Just like the title said, Love IS limitless! You shouldn't put any strict on who's in love with who! I don't care about religious purposes, 'cause it's only a book, and it may or may not be true to what their "God" says! If the group that wants to get married all together, knows each other, and knows that they can support to each other, and work together as one HUGE family, LET 'EM BE! Don't use crime cases as an excuse to outlaw it because of the people that didn't do anything good to the family, IT HAPPENS TO ANY KIND OF FAMILY! Not just a polygamy family, ANY KIND OF!
Just think about it. Let's put a good nice gentleman between 2 sweet girls, and within the law that says that you can't marry more than one at a time, you're just ending up with a choice of making one happy, and the other sad and lonely! I DON'T WANT THAT! In fact, I HATE MAKING ONE DECISION OR THE OTHER! I HATE seeing one person or the other sad! I want everyone I know to be happy! BUT NO! THE LAW SAYS THAT YOU'RE FORCED TO BREAK SOMEONE'S HEART IF YOU HAVE A CHOICE OF 2 OR MORE!
If I was to marry 2 or more wives, I'd be their servant!
Let's treat everyone EQUALLY!
Will end healthcare problems. By allowing large families of hundreds or thousands of spouses in one family, all will be entitled to benefits. Since it is proven that we can print money for prosperity, the future is limitless! Utopia is here! We have finally solved all the problems. People are euphoric over the Obama economy. At least no one is complaining like the prior Bush economy which was worse than the Great Depression. Even though total employment is lower than before, the stock market is booming. Eventually the only thing we will have to worry about will be the garbage avalanches because everybody will be so busy buying things that the garbage will pile up.
No Explicit Condemnation: Nowhere in the Bible does God explicitly condemn polygamy, the only "condemnation" being implicit and by example. In fact marriages to additional spouses are considered valid in the Scriptures (Jesus’ lineage did not always go through the first wife). - See more at: http://www.Inplainsite.Org/html/polygamy_in_the_bible.Html#sthash.B1D0aB8f.Dpuf
Regulation of Polygamy: Some laws in the Pentateuch do appear to place God’s stamp of approval on polygamy. For example note the rules and guidelines concerning the treatment of multiple wives (specifically prohibiting ill-treatment of the first wife after a second marriage) and the inheritance of the first born, if he happened to be the son of a less favored, wife.
"If he takes another wife to himself, he shall not diminish her food, her clothing, or her marital rights, [Exodus 21:10]
If a man have two wives, the one beloved, and the other hated, and they have borne him children, both the beloved and the hated; and if the first-born son be hers that was hated;
then it shall be, in the day that he causeth his sons to inherit that which he hath, that he may not make the son of the beloved the first-born before the son of the hated, who is the first-born: [Deuteronomy 21:15-17]
It was an obligation for men to marry their widowed sisters in law and support her family. [Deuteronomy 25:5-10] The point that has to be considered is that the brother could very well already have been married.
When a man married a woman all her relatives became his kinsfolk. The only passages in the OT laws that prohibit polygamous marriages are those that would constitute incest. For example, a man could not marry a woman and her daughter or granddaughter (Leviticus 18:17), a woman and her sister as a rival (v. 18), or a woman and her mother (20:14).
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Polygamy is fine as long as the male loves each one equally, however polyandry is just a women giving herself to multiple men (which is disgusting). Legalize polygamy but definitely not polyandry. The bible is fine with it since its not cheating since they are both your wives. Raising children would be easier and household income would go up and we would need less houses as well.
We are about to legalize within a decade, gay marriage in this nation. Who are we to say what is and is not a "family" after that? One man, multiple women, one woman multiple men? What does it matter any longer? I'd prefer that government be completely marriage neutral, just get out of it, it's none of the government's business but since they refuse to mind their business, equal protection is law. Any couple or more should be able to get married and I don't even just support polygamy for religious people, it should be for all, religious or atheist.
Both same sex marriage and polygamy have been seen primarily as moral issues. If same sex marriage becomes legal the moral issue for that pretty much disappears for most people. If legalization happens, as it surely will, then polygamy should be made legal as well and for the same reasons, whatever those reasons turn out to be. Nothing else makes any sense. At bottom, Law should not be speaking to marriage in the first place.
I feel that polygamy should be legalized.
I read an article that equated polygamy to drinking. Drinking isn't illegal and there is violence and abuse associated with drinking. We punish the violence in those cases and not the drinking and rightfully so. The same should be said about polygamy. Just because there are cases of molestation (and what I would equate to sex slavery) in some cases of polygamy some people instantly assume it's bad.
Under those conditions drinking should also be illegal (again) but then we'd have a second prohibition and we all know how well the first one worked. These polygamous compounds that keep popping up in the news are the black market of the marriage world and I think outlawing polygamy is the blame.
People with the personal beliefs that polygamy is fine are hiding so they can practice their what they believe in.
It also is quite possible that due to the underground nature of these compounds makes it easier to justify breaking other laws like marrying a minor to an adult. I'm not saying all compounds do but I'm just saying that these people already live in fear of persecution and it would only be a small step to go for broke so to speak.
So in the end I feel the outlawing of polygamy is causing a seedy underground which is fostering the capabilities of a few to harm children.
If it were to be legalized I think it should take more of the form of a group marriage instead. This would mean that all people that entered into that type would be married to each other and can be composed of any sexual combination.
You don't have to agree with something to allow others to practice it! Just because you don't understand someone's need to eat something or do something, doesn't mean you have the right to keep them from it! That's why polygamy should be legal by default, unless you can find things inherently wrong/illegal with it. And the fact is, there's nothing illegal about it if we realizing that responsible, consenting adults should be free to do whatever the heck they want.
We have a tendency to dismiss or marginalize people we don’t understand. We see women in polygamous marriages and assume they are victims. “They grew up in an unhealthy environment,” we say. “They didn’t really choose polygamy; they were just born into it.” Without question, that is sometimes true. But it’s also true of many (too many) monogamous marriages. Plenty of women, polygamous or otherwise, are born into unhealthy environments that they repeat later in life. There’s no difference. All marriages deserve access to the support and resources they need to build happy, healthy lives, regardless of how many partners are involved. Arguments about whether a woman’s consensual sexual and romantic choices are “healthy” should have no bearing on the legal process. And while polygamy remains illegal, women who choose this lifestyle don’t have access to the protections and benefits that legal marriage provides.
I don't understand how same-sex marriages are okay and polygamy isn't. Seriously? The same arguments that are used to support same-sex marriages, such as "equal rights," "to each his own," and "love is all that matters," can also be used for polygamy. I'm not saying we should encourage it like homosexuality is propagated in the media, but we should at least accept it. For those who want to marry more than one wife and take legal responsibility for additional relationships, they should be allowed to. The alternative is already all around us-- adultery. You ignorant, oblivious hypocrites claim that marriage ie b/t a man and a woman, which I agree with, but then say that multiple spouses is "immoral;" yet you're okay with adultery and affairs outside of marriage. How about we let people marry legally and promote taking responsibility, instead of promoting extramarital affairs and divorce?
Some religions Allow Polygamy and that is why it should be legal and a God given right to every American with a religion that allows the practice of polygamy. All of the prophets in the holy scriptures had more than one wife and this is proof enough that polygamy should not be Illegal in the United States.
Everybody should do what she/he wants in her privat life: As long as it does not affect any other person who does not want to be involved. Even if I would not prefer this style of living, I do not want to patronise anybody of doing something that does not do any harm to anyone.
I can't believe it's against the law to marry more than one person at a time. If a man wants four wives and the women don't mind, than it's none of my damn business. I don't care what people do behind closed doors. Some men date multiple women who know about each other, why can't they make it legal if they want to? It's not hurting anyone
I see congressmen, senators, attorneys, movie actors, all public figures having affairs. Men have the desire for more than one woman. The Bible allows it. God has made it legal. We should allow people to do it. If a woman is fine with sharing a man with another woman the law should allow it.
As long as everyone is of age, I dont see why not. I think it would help people out because it would force this lifestyle out in the open, so that the ones who are causing issues will be weeded out. Child brides and the such couldn't hide from the law.
If a woman doesn't mind being married to a man with multiple other wives then we shouldn't ether. None of our business and just because you find it not normal doesn't give you a right to tell someone else how they should be able to live. Mind your own business.
I'm in a polygamous relationship right now, and it has made life so much easier.
Food is on the table more often, the house is cleaned more often.
Less responsibilities gives you more time, less stress.
