health benefits available (and save billions in Health Care expenditures). Mom's have breasts to feed their babies. We currently live in a hypersexualized world, that's what's not appropriate.
Mammary glands are something that all mammals have. Their purpose is to make milk to feed young. These young don't wait until they are in private places to be hungry. They become hungry whenever they do and it seems rather insane that we are supposed to allow that baby to suffer through hunger so as not to offend some bodies silly social constructs. It is also unnatural to eat where one defecates or to eat with a blanket over your head. It is natural, teach your children that it is natural and they will have no reaction to it.
This is what Jenn Bosworth of The Back9Network has to say about breastfeeding in public. She responds to a video question from a new mom asking what the do's and don'ts are about breastfeeding in public. She feels it's a natural process that needs to happen, but only in moderation!
I don't even feel the need to explain this. If my baby wants/needs to eat, I'm going to feed him no matter where I am. There's nothing at all inappropriate about a baby eating, so I just have no idea why this needs an explanation. The need for this debate is completely beyond me.
Many people who speak unfavorably of public breastfeeding are very articulate indeed, but the bottom line is always the same - their arguments stem from our culture's problematic history, where women have always been oppressed and taught to be ashamed of their bodies. It makes me sad that in 2013 some people actually think that women in Britain (and Sweden from where I am writing this) should be stuffed away when they need to feed their young babies. And if they don't agree to be stuffed away, they should at least be ashamed of themselves or with some sort of magic trick make their breasts invisible (while still making them available for their babies). The people who are offended by breastfeeding mothers - what right do they have to put their personal comfort and easily offended morals before the comfort of the most precious of human beings - tiny babies? I suggest we deport all breastfeeding-haters to some deserted island where they can found their own society, where they may wallow in their self-righteousness.
I don't even see why this would be an issue. Breast feeding is a completely natural process. For those of you who equated breast feeding to peeing or having sex in public which I agree are all natural actions as well, a baby, unlike an adult can not control his or her natural urges. If the baby needs to eat, he or she needs to eat. The last time I checked no one asks grown people to go into filthy public restrooms to eat their foods or to cover their mouths. And no, it's not "indecent exposure". What I understand so far is that it is perfectly fine for some women to prance around practically half naked in skimpy pieces of clothing showing majority ( if not all) of their breasts for no particular reason but the minute a woman wants to breast feed her child ( using her breasts for what it was MADE for) it's suddenly disgusting . Most breastfeeding mothers don't expose more of their breasts while nursing than they would while wearing a very low cut top. SO what is the problem? I think that is totally ridiculous. Breasts were made for feeding young, period. Any one who is uncomfortable with that is immature.
All people have the right to eat in public if the place allows public eating why should you dictate how or in what manner one should eat? If I see someone stuffing their face in a way I find inappropriate I will not watch. As long as they are not violating anyone else's rights you should not try to violate theirs. Also I see women in bikinis in public all the time that show more skin than a breastfeeding mother. The baby is latched on and therefore there is usually less boob showing than a small bikini many women wear. Some babies do not and refuse to be covered. Some babies refuse bottles. I think for anyone to try and dictate someone's eating habits is wrong. Just like seperate but equal was wrong. This is not a second class citizen it is a human child.
Perhaps the best supporting argument I can provide is this amazing piece of poetry:
Breast are everywhere in our culture. Advertising and media images of women showing ample cleavage, bursting out of bikinis... Endless examples. Breast augmentation seems to be almost expected of actresses and celebrities. Breasts everywhere... Breasts themselves don't seem to embarrass anyone!
So what's the problem with breastfeeding: by far the best way of nourishing our babies? It's because idiots have hyper-sexualised breasts so that society see breasts solely as sexual, when breastfeeding is -- surely -- a far more important function. Babies need feeding frequently, so if their mothers want to leave home for more than an hour or so they're going to need to breastfeed in public. This can be, and is, done very coolly, without "sexy" display. The baby's head covers most of the breast, for a start. Some women can do it without anyone even noticing.
Sadly, though, many others never get that practiced, because shame and comments drive them to choose bottle feeding. The more we know about the benefits of breastfeeding. The clearer it becomes that we need to positively encourage mothers to feed this way. Anything that puts them off is unhelpful.
I love seeing women breastfeed. To me it's an iconic image: mother and child. Like the Old Masters of the Renaissance who painted all those breastfeeding Madonnas. As the poet says, Jesus would have been breastfed. Let's get in touch with our humanity: support public breastfeeding.
Some places have laws that prevent anyone from hassling or excluding breastfeeding mothers. I think we should all support this.
If we feel uncomfortable, we must ask ourselves WHY we feel that way. The answer, I'm sure, is that breasts are considered sexual body parts. Yet every woman has breasts and the primary function of breasts is to nurse our species' young. That breasts have been sexualized in our culture to the extent that public nursing is considered taboo indicates that we have a serious problem on our hands. As a culture, as a community, it's up to each of us to ensure that every woman feel comfortable and welcome to nurse her baby in a public setting.
-- and have the ability to remedy that flaw. Many people feel discomfort upon seeing someone with several physical impairment or disfigurement, some people feel discomfort in presence of people of another race. But, thank goodness, most of these people stop themselves from expressing revulsion, fear, or hostility because it's wildly inappropriate and incredibly socially unacceptable to do so. Because we, as a culture, have chosen to right the wrongs of these prejudices. If we're able to control our impulses to that extent, surely we can put aside personal prejudices against breastfeeding.
