Parents hit their children because they love them and are disciplining them. When you don't hit your children your kids act those brats on supernanny. The Bible says it best "Spare the rod, spoil the child. White people are wimps and don't hit their kids because they claim they're too cute to hit. Like if my son/daughter was gay, I would cut their head off because they're an abomination to God.
I was beaten a lot as a kid and at the time, I would cry and yell at my mother saying with tears, snot and anger on my face that I would never hit my children. And she would say, 'Just wait.' As I look back now, I realise that had she not beaten me, I would have turned out very differently. I am happy with my disposition and she says she is proud of who I am today when I recall the stories to her of her disciplining me. I don't understand this new trend of kids being treated like delicate china and not being reprimanded for misbehaviour. I've seen too many kids that are out of control because they control their parents and not the other way around.
Kids learn to behave through physical punishment, they're less likely to do wrong again. Kids aren't punished like they should be anymore and it's causing scumbag delinquents that have no respect for others. Who doesn't notice it? Back then people grew up to be more respectable, now look at them, it's b/c parents are so PATHETIC that they won't hit their kids. This is America, you do what is necessary to get your point across as long as you don't kill them and beat them to death!
I believe every parent has the right, but obviously there's a fine line between discipline and physical abuse. A good spanking gives your misbehaving child a quick and effective reality check; it's a lesson well learned.
"Hitting your child" is too generalized though... I would never beat my child until she's black and blue.
If a child is playing with matches and about to drop a match into a can of gas, you don't calmly ask them to stop what they're doing, then put them into time out. You smack the match out of their hand and THEN tell them why it's bad. Sometimes, physically punishing your children is the only thing you can do to get the point across. If EVERY generation up until recently hit their children, and the world didn't end, then why do we suddenly think it's so bad? It isn't and people need to get over their PC crap.
I used to get spanked once in a while for my behavior and I turned out fine. Sometimes time out or sending them to their room doesn't cut it. Abuse is very different from discipline. I understand that there are abusive parents out there that strongly believe theyre doing the right thing by beating up heir child, but there are other parents who area very good at disciplining their children without having CPS come and knock at their door.
Kids nowadays do not have respect for their elders and as result misbehave. A slap on the hand or small spanking can always straighten any child who misbehave. "Action speaks louder than words", as long you do no go to far as to beat the kids. Sometimes people do not understand that the right punishment should be a small spanking or slap on the hand. It is the reason why people are against physical punishment, because they tend to get carried away and go too far. A slap on the hand or small spanking is not considered (in my opinion) a beating, but more of a lesson that the child learns doing what right then wrong.
When a child misbehaves, you can simply give them a simple timeout or ground them, but what do they really learn from that? Soon all they think is, "Oh they aren't going to do anything and I'll get away with it." That won't stop them from doing it again in the future. With a small spanking, the child may get upset but he knows that there are punishments for his wrongdoing and that there are things that he shouldn't repeat. There is a difference between punishment and abuse. A spank is a small punishment. Once you forcefully strike a child, that's a whole other problem for the guardian of the child.
I believe the kids should get a pop on their hand because so when the children gets old they no not to do it again also the bible says train your children so when they get older they will depart from it so yes you should just pop them on the hand and tell them don't do it again
What's the parent supposed to do if the kid is going crazy and won't listen. Gently say, "Now, Fredrick, stop?" NO! If a child is doing something wrong, a small smack or a spanking seems only appropriate. If you slap them across the face, or punch them it's a different story.
I was spanked a child, never once have I had a "behavioral" issue. It is a quick and easy way for a child that can barely understand speech and basic concepts to understand right and wrong. Of course do not beat them. But it teaches a child quicker then saying, "No mommy is upset go stand in a corner and think about it." When really they're thinking of unicorns and the next thing they want to snack on.
The child needs to learn early in life that bad behavior is painful. I am not saying beat a child. I am talking about a spanking on the behind with clothes on and only using your open hand. This punishment must be used only as a last resort. When taking privileges away and time out fail to work and the offense is continual then the child needs to know just how serious you are, and spanking can fit that purpose.