There's less fights between me and my partners because the others will always help calm the situation down.
I love it!
Why not marry the person(s) you love instead of having a one-night stand and then abandoning the other party? Why not support each other and any children from the union instead of having countless single parents out there struggling to make ends meet? What if it all worked out? What if someday we actually got some leaders in Washington that used their brain? It truly would be a brave new world.
It never should have been made illegal. Every person has the right to practice their religious beliefs so long as they do not infringe upon another's right to do the same. It is a matter of choice. A matter of religion. Should we prevent abuse of women, men, children, minors, etc? Absolutely. Polygamy on it's own has nothing to do with these issues. Should a person be allowed to marry multiple others without one another's knowledge? No.
First Amendment: Free Exercise Clause (1791)
This clause protects an absolute freedom of belief. The Founders saw religious liberty as a natural right, and so the First Amendment ensures that all people have an equality of rights to practice their faith. While originally written to apply to actions of the federal government, it was incorporated into state governments through the Fourteenth Amendment by the Supreme Court in the case Cantwell v. Connecticut (1940).
Precursors to the Free Exercise clause include the English Bill of Rights, the Virginia Declaration of Rights, and the Virginia Statute for Religious Freedom. The English Bill of Rights expanded religious freedom for Protestants who did not attend the Church of England, but not for Catholics or non-Christians. The Virginia Declaration of Rights held that “all men are equally entitled to the free exercise of religion.” The Virginia Statute for Religious Freedom asserts that “all men shall be free to profess, and by argument to maintain, their opinion in matters of religion.”
Supreme Court cases centered on the Free Exercise Clause include Wisconsin v. Yoder (1972), Minersville v. Gobitas (1940), and West Virginia v. Barnette (1943).
A free society in which members of various faiths have the right to practice religion freely demands that citizens practice the values of consideration and respect.
If someone wants to live different, what's it to me? Doesn't affect me in any way but it apparently makes them happy and for someone to try to force anyone to live within their ideals makes them a conceited-as-hell dictator which is easy to see as a wrong move. The Declaration of Independence explicitly states: "We hold these truths to be self-evident, that all men are created equal, that they are endowed by their Creator with certain inalienable rights, that among these are life, liberty and the pursuit of happiness. That to secure these rights, governments are instituted among men, deriving their just powers from the consent of the governed. That whenever any form of government becomes destructive of these ends, it is the right of the people to alter or abolish it, and to institute new government, laying its foundation on such principles and organizing its powers in such form, as to them shall seem most likely to effect their safety and happiness." Obviously then, the government was establish to protect our rights, namely: life, liberty and the pursuit of happiness (Remember what I said before about people being happy in their lifestyle, whether I think I would be or not?). Our government is doing a very poor job of this and a revolution ought to be called.
Yes, they are not hurting anyone. If they are willing to share their husband who they believe is amazing, let them. There are plenty of men out there that have children with more than one woman and people think its not illegal. Why not let someone love and take care of more than one wife and children?
As the choice of consenting adults and with healthy human relationships, it should be legal. As with any choice or lifestyle a lot may be said and believed by people who are not involved personally. It seems the complexity of the social experience of those involved brings to them a richness and wisdom of how to relate to others, how to allow for the uniqueness of other individuals, and it enhances self-confidence to achieve personally. The experience brings an ability to see and allow for multiple perspectives in the situations of life.
Why should it be illegal? Do you have evidence that it is a bad thing? First hand experience? If you don't have any experience practicing it, or know someone that does, how can you oppose it? How would you feel if monogamy was illegal? The same abuse happens in monogamy. The same 'bad' things happen in any type of relationship or marriage.
Parents can have more than one child and love them both right? Same thing with having more than one partner...Or over 20 children. It does not matter the amount of people in a family, actually I think the more the better. Those two or twenty children will be loved more than any child out there with only two parents, sort of like the old adage "the village raising a child".
Marriage is a personal commitment. It is between people who care about each other. Form many it is between them and their god. A person might be in a committed relationship with more than one other person; who's business is it but theirs as long as they are all consenting adults? Notice I said "consenting adults." If more than one woman would like to be married to the same man, and he is willing to take care of their needs equally, what's the big deal? He can only marry one, so the others have to settle for someone who is less than their ideal man? That's no good. This statement has only addressed polygyny (one man married to multiple women), but I say any arrangement agreed to by consenting adults is fine by me.
The Government should not be inside marriage. There should not be any restrictions on marriage between two consenting adults. The covenants and vows two adults make between each other is just that, between each other. The Government has no place being involved. Every state should legalize polygamy, in my honest opinion.
Polygamist families right now are afraid to come forward about any abuses they might see in other polygamists. Coming forward might mean their whole family gets in trouble for living that way, and it could potentially tear them all apart. As a kid I think I would have done anything to keep my parents and family safe. I am sure their kids feel the same, so they keep quiet if they see abuse. Legalizing it would make them feel safe about their family and real crimes could be reported like they are in a monogamist home.
Gay people are allowed to marry, and it is only because of their mortal feelings of sex. Polygamy should be legalized because it is due to religion, spirit, love, and a desire to please God. I like the idea that women are allowed to choose the men they marry and have a say in things, and the men protect the women from what could be traumatic relationships....Like beatings, etc.
If the government is to redefine an institution that predates that government's founding, the fair redefinition must be as inclusive as possible. Otherwise we legalize prejudice. ANYTHING GOES between consenting adults. All relationships are equal. Ultimately people will simply mate sans public sanction as we return to our pre-civilized nature.
If this country is going to support same sex marriage, I believe we are obligated to support plural marriage as well. Who is the government to dictate how a person lives their life? They are not hurting anyone, just trying to live the way they believe is best. Live and let live!
It was originally made illegal for some religious belief that a man should only have one wife. Yet all throughout the bible many biblical men had many wives. Also, the Greek scriptures specify when a man should only have one wife. As for now, since the U.S. Has pretty much eliminated any moral beliefs it has about marriage by allowing gay marriage there is no substantive reason to continue to placate the few that may still hold to this archaic belief of marriage between one man and one woman.
Yeah I think polygamy should be a legal as long as all parties involved agree to the marriage. They must all also be adults who are able to consent to the marriage. As long as that's the case then it should be legal because "it's just love". I also think that people will look back and think that people who are against plural marriage will be looked at like people who were pro segregation and jim crow laws. Better yet like people who were pro apartheid and anti aboriginal and native american. Discrimination is discrimination. We shall overcome oppression and plural marriage family's should be allowed to live together and receive all the benefits of marriage that straight couples do.
It doesn't hurt anyone, and as long as it is not hurting others, why does it matter. If people have 5 "baby mamas" without marriage, wouldn't it improve that aspect, if it were legalized? It would mean better rights for the mothers and children. Also, what damage would it do to society? People are allowed to have multiple partners, so what would be that much different from recognizing the bonds? There would be more accountability. People also cannot use religion as a reason, first, there is obviously a separation of church and state. But also, many prominent profits in the bible (Christian and Jewish, as polygamy is common for muslims, but only 1 man can have five wives) were polygamists, such as Abraham, Saul, David, Moses, and Jacob.
It should be a personal freedom for a man or woman to have multiple partners as long as there is voluntary consent amongst all individuals involved. No government or other third party members should be involved in the decision. Besides, if Arab governments and religion of Islam allow polygamy, why can't other people from secular states or non-Islamic religions participate in such association?
I wholeheartedly support legalizing polygamy on account that every single person should be able to choose their sexual partner or partners, and should be able to prove their love to the world. I think that the American puritan society opposes this because of how deeply religion is ingrained in that society, and that saddens me.
I do however think that it should go both ways. If a man has multiple wives, a woman should be able to do the same thing. Equal rights is an important factor in all this.
Naturally, there are more women than men. As time is moving on, the female population is gradually increasing and the male population is decreasing; therefore, polygamy should be legal so every woman can have a husband or at least have the chance to get a husband without taking away a man from another woman.
The government does not need to be butting into the private lives and bedrooms of citizens. While there are legal issues to be resolved, why not make a "pre-nup" a requirement for every poly marriage, in fact: why not make it a requirement for all marriages. Have a legal document hat both partners agree to, while not under duress that states they know how the relationship will end if it does indeed do so.
Some people say gay marriage shouldn't be legalized because it could open the door to other alternative lifestyle marriages becoming legal. You know what? It will. Why not? Adults should be free to their lives how they want. I don't understand what any other person's religion, or personal values have to do with that?
