Should men get paternity leave from work? |
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I personally believe that the mother should be at home with the child during it's most formative years, though I know that is viewed as old-fashioned. However, if we are to create an environment of equality between genders, in the workplace, a father needs to be viewed as equal to the mother, thus employers should have to give equal parenting time.
Posted by: medic0506Paternity leave
Yes I do believe paternity leave should be allowed. It is just as important a role of the father as of the mother. The bonding is important i believe from birth on. A father is as equal a parent as is the mother and if leave is allowed for a mother it should be allowed for the father.
Posted by: jcrosby838Men should absolutely get paternity leave from work, because it makes the family unit healthier.
I think, in the long run, families would be much healthier if men also got a few weeks of paternity leave. It could also help temporary workers out as well, creating jobs that weren't there before. A mother would be far more relaxed and confident if she had an extra pair of hands during the first few weeks after a baby is born. The family could bond better and there would be fewer problems, down the line, for families. It would make for happier, healthier families.
Posted by: PointlessElbert47YES YES YES!!!
I think its just as important for the father of a new baby get paternity leave from work just as women do because for so many woman this is a family experience. It may be a whole new adventure for a family. In some cases mothers could have experienced difficulties during labor and delievery and healing time is needed for the mother and having help from the father could be VERY helpful!
Posted by: AnonymousThis isn't 1892!!
We are independent equals with men and you see how people without fathers end up. How could you degrade yourself by saying that men don't need to take care of children? That's the exact same mentality people had when women were not allowed to vote! Men need to be parents as well, and they deserve some time with their child
Posted by: AnonymousOf course they should
If men can't have the option to have paternity leave that is just yet another example of women saying they want to be equal unless it doesn't benefit them. Its obvious that a father figure is just as important throughout every part of a child's life. It shouldn't even be up for debate.
Posted by: mjgyorfiYES! YES! YES!
Because when the mom is pregnant, the dad has a lot of stress. Getting screamed at and trying to forgive, holding her hair back when she pukes, cutting her toenails, etc.. Being a dad is just as important as a mom's job, the mom doesn't simply do more than the father.
Posted by: Anonymousbecause women shouldn't have to do it all on their own.
When men go to work all day, they do not want to deal with a crying newborn, so the woman has to still take care of the baby. If the dad had paternity leave too, they would be able to share the responsiblities easier. That way the mom would not be so stressed out.
Posted by: AnonymousPaternity leave for men will support strong family bonding.
Men have just as much right, need and obligation to spend quality time bonding with and caring for a newborn. With families living isolated from close relatives, it may be difficult for the mother's family to support her after the birth of the baby as was tradition. Now, with paternity leave, the father can play this important role. Beyond this, it helps the father cement his relationship with his new child.
Posted by: 54IInfernoI support men getting paternity leave from work, as this is a life-changing event that they should be a part of.
Men should get paternity leave from work for a reasonable amount of time, because they are going through a life-changing event that they need to be a part of. Statistics have proven that men that are an active part of their children's births and are present for the first few weeks after, have a stronger bond with their children, making them better fathers, and giving the children a better environment to grow up in.
Posted by: R3yn4FerIiYes, men should get paternity leave from work, because they have special jobs to do during a pregnancy and they need to bond with their newborn child.
A young father has a need to bond with their child, just as much as a mother does. A man might not have the physical pains of childbirth to worry about, but they are taking care of a wife who does. There are also cases where a single father has a newborn child due to the mother dying in childbirth, or something along those lines, and they have a need to take care of their newborn as much as any mother. Most of all, denying men paternity leave, but giving it to a women every time she gets knocked up, would be a form of sexist favoritism, as there are no "men only" forms of time off.
Posted by: H_BairdYes there should be forced paternity leave for men
If a young woman and a young man goes to a job interview and they are both equally qualified for the job, then the manager will most likely hire the male because he have a lesser chance of taking paternity leave. It would also be of great help for the woman that he could take his paternity leave as she returns to the workforce.
Posted by: OllerupMandYes they should as Mum needs a break...
Without me at home, my partner (Mother to my child) is going to struggle all day when she is supposed to be resting. Men should be allowed 2 weeks full paid paternity leave as the last thing new parents need to worry about is their wages being cut for a small period while they work hard to make a child's first few weeks in this world a little easier on everybody.