This topic completely blows my mind. What has this world come to? Just 50 years ago women were breastfeeding without a cover and that was normal to everyone around them. What I wouldn't do to live then... I've seen many post saying "well, nudity is illegal". Breastfeeding in public is protected against that and not considered nudity. Even the government has the decency to know that. If it bother you, look away, you are not entitled to stare.
The main argument that always seems to take place is that breasts are viewed as sexual, that's the problem! Its not the feeding itself or the mothers or the "confusion of small children." Its the view that breasts are strictly sexual. Its those views that are tainted. Even on public television the only is whether a nipple is showing. If a mother is actual feeding a child how often is a nipple showing anyways. There is no question at all that breast milk is 100% whats best for baby and mother, so why make more complications for the mother that is just trying to do whats best for her child. I think more mothers these days need to step up and do the same. Nursing a child is in no way similar to using the restroom. Why make a child eat there.
In my opinion, it should never be a question as to whether it is "allowed", a baby needs to be fed, and a woman tends to leave the house on occasion (note the sarcasm), so yes, breastfeeding in public is appropriate and necessary. Some woman cover up, some don't. It is their choice, not the people surrounding them.
I have read many arguments against breastfeeding in public, but none of them take into account the true nature of family life and womanhood. The ones I see most frequently are:
1) It's a matter of decency/not exposing yourself. Truthfully, many many women wear tops on a daily basis that show WAY more boob than a nursing woman ever shows with or without a cover.
2) You can just pump. The truth about this one is that pumping is time consuming, lowers milk production in some moms, and doesn't even work for many. It's also expensive and some babies won't even take a bottle. So do your research before you haphazardly suggest this.
3) You should try to go someplace private. This would be nice if there were always private places to nurse/feed. But most places, your option is the bathroom. And public restrooms are often really nasty and home to some of the worst/most antibiotic resistant bacteria. Not something I want to expose my child to. And do you eat in the bathroom? No, no one eats in the same place that they relieve themselves in, even animals do not do that. Also, going to a private place may not always be feasible, even if there is one available. If I have 3 or 4 kids or even 2 and need to pull my older child away from activities so I can breastfeed, that is going to be difficult and cause a lot more trouble than it is worth.
4) You can just use a cover/towel/blanket Again, this is a great option when it works but some babies don't tolerate them and some will pull them off and wave them around, which in my opinion causes more of a scene than you started with. So its great in theory, but in practice, it doesn't always work.
Before you judge someone on breastfeeding in public, think about ALL of the facets of what's going on. New moms are usually overstressed and overtired anyway and they don't need to start a fight with their child or wrestle with unwieldy and expensive equipment that may or may not work anyway just because someone is uncomfortable. Especially in a society that is supposed to be tolerant and non judgmental and in which people go about half clothed more often than not.
I find it a strange that in a society where wearing the bare minimum is acceptable, that the mere act of breastfeeding an infant in public is offensive. You see far more top boob, side boob and underboob in bikinis, and yet a tiny bit of boob shown behind an infants head is too much? Contrary to what some people may believe, a breastfeeding mom doesn't just whip her entire breast out, swing it around a few times for people to see and squirt her milk everywhere. I am also yet to see a breastfeeding mom whip out her breasts, slap them on the table and then get her child ready. If you're able to see her nipple when she takes it out and quickly pops it in her baby's mouth then you're looking too closely and the problem is with you, not her. People are happy to let their children watch age restricted movies containing sex and nudity, yet not happy for their children to see a nursing mother. Furthermore, they are more than willing to encourage their children to watch an animal allowing its young to suckle and even find it cute themselves. People who are offended, grossed out, put out and uncomfortable about it need to do a bit of growing up. It's natural and it's best for baby. What do they think their mothers did for them? Just because a woman gets banished behind a closed door (often the stinky closed door of a public toilet) does not change the fact that the baby is suckling and that she is producing milk. Cover up, be modest they say. How would "they" feel if they were asked to put a blanket over their head while eating their burger or drinking their coffee. Probably Indignant. Have you ever sat with a blanket over your head in the middle of summer to have your food? Probably not! To those who compare breastfeeding in public to urinating in public - no, they're not similar. Urinating is the expulsion of a waste product with the potential of being a health hazard. Breastfeeding is not a waste product, and also, lactating women don't make a habit of messing on the floor for you to step in it. Women are constantly being encouraged to breastfeed and not formula feed, yet it is only acceptable for them to do it in private - that makes no sense whatsoever. Any person who finds something sexual in a mother feeding her child has serious issues that they should see a psychiatrist about. Just because western society has decided that breasts are sexual, doesn't mean they don't have a more basic function. After all, they are called Mammaries and we are Mammals. Thinking that a publicly breastfeeding mother is any of your business is like reading a private email over someone's shoulder and being offended by what they've written.
The only way to truly support breastfeeding is to support breastfeeding in public. Being able to nurse on demand, whenever and where ever is the best way to ensure successful breastfeeding throughout the child's first year ( and beyond). For mothers and babies, breast is best, and supply is maintained best when the demand is met promptly.
We are mammals, meaning we have mammary glands. The biological function of breasts is to feed infants and small children. Our culture has stripped breasts of their primary function and sexualized them. But breasts are not sex organs. Breastfeeding is no more indecent than giving a baby a bottle or pacifier or sippy cup. It is not something that should be private, hidden, covered up. Breastfeeding is nature's gift to allow us to feed, nourish, and comfort and soothe our young.