I'm an atheist, so I find any argument from Biblical morality to be incoherent. (Wasn't the Bible okay with polygamy? Didn't most of the Biblical patriarchs have multiple wives?) So, coming from a purely secular viewpoint, it seems obvious to me that, yes, polygamy should be legal.
Polyamorous people fall in love with more than one person, and want to marry more than one person. Keeping polygamy illegal harms their well-being by denying their relationship the legal protection afforded to conventional marriages.
I don't see how legalizing it could do more harm than that currently being done. Even if we grant that group marrying on a mass scale would cause an economic meltdown, poly relationships just aren't common enough to have that kind of effect.
It may be that poly relationships are more prone to abuse. But abuse rates are higher in relationships where one person is an alcoholic, and we allow alcoholics to get married. The reason for that is that we have separate laws to deal with those crimes.
As far as I can tell, the only justification for banning polygamy is prejudice, or a Biblical morality system that I find incoherent (and which is irrelevant anyway since America separates church and state).
I have two husbands. I have for many years, we all live together and it works out very well. They take great care of me and our son is never without a parent to make him a home cooked meal, attend his after school sports and help him with homework. Not everyone is religious and people in society need to realize that, so what may seem sacrilegious to some is not to others. I was not raised with religion growing up and I think honesty prevails over infidelity. If you everyone is a consenting adult and 3 people want to make a V type union where the same wife is shared and the husbands are supportive to each other like brothers than so be it if all parties are happy. To break it down to a simple level it does not always have to be Brad or Chad? It can be Brad and Chad if they can find a way to work together. It's better than affairs in motel rooms and lies or divorcing repeatedly. Some people enjoy more than one partner, others fancy a co wife or co husband to ease responsibilities they have and variety is the spice I life. I promised not to add anymore and they promised to have only me. Not ideal for everyone but it is for us and we will be together the rest of our lives even if we can never be "legalized" as a married thruple.
Women love having best friends. If they could pick their wives, women they love to bee with, then they could live with their best friends. Also, women who are bisexual, (which is most if not all women) could have the best of both worlds. I say, who is it going to hurt?
It would be an advantage to have several wives especially from an emotional viewpoint. Women support women when it comes to family relations. In general a man does not meet the emotion needs in understanding and conversation of a woman. They need additional support. Also a man is built for physical intimacy with multiple women. The only challenge and question would be the support of children but in a larger family structure this is possible. Being a man I think it would be an advantage to have two to three wives. My family would be stronger. Family size would be limited to two children per wife.
People can love more than one person and more than one person can love one person. And unlike what some people say, it is not all about lust. Love is very important. It is very important for one to not be forced to break someone's heart and to not get heartbroken oneself.
I think it would help reduce the number of single parents in the country and for a chance for children to know what it is like to have a big family. Other countries that allow it are doing just fine :) If a person is a good tax paying citizen who wants to have more than one person to share their life with, then I don't see anything wrong with that.
We are talking about CONSENTING ADULTS. A consenting adult of sound mind and free will should be allowed to do WHAT EVER the want (provided they are not causing anyone else harm - physically, financially, etc.
If someone chooses more than one willing spouse why is it right to prevent this because "I do not like that idea"?
I wonder if anyone who uses the Bible to argue against polygamy actually has read it. More specifically the Old Testament. I mean, as far as I can tell, most of the fathers of the Abrahamic religions practiced polygamy or had multiple partners. Do some research and then tell me about the morality of singular marriage.
I think if the people are willing to engage in polygamy, then it's not a problem. People keep saying it's wrong and they don't agree but it's not about you. I would never want to be a polygamist but I have no right to stop other people who do, nor does the government. Makes sense to me.
Legalizing polygamy will have a plethora of effects on the legal system. How will alimony work? In my opinion, it should be legalized if and only if the people want it. That being said, a stronger legal system should be devised in order to supervise the adherents. A possible argument would be that the system would be too complex to handle a polygamous marriage, while that is true, it's a failure of the system, and the system should be revised in order to incorporate polygamy into the system. As to whether the children will be confused, yes, at first, because conventional marriages would overwhelm polygamous marriages until it becomes more normal. At that point, the children of the polygamous parents will not be as confused.
Firstly polygamy is allowed and considered moral in most of the major religions.So YES! Secondly if gays can be considered married why not polygamists whose practice is actually found in the major scriptures in a heterosexual sense? Lastly, the government should not be defining or authorizing marriages, rather giving tax and legal rights to defined households! You should be able to go to whatever church or institute will marry you, allow others to call it what they will, and then bring that document as supporting evidence of being under one household, given proper legal definition, and being entitled to tax, inheritance and other legal benefits that members of a household or blood relatives are given. This also opens up the issue of incest which is like homosexuality from a textual sense concerning at the very least Christianity, Islam and Judaism. I can't speak for Hinduism and its sister Buddhism. If incestuous partners agree to be sterilized can they also be married? Again, I don't think its the governor's duty to dictate morality, only to equally protect people's rights, investigate and prosecute those who infringe upon those rights and be a focal point of resources that can appropriately benefit its citizens' well-being. With that said I still do believe that homosexuality, incest and polyandry (multiple husbands) are morally wrong and are sins.
I think the people who practice polygamy do no harm with their marriages. They are free human beings, so I think they should have the right to decide what's best for them, themselves. Why would we let the government decide what's good for us? If we happen to fall in love with more persons than one, and all people agree, why should we forbid marriage between them?
Any argument you can use for advocating gay marriage, you can use to advocate polygamy. Or consenting adult incest. If you can change the definition of marriage for one group, you have to do it for all. Some people find homosexuality just as disgusting as polygamy and incest. Both are the same.
People say that it's against our constitution because America was based upon Christianity. Nowhere in the bible does it classify that marriage should be between man and women. Marriage is for a person to show some one else they're willing to commit to them forever. People have the right to love. You can't tell someone who they can and can't love. You don't have the right to speak for god either.
If marriage is now or soon to be a legal right. I see no reason why it should be limited to two people. In the animal world multiple mates are commonplace. In the human world polygamy and polyandry are already practiced in some parts of the world. They will be the next logical step in our new society.
I think that it should because that you going to do what you want to do it your life how you want to live it that why think it should be and that i agree with and i think that no matter what you should do what right for you
Because we should be free to do whatever consenting adults wish to do. And legalize marijuana too. And hemp so we can convert that into fuel instead of using fossil fuels. But back on topic... If people love each other, there should be no one telling them they can't have a committed union with each other. But really its none of the government's business anyway. Today's Marriage is actually BS. If one woman wants to marry 5 guys or one man wants to marry 5 women and any mix in between, who cares! Stay out of it. And mind your own business. Too many haters today.
Why should anyones life be dictated by another human.... Only God has the right to judge. And if I want to get married to 2 people then that is my business... Not some court or goody two shoes person that does no wrong and thinks that they are better then everyone else!
I look at all the reasons people are saying it shouldn't be legal, and when it's an actual moral reason, like subjugating women and the like, all I can think is that that would only if the people getting married weren't being responsible when they got married. Yes, it's a possibility that the people getting married wouldn't be responsible, but don't irresponsible people enter monogamous marriages all the time? Basically, anything wrong with polygamous marriage is already wrong with monogamous marriage. The only thing that would change is that there would be a new way for responsible, consenting adults to express their love for one another. Lastly, I would like to say to all those people trying to keep marriage from being "corrupted", it kind of already is corrupted, what with people treating the idea with no honor or integrity and divorce rates being so high right now. Before trying to prevent something that may or may not actually be a problem, why don't you focus your efforts on fixing the problems that already exist?
I believe I understand why the government, especially the federal government doesn't want it legalized. If polygamy was legalized, then think of all of the tax exemptions that one man could claim. IF we openly accept homosexual marriages, then why not accept polygamy marriages. Marriage in the government is redefined everyday. If we justify homosexual marriages, then we shouldn't be hypocrits and not justify polygamy marriages.
The government shouldn't control who we want to love or how many we want to love. Religion shouldn't stand between a man and a woman either. If a man can love more than one woman and they can live together peacefully, nothing should stand in their way. The government should exist only to support our values and desires, not suppress them. That's why we put them in place to begin with. If our government can not represent our values, they should be replaced with leaders who are fit to the job description.