Posted by: AnonymousIt Should Be Up to the Couple
Both the father and the mother should get a set amount of time they can distribute among themselves as parental leave. This would allow flexibility and is the most fair option. Only allowing women to get leave is sexist, but requiring an equal split would ignore the personal needs of families.
Posted by: MasturDbtorYes it should be
The fathers didn't do much work for the mothers when the mothers were giving birth. So, the fathers now have to help the mothers and one helping cause could be about caring for the baby. So, I believe that the men should get paternity leave from work.
Posted by: AnonymousMothers should not be expected to do all the housework.
A mother shouldn't have to do all the housework because she just gave birth to a child who needs full time attention. Also the mother's body is still recuperating from child birth. The father should be there to care for other children, clean, and cook. It should not be only the mother balancing everything with the father not helping.
Posted by: AnonymousYes, because their wives need their help after a child is born.
When a woman gives birth to a child, it is emotionally and physically draining. If a father has the opportunity to stay home for the first couple of weeks to care for both his wife and his new child, it will make a world of difference. I don't believe that paternity leave needs to be several months like maternity leave is. But giving men a few weeks will have a positive effect on home, family life, and happiness.
Posted by: MariaROf Course They Should!
A lot of people on here in my opinion regardless of gender are basing their arguments on sexist rubbish such as, they haven't done any of the work, or what do they have to recover from. The answer would be they don't need to recover from anything but it is important that they have that time to bond with their newborn, help out regardless of whether this is a first time or second time child-because the introduction of a new baby to a family is never easy and i feel that a father should be as involved in the first weeks of a childs life as much as a mothers. Fathers these days are taking a more active role in pregnancy and birth and therefore should be allowed time off, even if only for a few weeks to adjust just as the mother has been given time off. The mother has to take 2 weeks but has the option at any point up till a year to return to work if she wants to-why deny the father those 2 weeks too?
Posted by: AnonymousMEN Deserve bonding time too!
The importance of early infant attachment cannot be overstated. It is at the heart of healthy child development and lays the foundation for relating intimately with others, including spouses and children. It affects parents' abilities to nurture and to be responsive to their children. The effects of infant attachment are long-term, influencing generations of families.
Posted by: AnonymousIf maternity leave than paternity leave should also be allowed
To support gender equilibrium paternity leaves should be allowed .It is very important as the father can bond with his child,mother can fully heal and to strengthen the family unit. At some particular point of time a mother can't handle everything including herself which makes it difficult for the baby or mother too so she needs a helping hand. It would be great if paternity leaves are allowed as it helps to strengthen the family relationship and fathers get a chance to spend time with their babies and understand them properly.
Posted by: AnonymousYes
To take care of the wife, obviously she is on leave because she can't do much. Plus, what if she goes into labor, he needs to be there. Also, the baby can sense who is around most when the mother is pregnant so the father needs to be there so the child knows their father is there for them.
Posted by: AnonymousThe whole purpose of paternity leave
Not only is it for bonding purposes but helping the mother heal and the things she can’t do after labor like cleaning and cooking and helping her with taking care of the baby. “Most of the men can't take care of the baby and can't even take care of themselves.” This statement is so untrue and small minded do to the fact that if a man can help procreate the child he sure as hell (excuse the language) can help take care of the mother and baby.
Posted by: MsJessieBabyUm, yeah... Duh!
Of course men should have paternity leave. No, their bodies don't have to recover from labor, but the mother's does. While she is resting he can care for the newborn. Men are not as incompetent as people think. Most men do just fine with babies. The mother should not be expected to do it all by themselves because it is a lot of work.
Posted by: Anonymousequal rights goes both ways
Equal means equal...You could do this problem with math...Simplistic.. I don't know why you need 50 words to debate this but..Why should a woman be given preference over a man? Is that equal? Other than breast feeding, what qualifies a woman to be better at taking care of a child? Saying that there is a difference is saying that whites are superior to blacks..Indians are ignorant and weak..Osama bin laden was right in the eyes of few..Want it equal? Lets make it equal
Posted by: AnonymousWhy should only one parent get that option when both are responsible for the child?
By giving leave only to mothers, that is perpetuating the cult of domesticity and the idea that women are primarily responsible for the children. What about men who stay at home while women work? Or when both parents continue working? These may be less frequent occurrences, but they do happen. Both parents need to be able to take off time to care for their children. Who it is that does so should be up to them and the dynamics of their family. It only makes sense that it should be equal.