My cousin has 3 children and they can't control themselves. They are 7, 4, 3 years old. When they come over, they will say harsh insults and try to hit me and others, mostly others, in the private area. The mother, my cousin, just sits there and watches them misbehave.
If you ever beat your child, you must explain why you did it in the first place, so the child won't begin to believe he is not loved. Explain to your child what is wrong, and why they shouldn't do there act of misbehaving. Tell them why so they wont become an emo or something close to that.
I was a kid who would get spanked for misbehaving. I didn't like it as a child, but I do appreciate and respect the method as a young adult. It taught me to respect to my elders (and others), act appropriate in public, and to not have a foul mouth (the foul mouth usually would be punished with a soap in my mouth, but sometimes spanking substitutes it). Also, I did not turn into an aggressive/abusive person nor did I gain hate or emotional issues of my parents and grandparents for spanking me.
Spanking is a physical gesture to punish wrong behaviour. It is not an abusive act. An (physical) abusive act is to bring intense physical harm that may cause injuries to another.
I'm Indian. I got hit, starved and even locked up and I am glad of it. When I say starved that means only water and uncooked fruit and vegetables. Words mean nothing. Physical punishment will last for life; it is called operant conditioning. I happen to be successful as many other Indians who tend to beat their children. There is no possible way that these BS talkative methods are effective when compared to the traditional ways. There is a positive correlation between new parenting methods and hooliganism.
There is a key difference between discipline and abuse. I believe that parental discipline is done out of love and care for the future well-being of a child or adolescent during development. Abuse is done through means of degradation and domination of a child or adolescent to force development of submission and authority.
The line between abuse and discipline isn't thin, and I cannot imagine one parent that is perfect. However when a simple slap to the face, wrist, or butt becomes a regular method of discipline for non-serious issues, it becomes abuse. Habitual discipline can also be seen as abuse.
I was beaten as a kid if I misbehaved and I never misbehaved again. Getting hit means that you will be punished for misbehaving and you should never misbehave. If you don't hit them, they will keep misbehaving and misbehaving and they won't stop misbehaving. Kids shouldn't think that they can misbehave and get away with it.
I am not saying turn them blanck and blue, but just make them positive that you are the one in charge. It is to discipline them, not to harm them. They are less likely to do it again, unless they are hard-headed. Children need to learn that certain things should not be done.
Hit em and hit em goood i always say. Stop crying or i will give you something to cry about. WHACK. That is the way you have good kids. Good kids come from a good backhand. I do agree with smacking kids and i am a doctor. I love america
Disciplining children by use of physical force is a decision that parents must decide on a case-by-case basis. Parents must be assertive guides in the child's upbringing as they are the adults who are responsible for the children's sense of values and morality. But some parents really are unfit guides.
Can you reason with children? Yes...To a point. Until they reach a certain age, children can't reason! They need to realize that wrong is wrong and there are consequences to them. Now, as you begin to understand your child more, then maybe you'll learn that this particular child learns better if you scream, explain, one-on-one...But some kids do just need a beating! That's how you get through to some kids. That's just a simple fact.
As a matter of fact, never. I mean, I was spanked as a child, and I still think it's wrong. Now listen, they do it because they want their kids to behave. But the parents don't realize that they're going to grow up to be abusive people. That's just wrong. These parents deserve to be in a mental hospital. When I grow up, I'm going to be a good parent. I don't want to be enemy of the kids, I want them to be good people like me, but abusing is not going to help.
Parents should never their kids period! It's just bad parenting. Also hitting a kid could lead to behavioral and psychological problems. If a kid misbehaves give them a time out or grounding but not physically harming them.
Hitting a child for any reason should never be condoned. Physical and verbal abuse can haunt children for their entire lives and cause a significant loss in life quality. It should never be allowed.
My argument is you may scold a child, put them in a corner, or sit them down and tell them what they have done wrong. Though hitting a child is wrong, no matter what your doing it for, that is unnecessary force, and should not be applied.
Why should child abuse be legal, they dont do it in prisons as punishment, do they?