Women who breastfeed in public are doing what is natural for all mammals. To say it is inappropriate for a woman to do this publicly is ludicrous. Somehow breasts have become viewed as sexual objects. This may be partially true, but the purpose they serve is to produce milk. They should not be viewed in a sexual way, and if you choose to view them sexually, I should hope you have the decency to understand the difference between a breast being used for sexual purposes and a breast being used for the nourishment of a child. I used to be a firm believer in covering your self if you are nursing in public, but as my baby has grown, I've realized that this is somewhat impossible for a lot of babies. (My own, in particular.) When he was younger he would allow me to place a cover on, but as he gets older, he is more curious about what is going on around him and will not nurse if he is covered. Also, it's just plain hot in Mississippi and I know I would be uncomfortable if I had to cover my head every time I ate. In short, breasts should not be viewed as "private parts" as the main purpose a mother's breast serves is to produce milk to feed a child. Understand that a majority of nursing mothers are considerate of those around them and are very discreet when nursing, and also know that each and every state has laws that allow mothers to breastfeed (covered or not) wherever they are allowed to be.
The argument I keep reading from the "inappropriate" side is that breastfeeding in public is akin to defecating in public: Both are natural, but both are inherently disgusting and should be locked away. Everyone - even those making this argument - knows that this comparison is flawed to the point of ludicrous. A child is eating. EATING. Eating is something that we all do in public. Infants are fed when they are hungry; mothers feed them, and there should be no shame in this simple exchange. You "don't want to see someone's nipple" at a restaurant? I don't want to see you chew with your mouth open. I don't want a TV on the wall showing ads with ACTUAL (if nipple-less) SEXUAL IMAGERY.
Just relax, folks. Let the child eat. Let Mom feed. And remember, a baby that is nursing isn't crying. Would you rather have a wailing infant in the next booth - or are you actually suggesting that we just keep all infants at home so people won't have to deal with the horrible untidy reality it all. I know you don't really believe that... And if you do, you know how wrong that makes you, and we can all calmly ignore your callous grousing.
Pathetic.I've often seen more breast exposure from a magazine cover than in the majority of women that breastfeed their children. The problem is that society has labeled the breast as only a SEXUAL object. Hate to break it to you but breasts also serve a more natural (and not sexual) cause- to provide nourishment to their offspring.
If you don't have a problem with bikinis you shouldn't have a problem with breast feeding. It is healthy for both the baby and the mother and is the most natural nourishment your baby can get. Women shouldn't have to be forced to go in a dirty public bathroom just to feed their baby.
I can't even believe that people would consider it, "indecent exposure". And those who are uncomfortable, i feel sad for you. Our culture clearly doesn't accept this, which is disheartening to me. What is uncomfortable? That you see a "breast"? A breast that is feeding a precious baby? Maybe because our society is so sexually charged and can't handle breastfeeding. Why should you have to "find a discrete place". Feed your baby where you want. Cover or no cover. It is not like these woman are flashing their breast for you! Get over it America!
I can't imagine being offended by something so natural, or having the audacity to deprive an infant from food because I feel entitled to banish the mother to some unseen corner before she can attempt to latch. Hearing my own mother-in-law tell me she was offended by breastfeeding mothers was so hurtful as a woman, and as the mother of her future grandchildren. We're created in his image, and so are our children, so what could bring you closer to God than doing what he intended?
Feeding a child in public Is perfectly fine. Those who are suggesting that is in the same category as having sex in public are being idiotic. Feeding your child in public should be the norm and should not be sexualised. I breast feed in public and no one has yet to notice what I am doing. If a prude such as the people who are saying breast feeding is wrong say anything then I will happily inform them that I am protected by the law to feed my child in the way nature intended. Please dear haters get over yourself .
I am a Christian from a Muslim country. Even Muslim people who cover their women and girls from head to toe never order a mother to stop breast feeding in public. Respect breastfeeding ladies in the public area! Mother is one of holiest gifts of God. So do not stress a mother during breastfeeding!
I believe breastfeeding is appropriate. Would you really deny your child of nourishment ? It is a natural process. NO I can't wait 5 hours just to accommodate other people's feeling about be breastfeeding. I believe our society should just get over the fact that women are using breasts to feed our babies. Just because it is a sexual organ, it also has a function. We are mammals, for gods sake ! We give birth to live young and produce milk. We, women, back in the old ages, had to do it. So what makes it so inappropriate? Back in 1800's -1900's, we didn't have baby formulas filled with chemicals. When the tv and media promoting inappropriate things of sex and etc, how is it inappropriate for a mother to show love and nurturing for her kid.
It a very bit natural, its a kind of right of a mother. I can just say that if someone feels it disgusting then, he too can't have healthy feeling towards his or her own mother. Everyone has likely been impacted by breastfeeding, people objecting on this must at first consult to their own mother.
All formula milk is designed to mimic the contents of human breast milk. Breast milk is beast for a baby because it contains the mother's antibodies and immune boosting enzymes to help the newborn fight off infections and illness while its immune system develops. Breastfeeding is best for the mother because the act of lactation releases chemicals in the body that help heal her uterus after birth. Breastfeeding is also best for the mother because the act uses roughly 500 calories a day, which can help a mother lose weight after a pregnancy. Breast milk is best for a families budget because it is free, while baby formula can cost a family anywhere between 1,500 and 2,400 dollars a year. Breastfeeding is best for the environment because there is no waste involved. Breastfeeding is best for the general community because is lowers the nations health care costs (healthier babies with less risk of being hospitalized due to infection, decreased need for federally financed programs like W.I.C to distribute free formula for eligible mothers, etc). To ask a mother to do something that is not best for her child, herself, her family, or her community just because some do not think it is "appropriate" for public display is absurd.