Posted by: AnonymousMy own father wasn't there.
My father was not with me as a child. I hardly know anything about him. I couldn't even tell you his favorite color. Or his favorite song. There is no way in hell I am going to let that happen again. I want to spend time with my little Aedon. I want to teach him all the things my father didn't teach me. It doesn't matter whether I get paid time off or not. I don't want my girlfriend to be in this alone. It's not that I don't want to get time off work, it's that I want to make every second with my baby count. A little quality time. That's it.
Posted by: Chris_Scott_CornettI agree. Father should Utilize the Leaves.
Taking paternity leave is not a compulsion. It is more of a need for many. People who disagree have a very good point of a Father need to work and working all day does not loosen the bond with kids, its their role. I agree to the point, but your statement/thought is true in general. Let me put it in 2 points,
1) Fathers should take paternity leave if they feel a need to help his spouse. He can continue to work after the leave and family is not holding him then.
2) You do not become a Father every year, oh yes you could. Those few weeks are the time when any additional help can help both the child and Mother's health. And yes there is no other occasion when a father can take a paid time off and spend time with his family for so long.Posted by: AnonymousWomen need help to heal after giving birth and who better to help than her spouse?
It is now the 21st century. Women no longer just stay home and care for the family. They also work and in order to go back to work in good enough shape they're going to need help. Plus, men need the chance to have that special bonding time with their family!
Posted by: AnonymousPaternity leave should be handled in the same way maternity leave is.
Paternity leave should, without a doubt, be allowed to men. In a world of equal rights, both parents should qualify for leave on the event of a new birth. There should not be a stipulation that only women should get a leave on the birth of a child. Men should get one the same as women.
Posted by: 5h4tAnkIyeah
because men sometimes actually do a little more than the wife and take care of the baby too.
men can relax the women and they always take care of the baby. it makes it more easier on the women, they need their rest. So the father could be their to help out more. Also the father is a parent to and deserve to be treated just how the mother do.Posted by: AnonymousMen should definitely get paternity leave from work
Because it makes it more easier on the women, they need their rest. So the father could be their to help out more. Also the father is a parent to and deserve to be treated just how the mother do. Also it makes that baby and family healthier and fewer problems.
Posted by: AnonymousYES
Father's deserve to be home just as much as the mother does because spending the first month or so with a baby can determine the relationship between the child and parents for later in the childs life. If the father gets paternity leave being able to spend time with his family getting to know his son or daughter and also helping out his wife as much as possible because she is going to need help
Posted by: AnonymousYes because men need it too.
While men are not having the baby grow inside of them they should get a leave because they help the women while they are having growth in the uterus. Also after the baby is born they need leave to take care of everything while the women recovers. Also they also need time to bond with their baby as well take some of the heat off the women for a couple of weeks. What's the big deal?
Posted by: AnonymousFathers do help.
I am a father who took unpaid leave to be with my wife and child. I took care of the baby while my wife rested. She took care of the baby while I rested. We worked in shifts until my wife recovered enough that she didn't have to rest as much. We both got time to bond with the baby. It took a while to recover financially and a paid leave would have been better, seems my wife lost her job on maternity leave because she used all of her FMLA days due to having to be off with complications prior to the birth.
Posted by: Anonymousfathers are an important part in their childs development
men are parents and i believe that both parents should be able to bond with their children durring this very critical timeif a child and a family is to develop healthily. i believe it would also help repair the desparity between the sexes in this country.
Posted by: AnonymousI think men should get the work days off because
When your wife has just risked her life to give birth to your son/daughter, you should at least stay home and help out. With the extra help, your wife can rest and build up strength for when you have to go back to work. This will also allow for some much needed bonding time.
Posted by: mazealluasSexism
It is sexist to think that only women get paternity leave from work. It implies that women take care of the baby at home, while the man does work and earn the money. The woman also needs a break. I mean she just brought another person in this world for crying out loud!
Posted by: AnonymousWho says the mom has to do all the work?
Seriously.
Posted by: rogueIt is acceptable for men to get paternity leave if it is the wife who is the main bread winner.
