All of the above can have value and usefulness. I do not believe children are negatively harmed by being told stories about Santa and the Easter Bunny any more than they are harmed by campfire stories or legends. If this were the case, fantasy video games, mythological stories and religion (the bible) are in magnitude an astronomically greater and more damaging lie than the Easter Bunny or Tooth Fairy (Certainly the old Testament or Koran are much more frightening). Group therapy sessions with adults center on childhood trauma experienced in organized religions, never Easter Bunny or Santa Clause trauma. If Santa and the Easter Bunny are to be deemed universally harmful to children, then religion should be considered a travesty and a crime against all children too.
Let them be children i feel as though that parents should lie about that because they are children and for exsample.... The santa thing .. The kids listen more because they want presents and i think that its cute that they take pics and write letters and "feed raindeer" and feed the easter bunny think thats a cute ting so leave it and let it be and if they find out they find out!!
Everyday thousands of mothers tell their children fairytales. Has that ever hurt anyone? Nope.
Santa/The Easter Bunny is not different. Give the children something to believe in, they are kids, it's their right to have some magic in their lives. Children now days grow up to fast and it's myths like these that keep them young.
Things like Santa and the Easter Bunny made me very exited and happy as a child, when I found out they weren't real, I didn't see it as a lie. I don't understand people who answer 'no' to this question. Didn't you enjoy celebrating Christmas and hearing stories and receiving gifts? Didn't you love the bunny that came to your back yard and hid chocolate eggs all over the place? Because I sure did, and I would hate it if my children wouldn't have the same love for these celebrations.
Many people say children have a right to the truth. But don't they have the right to not be tied to anything either? They have the right to be young and naive and carefree. They have a right to no responsibilities because in your childhood you have first impressions for everything, so parents are required that they are safe, live well, get a good education-- but also to broaden their minds to possibilities, let them think whatever they want whether it's a lie, an opinion or the truth. They're going to understand that the world is full of dark and horrible things, so why not let them live in the sunshine as long as we can allow it?
If you think it is wrong to tell them about Santa and the Easter Bunny, would you also think it wrong to let your children believe in disney stories such as Cinderella or Snow White? Would you not let them think that princesses live a wonderful, carefree, magical life? Would you kill every single thought they speak that you deem a lie, or would you let them do and think as they like, because I know exactly which one I should choose.
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I cannot believe how literal and sensitive some people are nowadays, especially the ones against this - no offense. Please look up what a white lie is before posting your opinion on this. There is nothing wrong with trying to give your child(ren) a magical childhood with these fantasy characters. Of course, if you're telling your teenager that they are real and they literally believe it, that's a bit of a different story, but a child (which I define to be before 13)? It's 1) tradition 2) magical. Let them enjoy it. They'll find out eventually anyway on their own; I cannot stress enough that we live in the Age of Information people, it'll just be common sense. Let children have their magical childhoods though, they only get a decade of innocence and acceptable ignorance really. Stop trying to make all traditional values seem like they're the most evil things in the modern world. Come on people, being this politically correct is just absolutely unnecessary and very annoying.
I can't believe how literal some people take things, especially the ones on the No side. Telling your children some white lies to make their childhood magical? What in the world is wrong with that? Of course, if you're telling your teenager that these characters are real and they literally believe you, that's a bit of a different story, but parents do this because 1) it's tradition, stop trying to make all tradition seem horrible 2) it's making their childhood more magical. I also cannot stress enough that we do live in the Age of Information anyway. Come on people, stop trying to be so politically correct.
They are not lies. Easter is about the bunnies came out and spring begins. Santa is dead so the patent took over because they believe kids deserve a good joyful Christmas . Spring made it to earth so we celelbrate ! According to the cross there four seasons : spring , fall , winter , summer .
You have to tell your kid the truth. If you don't tell them, they will never know the truth.You have to be honest with your kid or they Won't trust you. If they realize your lieing and they have their hopes up., they will be more upset then when they know
How can you ask a child to trust you and everything you say to him or her when you deliberately lie to that child's face for amusement value? Because let's face it- the average age of kids who believe in "Santa" and the "Easter bunny" and so forth is so low that they won't remember it as adults. These charades are for the PARENTS, because they think it's "cute".
It's a very different animal than pretending with your child, or imagining. In those cases, the child is aware that what you are talking about or doing is make believe.
I believe that the stories should continue into future generations, but that the importance of faith in these stories should be considered inseparable to their sagas. This would allow for the middle road between the preservation of innocence and the furtherance of understanding. They should also be taught at a certain age why the fable is not accepted as fact today as well. This will further logical reasoning through an idea that is seen as personal by children and lead them to learning the lesson about faith more thoroughly then another would engender.
But since this question seems to imply the teaching about these characters existing as true beyond doubt, I disagree with the statement.
What is stealing? To take something from someone. What is a lie? Stealing someone's right to the truth. Lying is one of the worst things in this world, it's theft of knowledge, the truth, and trust. Never under any circumstances other then the threat to ones life is it right to lie as you are only teaching people that it's accepted in society. Any argument that someone supporting this can bring up will have the common flaw of not understand your stealing someone's right to the truth. And teaching that young person that lying is acceptable.
Telling children lies about such things just is not something people should do. First of all, instead of answering questions that would be reasonable to ask, parents deflect them. For example, a common question for a child would ask about Santa would be, "How does he get all around the world in one night? That makes no sense!" and the answer to that question would be, "Magic, of course! How else would he be able to?". In the long run, this prevents a child to 'think outside the box', if you will. They just accept the answer that everybody else accepts and don't question it.
Second, it is still lying, no matter what you call it. When a child hears something like " Santa is going to give you presents for Christmas!", they are going to believe it no matter what. When they figure it out themselves, a lot of children tend to deny it because they believe that this trusted adultf always tells the truth to them. When they find out that it is really a lie, they tend to feel rather cheated. Overall, a parent lying sets a bad example for children.
Finally, a child will appreciate a parent more if they know that it is the parent buying them presents and spending time hiding eggs for them. Although some might say that children will actually try to behave if you tell them Santa is always watching, it really is just as effective when a parents says that they want a child to be good. It will work for a while, the child will act good, but as soon as the parent turns their back, they act up. I learned this very painstackingly while growing up with several siblings, not to mention being a child myself at one time. If a child knows that it is the parent providing them with things that make them happy, they will think about what they do more, and that habit will stay with them as they become a teenager and eventually an adult.