It is considered socially acceptable for magazines and lingerie stores to have have huge pictures of nearly naked women, however it is not okay for a woman to feed her child in public. Women have been breastfeeding since the beginning of the human race, it is the healthiest thing for a baby to eat, and yet so many women are forced to feed their babies in dirty bathroom stalls because to sit somewhere clean and comfortable would mean somebody might get a glimpse of a breast (which is mostly covered by the babies head anyway). There is nothing disgusting or unnatural about a woman's breasts, and definitely not about a baby eating the food it was designed to eat, it shouldn't need to be hidden.
There is a thing called decency. No one cares if you breastfeed in public but no one wants to see your saggy boobs either...Or maybe some people do! I am a women in my early 30's, I'm not going to prance around in a shirt with my breasts hanging out, nor will I expose myself in public. Next thing your going to ask is go topless, hell lets just walk around naked... Like come on people. What is the big deal with putting a blanket over you? Why make all this fuss. Yes, go breastfeed in public-NO ONE CARES, just cover up. Honestly, there are bigger issues in life then this. It's like telling a prostitute she should cover up... It's legal to wear whatever you want but should you? So get off your high horse and go solve some third world issues. This is ridiculous.
It's called a bottle, use it. There is also a great invention such as a breast pump and a whole industry devoted to creating clothes, blankets, bras, etc to easily cover yourself if you feel the need to whip it out in public. No one is saying you shouldn't be able to feed your baby, there is just no reason to have to expose yourself and make everyone uncomfortable to do so. If you can't have the common decency to cover up or the common sense to be prepared enough to bring a full bottle or 2 out with you... then don't expect people to gracious.
Bare breasts in public should not be allowed. Just feed it from a bottle! Response to "It's natural" argument: Sure, many things are natural, but it does not mean we should be able to do it in public. Urinating is natural, that does not mean we should do it in front of everyone.
While it is fun to pretend that we are all intelligent and mature individuals, the reality is that it will encourage certain individuals to do stupid things. More so, with the fine line between right and wrong growing ever closer, it is very possible that people would push this boundary way further than breastfeeding women. It is not even very necessary for women to breast feed publicly. I'm certain they can find a place to breastfeed within 5 minutes, on average.
Public breastfeeding exposes everyone in the vicinity to a view of private areas of the mother's body. This is offensive to many people, and particularly inappropriate when the children of others are present. There are innumerable other ways to feed babies without breastfeeding in public. Often one hears that this is a natural function and so it should be acceptable in public. Sex and defecation are also natural functions, but no one is suggesting they take place in public.
I believe breastfeeding is a very personal experience, and it should be done in private, not in public. It can get rather noisy, and this is kind of embarrassing if there are young children asking questions, or older people who have to try to ignore it. Breastfeeding is great, but, as someone that I know once said, it is not a spectator sport.
Breastfeeding is a natural occurrence, but so is using the bathroom and everyone does that in private. If you use the bathroom in public you could end up being arrested for indecent exposure. I don't want to see women whip out their nipples while I'm out in public. I breastfed my daughters, but never did it in public!
No, it is not appropriate and it is DISRESPECTFUL. Just walk away to a more private area to be considerate to others (not saying you have to stay locked in your house!) The fact that this has recently become another over the top, "if you don't support this you don't support women's rights" debate is absurd to me. Yes, of course breastfeeding is a wonderful natural, experience. The entitled attitude is the problem here. It is another one of those things that is legal (& should be! I'm not for anymore laws stifling any of our RIGHTS) But the question is, Is it APPROPRIATE, no, you are disregarding how your actions make others uncomfortable, which is a very entitled, selfish view. Plenty of things are thought of as inappropriate in public, but many people still do these things because it is their "right".... Having a screaming match in the middle of the mall with your husband- not really appropriate, a man walking into a restaurant without a shirt on- not really appropriate,.. You could go on & on... Do what you may, but to judge those of us that are offended & taken aback by your entitled lifestyle as unsupportive of women's rights is just ridiculous... This written by a 26 year old woman.
Breastfeeding in public isn't appropriate at all in the view of the public, and should only be done under dire circumstances in a hidden setting. When you have a child, it is your responsibility to of course take care of your baby, but that doesn't mean to shut out the public as if they weren't there. Many people do not wish to see breastfeeding taking place; it can make some people feel awkward or disgusted, and it can cause confusion among children. As a mother, you should always have a baby bottle handy so you can feed your baby appropriately in a public setting - that's what bottles are for and it's being responsible. Yes, women should feel free in their bodies, but that doesn't mean to be indecent.
I don't have a problem when I'm not forced to notice another woman's private parts. The problem is...Everyone thinks its so "beautiful," "natural," "healthy," etc... It is all those and then some PRIVATELY! Although, mothers do not view their breasts as sexual, others do! If breasts weren't viewed as sexual there would not be strip clubs, Vegas shows, porn, sex wouldn't involve them! No matter how many times we debate this it always seems that everyone is taking it wrong. Breastfeeding itself isn't gross or disgusting...It's the fact that the breastfeeding mothers flaunt their breast and the fact that they are breastfeeding.. Breastfeeding infants that are solely reliant on the mothers nutrients is very very acceptable...But toddlers who can feed themselves crackers, fruits, candies, so on and so forth and who are able to drink out of a sippie cup or straw.. Now I find that extremely offensive and inappropriate .. They can wait until you are out of publics eye.. To me that's a time of bonding with your child and not for everyone else to see and have to put up with..Respect goes both ways.. No one ever said you have to take your child to a toilet to feed them.. Just don't pull your private part out in front of everyone to see...Cover yourself.. Use a napkin or blanket..Even your other hand to cover your breast and stomach hanging out... Or better yet.. Give your toddler a juice or water and feel welcome to feed your infant..Schedule your outings at times that aren't "feeding" times.. There are many things a breastfeeding parent can do to respect the rest of the world and then the rest of the world wouldn't have such a huge issue with this? I breastfeeding 2 children discretely and respectfully just fine. I know the rest of you can as well!.. Breastfeeding is natural, so is using the bathroom..Both shouldn't be shared with the world no matter what because they are personal and private.