If a person strikes anyone aside from their own child it would be considered assault. In fact, parents teach that hitting is wrong. So why do we make this one exception? It is because we are treating children not as human beings with human rights but as property (while one might argue that mental capacity warrants curtailing some freedoms in the case of children, the right to bodily integrity does not require any minimum capacity). Afterall, when black people were held as slaves, it was legally permissible to beat them. And when women were considered property, first of their fathers and then their husbands, again, physical violence was legally acceptable. But today things are different. Slavery is no more and women have the same formal rights as men. Not so for children. Children have no independent rights, they are their parents' property. Only if a high threshhold for abuse is met will any intervention occur.
And this method of discipline is ineffective. Spanking a child has an immediate effect, but in the long-term it is likely to cause problems. It teaches the child that aggression and violence are appropriate responses. How can a child understand that there is a universal prohibition against hitting others if the parent hits the child? Any child will conclude that sometimes it is okay to use violence. It can cause emotional damage and mental disorder in adult life; I suspect this is because someone who is supposed to be trusted and safe is someone who also harms them. And it can harm the bond between parent and child.
Speaking from my experience, spanking was harmful. As a child I decided that since hitting was acceptable when one was wronged, and I took to hitting people who displeased me. It took me years to figure out that my parents were the ones who were wrong to spank me in the first place, that violence really was universally wrong excepting self-defence. However, I did not get over the anxiety my parents inflicted upon me, likely derived from the terror I felt upon making a mistake or breaking a rule. Now I am conditioned to be anxious about new situations and making mistakes. Also, I hate my parents for how they treated me. I remember the humiliation, the pain, the terror, and so on. And I don't know how I can forgive them because I don't understand how anyone could raise their hand against a child and make them cry like I did.
And frankly, do what parents do to children every day in North America to an adult and you would find yourself in a courtroom. You are not allowed to assault others, scream abuse at them, and so on. Children are human beings deserving recognition of their basic rights. It's time that we stopped writing exceptions into the law that allow for these draconian punishments. Parent with logical consequences and postive reinforcement, not with anger, abuse of any kind, and violence.
I'm 16 years old now and I wonder if I'm going to hit my kids when they are older. So I look at myself. How did i turn out to be so far? Am I a better person? Not really. My parent beat me for some things like talking back and being disrespectful. I know now that of course I shouldn't treat an adult like that, but it wasn't necessary inflict pain on me for me to understand that. All of the other times i was disciplined i don't even remember. The only thing I remember was that I was beat. Now 2013 I barley have a relationship with my mother. I also have a temper now. I don't know how that will affect me later in life when I have children because I cannot control my own temper. I'm not saying it is extreme or anything , but I am easily aggravated now.
Hitting a children is not a right thing to do, it will lose the confident of the child and affect badly on their mental. Most of the children that were hit by their parents could be either shy or violent, they could be a bully or be bullied by someone. Hitting a children does not show any love at all.
I am thirteen years old right now. I still get slapped. I cry every night because my mom says I'm ugly, fat, and I have no friends. When she slaps me it makes me just want to be dead and it makes you feel worthless. I think its so wrong!
It is not right to hit your own kids. I bet you won't like it, so why would you? Communicate is key instead of hitting, plus they will learn to use it later in life. It will effect your relationship with your kids, so don't even bother of spanking them, it just shows you don't care your relationship with them.Probably parents hits their kids is that they learned from their parents, just don't pass it down to your own kids. Be an adult and be an role model for your kids the right way. They look up to you. Release your anger towards caring. :/ More reasons not to hit your kids: http://www.Naturalchild.Org/jan_hunt/tenreasons.Html .Hope this help.
I got hit as a child.It didn't help me through my studying years and definitely didn't help me become a better person. As some parent may disagree I have experienced this and had plenty of friends who didn't get hit as a child ,which makes me see how it could make a change.
