First the dad shouldn't miss those "firsts". First yawn, sneeze, laugh, crawl, etc.
Secondly, how is the mom supposed to get some rest if the baby is crying every second? Diaper, Hungry , lonely, Cold, hot, tired whatever it is! And how is it wrong that the dad would want to check how the baby is doing?
Coraline Ingrid Jones
In a society of so many woman making statements about the lack of participation from the father I find it hard to believe that there is anyone debating or complaining about this subject. I am a proud single father of three sons , for which I have raised without their mother. If there was a way that I could have birthed them I would have and I know the importance of bonding with my sons and feel that the role of the father is just as important as the mother.
The government insists that most of the problems which lye in our current economical situation are due to the youth and their unemployment. A child needs to see their Dad not just as a working role model but also a moral role model. It has been proven that the first 2 years of a child's life are what shape their future. Less unemployment=less benefits. Less prisoners=less government spending. Shape the babies at an early age.
Our conception of family is a Man made one. The role of women and men in raising the children was purely established centuries ago with the means of the time. Society today recognises that greater father role in the child upbringing is beneficial for the entire family. Allowing fathers to have parental leave is to allow women to think they can also have a career if they wish to and to focus on making this to happen, whereas before they were not allowed to think this. The idea behind this ,is to ensure that girls are not predestined to end up with less financial security when they retire, which is happening at the moment just because they want a family, as much as boys.
Men should be offered Paternity Leave so they may bond with their baby, give Mom a break and better relate to a new Mom's lifestyle. It will also relieve dads from having to stick to stereotypes that culture has often associated them with. Dads will become more confident in their parenting ability.
The men literally do nothing to help the woman have the baby past conception. After the baby is born, the men should be at home to help the new mothers to take care of the new babies. The opposing side is saying that the men didn't do anything in the having of the baby, and that is exactly why he should stay at home and help his exhausted woman, who just had a baby, to take care of said baby. Because he should do something. They have paternity leave in other countries, and everyone is happier for it.
Mens children are their top #1 priority. Bosses who disagree probably don't have kids. Well, its true, children are top #1 priority and should come before work, therefore men should get paid for paternity leave for at least 2-4 weeks if not longer. Children need their fathers, and fathers need their children. Fathers should get the paternity leave for pay because they need to not only help their wife or girlfriend out, but spend time with their child and they need to learn the role of being a father, learn the role of pregnancy and childbirth. Therefore, as a conclusion, fathers should get a paternity leave for pay to be with his family.
Although women are tired from having the baby and men can still work because their body does not have to heal, men should still get paternity leave so their wife could take a nap or just a little break from the baby and then the father can take care of the baby and have a little more father-child time.
Women need help around the house, and adjusting to the new role of being a mother. Someone being there would help immensely. The man also needs to learn how to take care of their new child. It can be a bonding experience for the spouses. Children need both parents, and it's terrible that most companies don't give paternity leave.
Some might see this as a good idea, whereas others may feel that it is taking things a little far. Since the mother is inseparably involved in pregnancy and childbirth, it is understandable when she gets maternity leave. But the necessity of paternity leave for a father is not easily understood by most people. Until and unless men go through fatherhood, they may never really understand the role of the man during pregnancy and childbirth.
Men do nothing to deserve paternity leave. It is the woman who carry around the baby inside her for 9 months. They are the ones to have to be careful with what they eat, or what they do. The women are the ones gaining weight, and putting more pressure on their back when they fetus starts to grow bigger inside them. Men are to provide for the family. Meaning while the girl is resting, regaining her stability, and caring for the child the man should be bringing home money for her and their child.
No, because the father's body did absolutely nothing to make the baby. The father's body doesn't need to recuperate at home nor does the father have his hormones out of whack. If men get paternity leave just to "bond" with the baby then women should get 2 maternity leaves one to recover from giving birth and pregnancy and the other maternity leave to "bond" with the baby.
What does his vagina need to recover from? And what kind of a woman is so dependent on her husband/boyfriend that she needs him taking care of her after doing something as natural as giving birth. A hundred years ago women used to plow the fields, squat, have a baby then go do the wash by hand. When did we get so soft? And what job is it that the father is at for so many hours that he cant come home and cook dinner/clean/feed new baby all in the same day? He doesn't need time off he needs to work harder at home when he finishes his work day.
Men should stay at work.....My Father wasn't home with me to bond, why should Fathers get it now?? I'm just as close to my Father even if he wasn't home during the day.
This Politically correct world is making me sick. I'm a woman and didn't have any kids, I don't even think women should get a year off. I think if you want kids that badly, and like I hear so many Mothers say how much they love their kids, then stay home full time with them. People say they can't afford it. They can't afford it only because they want all the material things in life, which is not always the most important thing.
you have to relize yes the women did it all but relize your husbands gonna be home and doing everything cleaning cooking do it all while you relax sleep do what you need to do so idk why you are saying no if theres a positive side to you women and a good husband would help around the house while you rest
Neither parent should be entitled to paid leave just for having a child. The world is GROSSLY over-populated! If YOU chose to have a child, why should your employer have to pay for it. Just to be civil, understanding, and just, both parents should be able take unpaid leave at their option for a reasonable amount of time (say 12 wks). If you're too poor to take a few months off unpaid, you probably aren't in the appropriate financial situation to even have a child. Simply put - having a child is a very selfish thing to do. If YOU chose to, that's your problem - not your employers or mine or anyone else's.
Not to get into too hypothetical of an argument, but if companies were forced to give paternity leave to men and women, for months at a time, it would seriously injure the economy and all businesses. This opportunity cost is greater than the necessity for men to be at home with the mother taking care of the baby; on a equal rights standpoint, women are more than able to take care of the baby and themselves. Men can always see and interact with their children after work and on the weekends, there is simply no need to pay two people for months at a time so that they can raise their children.. If a couple wanted some time off with their new child then they should have saved. Its not the burden of the business to fund both of them.
Leave off from work should be dedicated only to the mother. This time off allows her to mentally and physically heal after giving birth. Additionally, the mother can nurse the baby and acquire the sleep that is needed to bounce back.
The father of the baby should continue to work and support his family. Taking time off, especially without pay, would cause a financial burden.
If the father believes that he won't get the same "bonding" time with the baby, come home at a decent time, spend time with your family in the evenings, and on the weekends.
As a society, we have become to believe we are entitled equal rights, yet I don't see the father giving birth to children, or women making the same wages as men. This is not an equal rights time, it's a time of what is best for the child. Having the father home at this time doesn't help the mother out.
The only time I could see Paternity Leave being an option was if there were complications in the birth and the mother was unable to take care of the baby herself.
I feel like the way that society is today that some fathers are not able to take off work, just because many jobs don't offer it. But if they have a good job which they have to have for this to be even considered, then yes. They probably were not home much when the child was conceived.
I think men, should not get paternity leave as they are not of much help with the new member. Most of the men can't take care of the baby and can't even take care of themselves. then there is more work load on the mother. As far as bonding with the child, a good father can bond even in less time, if he spends quality time, instead of quantity.