Although this is a totally natural function, that does not mean it should be done in public. Why don't we just go around having sex in public? There should be a certain sanctity to breastfeeding. It is a precious bond between two people (like sex) and doing it in public just takes away how special it is. Plus, I wouldn't want my kids to see that! Keep it classy, ladies. Some things should be kept private.. Of course, I wouldn't bash or shame a lady for feeding her kid. I would simply walk away because I don't enjoy seeing that.
There are many arguments on here that bystanders can just turn away and choose not to look at. But once I have had a glance at an exposed breast, I can not unsee it. I am not a mother and do not have a degree of understanding about the bonding experience, etc, but I am a straight female who does not want to see exposed bits of the female body unless I am deliberately going to an art gallery. When I have been unfortunate enough to see it, I have found it a little disturbing and have to shake the image from my mind. Being nearby when it is going on is tolerable, but I do not want to know about it. Do it in private, please - almost everywhere you go will have baby changing facilities where you would only be exposing yourself to other mothers who probably won't be so offended by it.
Until this morning I was 1000% for public breastfeeding, you know where the breast is exposed and I'm nursing my little one without covering up. However, I really began to think about this in a real life scenario, I have fairly large breast, certainly larger than any of my girl friends and that already makes me self conscious around their husbands who constantly glance at my chest. What if I were to then breast feed in front of their husbands! Would that be appropriate? I don't care if I am feeding a baby on it- a breast is still a "boob" to all guys! I also have a son, I wouldn't want him seeing a grown woman nursing a baby, he is too young for that and as much of an inconvenience it is for me to cover my daughter while nursing or find a private place to feed her, I need to respect other peoples privacy and I have forever changed my mind on this topic and for the sake of respect, I hope everyone agrees. Btw, I have two kids a 3 year old and a 1 year old and I have successfully nursed each until the age of 1 but I choose to do it in private so that I don't offend anyone.
Although what the pro breastfeeding 'team' says is true with regards to certain things, I disagree with the public nature of this activity. I wholly support breast feeding, it is wonderful for child's immune system and building connection between baby and mother.
I have chosen not to have children, and although parenthood is your choice, please respect mine and cover yourself up. Some may view this topic as controversial or 'opening a can of worms'- it would seem that by having children, you (the breastfeeding populace) automatically hold your opinions higher than then general population, which is unfair.
May I suggest breast milk in bottles during your time in public?
It doesn't matter whether a breastfeeding mom tries to conceal her breast or whether breastfeeding is natural. Breastfeeding itself is a really personal action, and I find it bizarre when done in public. My stance has nothing to do with degrading women. If guys had breasts, then I also wouldn't want them to breastfeed in public.
Come on, we don't need to see that.
Most women have breasts, and I know most people in general might have seen them either in the media or at least in biology class, just like guys have XXXXX but you don't see them displaying them in public. It would be illegal public indecency. As long as they have a cloth covering the boob while the baby eats (which a lot thankfully do) I think it's fine. I just don't want to see other women's boobs in full view in public.
I find the current obsession with public breastfeeding very unhelpful and possibly even harmful for mother and child. Bystanders may also not feel comfortable with private body parts being publicly exposed. But bystanders have the option of not looking, turning away etc. New mothers however are being publicly reprimanded whatever they do, unless they are lucky. Ideally, new mothers and babies should be treated with respect and not suffer indignities such as being reprimanded for publicly breastfeeding or prevented from privately breastfeeding or criticized for bottle feeding. I do not understand why behavior that would otherwise be seen as sexual harassment (such as forcefully removing a women's upper garments to expose her breasts, discussing the size and shape of her breasts, stopping her from using a nursing cover) is treated as acceptable in the name of supporting public breastfeeding. Making new mothers uncomfortable is not contributing towards anything positive - in fact public breastfeeding flashmobs are a form of protest and are probably not what most women would consider as desirable. I think more support for private breastfeeding is needed, but the focus on public breastfeeding seems to endanger the right to not have to expose one's private parts in public for lack of private spaces. With demands for breastfeeding for increasingly long periods of time it is not really feasible to stay permanently at home. Women are also being reprimanded for bottle feeding (whether breastmilk or formula milk is used) - in short, new mothers seem to have no rights, and are deemed so incompetent that others have to make decisions involving their private body parts for them. Give women their dignity back and led them make what after all should be a private decision, given that it involves private body parts! Many people feel uncomfortable when their dignity and right to privacy are not respected - new mothers are no exception! Being reprimanded about how one chooses to feed one's baby is bad enough, having people tell one that they have a right to discuss, see, touch and even pump a woman's breasts is sexual abuse disguised as public concern over a lack of public breastfeeding, it is disgusting and undignified.
