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Should children be raised without a concept of gender?

  • Yes they should

    Children should be able to choose they gender in which they feel most confortable and should not be told what they should and should not be. So many children in today's society feel trapped by their gender and should be able to express themselves without fear of rejection and negativity.

  • Biological sex exists, but gender is made up and we should help it die.

    Gender is created by society. Biological sex exists. At least with current technology, regardless of what surgeries they may undergo to modify external genitalia, a person born male will never be able to ovulate and carry a child in a uterus, while a person born female will never be able to produce sperm. But, that is the extent of the difference between males and females. Having ovaries and a vagina doesn't make you better at doing dishes, or make you like pink nail polish. It is not innate that people who have penises like blue and are interested in trains and construction equipment. If we, as a society, never implied to our children that nail polish was for people who have vaginas, heterosexual males may choose to wear it, too, because they would feel like they were allowed to like whatever they want, without criticism or isolation from the society around them. It seems to be a bit more socially acceptable in our society for females to like stereotypically male things, such as football. But, males who like to wear garments that do not have a division between the legs (like a skirt), or carry their belongings in a stylish bag (or purse) are not so easily accepted. These behaviors are associated with homosexuality. We can't fathom that a biological male may like the convenience and style of carrying a purse, and be attracted to women, as well. Women can be engineers, but we still laugh at the concept of male nannies. We encourage little girls to play with dolls, because society historically taught us that girls will grow up to rear children, while we encourage boys to play with toy excavators, because they will work outside the home. This no longer matches how adults are living today. It's now common for men and women to share the responsibilities of housekeeping and raising children equally. So why don't we buy dolls and kitchen sets for our boys? Gender roles and the concept of 2 polar opposite genders were created by society, not biology. So why do they still exist today? It seems to outdated. Why do we make fun of a male child who likes pink, and tell him he's "gay" because he likes dolls? Why can't he be heterosexual and like to play with dolls (because he wants to be a dad)? Why do we create the notion that boys who play with dolls will become gay? Why do we create the notion that girls who are tomboys are less "feminine"? Why do we think sports are anti-feminine? That's just a construct of society. A penis is not required to play or watch sports. It's society that criticizes us when we don't comply with these man-made "norms". But we should question why they exist, and stop enforcing them. Eventually, over the course of several generations, we could do away with them and finally see what males and females would be like, socially, without society-imposed likes and dislikes and roles.

  • Biological sex exists, but gender is made up and we should help it die.

    Gender is created by society. Biological sex exists. At least with current technology, regardless of what surgeries they may undergo to modify external genitalia, a person born male will never be able to ovulate and carry a child in a uterus, while a person born female will never be able to produce sperm. But, that is the extent of the difference between males and females. Having ovaries and a vagina doesn't make you better at doing dishes, or make you like pink nail polish. It is not innate that people who have penises like blue and are interested in trains and construction equipment. If we, as a society, never implied to our children that nail polish was for people who have vaginas, heterosexual males may choose to wear it, too, because they would feel like they were allowed to like whatever they want, without criticism or isolation from the society around them. It seems to be a bit more socially acceptable in our society for females to like stereotypically male things, such as football. But, males who like to wear garments that do not have a division between the legs (like a skirt), or carry their belongings in a stylish bag (or purse) are not so easily accepted. These behaviors are associated with homosexuality. We can't fathom that a biological male may like the convenience and style of carrying a purse, and be attracted to women, as well. Women can be engineers, but we still laugh at the concept of male nannies. We encourage little girls to play with dolls, because society historically taught us that girls will grow up to rear children, while we encourage boys to play with toy excavators, because they will work outside the home. This no longer matches how adults are living today. It's now common for men and women to share the responsibilities of housekeeping and raising children equally. So why don't we buy dolls and kitchen sets for our boys? Gender roles and the concept of 2 polar opposite genders were created by society, not biology. So why do they still exist today? It seems to outdated. Why do we make fun of a male child who likes pink, and tell him he's "gay" because he likes dolls? Why can't he be heterosexual and like to play with dolls (because he wants to be a dad)? Why do we create the notion that boys who play with dolls will become gay? Why do we create the notion that girls who are tomboys are less "feminine"? Why do we think sports are anti-feminine? That's just a construct of society. A penis is not required to play or watch sports. It's society that criticizes us when we don't comply with these man-made "norms". But we should question why they exist, and stop enforcing them. Eventually, over the course of several generations, we could do away with them and finally see what males and females would be like, socially, without society-imposed likes and dislikes and roles.

