Should a woman be allowed to abort if their child is disabled?

Asked by: Bruinshockeyfan
  • What's the difference?

    So the baby's born without legs, or with Down's Syndrome. It can be seen three ways. A) You're putting the kid out of the misery, pain, and humiliation they would face in their lives, and as such is morally right, the same as if putting a wounded horse down is considered good. B) The parents don't have to deal with even MORE medical care for a child they would have had to pay an arm and a leg for anyway, and C) If they're at an abortion clinic, they were gonna get rid of the unborn brat anyway. Why would the kid being disabled change their minds about killing it? If anything, it would insure they would pay for a cheap abortion.

  • Women who abort

    Due to disability are more often than not, not doing it for the reasons of 'ew, I can't give birth to that' or 'what will the neighbours think?' Most parents carefully consider their situation and if they make the heart breaking decision to abort, it will be for the right reasons.
    Perhaps they are not in a financially appropriate place to have a child who will need extra care for the rest of its life. Perhaps they may not even be emotionally sound with the idea of watching their child suffer. Or maybe they may think that if their child is born with said problems then it will be in too much pain for life to be worth it at all.

  • If that is their choice.

    I'm not a big fan of that particular reason, but that doesn't mean I should impede on a choice. It's not my place to tell someone what to do with a pregnancy.

    Sure, medical tests have been wrong. But why force someone to go through nine months of pain, worry, and insecurity just to see if it is wrong? People say to put it up for adoption if someone doesn't want to raise a disabled child. Have you seem how unlikely it is that a disabled child will be adopted? The foster system is overcrowded as it is anyway, and what if the parent doesn't know anyone they can trust to take care of the child? And even if they do, it doesn't change the fact that pregnancy is the most strenuous and potentially fatal thing a person with a womb can go through (even for a fetus that is wanted and the parents are told it will be able bodied and neurotypical), especially with America's abnormally high maternal death rate. You really want someone to risk sickness, permanent complications, poverty, and death just because you don't like an option they have.

    To be honest, I'd rather see a parent admit they can't look after a disabled child or don't want one and abort when the fetus is incapable of feeling pain, fear, or betrayal, than to leave them rotting in a crap system (where even healthy children are likely to end up abused) or neglect them, or murder them out of the resentment or so-called desperation because they'll get sympathy for it. Sure, it doesn't happen all the time, but that doesn't change the fact it still happens, and way too often.

    Also, as a disabled person myself, if my mother aborted me, I wouldn't be here to care and even though she didn't, I'm still happy she had the option.

    One more thing, to be very honest, I am getting sick of Pro-lifers using us non-Neurotypical and non-able bodied folks as nothing more than props in their movement while pretending to care about us.

  • If it's what they choose.

    I don't like it myself, but that doesn't mean it isn't a parent's right. I have no place telling them what to do with a pregnancy.

    Even if medical tests and scans have been wrong before, why force someone to go through the pregnancy if they don't wish to anymore just to

  • Absolutely and it's probably the best reason to abort.

    I see no point in raising for example, a mentally retarded child. Take the emotion out of it and consider the fact that this persons life will never live up to any sort of potential and will ultimately die alone and in a state of confusion.

    Further, it's a lot to ask of any parent to care for and love a permanently malfunctioning child. Those saying such children are a "blessing" are delusional. Such severe disabilities are debilitating and it's cruel to let them go on knowing the life they will lead. Even in the animal kingdom, the weakest and lamest are culled from the herd.

  • It is their choice.

    A woman should have the right to abort any child under her rights. It is by choice. Our world is over populated as it is. Why should there be a child that will serve barely a purpose in our society if the child will have the disability that causes them to barely be functional in the everyday world?
    I believe that a person who is disabled beyond basic human interaction is not worthy of taking up our resources.

  • Yes, its their choice.

    I personally dont agree with it but its their body and if they want to its none of my buisness. Some woman may not be able to afford or have the time or rescouces for a disabled child. Its not fair for the parents to have to do this when they didnt ask for it. Its also not fair if the child is severely disabled to have them suffer for their whole lives.

  • Why force children, disabled or not, to parents who know they cannot look after them?

    Some people are aware that they are not the right kind of people to raise disabled children, or any children at all, or that it is not the right moment for them to take such a task. I think it's a huge blessing to everybody that they know themselves enough to avoid decisions that might be disastrous in a lot of ways. In my opinion, the real problem is the people who make decisions based on wrong assumptions (such as the beliefs that a disabled child will be inevitably miserable or a pure "gift" that nobody should refuse) or don't even really think it through.
    If a person makes an informed and thoughtful decision about something that might change his/her entire life, it should be respected. And it seems to me that the idea that everyone is up to the hard (but in many cases very rewarding) task of raising a disabled child is an insult to the parents who choose to have a disabled child without being coerced.

  • It depends on the case, which is to say individual circumstance and variables.

    Parents must arrive at a sense of certainty about peripheral family, financial, socio-emotional, and life quality impacts should the retarded child be born. If there is a sense of certainty, that there is a net positive outcome, after hardships have been factored, and the underlining structures support this net positive outcome will endure, then parents should go through with the pregnancy. If there is a net negative outcome, after hardships have been factored, both for the parents and the child, then the child should be aborted -thereby grieved appropriately.

  • Why would you let a child live like that?