Here's the thing, a lot of mothers believe that just from the act of having a child they are exalted and above such petty things like society's rules of common decency but the harsh fact is that their entire self righteousness is built upon the fact that they've done something our bodies was built to do anyway. This is not a primitive era. We are not animals. Women, we are well educated and I would hate to think that a woman (particularly one who has genetically procreated) isn't capable of making her current life work WITH motherhood. A lot of breastfeeding mothers complain about other people getting upset with public breastfeeding but what you have to understand is that society has rules and motherhood doesn't give you a free pass around them. How dare you be offended when you publicly expose yourself and it upsets others! It was YOUR decision to expose yourself. In fact, YOUR decision to have a baby in the first place. It's not the place of other people to make special allowences for YOUR decisions. Don't expect a new set of more relaxed rules because of a personal decision you made for your life. The true test of motherhood now is how well you balance your life now that it INCLUDES a new life for which you are responsible. It's a little insulting to be told that motherhood means that you are no longer expected to be held to the same standards of "regular" people because you can't be expected to do that and be a mother at the same time. Once again, motherhood doesn't turn us into animals! It does not make us inferior! We should still be expected to think, make good decisions, work and, yes, wear clothes in public!
I've seen many considerate woman put a blanket over their breast. So it can be done. Their is no reason to have to expose your boob to little boys and girls because you want to show how free you are. How about the freedom of the parents that hid mommies breast under a blanket in public. And many of these parents would rather not see a full boob exposed with their young kids.
What used to rank as indecent exposure now shares status with other mealtime faux pas such as nose picking, overt flatulence, and other of the like. While all of these things are technically legal in public, their legality does not provide an adequate excuse for their public practice. Take any other inappropriate, but legal, public behaviour and apply to it your public breastfeeding excuse of choice, and you will begin to see our point of view.
As to the assertion that if one is not for public breastfeeding, then one is not family friendly, I submit the following for your consideration. I feel that if something prompts uncomfortable or age inappropriate questions from other children in the area, then that act is likely not "family friendly" for everyone. If you'd be so kind as to cover up with a blanket, the rest of us can curtail our children's natural questions about reproduction until WE feel it appropriate to explain these things to them. To do otherwise is to force your own will upon someone else's family.N
You certainly have the right to breastfeed wherever you'd like, within reason. With any right comes responsibility, which is usually something along the lines of not trampling on anyone else's rights whilst exercising your own. I might have the right to pick my nose at the table, but I have the responsibility to only do so at home so as not to upset (or disgust) other diners in the restaurant.
I think people are beginning to feel entitled to do whatever they want whenever they want. It is very very uncomfortable for a lot of people to see breastfeeding in public - for example, certain religions and mothers who may have lost a baby or cannot breastfeed. It is a choice to have a baby and a choice to breastfeed and if you make that choice I believe you should also know there may be consequences. It is very unfair to the person in the same restaurant as you to see you breastfeed your child while they try to eat a meal they paid money for. Again, because this is not a necessity by any means then it should be done privately at home or in a restroom.
If done discreetly in an non obvious manner, maybe under a blanket or something - then fair enough.
You shouldnt be allowed to simply whip it out wherever you go and expect people to accept it.
There is a thing called manners too you know. Thats what I think some mothers seem to forget
I do not want to be forced to explain the reproductive cycle to my children an sooner than I see fit. I do not think it is unreasonable to ask a woman to cover herself in public. I agree that breastfeeding is natural, but so is conception. I do not want to watch conception in public any more than breastfeeding.
No one else wants to see your breasts even if they pretend it's normal. Use a cover, be discreet, and have some modesty! I'm a mom of 4 and I think women these days are too over the top with their rights versus everyone else's comfort. We wouldn't just whip our pants down and poop in public! Since when did it become the norm to just whip our boob out in public and not care who might be uncomfortable!
I agree it is good to breast feed. I however disagree doing it in public. Using the bathroom is actually more natural than breast feeding. Since 100% of the population use the bathroom. Yet for sanitation purposes AND modesty/ morality we use proper facilities. Maybe your argument should be for nursing areas. Some people wish not to view it. Just as some choose not not breathe second hand smoke. Also please note the even though it shows a higher portion in favor it is not the majority. Simply because this is a topic whose self righteous sought it out. In which is predominantly the outraged breast feeders. Bare in mind population- men- woman who are actually nursing/ nursed- those who do nurse who don't feel the same way. There are a lot of women out there who don't feel the need to be an exhibitionist.
Ultimately, breastfeeding makes people uncomfortable so mothers should be considerate in not exposing themselves in public. It would be inappropriate to expose breasts or other genatalia in public in any other situation. Nudity in art doesn't really count because it's art and not the same as a real life person in the flesh disrobing. No one is arguing that it is not natural or that it isn't best for the child, the point is that no one wants to see it.
If all you have to do is just use a breast pump and feed your baby a bottle to avoid any negative outcome of the situation such as legal and moral issues E.G. Public indecency, making others uncomfortable, having others look at your breast exclusively, and yet all you have to do is leave home with a bottle of your own breast milk at your disposal? That's just incredibly selfish of you.
Most women are brought up to be very lady like. Exposing oneself in public has always been something we were taught not to do. Mom's and dad's raise their children believing that certain parts of our body are to be covered. Especially in public. Parents still, to this day, bring their children up this way. That being said, many people find it offensive that someone expose themselves in public to breastfeed their child. Parents start teaching your children that it is ok to expose themselves in public. Not! Then maybe it will be accepted.
Most women are brought up to be very lady like. Exposing oneself in public has always been something we were taught not to do. Mom's and dad's raise their children believing that certain parts of our body are to be covered. Especially in public. Parents still, to this day, bring their children up this way. That being said, many people find it offensive that someone expose themself in public to breastfeed their child. Parents start teaching your children that it is ok to expose themselves in public. Not! Then maybe it will be accepted.