  • Gender roles are bad!

    If children are raised with gender they become just another conformity. This will slow the process of change in the world. If gender roles are supported by everyone but one person, that person will be an outsider. This would not help with the socially accepting the transgender / gay/ lesbian out-casting.

  • Gender roles are bad!

    If children are raised with gender they become just another conformity. This will slow the process of change in the world. If gender roles are supported by everyone but one person, that person will be an outsider. This would not help with the socially accepting the transgender / gay/ lesbian out-casting.

  • Yes, Gender is irrelevant

    Firstly, gender and sex are two very different things. Sex actually refers to your physical anatomy. Should males and females be separated into separate changing areas? Well, that is a whole other debate. Gender, however, refers to a perceived set of societal norms (i.E. Women cook, clean and take care of children; men work outside the home, do less housework, are less emotional...Etc., assigned to being "male" or "female". Why shouldn't you raise your daughter to work hard outside the home? Or to take out the trash? Or to pursue a typical male field of study such as engineering? Why not encourage your son to pursue his dream of being a stage actor? Or a ballet dancer? Or let him wear pink, purple, whatever colours he would prefer and for the love of God...Teach him to vacuum a house and braid hair (for if he has daughter of his own). The problem with raising kids with gender is that you raise them with limitations. You daughter might stick to nursing instead of becoming a neurosurgeon, your son might hide his true passions in life and hide behind typical "masculine" interests. This isn't the 1940s.

  • Yes they should

    Children should be able to decide what gender they should be. Traditional gender roles have negatively shaped society. It is worse when it comes to religion. Men are seen as "superior to Women" in the Bible. Disgusting huh? Society is so influenced, they make books, media, etc. Show outdated stereotypes.

  • An absence of a constant concept of gender will aid equal rights

    I feel as though the concept of gender will always be implied throughout a persons life. They will always be looked at as a 'Male' or 'Female' yet I do not think that we have to enforce those when raising a child. Along with concepts of gender come gender roles and the societal acceptance of those gender roles is what enables sexist views to continue within the family, media, pornography, schools, the workplace, etc. There is so much research that has shown how 'females' tend to be more reserved in school, they tend to not fight for promotions and raises in the workplace and this stems from the ideologies attached to the gender roles we enforce on children when we raise them with a constant gender and expect them to abide by that gender and not stray. I definitely think that children are much much MORE socially disadvantaged when they are raised with a CONSTANT concept of gender.

  • "Gender" is socially constructed

    To start, this question isn't well worded. Of course as a child ages and approaches his or her school years - he/she will eventually learn what our society has deemed as socially "acceptable" or "unacceptable" in relation to one's biological sex. Too often "gender" is confused with "sex." Biological sex, it's the body parts and genetic make up people are born with. From the minute babies take their first breath in the outside world - they're influenced by society's views and expected to adhere to the gender script they've automatically been assigned based on what's between their legs. "Gender" is used dictate the acceptable ways one should act or behave, talk, etc. in regards to the social norms for their biological sex. As a society over time we have constructed what's considered masculine vs. Feminine. We have made the rules that limit people. We decided that playing football is for men and cooking a woman's work. We decided that clothing in the form in of ties is "manly" while dresses are "girly." Innately, humans aren't born with the knowledge that "dresses are for women." We as a society have both decided this and then taught our children that. Colors like, pink and purple - society decided these are colors for women. Nobody comes out of the womb thinking this way.

    As mentioned earlier, the question isn't worded well, because parents can choose to raise their child through gender neutral parenting, and when we mention raising children we automatically picture parents. This isn't to say one's child will forever be shielded from the concept of gender, because it's so subtly incorporated into nearly all aspects of our lives.

    So to answer this question via example - across the globe billions are born into a world where different expectations and definitions of gender exist based on location. So many tribes, in Africa for example, do not sexualize female breasts. Going topless is not a gender "inappropriate" expression for women there; instead it's more of a norm that was created by their society

  • They are born with it.