I truly don't understand polygamy, but I don't understand why it's wrong. In my mind it's hard to comprehend loving more than one other person, but I also find it hard to comprehend saying no to something I don't understand. It's ignorant to despise while ignorant. It's the same reason gay marriage is still illegal in most states. So many people don't understand gay people and don't understand how two men or two women could love each other. If a child grew up and never saw the color green, then got exposed to the fact that there is one more color; he or she would never be able to accept it, because it's been that way since he or she was a child. Homosexuals, polygamists, and everybody else, should be able to marry whomever they want.
As long as a marriage is between consenting adults, I don't see why the law needs to get involved. Also, making each marriage legal would make welfare fraud more difficult (not saying that all polygamous families do it, but it is a concern), since none of the wives would be "single mothers." Religious and moral blathering aside, there's no reason, in my mind, that the law should have any say in anyone's marriage or sex life as long as each participant in said marriage is at least 18 and is making the choice willingly.
If a wo/man wants to have multiple wives and/or husbands then go for it. I personally would be happy with one spouse but more power to them. If a wo/man can keep multiple spouses happy and provide for all of them and whatever children come out of the marriage then I truly do not care. How is someone who has multiple spouses going to make an impact on your life? There could be someone walking down the street in front of you and they might have more than one wife/husband and you would not know of it unless they told you. Also to everyone saying a marriage is between a man and a woman like how God planned it .. Didn't God specifically say "Be fruitful and multiply"? Well that would be a whole lot of multiplying if you have more than one. Who are you to dictate someone's happiness? If a person can love multiple family members and friends, why can't a person love multiple people enough to want to be married to them?
Life liberty and the pursuit of happiness. What ever happened to liberty? There are plenty of men with different baby mamas. Just watch the show Maury. Plenty of abuse there if you ask me yet it isn't a crime. Yet if you want to be responsible support and marry these women the government comes and slams those handcuffs on you. Makes no sense. I guess the government doesn't like responsible people.
I believe that faith should be practised in private without intervention from the state. There is no serious issue preventing the legalisation of polygamy other than that it may 'encourage child molestation.' Given that the legal age of consent in the US is between 16 and 18, this should not be a problem - providing that people partaking in the practice are doing so for religious reason, they would be doing so within the boundaries of marriage... And if plural marriage was legal it would surely make it easier to track the ages of the young people involved?
I also believe that a widespread objection to polygamy is simply that people are not used to it. People do not like change. But is there really something wrong with it? I am a non-practising Catholic, and despite my faith being against divorce, birth control and homosexual activity I am all for them. The world is changing, and we must change to suit our world.
I can see why some people may be afraid of legalising plural marriage - if you can take as many legal husbands or wives as you wish, what is the point of sanctifying your relationship at all? Marriage is supposed to be something special and intimate; something that (according to religion) you should only experience with one person. But what if your religion states that you should take more than one partner? Some Fundamentalist Mormon groups believe this.
I can understand people's problem with it from a secular point of view... And after so long existing as a Christian country in which one life partner is considered normal, many people may find the change unsettling. But I do think it is unacceptable that the American Government are prosecuting some people for living a life which they have been brought up to believe. America believes herself to be a country of freedom... So why not give these people the freedom to practice their religion in public? It's not like they're doing it to take women out of your hands. I do not see why it is a crime. Just because some people are uncomfortable with it doesn't mean that an entire community of people should suffer from it. If it bothers you that much that men without religion might start taking wives left and right, then make it legal under religious circumstances only.
Like I said earlier - people do not like change. But change is something that must take place if we want to evolve and survive as a people. If states can make gay marriage legal (not for any religious reason) then why not plural marriage?
Not that it's stopping people... Polygamists believe that their lifestyle is protected under the First Amendment; which would mean that the Government is going against the constitution upon which your nation was founded. But then, they are also doing that with their precious gun laws.
But that is another topic.
By Grace U. Aged 14.
The only reasons against polygamy being illegal are based in that marriage should constitute two people, but that's only a definition of marriage in the modern Western world. Polygamy is legal in several churches and religious practices. Polygamy is also economically easier ton families that allow for more than two sources of income. Also, if polygamy was legalized, it would prevent welfare fraud. Some (NOT ALL) families in group marriages will have children by that group marriage and then mark themselves as 'single' as the state does not legally recognize the union, as only the church does. If polygamy was legalized, it would prevent this fraud. It would also make people in these polygamous relationships feel more normalized and less estranged from the rest of society.
I don't see a problem with a polygamous marriage, if everyone involved is OK with it. Homosexuals are allowed to get married just because of their desire to do so, so why not polygamists?
Besides, it solves the problem the US has when it comes to life partners. There are obviously more women than men, so if all men marry just one, there will be millions of women left husband-less. But we all know that not all men will marry, for reasons like they get cold-feet, or they're gay and decide to marry another man. So the problem is further exacerbated by the number of homosexuals in the US.
The main argument (aside from those of religious maniacs) against either gay marriage and polygamy is the slippery slope argument, which simply states that if we allow polygamy to happen, we are essentially encouraging other form of "marriage" to take place, such as bestiality. IMO, the moral system of our culture has advanced to the extent that when we actually know where to draw the line. In the case of bestiality, we could simply see that it's animal abuse, since animals can't actually "consent" to this "marriage". My point is, our logic and moral system is so COMPLETE that if something is immoral, we could tell it and give a specific reason WHY that thing is immoral. People holding the slippery slope argument are essentially saying that "Look, we don't know what's wrong with polygamy itself, but allowing polygamy would somehow lead to (how they make this prediction is beyond me) truly immoral things." That's not a legitimate argument.
It's a personal choice, if it works for a family, it works for them. Just like having 19 kids, doesn't work for all, but works for some! Leave people alone to make their own choices, let them have benefits through work and what not for the whole family. All spouses should be able to get medical/dental/vision benefits, so should all children. Why should only some of the kids enjoy being "legitimate" while the others are labeled bastard children.
The idea of monogamy is based on 1. Bondage 2. Attachment and Ownership on the negative side and on the positive one of 1. Companionship 2. Progeny. If a man or a woman is able to find balance in maintaining companionship and bringing up children in a healthy and loving way, without adhering to Bondage and "Ownership" of the partner, then why shouldn't bigamy or polygamy be allowed.
More importantly it is important to understand why one marries. It is cultivate love and expand it in all dimensions and to discover oneness with beings. But with the concept of not being able to love anyone else for the entire life is cruelty to oneself and to the society. This will lead to a rise in demand of rights in a relationship whereas love shall go out of the window.
I do not understand the concept of divorcing a person just because one has fallen in love with another one too. If 3 or 4 lovers don't seek to separate ways, why should the state interfere. Love never harms the society. But society's loveless ways always harm the people.
In which nation or society are monogamous relationships working. Majority have extramarital affairs and have to feel "guilty" due to faulty perceptions of people based on loveless laws of the nation.
It is imperative that Polygamy should be legalized for both men and women all over the world.
Religious freedom. Consenting adults. Get the government out of the relationships and bedrooms of consenting adults. Grown ass adults should be able to make this decision if they want to. This doesn't mean legalize child marriage, this doesn't mean legalize forced marriage. Consenting adults should be able to enter a contract (a marriage) with whomever they want, and the government shouldn't be able to limit the religious freedom of people whose religions support or advocate plural marriage.
If consenting adults choose to live in a multi-partner relationship or even a four-way wife-swapping-style group marriage, so be it.
Such relationships already exist and unfortunately, keeping these relationships underground permits rape, beatings and child-abuse to go unreported for fear of legal reprisals.
The bigger discussion should be what marriage really is, what legal rights it gives and how those legal rights might be abused (e.G. Incestuous multi-generational inheritance-tax avoidance). In many ways, marriage is a contract promising mutual care and support between its partners and, in my opinion, the easy availability of divorce has done far more to undermine this tenet than the gay rights movement could ever be accused of having done.
I am in a relationship with two women we all are in love but we all cannot enjoy the benefits of marriage. If one of us were to become ill we would not have a legal leg to stand on to even see our partner. Our children that will be raised by all of us will not be legally all of ours. Let us get married its not the governments job or states job to enforce who we love and want to marry.
I believe that since they want to allow gay marriage, that they need to start respecting other groups rights.
If you do not want a gay marriage do not get one.
If you do not want to be married to more than one person at a time do not do it.
People need to be less worried about what others are doing if it does not interfere with your personal rights or property.
I know that I personally can support more than one wife and many kids. IF I choose to have another wife it is for the better for the women. As I have the means.
There are more women than men to being with. So if a few men marry more than one woman it will not hurt.