Most women are brought up to be very lady like. Exposing oneself in public has always been something we were taught not to do. Our mom's and dad's raise their children believing that certain parts of our body are to be covered. Especially in public. Parents still, to this day, bring their children up this way. That being said, many people find it offensive that someone expose themself in public to breastfeed their child. Some women continued to do so when their child is far too old to be breastfeeding. Not often but there is always that person who can spoil things for everybody. There will always be plenty of us who will find breastfeeding in public offensive. Now if parents began to raise their children that the body is ok and that there is nothing wrong with exposing oneself in public then maybe it will not be such a big deal to breastfeed in public. So parents, start teaching your children that it is ok to expose themselves in public. Not! Many women do not feel comfortable breastfeeding public. It would be nice to hear the real reasons why some want to do so.
I tend to believe that breastfeeding is an act of intimacy and a time of bonding between a mother and her child. Doing such in front of other people so openly and casually actually profanes the act in my opinion. No this isn't regarding breasts as being seen more as a means of aesthetic arousal as opposed to "doing what they are made for" (by the way, sexual arousal AND nursing are both biological purposes of breasts), as some defensive mothers will claim. There quite frankly are times where people do not want to see that much skin, regardless of whether it's sexual or not (like say while eating at a fine dining restaurant). When people watch pornography or are exposed to breasts in a more sexual manner, they often prefer doing that kind of thing IN PRIVATE, so the claims defensive people will make saying "oh they'd have no problem if a cute girl was wearing a highly revealing bikini top at a pool but do if they see a woman nursing her baby god forbid" are quite frankly jumping to conclusions.
Quite frankly, a lot of the women who claim to be "exercising their legal rights" and wave a flag while breastfeeding her child would find themselves being suddenly self-conscious or creeped out if someone was watching or even staring at them the entire time they were doing such because their breasts happen to be plopped out. And the whole girl power ideology regarding breastfeeding is a joke. You want people to not have the old school idea of how women should be staying at home, raising the children, and making her husband a sandwich while ranting and raving like a fool all the while watching a football game on a Sunday morning? Then present yourself in a manner that defies that and that means keeping the breastfeeding and other "tender" habits of the sort at home. Pick and choose your battles based on the impression you want to give others (or don't want to give).
If you really insist, cover up and be discrete about it. A baby is not going to die if it has to wait a little longer before it gets fed should you need to find a place to breastfeed. It's unnecessary to be flamboyant about something natural in the name of "exercising your legal rights". It also would not kill to pump breast milk (or shall I dare to say it) formula feed a baby once in a blue moon. It's getting old seeing the obsessive need to compete with other parents and put their poor children in the middle of the ongoing war (the obsession with pregnant bellies, breastfeeding in public, making videos on breastfeeding, etc.).
I think that the great "I want to breast feed my baby in public" has turned into " this is America and I will whip out my breasts in public because I can" I think that if those new moms who feel the need to breast feed in public should consider how the rest of those around her may feel. Is it natural? YES but is it appropriate? NO. Burping and passing gas are natural but I think we would all agree that it is not appropriate and frowned upon. I think that if you want to give your child breast milk that is your right, but why is so wrong to cover your self or to pump a bottle at home? To me it seems that it is more important to exercise your "right" to whip out your breast than about nursing your child. Bottom line ... Cover up!!!
As a father of 2 kids, one 3 and the other 5, I believe that breast feeding in public should not be allowed because while it is natural, there is an audience to be considered. Some of them are mature, of course, but some shouldn't have to see it, especially at such a young age. It is not appropriate to explain breast feeding to children until they are ready for the talk about the birds and the bees, in my opinion.
There is a time and place for everything. In reading through the comments, there seems to be many devoted mothers who utilize the "how could you starve a child" argument. This argument is valid considering no one believes that babies should go without food. However, there is a method to which a mother can feed her child while also being considerate to the other people around her. In my opinion, this debate aligns closely with another argument, PDA (Public Display of Affection). Yes it is okay to hold hand with your significant other in public. Yes it acceptable to have a quick kiss here and there, but fully making out with someone is not acceptable. The feeling of romance, kissing and more is natural (how do you think the infants in the breastfeeding debate came into existence?), but there is an invisible line that shouldn't be crossed. The same holds true for breastfeeding. Feed a child if he or she is hungry, but do so in a way that is discrete and doesn't cause others to feel uncomfortable.
If you are tremendously exposed while you are breastfeeding, I think it's inappropriate. I also think wearing skimpy clothing is inappropriate. I really do believe it is ok to breastfeed in public so long as people bring a blanket, or just take some small measure to ensure that they are covered.
I once had a woman in my store lift her shirt up, latch her baby, and then walk around the store with half her top off. Not ok. The feeding is not the problem, the potential for public nudity is the problem. I realize it can be an inconvenience, but it's just a matter of being considerate to everyone. Yes. Your baby has to eat. Yes. Breastfeeding is natural. No, I don't have a problem if you do it in the mall, or a restaurant. Yes, I have a problem when you start peeling your clothes off, and getting testy when people get upset as your baby pulls away from you and your whole breast is exposed for half a minute.
Babies should be fed in a private place away from public view and with other breast feeding mothers. They shouldn't be allowed to just pull the whole boob out and expose the public to breastfeeding. If the baby is hungry then the mother should find a quiet, protected area to feed her baby. Seeing it makes me feel awkward and the breast makes me feel perverted for seeing it in public when I shouldn't have to feel that way.