    I'm sorry but saying kids can just choose their gender is scientifically incorrect. Gender is determined long before birth. Imagine if boys and girls could use whatever bathrooms/locker rooms they want to use. It might not be bad at a young age, but after puberty the need for separation and privacy rises. Imagine all the perverts who claim to be transgender just so that they could go in the other locker room. I think we should try to avoid gender stereotypes, but some identification is necessary (otherwise boys and girls will divide based on who fits in best with each gender stereotype).

  • Children should be able to categorise themselves as male or female

    I personally think its child abuse to raise the child gender-neutral or genderless. Although for a short period of years (Up until 2), being genderless may open up opportunities to play with toys that aren't gender specific, it would terribly confuse and cause psychological issues when they interact with different children. Not being able to categorise or identity themselves as either female or male will definitely trigger emotional, social and mental issues and may end up with serious mental disorders such as depression and anxiety. If the child grows up and decides to be either a male or female, then its their choice, however enforcing the child to be raised genderless without their personal say, is not healthy and abusive.

  • Humans are Male and Female for a Reason

    Gender roles have been a part of humanity ever since apes learned how to think in abstract terms millions of years ago. Gender is a biological way for humans to procreate. Gender roles don't necessarily have to be followed later in life. However, boys and girls need to be raised knowing that there are differences between boys and girls. How those roles turn out depends on many complex factors played out later in life.

  • Children Must be raised with a concept of gender

    If you raise a child without a concept of gender it will mess them up for the remainder of their life. They will be socially awkward and be made fun of in school, at a job, in public. Why would you want to submit your child to the humiliation of that. Every child needs to know there are socially acceptable things for both girls and boys and that each gender can do somethings that the others cant.

  • No, children should be aware of gender to be socially adept

    I feel that children should definitely be raised WITH a concept of gender, so they are not at a disadvantage socially when they attend school and interact with other children. Raising children without a concept of gender serves no purpose, since during their entire adult lives they will be entirely aware of gender.

  • Children should be able to categorise themselves as male or female

    I personally think its child abuse to raise the child gender-neutral or genderless. Although for a short period of years (Up until 2), being genderless may open up opportunities to play with toys that aren't gender specific, it would terribly confuse and cause psychological issues when they interact with different children. Not being able to categorise or identity themselves as either female or male will definitely trigger emotional, social and mental issues and may end up with serious mental disorders such as depression and anxiety. If the child grows up and decides to be either a male or female, then its their choice, however enforcing the child to be raised genderless without their personal say, is not healthy and abusive.

  • Gender does exist

    Eventually, someone would figure out that there are differences. Biologically speaking, of course. Although, even though there are differences in a female and male brain, we shouldn't focus on our genders. They don't shape us, but look at every species. There are differences, but we're all one species. Gender stereotypes are what's wrong, gender roles. Just because there are biological differences doesn't mean it shapes who a person is. I don't consider myself like a woman or a man. I am me, having that sense is a great thing. But blinding someone from the truth is wrong, teach them gender doesn't matter, you aren't labeled or defined by it, but gender exists, therefore don't LIE to your children just because you're afraid they'll form into society's "ideals". This was just a silly worded question.

  • This question is VERY poorly worded

    Raising children without a concept of gender is idiotic. They need that understanding to function in our society. However, gender roles and expectations should NOT be imposed on children. They should be presented with all of the options for who they can choose to be, without weight given to traditional gender roles. In addition, they should be given a multifaceted understanding of how gender is perceived in our society, including the problems associated with society's assumptions about men and women. Children should be raised with a more critical understanding of gender, not without a concept of gender at all.

  • Not Ideal In Today's World

    I believe if you want to raise a child in today's world it is natural to raise them with a concept of gender. I do not believe it is possible to raise a child in modern society without addressing the concept of gender. While you may be able to avoid it for a few years, your child will often get curious far before they are old enough to make their own decisions.

  • But they should be raised without a concept of gender roles

    We can teach kids about gender without having to also teach them that boys do or wear certain things and girls do or wear certain things. People are confusing "gender" and "gender roles". They are not the same thing. "Gender" isn't what you wear or how you act, it's how your body is OR what you would like your body to be like (in the case of transsexuals).


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polaroid_beach says2015-04-13T06:43:57.230
I think a lot of people here are confusing gender and sex. Your sex is if you are a male or female. Your gender what is socially identified with you.