Now, call me old fashioned, but I take my relationships seriously, IF I HAD ONE! You need to relax her into the relationship, make sure that you dull her senses before seduction. Get her in your grasp and say nice things to her to try and make her pleased. With that, you will win her over.
If there are only subjective reasons to value a relationship, there would be no good reason for anyone to value anyone else's relationships. This seems wrong, since we are asked to accept other people's marriages, etc. Thus, there must be an objective reason to give relationships value, if we are to take them seriously.
It seems that the reason romance exists is to get people to couple up, and then help them stay together. The entire reason that forming a couple, in turn, is valuable because it tends to culminate in sexual intercourse (intercourse between both sexes, that is), which is is objectively valuable. Why is sexual intercourse objectively valuable? Sexual intercourse is objectively valuable because it is the act by which new life is created (procreation). Thus, relationships have objective value because the act of falling in love potentially is the basis for coupling, which has objective value; coupling has objective value because it is the basis for sexual activity; and sexual activity is objectively valuable because it is the basis for procreation. Moreover, sexual activity is objectively not valuable if it is not of the type that begets children (i.E. If it is not vaginal intercourse); coupling is objectively not valuable if it is not of the type that can end in sexual intercourse (i.E. If it is not between two people who could possibly have vaginal intercourse); and, finally, romantic relationships are objectively not valuable if they are not the type that can end in objectively valuable coupling (i.E. Coupling that could conceivably culminate intercourse).
In short, a romantic relationship is only valuable if it can conceivably culminate in a coupling, of a type which could conceivably culminate in sexual intercourse, of a type which could conceivably result in children. Thus, all other relationships, though they might have some sort of value, have no value as romantic relationships. For instance, romantic relationships between two people without genitalia would be objectively valueless as romantic relationships, though they might have value as just friendships or something. If there is some other way romance could possibly have objective value that is not incoherent, please let me know, because I can't find anything else which could give romantic relationships dignity qua romantic relationships.
And it makes me upset when people try. What guves a relationship meaning for you might not guve it meaning for another person. For some, gender roles and procreation give their relationship more meaning, but for some people they dont need thise elements to see their relationship as a meaningful relationship. It varies from peraon to person. So get out of everyones business.