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Should parents have a say on who you should date?

Asked by: FoxyRose
  • Parents have been there before.

    Most of the time, parents are trying to protect their children from getting into relationships too soon, ones that go too far, or from dating people who could get them in trouble. If you're under 18, your parents are responsible for you. They have been your age before, and it is in your best interests to listen to and obey them.

  • Of course they should.

    Until you move out and/or turn 18, a parent should have every right to say who or if you date. Hypothetically, if your 15 year old child wanted to date a 34 year old, should you let them? Of course not. What if they wanted to date a gang banger or crack head? Same thing. It is a parents job to keep their kids safe. If the teen wants to do something the parent sees as unsafe, the parent should be able to stop them.

  • To an extent yeah

    It depends on how old you are. If your out of their house or 18 or older than no. But if your a kid and your living with your parents they do have a little bit of a say. As a teenager you may not be making the best decisions they are just concerned about you and want to make sure your keeping your focus where it should be to prepare for the future and that people you date aren't leading you down a bad path. Its their job. It can get to extreme though, but even then when you've got your own home and job or are a legal adult then you can have more independence. Most parents want the best for their kids. I mean think about it they raised you.

  • It depends what you mean by "say".

    Parents should be free to express their disapproval through an assortment of social and economic sanctions. However, parents can be wrong too. They might have more experience, but their experience is also limited, so I would be against it if they outright forbid a relationship or infringe on their child's freedom.

  • And ONLY a "say."

    You should take what they say under advisement, and they should offer advice as well as their experiences. However... They should not dictate your life and they should not tell you flat out who you can and cannot date. The most they should do is advise you of possible outcomes and help you make the right decisions, but in no way tell you who you can and cannot date.

  • To a point, yes.

    In case there is a realistic danger in dating the person, they should say so. They often have gone through similar experiences and have seen more than we have (clearly), so they should know what they're talking about. Kids should be independent as much as they can be, but the people who have raised them should definitely have a say. Raising your children well is pretty much having a say in it regardless if you say something about it in a literal sense.

  • Yes, but only if they have a good reason to.

    If parents think their child is dating someone who may be a danger to them, they should definitely consult their children. But if they just don't like the person -- the way they dress, how they talk, their grades, their manners, etc. -- then they should stay out of it. If they believe their child's love interest means no harm, then they should let it go.

  • Yes, but only if they have a good reason to.

    If parents think their child is dating someone who may be a danger to them, they should definitely consult their children. But if they just don't like the person -- the way they dress, how they talk, their grades, their manners, etc. -- then they should stay out of it. If they believe their child's love interest means no harm, then they should let it go.

  • Parents know a lot more than you.

    Even if you're having your own life and choosing on whom you wanted to date, but it doesn't mean that you are right all the time. We still need our parents opinion because they're parents! Parents' can considerate if he is bad or good for you just by looking at him or seeing how he acts in front of them. As a parents, i want the best for my kids so first i should see who he wanted to date then i could consider if she deserved him or not.

  • It's your life

    It's your life and you get to decide what to do with it. If you make a mistake on who you date it's your own fault. Many teenagers go through depression because of what their parents tell them what to do with their lives. And if you know that person is right for you them you should be able to go with it.

  • Hear me out

    Now, if I was a parent I'd want to protect my kid. All any good parent wants is to protect their chil . But when it comes to dating, unless the person your child wants to date is in a gang/does drugs/does anything illegal, I dont think you should have a say in it. If you dont like the kid, talk to your own child about it.

  • Why get involved?

    People raise their children in all different ways. Some raise them to believe in all that they do and others raise their children to do what they want themselves to do. Parents sometimes want to help their children, but things like this, That's just not something they should get into. Yeah, maybe we might ask a question or two on the topic of dating, but parents don't need to get all into it. We're gonna make these kind of mistakes, oh and we're going to learn from then. Maybe not now, but soon.

  • Advice and understanding

    If you raise your kids well, explaining why you have certain opinions, they will be interested in your opinion. If they are still stubborn and go against your advice, the only way for them to learn is the hard way. Trying to 'protect' them from unpleasant experiences just prevents them from learning the things they need to learn.


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