Men should be allowed paternity leave from work in certain circumstances. Today, many wives are employed in jobs where they make much more money than their husbands make. If such a wife were to have a baby, she needs to stay home for a short while to take care of the baby. Then the husband could ask for paternity leave for a few weeks and take care of the baby while his higher-earning wife goes back to work. I know of several "house husbands" who do this because their wives make much more money than they do.
Posted by: ep0xihusky
i disagree
you have to relize yes the women did it all but relize your husbands gonna be home and doing everything cleaning cooking do it all while you relax sleep do what you need to do so idk why you are saying no if theres a positive side to you women and a good husband would help around the house while you rest
Posted by: AnonymousTime off for what?!
What does his vagina need to recover from? And what kind of a woman is so dependent on her husband/boyfriend that she needs him taking care of her after doing something as natural as giving birth. A hundred years ago women used to plow the fields, squat, have a baby then go do the wash by hand. When did we get so soft? And what job is it that the father is at for so many hours that he cant come home and cook dinner/clean/feed new baby all in the same day? He doesn't need time off he needs to work harder at home when he finishes his work day.
Posted by: AnonymousI disagree
Men should stay at work.....My Father wasn't home with me to bond, why should Fathers get it now?? I'm just as close to my Father even if he wasn't home during the day.
This Politically correct world is making me sick. I'm a woman and didn't have any kids, I don't even think women should get a year off. I think if you want kids that badly, and like I hear so many Mothers say how much they love their kids, then stay home full time with them. People say they can't afford it. They can't afford it only because they want all the material things in life, which is not always the most important thing.Posted by: AnonymousNo women did all the work for making the baby fathers did NOTHING!
No, because the father's body did absolutely nothing to make the baby. The father's body doesn't need to recuperate at home nor does the father have his hormones out of whack. If men get paternity leave just to "bond" with the baby then women should get 2 maternity leaves one to recover from giving birth and pregnancy and the other maternity leave to "bond" with the baby.
Posted by: AnonymousThis is a pointless question.
Men do nothing to deserve paternity leave. It is the woman who carry around the baby inside her for 9 months. They are the ones to have to be careful with what they eat, or what they do. The women are the ones gaining weight, and putting more pressure on their back when they fetus starts to grow bigger inside them. Men are to provide for the family. Meaning while the girl is resting, regaining her stability, and caring for the child the man should be bringing home money for her and their child.
Posted by: AnonymousMen should not get paternity leave because, by using that logic, women should get two maternity leaves.
The reason maternity leave exists is for giving birth and recovering from child birth, which men cannot do. So, the basis for paternity leave would be a "mental break" from their work, and women can fall into this category as well. So therefore, if men get paternity leave, women should get an extra maternity leave, regardless of having a child.
Posted by: elizafeklaMen should not get paternity leave from work, because there is no viable reason to allow them that privilege.
There is no compelling argument for granting men paternity leave from work, while there are viable reasons to deny. First, it would be an additional expense to businesses. Business is already over-restricted and over-taxed, so, adding additional overhead is not an option. If the father acts like a father, he and the child will bond. If the father doesn't act like a father, he and the child will not bind, regardless of whether he is at home or at work.
Posted by: JamieMTime off for what?
Leave off from work should be dedicated only to the mother. This time off allows her to mentally and physically heal after giving birth. Additionally, the mother can nurse the baby and acquire the sleep that is needed to bounce back.
The father of the baby should continue to work and support his family. Taking time off, especially without pay, would cause a financial burden.
If the father believes that he won't get the same "bonding" time with the baby, come home at a decent time, spend time with your family in the evenings, and on the weekends.
As a society, we have become to believe we are entitled equal rights, yet I don't see the father giving birth to children, or women making the same wages as men. This is not an equal rights time, it's a time of what is best for the child. Having the father home at this time doesn't help the mother out.
The only time I could see Paternity Leave being an option was if there were complications in the birth and the mother was unable to take care of the baby herself.Posted by: AnonymousMen should definitely get paternity leave from work.
I think that men deserve the right to paternity leave from work since the woman who is having their baby will need that man's help for a short while after having their baby. A man also deserves to be their when his child is about to be born, after all it is his child.
Posted by: AnonymousMen should not get paternity leave from work.
I think men, should not get paternity leave as they are not of much help with the new member. Most of the men can't take care of the baby and can't even take care of themselves. then there is more work load on the mother. As far as bonding with the child, a good father can bond even in less time, if he spends quality time, instead of quantity.
Posted by: bry6464