It is in no way any human beings normal response to being hit to fail to react defensively no matter how that reaction is expressed. There isn't a single human brain that doesn't have that mechanism; if it doesn't there has to be serious brain damage involved. Whether it's fight, flight, freeze, etc., it's there. It is the way evolution has made us, and it's like that for a reason: it keeps you SAFE and has your best interests at heart. Parents who hit are competing with a side of nature that THEY are supposed to be PROTECTING. It's a primal gift that helps us to survive, as well as persevere when we need to. If you hit kids, you undermine that gifts usefulness, you also fail to teach kids how and when to utilize it properly and effectively, for themselves. To hit kids, is to rob them of more than dignity. In life there are some aspects of nature we do not succumb to, and aspire to rise above. You can't even begin to do that when being hit, because in that moment/those moments the reality is, self defence is a GOOD HUMAN STRATEGY AND REACTION TO PHYSICAL THREAT. Period. In those situations, it is that kids number one, not YOU.
So, if you hit kids, and tell them it's good for them, you are lying to those kids. If you tell yourself it's good for them, you are lying to yourself. When it comes to the debating about hitting kids, morality, always seems to reign supreme. Why not just admit you are messing with the proper development of a mechanism that should properly serve its owner? You would never sacrifice yours, would you? Think about it.
It's not good my cousin got beat and bea came a bully thinking he could beat other children just like his parents did it can course mantal problems and much more and some children just can't talk it ok i saw some one write that he was starved if he really was thats not good because thats elegal
A child is not tought discipline by you beating them up it only shows fear. To train children you use your mouth and your skills as a parent. Misbehavior was in all of us and o get it out of us beating should not be the answer. Don't you think?
You should not hit your children...My father did so to me. And let me tell you, I just pissed me of more. Personally I feel now that what he did is child abuse. The things my dad soanked me for..Well let me tell you I would never spank my child, ever. I feel it's wrong. No parent should hit their offspring.
It completely throws out the possibility of having a normal parent-child relationship. And, I guess it's kind of sad because that's something I wanted while growing up and it's something my parents want as well. I remember as a kid that I'd spend a lot of time crying and feel uncomfortable around other people's parents because of the relationship I had with my parents. It still makes me sad that I'll never know what that's like.
And before someone says I must have been a rotten child who deserved it. I never got in trouble once with authorities for anything. I never smoked, drank, messed around, or bad mouthed authorities. I constantly helped both them and my brother because they were inept with technology and English.
I did well in school when it came to paying attention and taking tests, but I struggled a lot with anything that involved group work and home study. My parents were always fighting with each other at home too, so I'd spend a lot of time trying to hide from them so I wouldn't be involved. My teachers would always ask me what was wrong, but I couldn't say anything to them so they thought I was simply lazy. Eventually, I got around this by making excuses to stay after school so I could study and get my school work done. I graduated with honors and moved out. None of that was achieved by them hitting me.
To anyone considering this. Please, for one moment consider how your children might feel about this and how it might affect them as adults. I have a lot of behavioral problems (trust issues, perfectionism, emotional isolation) that stem from how I was raised. I will also never know what a happy family life is like until I decide to raise kids on my own.
And no, it's not love. If you honestly sat back and thought about it, you'd realize it's more about your own ego and desire to exert control. I later understood as an adult that I was treated as I was as a child because my parents were unhappy with factors in their lives that absolutely had nothing to do with me (work stress, marriage problems, problems with other relatives). However, I made a very conveniently available emotional punching bag that couldn't say anything because of threats of foster care and tearing apart the family.
If you honestly think something like this is good for children, you're a monster. I've watched after unruly children through community service and typically if you speak with them you can find ways to get them to behave without violence. A lot of the times the kids acting out just want someone to pay attention to them. They just don't know how to get that without acting out. And yes, if they're neglected emotionally, then they'll start craving even negative attention because that at least means someone's paying attention to them.
A child is very influential. Hitting a child, who is much more naive and young than you are, sends the wrong signal. A child should be told and explained his mistake, should be made to understand why he/she is wrong. Hitting won't achieve anything except for maybe bottled up anger?