There should be restrictions such as they have in Muslim countries. All other wives have to know when a man plans on taking another wife. Women have the right to divorce him if they do not wish him to take another wife.
I am personally against gay marriage. But legally they can do whatever they want. Will I every recognize a gay married couple? Never! But am I going to worry about what others are doing in their households and in the privacy of that house? No.
So the same should be made for polygamy. If more than one woman wished to enter into a marriage with one man they should be allowed to do so. That is their personal right. Who are you to stop them from doing it?
The laws favor a Roman stance on marriage. That is why only one man and one woman can legally be married at a time.
This the 21st century. It is time that we more ahead and stop looking at cultural and religious differences in mixed populations countries such as the United States. This country was founded on freedom of all religions not just one. So it is time to make moves towards being more open about their beliefs and stop favoring one over the other.
People have be moving to a more favorable stance on gay marriage. It is time to get that way about polygamy and other issues that are both religious based and cultural.
Polygamy should be legal because they are humans just as straights and gays. If you give gays the right to marry, polygamists deserve equal rights as well. It is not fair for one group to have the right to marry and the polygamists do not have the rights to marry many partners.
I really dont what the big issue is in loving more than one person. More people are happy, you gain a companion and all you really want to do is just love those people with all your heart. People should open their minds and try new things and if it doesnt work out then at least you can you tried.
Though this subject is not one which effects my life on a personal level, I believe in supporting the constitution: liberty for all and religious freedom. It is not anyone's place to say how consenting adults live or what is right or wrong for them. I support liberty for these people and hope one day they can be free from persecution, to love and live without fear.
Why should Polygamy be illegal. I know there are morality issues but laws against polygamy were made decades ago before there was acceptance of different lifestyles. Today things are different Polygamy should be allowed between consenting adults. I do not believe that Parents should be allowed to sign of consent. I believe 18 and over that if you chose to get married whether is it a monogamous marriage or plural marriage it should be allowed. Laws should not be allowed to govern the beliefs of others as stated in the First Amendment, Freedom of Religion. The establishment clause states that it shall not favor one religion or another or belief.
The question being asked is whether or not it should be legal, not whether you agree or not with the concept. This is where we go wrong alot in society. Just because I disagree with what others are doing does not mean I think there should be a law stopping them from doing it. Polygamy does not harm others. Those who choose to practice it should be allowed because they are consenting adults. I do not believe there should be tax breaks for marriage therefore this would not apply in my ideal situation. If we keep the tax breaks then a family should get one tax break per family plain and simple. Also I understand that women do get forced into the life and just like any kind of domestic abuse the ABUSE should be illegal not the family in which it happens. Also I understand that child abuse and child marraiges take place sometimes and of course that act should be illegal but again not the family style it happens in. Bottom line I would not allow the government to tell me who I can love and who I can have children with and therefore the laws that make it illegal to be a plural family should be removed from the books. Just think in the US right now it is perfectly legal to not be married and have as many baby mommas as you want. At least with polygamy in most cases the fathers are sticking around and taking care of all their children. If being a baby daddy is legal which it should be, then there is no logical argument against legalizing polygamy. My beliefs do not get to force others to live by them and neither should anyone elses. Thank you.
For those of you who are against it, why is it ok and legal for a man or a woman to go out and have multiple sexual partners as many as they want. Or go to a strip club, get an escort, ect. But commitment is the issue. When a man or woman wants to be committed to more than one person there is a morality clause. Shows really how lopsided this world is becoming when promiscuity is more acceptable then commitment.
Women benefit in a way where they can have family, support with child care, cleaning, cooking, and kinship. A stable home life with a lower chance for divorce. I do not understand how women do it without support. It is expensive in the US to raise ONE child today and with so many women working full time, raising families full time, and being a full time wife... I do not understand how more of us do no crash and burn out. My father is Nigerian and he was raised with 3 mothers. He grew up around lots of support and love. His own mother passed away while he was young and the second and third wife raised him with the same love and care as well as belief system as his natural mother. I do not see how people could live life any other way. For the support system, it makes the most sense. In a two person household, if one person falls ill, the entire family can suffer. I think polygamy makes the most sense. I am a young married female, no children yet.
Marriage should be free.
Adults should be free to choose monogamy or polygamy.
The government should protect individual freedom but not hinder it.
Polygamy helps in raising family income.
Wives would help one another after child birth.
Children would play with one another instead of playing with pet dogs.
1. Abraham was polygamous(Genesis 25:1, 5,6)
2.It would be a strong hold for the family as sister wives care for the one another .
3. It helps men to have sex regularly without one woman getting exhausted.
4. It strengthens church and society as people learn to live together as a big family.
The headline is not to suggest that you should choose between two bad choices, but the cat is that statistics show that most of divorce cases are because of extra marital affairs made by unfaithful men who cheat on their wives. Don't get me wrong, there are unfaithful wives too, but the numbers are much less, and most of them was because of negligence, abuse of some sort, or retaliation for an unfaithful husband.
I think polygamy solves this problem because it is an open marriage contract that everyone has agreed upon, therefore there is no need for lying or cheating, and the husband will be too occupied to even think of cheating :)
The first amendment in the US constitution is " The freedom of religion ", and all the Abraham's religions ( Islam, Christianity, and Judaism ) allow polygamy. Therefore, banning polygamy is unconstitutional because it prevents people from practicing their faith freely and openly. Polygamy has even many social benefits which were broadly mentioned before in this debate, and that's why God has allowed in all of the main religions. And even most of those who don't believe in God will tell you that it's not anybody's business to middle in the choices of consenting adults.
I personally find the Muslim take on polygamy interesting and worth studying. As I understand, a man can marry a maximum of 4 unrelated women ( for example, they can't be sisters or mother and daughter ), and the man must give them equal rights and support emotionally and financially. Obviously, a woman cannot have more than one man for many emotional and physical reasons.
I really hope that some people will dare to take this matter directly to the Supreme Court to declare that polygamy is legal and it is unconstitutional to outlaw it in any of the 50 states.
The first amendment in the US constitution is " The freedom of religion ", and all the Abraham's religions ( Islam, Christianity, and Judaism ) allow polygamy. Therefore, banning polygamy is unconstitutional because it prevents people from practicing their faith freely and openly. Polygamy has even many social benefits which were broadly mentioned before in this debate, and that's why God has allowed in all of the main religions. And even most of those who don't believe in God will tell you that it's not anybody's business to middle in the choices of consenting adults.
I personally find the Muslim take on polygamy interesting and worth studying. As I understand, a man can marry a maximum of 4 unrelated women ( for example, they can't be sisters or mother and daughter ), and the man must give them equal rights and support emotionally and financially. Obviously, a woman cannot have more than one man for many emotional and physical reasons.
I really hope that some people will dare to take this matter directly to the Supreme Court to declare that polygamy is legal and it is unconstitutional to outlaw it in any of the 50 states.
I believe that all deserve to marry, love and live what ever life style they choose. I feel as though the government nor anyone else has a right to tell others what they do in their own home. I hope one day we wont have to keep fighting to just give people what they deserve naturally.
While I personally would not wish to be involved in a polygamous (or polyandrous) relationship, I do not feel it is the government's place to dictate how someone can live their married life. As long as all are willing participants and everyone is aware of the other's involvement WHY NOT?
My sister wife and I get along and accept our individual relationships with our husband. There are a lot of supporting arguments for polygamy to be legalized. I for one would like to see this as I am the second wife and would legally like to be married to my husband. Most of the supporting arguments are all stated above so I will not reiterate them. Needless to say I am a strong supporter to legalize polygamy.
In the US, we are entitled to religious freedom. If consenting adults are in agreement to be married and have a polygamous marriage, it should not be a crime. Much research has shown that polygamous relationships can be very advantageous to all involved. Additionally, in a traditional monogamous marriage the divorce rate is at least 50% and many have extra marital affairs. The extra marital affairs should be criminalized. Yes, the is the sexual sharing of the husband, but it is all open, honest, and agreed upon in the marriage contract. With extra marital affairs, there are lies, deception, transmission of diseases, divorce, mothers left to raise there children without fathers and lack of financial support. Women out number men. Unless one is planning on staying celibate, women at some point will most likely be sharing their man/husband with another woman. Polygamy is not a sin in the eyes of God. As long as it is consensual, no one is being forced, coerced, or abused, why should the government regulate and outlaw this?