    Call me heartless but I will never be a mother of a child with special needs. I don't have the financial means, let alone the strength to do so. It makes me cringe when people say their disabled child is a "gift from God." I'm not talking about the ones who are independent, highly intelligent and great people despite being blind, deaf, nonverbal, etc. I'm talking about the ones who are so badly affected they can't walk, talk, and they just pick their nose and wipe their boogers on people and not know what the hell they're doing. They just sit there, forever in a state of confusion, and they don't have any self-awareness whatsoever. The worst part is that there's almost no way to help them either.

    The parents who say that "gift from God" shit are either lying to themselves or they're insanely delusional. Why would a "loving" God condemn an innocent child to a life like that? I agree with AngstChrist, when you take out the emotional aspect, you realize the child will never live up to any potential and they'll just die alone in some institution in a catatonic state. That's just heartbreaking when you realize that...

    Honestly I'd rather see a parent admit they don't have the strength to take care of a disabled child and abort when the fetus doesn't have the capability to feel pain, than to lie to themselves saying their child is a "blessing." Think about it, what's worse, aborting the fetus knowing it has problems that can't be fixed, or seeing your child suffer every single day, never becoming independent, always being abused, taken advantage of, and just being treated differently by the people around them... How is that being "blessed?" That's just torture, especially when they don't even know what's going on around them, which emotionally upsets them.

    In the end, it's more cruel to let them live on, knowing the life they'll live, than to just put them out of their misery. Either way, it's all a part of natural selection, this happens in the animal kingdom as well. The weak and lame are culled from the gene pool- it's been genetically encoded in us for eons.

  • That is ignorant.

    So let's have sex and have a baby, but if I find out along the way it is disabled get rid of it. Great thinking! I guess the kid doesn't deserve a future just because he is seen as an embarrassment to some people? Who cares what people think. These children who are disabled give so much more this world than any of us "normal" people.

  • It is selfish.

    I do believe abortion should exist for only one or two reasons, one of those being if the mother's life is in danger. But letting abortions take place just because the child is unable to do something mentally and physically like healthy people is NOT a good reason to abort. It's selfish. First and foremost, when you have sex, especially if it is unprotected, YOU are responsible for what happens afterward. And even if the child can't do things like someone that is healthy, this does not mean that they can't be the best thing that ever happened to not only the parents, but to the world as a whole. Mentally and physically challenged people have taught many lessons throughout history. It would be a shame to abort someone that could change our society for the better.

  • A yes vote would be crazy

    First I am the proud father of a little girl with Down's Syndrome she is 9 years old and doing ok at school, yes behind but reading and doing math at a 1st grade level. However, she is the MOST loving person you will ever meet, she excepts everyone for who they are, she comforts anyone she sees sad and is trluly concerned for others, she is a very happy person with a bright future. So who are the disabled? The ones who love or the ones who think the worst of people?
    Most people abort a child with a disability because they are afraid, if you are so afraid put the child up for adoption, there is a waiting list adopting kids with Down's.
    Are there other disabilities that are worse, sure or maybe, we attend chuch with severe disabilty confined to a wheel chair, cannot speak, she will graduate college this year. Another young woman was born with no legs, cannot hear or speak, her sign language vocab. Has been measured in the thousands of words. Unlike some people who can use only four letter words to express feeling this girl is quite articulate thru sign language

  • No, it is not fair to the Child.

    Abortion should not exist in my opinion, EXCEPT in cases where it threatens the mother or baby's life. The problem is people having sex and not wanting to take responsibility for their actions. One may argue that it is the woman's body and therefore her right to have an abortion, but don't all humans have the right to "Life, Liberty, and The Pursuit of Happiness." If one has an unwanted child, regardless of mental disabilities it deserves to live, try to take care of it or put it up for adoption. Killing an unborn child is no way to solve a problem that you having sex caused.

  • I am disabled

    Hey I am happy to be alive and I am not a burden on my parents. I was adopted from a foreign country which is poor and I now live in the U.S. Safe and sound. I probably could have been aborteed but, my birth mother decided not to. If you were disabled and you could hear your parents talking about aborting you,would you try to stop them if you could?

  • You aren't 100% certain the child is disabled

    You can't be one hundred percent certain that the child will be born disabled. I think this because I saw a post on Reddit about how a doctor told a Redditor that his daughter was probably mentally retarded and should be aborted, but the Redditor refused, and the daughter is now on honor roll in Pre-K.

  • Female Infantcide no different.

    The yes argument is no different to those who believe having a female is a burden on their lives. They should not be allowed to have an abortion if they go for genetic testing. And if there's a unique circumstance for abortion it should be assessed by the medical council.

  • It is cruel.

    Should we deny the God-given right to life because someone is physically or mentally impaired? The answer is no. People shouldn't have to die because they aren't the same as everyone else. Plenty of disabled people I know are still happy, even if they have to use a wheelchair or they are behind in school. And you want to kill them because of that? God forbid they have any other talents that might make them as worthy as any other individual, like being smart or creative.

  • A life is a life

    If you want to have intercourse then you run the risk of becoming pregnant. This is a responsibility, of you choose to do this then you are responsible for the consequences and this can mean caring for a child, it can also mean caring for a child with a disability.

  • A life is a life and it's not your choice to determine whether or not it's worth living.

    Most people with disabilities are happy, amazing people just like everyone else. Labelling it as 'us' and 'them' is demeaning and degrading. They're human and deserve as much of a life as anyone else. Their life should not be taken away from them because of their parents' financial position, ethics, etc. Mother, Father and baby have equal rights and ought to be treated as so. If it's illegal to take your own life and the life of an adult, why should it be legal to take a disabled person's life? This whole idea reflects the ideology of the holocaust- when Hitler exterminated hundreds of thousands of disabled people. Why was that not okay, but this is???

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