Breast feeding mothers need to cover up, modesty please. It really is that that simple. It is natural, many things are natural, however no one wants to see your personal business. I understand a child needs to eat, take steps to ensure that you are covered and not exposing yourself.
If a woman wishes to breastfeed in public, this is fine, but you should think about covering up your breast. I know its healthy for the child, but it does seem indecent t expect everyone to be OK will the exposed breast. Just cover up, no more issues. Are these women so excited to display their breasts for everyone to see. I have seen young men getting sexually aroused over exposed breasts while the mother feeds the child. It does create a problem, when the mother sits for a moment with her nipple sticking out for the world to see, and then whinging " It's my right". Well it's my right not to expose my twelve year old son to nudity as well.
I think public breastfeeding is fine as long as you cover up. I don't think your breast should be exposed to other people ever especially other peoples' children. My boys are 11 and 13 and I would probably flip out on someone exposing their breast in front of my children and I personally don't want to see an exposed breast. I think you should use a breast pump or cover up and breast feed discreetly.
No one wants a baby to go hungry. I am sure we would all agree on that issue, however, it IS indecent for a woman to bare her breasts in public. There are laws that require people to wear clothing. Those laws should not be ignored in the situation of breastfeeding. Should you feed your baby in public? Absolutely. But should you do it without cover? No. Go to a private area or bathroom. That is not difficult. Once you are done feeding, rejoin everyone. Put a cover over yourself if there is no bathroom nearby.
Pro Public Breast feeders will often say that "Its just a boob. Why are people getting all worked up? Breasts are seen in movies and are less commented on. How can it be wrong to feed my child?" I know that I and other people I know have a problem with seeing nudity anywhere whether in movies or in public. It's indecent. Your body is meant to be seen by your significant other..Not the public. And there IS a difference between a man going shirtless and a woman going shirtless. You don't see a woman mowing her lawn with breasts hanging out.
You could use the same argument in the case of a man being stark naked in a restaurant...Just look away. He's not bothering you. I am sure most of us can agree that seeing a naked man anywhere would be off-putting.
As a woman, By exposing yourself in public, you are also exposing yourself to other men. This is not OK!! And men are very sexual as we all know. If a man sees a woman's breast, it doesn't matter if its wavin' free or got a baby attached to it. Men are attracted to naked women and that includes breasts. My guy friends have told me how hard it is to even be around women who are wearing low cut tops and short shorts. So let's think of the men of our society and stop tempting them.
Breast feeding is beautiful but displaying your breasts in public is not.
Highly populated areas should be a deterrent to breast feeding in public. Why can't a woman go into the bathroom or a secluded corner or your car to breast feed your child? Perfectly acceptable alternative to breast feeding at the dinner table in a restaurant. Public displays of affection is limited in our society and I think breast feeding should follow the same rules. Like the rules for an orgy: if everyone is on board and there's enough space between the group and the rest of the world, go for it.
I don't have an issue with breastfeeding, I just don't want to see someone flopping their breast out in public. If you can be discrete, go for it. If not, please go somewhere else. If your child is old enough to drink out of a cup or even able to get it themselves, they are way too old to be hanging on your breast.
The thing that bothers me most is that many years ago, you would never see a woman public breastfeeding and now women feel empowered and just whip them out whenever they see fit in public. Once you have children, you really can’t have the life you once did without sacrificing some and if you CHOOSE to exclusively breastfeed, you CHOOSE the responsibility that comes along with it. Women need to accept the fact that not everyone is comfortable with public breastfeeding. Like it or not, breastfeeding has been sexualized because breasts have been sexualized, unfortunately that’s just how it is. I think women have a responsibility while out in public, either they need to pump or they need to cover up and not get upset when people are offended by it! And don’t tell me it’s not possible to pump out a bottle because little Johnny won’t take a bottle. Believe it or not, babies will take a bottle if you teach them to, after all one day they will need to LEARN to take a sippy cup and eventually an adult cup, you might as well start with a bottle right. I think women use this as an excuse so that they won’t make extra work for themselves before going out in public with the baby. By the way, this is COMING from a mother who has a 4 month old baby, so please don’t say I don’t have children because I do!
I understand its natural to breastfeed and you cannot help when a baby is hungry but I disagree with the fact that some women will just place the breast out in clear day light. I think it is disrespectful as I don't want to see your breast and I shouldn't have to. I believe you should be able to breast feed in public as long as your cover up aka a blanket so it isn't awkward for other people or yourself.
If we start saying this should be allowed in public who knows what people are gonna start doing in public by saying its a natural act. We're meant to cover ourselves up, not be displaying ourselves for the public to see. Ok, babies need to be fed, but it can be done at the side in a quiet place also being covered up because lets be honest, no one wants to see this. Also just think about it, when you're hungry, majority of the time you most likely go to the side to eat if you have sandwiches, or you go to a cafe/restaurant or something, you won't just sit down in the middle of the shopping mall when people are walking around and start eating would you? So why can you not go to the side to feed your child? Especially when you're going to expose certain parts of yourself. And for gods sake, you know you'll end up getting freaks like fully grown men or women start drinking from a breast, and then saying why not? "im just eating." if its deemed "legal"
I'm totally with breastfeeding and how it's all natural and good for the baby. But, there are (as others have pointed out) other things that are natural to humans but that shouldn't be done in public (sex, urinating, and so on). The fact that breasts are seen as "sex objects" is why so many people, including me, don't want to see breasts in public. I think it is natural and is nothing to be ashamed of but is a private act. I'm not saying run into a bathroom or behind closed doors, but use something to cover up a little.