It is not a judgment factor for others to decide how others should live their life. This is a free country and as long as two consenting adults (or more) want to be in a personal relationship then it is for them to decide. If they do not like the situation then they are adults and they get out. No different then most marriages that end in a divorce. Don't be so narrow minded to think that the only people interested in plural marriage live in some compound and forced into it 12 years old as the media wants everyone to think. There are normal people out there that want this life style and make since to them. So, it isn't our place to decide if that is good for them or not. I'm not for gay marriage but why is it my God given right or the governments to decide if it is right or wrong. If you don't like it then don't live it for yourself. I don't see that it would bother anyone if this law was put into place. By the way, Warren Jeffs was not arrested on grounds of polygamy. They marry religiously not legally so the laws mean nothing to those that everyone concerns themselves with. So, the only ones that are truly affected are those that choose to live this lifestyle for their own good.
If the SCOTUS overturns the Defense of Marriage Act and says same sex couple should be able to wed, why can't multiple consenting adults join in matrimony as well? Love is love whether it is between a man and a woman, a same sex couple, or three or more people. As long as they are of age and consenting I say let them marry.
That is a waste of tax money because there are people who really need to be separated from society. Legally, a person should be able to have only one partner. Not legally, a person should be able to have all the partners s/he wants. If forced polygamy is an issue, address THAT. We don't outlaw marriage because some people were forced. Instead, we regulate marriage so it isn't forced. The same with polygamy. Besides, more then one partner is not legally valid anyway. If a person is forced to have sex with their "partner," use rape laws. I don't think we should interfere with peoples private lives.
Marriage or at least households are not one-size-fits-all. Divorce is common in the US today. This results in children who have more than two "parents" and that doesn't seem to be an issue. What would be wrong if several people who love each other and want to be committed to each other share the same household and/or children? Extended family living was the norm in "the old days" with parents, their parents and siblings living in the same house - all who love each other and help out. Polygamy simply adds romantic love between three or more people. Traditional Mormon families and other cultures have shown it can work. Why not legalize it?
Someone should be able to marry whomever they want to. It is wrong to discriminate against those who love whom they love. If you are for gay marriage, how can you be against multiple marriages? If it's based on rights and equality, why deny those rights and equality to people who CONSENSUALLY want to marry each other? I'm not necessarily really for gay marriage or polygamy, but if you are going to allow one, it is wrong and (inflammatory buzzword) DISCRIMINATING to deny the other.
Makes perfect sense to me. If anyone can marry anybody they want to, why not let anyone marry as many people as they want to? If they truly love each other, why not? Join the marriage revolution today! Many as many people as you want to! We could have multiple adults (or children) providing loving, emotional support for everyone within one family!...
It's freedom, end of story. It's not right or constitutional to stop people from being married if they are all consenting. As we all know, the supreme court has ruled that homosexuals can now legally be married. So then it is unfair and unconstitutional to tell anyone else that they cannot be married to as many people as they want. It's only right. With polygamy, as least that's in the bible.
If we are going to legalize gay marriage, then why not polygamy. While we are rewriting the definition of marriage let's be tolerant of all things. Marriage between a man and woman is considered out dated. It is the modern way of thinking to be tolerant of all beliefs, unless you disagree with far left.
The western culture has always had a bad reputation for not wanting to take responsibility for their relational commitments. How is it that it is okay to have multiple affairs and children without being held responsible for them financially, emotionally, and physically? We must make these men and women responsible for their actions. You have a wife and get another woman pregnant. The wife and the other women should rally behind each other and make him step up to the plate and take care of everybody! The women shouldn't fight each other. They should join forces with each other and make him accountable...
This is just my view. By the way, I'm a man who has always believed in this. Man.... Handle your business.
With all the changes of what marriage is, if same sex partners believe that they should be allowed because it's a union between people who love each other then why should it stop there? A union does not have to be between two, it can be between multiple partners that feel the same way
We are a nation based on the principle of truth, justice, and the pursuit of happiness. No one has the right to tell a mentally capable and consenting adult who he or she can and cannot marry. We as a nation need to stop sticking our noses where they don't belong and let people be happy and themselves. If you're gay great, straight wonderful, polygamist super, love thy neighbor and do onto others as you would have them do onto you. Simple but powerful!
I have been in a relationship with my husband and wife for several years. People are afraid of the unknown and make up reasons for it to be wrong. Humans have the ability to love more than one child, sibling, and parent. We are also able to love more than one spouse whether those spouses are at the same time or different times in our lives. It is not just about exploration or sex as some people think. It is about a loving, caring, nurturing and passionate relationship.
My sister wife and I are as committed and in love with each other as we are with our husband. As for children, society has painted such a negative image of something they don't understand. Years ago children of gay parents were treated much worse than they are currently because society changed the opinions and tolerance for people who love who they chose. I read one comment that made me very angry! If my sister wife were to die or become ill we would all mourn and be sad. She is part of us! How dare anyone tell me the love I have for my family is not real.
Biblically there is no reason for it to be morally wrong. In fact check out your Old Testament, people! It would be wonderful if I could legally marry my husband and wife and be able to show the importance of our commitment to the world, but society is too scared of the unknown. Actually they are probably afraid of confronting their true feelings. How many marriages have ended because a spouse became attracted then fell in love with someone else? Many times they still love the spouse, it just becomes a problem because of the lies and secrecy. Our family communicates all the time about feelings and issue we have. Jealousy was a problem at the very beginning, but not anymore. We are a unit we are three as one! Stop being so judgmental. That is reserved for God if you truly believe the Bible and want to use it to hold yourself higher than me. God doesn't just love a person but all of us!
My reasoning is actually quite simple. I'm not interested in a polygamous relationship for my own selfish gain. I am in fact a man who's deeply in love with his wife. My wife happens to be bisexual, it was some time ago that I realized that I simply couldn't give her everything that she desired out of me, for example the love and affection that really only a "WOMAN" can give. That's actually when I decided that I'd allow her to find a woman who she could be with, as long as I like the other woman, of course. As time progressed we found a beautiful and loving young woman who herself had a child. Now she was living at home with an abusive mother and piece of crap stepfather for lack of a better term, but I didn't like her circumstances. Then I began to think, my wife has become less interested in me (this started before the idea of the other woman came up) both physically and sexually; I desire things she simply will not give for whatever her reasons may be. My wife loves this girl, this girl loves her, and I love them both. I am not a selfish person so, my proposal was simply for all of us to be together to introduce something we all needed and wanted. I wanted everyone to be happy, my wife wanted the love from a woman, and the other woman wanted my wife and needed a happy loving home for her and her child. All of these things could be easily provided if we were together. Now, do not misunderstand me, I love both of them, but if they were against the idea of me being involved in this relationship, I wouldn't. So, all in all, I suppose it isn't really a polygamous relationship in the least bit, but they want to get married, and my wife still loves me and wants to be married to me, and we have a child together. So things are only slightly complicated. Oh, and the other girl is open to the idea of us all being together. So it's either I divorce my wife and hope she could forgive me and let them get married, or try to find a way for us to legally coincide together and be a happy family. I want only what's best for all participants.
Humans have a unique ability to always find room to love more than one child, more than one sibling, and even more than one spouse. Widows and divorced people find other loves. Polygamists find love with more than one at the same time. People judge based on fear and disgust of the unknown. When you can truly share your life and heart with someone or someones who is there to judge. Biblically, look at the old testament. Those who worry about the children let me remind you not many years ago children of gay couples were not accepted. As society has removed their paranoia of these relationships this improved, so would happen with children of a polygamist relationship. Having lived for several years in a polygamist relationship, I know of what I speak. My sister wife and I love our husband in un-measurable amounts. We fit well as a family. We all three enjoy being best friends, lovers, parents, and spouses.
So, it is legal to go out and cheat on your wife, and divorce the mother of your children, but one cannot have 2 loving relationships at one time? Furthermore, it is common practice to have a nanny work in your household, but you must withhold any sexual pleasure or commitment from her? And who says the man gets the full benefit? The women have a shared workload, and believe it or not will likely also have a sexual relationship amongst themselves. So, how is that unfair? If it's not your thing, fine, but let others live as they choose. Better to have no parents at home after school than 3? Start looking at the benefits other than the small fact a guy has sex with more than one woman.
If people believe polygamy should be illegal then nongamists should believe monogamy should be illegal. How come your rights are more important than someone with different views? People with these views are the same as people who discriminated against race/ethnicity/homosexuals throughout history. It's a human conflict that people should have outgrown already. Closed mindedness is the reason progress is hindered.