Parents hit their child because of their anger with them,not because they love them and want to discipline them.That can emotionally scar a child. If you hit your kid then they are more likely to grow distant. So its simple just talk to your kid ,dont beat them,hitting a child is wrong
Beating a child is abuse and unnecessary and will only scar the child. Its crazy to think that parents would actually hit a DEFENSELESS child.. All the parents who have ever hit a child should be executed because if they find it okay to hit a child... A CHILD.. Then they shouldnt be living on this planet. Hitting anyone is wrong. But to hit your own child is just crazy.
When I was little I was afraid of my mother how people are affraid of ghosts or snakes. She would beat me up for the smallest things like forgetting to flush the toilet, when I was only 8. My sister was so afraid of my mother, one time she actually peed her pants when my mother came out of her room. My father never laid a finger on me, and I respect him so much more for that.
Parents shouldn't hit their kids. My parents beat me as a teenager and I still resent them for it. They would hit me and my behavior would stay they same. If I got hit it was always my fault for misbehaving. They have never apologized and I can honestly say that it has affected me emotionally. My relationship with my parents is poor, violence is never the answer.
Hitting your children can cause them to misbehave and eventually start hitting other kids, thinking it's okay. As a child i was hit for my misbehavior and it caused me to act out even more resulting in my mother abusing me. Hitting your children can very easily get carried away.
It will affect a child later on in life and it could paralyze them cause them back problems or back pains or could even result in death it wont help because their rage will just be bottled up and eventfully it will burst out it is just cruel barbaric against human nature and it is child abuse
If you hit your child just don't tell him that you love him, you don't. People hit their children for disobeying them or talking back. The only lesson learned is that your parent is a tyrant who wants to totally control you and should not be trusted. If someone hits you, they don't love you, period.
Hitting a child seems to me a temporary solution with potentially very damaging long-term effects. I think children who are hit are likely to become parents who hit, the message hitting sends out is that those who are stronger physically are the mighty ones, that force wins, that parents cannot find a more nurturing solution. There's always another way...
Anyway, my opinions on this matter are very well reflected by these articles, should you wish to read them.
Kids are very innocent and should be treated with respect. You have no right to hurt them, they dont know how to behave, you have to teach them and hitting is never a way. Would you like if your boss hit you when you made a mistake at your job? Treat them like human beings and respect their innocence. You hit them only because they wont hit you back, think about hitting someone your age and you will get a proper reply.
When parents hit their kids their relationship becomes worse and worse every single time they hit the children. From this cause, kids could get scared of their parents and run away. For this reason if parents dont hit their kids they dont run away. Now i'm not saying that once the kids do something wrong the parents should ignore it, i'm saying that the parents could punish them by not having their phone for a couple of weeks, not going out for a month, etc.
I've a very complicated relationship with my parents because they used to hit me whenever I did something wrong. I was the angry teenager who hated my parents because of this. I love them, but I HATE them. Hitting your child means you don't know how to be a parent.
Is it a violation of basic moral principles for you to hit someone because you personally do not condone that person's behavior. Children who are hit as punishment by an adult build up feelings of anger which they act on after they have grown big enough to better defend themselves from the adult. Small children who are hit by an adult often develop fantasies of revenge against the adult.
Children will fear their own parents and that is not right. Hitting is never right. Yelling at a child let alone hitting your child is not right. Hitting doesn't solve anything. Neither does yelling at your child solve anything. Maybe if you just talk to your child they will listen. But if your child is smaller just put them in time out but if they are older to understand just talk to them.
If you have to resort to violence you obviously are too lazy to properly control your child, and are ignorant to the multitude of other ways of parenting, if you are a good parent who is respected by their child you should never have to hit your child. Even if you have to give an alternative punishment such as stopping Tv, Xbox or even grounding your child. Violence should be the last possible resort.
It teaches the child to hit and they think it is okay when it is not. People that hit their kids tend to go overboard. I think the kid should be grounded depending on the age but not hit. It is not fair to the child at all by no means.
If you hit or spank your child, they will get the idea that to solve conflicts and problems, physical abuse is the way to solve it. Also, studies have shown that children who are hit as a young child, are more likely to be violent into their adulthood. I understand that if they continue to disobey your wishes, hitting your child seems right, but it is important to think about the consequences of that.