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Should one use "shame and blame" in order to change teenage behavior?

  • Teens hate negative attention, so yes!

    Absolutely, I don't have any problem with that whatsoever. Those of you who are teenagers probably don't like the idea, precisely because it's something that you would never want to happen to you. And that's why adults like me, like this idea. We remember how desperate as teens we were to fit in, and we would modify our behavior to make sure we didn't stand out.

  • Whatever Works to Alter Behavior

    Whatever works to alter the behavior of today's teens, the better. If "shame and blame" completely humiliates someone without causing bullying, drug abuse or death, I say go for it. At least parents are showing their kids they give a darn about their welfare by using this tactic. "Shame and blame" is better than completely ignoring your kids and serves a much better purpose than simply hitting them.

  • Shame and blame is acceptable.

    I think that shaming and blaming a teenager is a great way to try and adjust teenage behavior. It shows the teen what they did wrong and then it tells them why it is wrong. It is a great way to teach a lesson and has been used all over the world.

  • "Shame and blame" is an immature solution to bad behavior.

    In fact, it is a sign of poor behavior in the person inflicting this method. There are so many more productive ways of telling and teaching a child or teen when you dislike their behavior, without being disrespectful and hurtful. When you use this approach, you are simply bullying expectations into your child. In most cases, parents who take provocative measures like this are more likely to have rebellious or misbehaved children because their children are not only learning from what you do to them, but they also will care less what you think considering they never had your respect. Instead of treating them this way and making them feel like they need to act out, it is easy to nurture and teach in order to ensure better behavior. No teenager is perfect, but if they feel as if the parent respects them and actually cares about their feelings and opinions, they are more willing to respect the parent in return. By addressing a problem with sincerity and calmness, being honest why you are upset, you can teach a child a lot. For example, instead of punishing a child for smoking weed, it may be a better idea to approach them and ask them why they decided to smoke. Understand what it is that they enjoy about it. Ensure that they know your reason for being upset, educate them on the drug and it's health affects. A respectful and honest conversation in which both parties have their sides heard. Have a mutual understanding and make it clear that you are against them taking the drug. Maybe, knowing more, they'll be willing to back off a tad. If you are keen on making sure they stop taking it, then tell them that next time you catch them there will be a punishment. First of all, they'll know it's coming, so if it happens, it's by their own accord. Second, due to your mutual understanding of the situation, they will, at the very least, know why you plan to punish them. They have full reasoning and can't say they had no warning. They can't claim it's "dumb" for you to punish them for "nothing." This scenario can be translated to many more, so try your best to nurture and teach your children to maintain a healthy, respectful relationship.

  • Shame and blame is bullying

    Its like those adds with the sad toddler shaming his mother for having him young, its wrong. It can scare kids into getting abortions which can be emotionally damaging and cause teenagers who are already parents to feel ashamed of their families when they are doing the best they can. As a teen mom myself, I found the campaign rude and I am not a statistic or a stereotype, neither is my husband, or my daughter, and those campaigns did nothing to prevent but mostly just made teen moms feel inadequate and like failures.

  • Shame doesn't work

    All of the religious leaders and moralizing politicians that constantly seem caught up in sex scandals etc. prove one thing: shame doesn't work to change behavior. Shaming and blaming only works to torture and hurt kids and teenagers in the long term; why do this, when its easier just to let them live their lives happy?

  • No one should use "shame and blame" in order to change teenage behavior.

    No one should use "shame and blame" in order to change teenage behavior. There are other alternatives to this approach that would be more effective to modify teenage behavior. Shaming or blaming your children seems like a waste of time. It would be more effective to tell them the truth on why you are disappointed with the actions they chose.


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