With most animals, including humans, it is natural to seek one than more mate for the purpose of a broader gene pool. Humans are nothing more than glorified animals. This being said, animal instinct is vital to our social construct. To deny polygamy will prompt infidelity. Besides, it is our natural right to do what gives us pleasure. If marrying multiple men and women garners pleasure to a specific individual, they should have the right to do so.
In certain cultures Polygamy was honorable.
Women who had lost their husbands to war or who were abandoned with children sought refuge in a polygamous marriage. It also lessened the burden on the social system. Less women and children needed the assistance of the social system because they remarried. The social system is now overburdened with families who cannot support themselves.
If polygamy were passed as legal, I do believe rules and regulations must be implemented before it is approved. 1. The husband must be able to prove & provide equal support to all spouses. 2. There must be a minimum age limit and maximum limit of wives a man may marry.
3. Subsequent marriages cannot be granted without a signature from the first wife.
4. There must be a waiting period where all three people live together before they marry.
If same sex marriage is approved in America, then polygamy should be legalized with proper provisions in place. The IRS may have to add an extra field in their forms - big deal. Insurance companies actually gain revenue. Polygamy was around eons before society deemed it immoral. Yes, there have been instances where polygamy was abused, but who has studied the families who are actually thriving? Personally, I have come to a point in my own marriage of 17 years where I would appreciate the help of another woman. I don't wish to have more children, but I would have no trouble caring for others. If my husband developed feelings for another woman, I would rather live in truth and know about it rather than him sneaking about. Polygamy lends support to the family as a unit. If I became terminally ill, it would be a great help to my husband and I to have a sister - wife. The burden would fall moreover on him to support us, but at the end it all equals out. It's a matter of managing ego and pride for the wives. With proper provisions set in place - why not legalize polygamy? Will it ruin or burden those who prefer a monogamous marriage? I rather doubt it.
Adding a 3rd caregiver and supporting hand greatly eases the stress of raising kids. There are times in everyone's life when they realize they can't do it alone. Well, you should not have to. Sister wives with complementary skills and strengths make raising a family much less stressful. As long as everyone is a consenting adult and loving parent to all the children then it only increases the stability and strength of the family. All this talk of degrading women is crazy, unless you are talking about an abusive husband there is no danger of that, but abuse in a one-man, one-woman relationship is still an issue.
Adding a 3rd caregiver and supporting hand greatly eases the stress of raising kids. There are times in every ones lives when they realize they can't do it alone, well you should not have to. sister wives with complementing skills and strengths makes raising a family much less stressful. As long as everyone is a consenting adult and loving parent to all the children then it only increases the stability and strength of the family. All this talk of degrading women is crazy, unless you are talking about an abusive husband there is no danger of that, and then in a 1man 1moman relationship you still have the same issue there.
Relationships are strongest when bonded by trust, and trust is an area where monogamy falls short. The common arguments against polygamy are: it will complicate the legal process, alpha males will take more females thus creating an imbalance, it creates an unethical way of parenting, or the age old "it's unnatural" or "you can't love more than one person."
Polygamy will complicate the legal process; there's no denying that. But to criminalize polygamy because people don't want their taxes and other things more complex is ridiculous for the simple reason that it will not affect you unless you engage in a polygamous marriage. If polygamy were to become legal, it doesn't mean everybody is suddenly going to become polygamous. Most people will continue with their monogamous marriages, and will be largely unaffected by any changed legal code.
The thought that polygamy will create an imbalance in available female partners is not supported by any evidence whatsoever. Like previously stated, legalizing polygamy doesn't mean everyone will become polygamists overnight. Most people will continue to engage in monogamous relationships. This is solidly supported by various places where polygamy is legal, particularly in the Middle East. In Iran, where polygamy is legal, there isn't an imbalance in available females and the majority of people aren't even in polygamous marriages. Human societies have practiced polygamy for thousands of years, and this imbalance opponents speak of is not very realistic.
Polygamous parenting is just as good, if not better, than monogamous parenting. A child can have multiple guardians and in the unfortunate scenario where one passes away, the child can still be effectively taken care of. If single parents can raise children, why not three, or four? Shouldn't that actually be better? Of course, this is assuming that the biological parents of a child will choose to raise their child in this method. The two biological parents of a child can choose to be involved in a polygamous marriage, but raise their children alone as a couple. That's the beautiful thing about polygamy. It opens doors and broadens the choices adults can make.
It isn't true that polygamy is unnatural, or that people can't love more than one person. It's quite the opposite. Going through your entire life with affection towards one person and loving one person only is unnatural. It's common to be in a relationship and love your partner wholeheartedly, and still be able to develop feelings for another person. Polygamy allows a person to go a step further and be with the other people these feelings develop towards. Most people don't experience this because monogamy is so entrenched in society that the person developing feelings for more than one person works so hard repressing them.
In the end, it can be stated simply: if you don't want a polygamous marriage, then don't be in a polygamous marriage! Legalizing it will not force anybody to become a polygamist, and in fact, most people won't.
If we make the definition of "marriage" arbitrary, then there is no logic in favoring one definition over another.
Traditionally, marriage has been the lawful union of one man and one woman. It seems now that one can define it as one man and one woman, one woman and one woman or one man and one man. That is, marriage is defined as whatever one wishes. Surely someone who defines it as the union of 2 women could not have an objection to the person who might define it as the union of one or more women and one or more men. In a "reductio ad adsurdum" sense, why would one even wish to limit the participants in the union to people? I say, bring it on !
Through much of my studies, I have found that the traditional African polygamous marriages are the most successful when unadulterated. The traditional African polygamous marriage is the very least corrupted when performed with the community and family backing. Most of the corruption appears to be around the European form of polygamy which seeks to control their women and place them in a subservient role instead of them being equal partners. Many other groups fail in their attempt of a polygamous marriage when using the European method. Many African Americans have been very successful when using the African Traditional methods. Homes are financially stable, children well taken care of, wives are able to fulfill their careers as well as be a good mother to their children. The biggest problem seems to be getting over jealousy. When it is achieved, the family flourishes. I have not seen one case where African Americans have been successful when using the European method.
In the western society many men who are married to only one wife usually have extramarital affairs. Thus a survey was published in the USA Today (April 4, 1988; Section D) which asked 4700 mistresses, what would they like their status to be (mistress or second wife). They said, "I prefer being a second wife rather than the other woman". The reasons for this are that they didn’t have any legal rights, nor did they have the financial equality of the legally married wives and it appeared that these men were using them.
As I see it this is as much a civil rights issue as is gay marriage. Consenting adults who participate in such a union should enjoy all the legal benefits of marriage. Having it otherwise is discrimination against people who are naturally inclined/chose to doing something that has no negative effect on others and which preventing has no positive effect on society- the only 2 basis on which any laws should stand. Saying marriage is a sacred institution that should involve only two people is as stupid as saying marriage is a sacred institution that should involve only a man and a woman.
If any group of consenting people wish to cohabitate and combine fiduciary rights and responsibilities there is no good reason to not to permit them. Contracts make society more accountable and stable. Those who assert that these forms of relationship should be illegal have the burden of proof to show that: 1. Policing the social structures of consenting adults furthers a legitimate government responsibility and 2. Demonstrate that such a law is not a clear violation of the 1st Amendment's protection of religious freedom and right of association and\or the 14th amendment's equal protection clause.
The legalization of equality of marriage should be open and available to anyone of consenting age, sound mind and body, whether it is marrying someone of the opposite sex, the same sex or more than one partner. It was practiced as common place once before and should now be reinstated as a viable option for grown men and women of age. Millions of people live in polygamous marriages and are quite happy and healthy. In this day and age, those with reason and higher understanding should make room for such marriages. Not those of closed minds.
I understand making polygamy illegal if the other wives dont know but what about in the case of Polyamory. I'm in a polyamorous relationship. My boyfriend has another girlfriend. Me and her know about each other and are consenting adults. We both love him and both want to be with him and both and okay with the other being there. We both want his children and want to live together, all three of us. But under the law we cant legally be together. If he were to marry just one off us the other could get her kids taken because its not a "good environment". Its unfair. He is in love with both of us equally. Love not lust, LOVE. Me and her are Bisexual so we have the capability to love women and men equally and at the same time. If we three Love each other and want to be with each other for the rest of our days why is it a bad thing? Grown consenting adults should be able to marry other grown consenting adults. It has been practiced in many religions, not just Mormonism. Both us girls are Wiccan and in some Wiccan practices in the days before Christianity accepted poly-fidelity. It was socially and religiously acceptable up until governments decided it wasn't. When the US made the law in the 1800's they claimed it wasn't socially acceptable, but until they said that it was. Some other religions didn't like it but in the land of freedom of religion that doesn't matter, they don't have to like what others not in there religion do because we are free to believe what we want. I understand it being illegal for minors and for non-consenting adults (people who dont know about the others) but why not for open, knowledgeable, consenting adults. People have the ability to love more than one person. For those who claim that to love two people is just lust and your not serious, well my relationship isn't built on lust. We do have sex sometimes but its not about being able to screw two girls. We want this for us. It has nothing to do with everyone else so why shouldn't we get to make that choice. He is tied to the US by family otherwise I would say "fuck this" and move to somewhere that allows for our love. If you marry in a country where its legal you can be recognized as together in the UK. Because of these laws the three of us are prevented our happiness. Some land of the free this turned out to be...
Polygamy is not harming society. Freedom is looked up to in the United States. I don't think we should base personal opinion on other people's happiness. Everyone has the right to make their own decisions. Let it be because we let gay/lesbian marriage be. What if roles were reversed and monogamy was frowned upon.
Legalizing polygamy among adults would naturally remove the current association polygamy has of underage, secret cults where abuse and tyranny seem to thrive. If we think about those who do disobey the law it would stand to reason that other types of illegal behaviors may be practiced. However, if brought out into full and plain view of society among fully consenting adults, polygamy could be like most any marriage out there, half successful and half ending up not working out. If founded in love and cooperation, I do not see how making a polygamist relationship work would be all that different - with the notable exception being jealousy needing to be kept under control. Perhaps an age requirement of 25 or so for a second spouse would be appropriate. Government should not have a say over moral issues among consenting adults in matters of love, family, and relationship - let alone religious matters.
YES POLYGAMY SHOULD BE LEGALIZED (or at least legally decriminalized). Ok, I have been in a poly relationship for a few years now. in the beginning it was strickly kept secret. I have a legal wife, a "baby Mamma" ( I hate that term), and a third wife who is barren and can not have children. We all live in the same community. We all collectively pay our bills , which means we collectivelly keep a lot more money. I have suggested that we all live in the same house, but they feel like it will create problems. Its the public image.They are afraid that we will be the gossip of the small town if we all live in the same house. Did i leave my children or their mothers ? No , i did not. And what about my wife that can not have children? Should I leave her just because I want a child? No! I will not.
I say that poly builds families, monogamy destroys families.
When the truth is that in this society it is acceptible to have a wife and two or three mistresses, it should be acceptible to have two and three wives! give them the same right that the first wife has.It only destroys a family when a man (who by nature is poygamous) has to sneak around. It is not the extra relationship that hurt a woman , it's the having to lie about it.
Suppose I die tonight (God forbid)! will my family have to fight over my property like dogs because the law won't recognize their individual rights to what we all worked hard to gain? I think it is sick that because a few vocal members of the minority speak out the fabric of the family has to suffer. especially whe those who do all the talking clame to seak from what they claim are traditional Biblical values. If the God of the Bible did not aprove of polygamy he would have out lawed it. But God did not , he ordained laws to regulate it. Why can't those who boldly claim to seak for God simply guide and regulate mans Law to Simply Allow what God has already ordained.
It is not the right of the government to tell me who I can love. They have no right to peep into my bed room, or monitor my sexual activities. To be honest , The Government cant even run itself anymore! The Reps fight the Dems and as a result the civil liberties of the voters get crushed by the people charged with representing us. Any politician who refuses to recognize my family does not deserve my vote, nor yours.
No forced marriages or incest. But for the consenting adults who come into this relationship for love, yes I think it should be legalized. I'm not in a marriage of any kind right now. I was married in the past, and would have never thought about this way of life as an option. I recently attained an appetite for the truth. I been researching many things and stumbled upon this way of life. I could be very happy in a plural marriage. It should be an acceptable way of life.
The reasons stated against are either Christian based or abuse based, both which are false leaders. In all of the Bible, there are cases of multiple partners within marriage. Each abuse based story could happen regardless if plural marriage or monogamous marriage. Marriage is a choice, the size and make-up of which should be up to those within the relationship, not up to less than a third of people polled.
In the United States there is a seperation between church and state. Just because a Christian thinks it is wrong does not make it truly wrong. Atheists can get married as well as the mentally unstble so why can't people who desire to have multiple spouses be aloowed to do so?
I think it should be legalize for the adults. No forced marriages or incest. But for the consenting adults who come into this relationship for love, not sex or anything. It's the same as monogamous relationships it's just doubled. It's not harming anyone, why not let them live their lives! I don't believe you should have 16 wives or anything, but 3 or 4 is a perfect number. Also, humans were born for polygamy. Thats why many men cheat on their wives. I'd rather be in a committed relationship with my husband and him having sex with my sister wife than him having random hook up and accidently bringing home an STD or something!
I did some research and i think the pros definitely out weigh the cons! I mean to live with woman whom you share the love for the same guy, you'd trust your life and your kids lives with these woman because their like mothers to your children and if something ever happened to me I know the sister wives/ best friend would step in and help.. I love the kind of trust you need for these kind of relationships. I also love how the different woman bring different things to the table. Like one woman could be great a cooking who could teach the others. Maybe one is great at making people laugh in times that its needed. It just sounds amazing. A girl whom would become your best friend to share the ups and downs of life with. I love the idea of a big family too. I like the support through the good and bad this relationship comes with and i know this is the kind of life i want. When I imagine this lifestyle for me, I think of me and sister wife preparing dinner while kids run and scream and play around us, husband gets home from work and we sit at the table to eat together. I see me and sister wife taking our kids to fun places together and teaching them the values we hold dear. I see our husband going to bed with sister wife while i stay up late and play on the computer since it is not my night. Thankfully, I'm not a jealous person. So I think that'll help some things! I see having 4 hands, 4 eyes, and 2 hearts caring for and watching after all our children and that's just the mothers! 6 hands, 6 eyes, and 3 hearts full of love for the children and each other. While we enjoy the good times together and hold each other up through the tough times. No relationship is easy, but nothing worth while comes easy!
Don't get me wrong. There will be jealousy, but there is jealousy in every relationship. Even Monogamous. It's a natural human emotion. You work through it and get passed it.
You can't look at it as losing your husband but as gaining a woman who you'd share your life, secrets, kids, everything with!
Just for the sole fact that people should have their choice of religion, culture, and relationships. I was not born into Polygamy. I have just been studying the subject and think it is very interesting and think everyone has a right to freedom of religion, culture, and relationships My Husband can have another wife if he would like.
Some people are born poly. It is their natural state. Societal bigotry, ignorance, and prejudice has caused polys to hide in fear of being arrested and scorned. This must end. It's almost 2013.
Now that same sex is moving along, legalizing polygamy must be the next frontier. The fact that so many people end up in multiple concurrent relationships is evidence that it is natural.
I truly think that it should. If you look at not just the bible, but the fact that there are more women then men, it makes sense. Also think of it this way, what happens if you and your wife have been together a long time before you ever think of sex, and then some time long after your married; you begin to talk about wanting a family. She breaks the news to you that she can not have children. I know that many would say find a way to adopt, or someone who would carry the child for you and your wife, oh wait how could the person carry a child for you if your wife can not mother children? When you look at adoption, what happens if you do not qualify for some reason or another, you will have spent all that money for nothing. If you allow concenting adults to be in the same house together, and they are allowed to merry then who is it really hurting, the people of society or you? Think about it like this, back in the days of Rome, and the Spartans, they use to have orgies all the time, and it was acceptable. Society is always changing, so what is to say that it will not be legalized one of these days in the future? For those who are against it, I have this to say; a few people by the names of Washington, Jefferson, Adams, Hamilton fought the British to gain our freedom, and now we are going to say that people can not have multiple spouses and violate other peoples rights of choice and freedom? Who the hell are we to say that it is right or wrong? We are always saying that things need to change, so why not start with this? Also todays cost of living requires that a couple need to work two full time jobs, just as a way to make very little head way, and if you should have a family what kind of life would that be for your kids, to not have their mother and father in the house?
People are hiding from what they do. If it was legal, they would come out of their shadows, they would not be afraid to hide. While some think of polygamy is degrading and abusive, we only see that side from the news or what we see in other media sources. If they were able to come out of hiding, they would be able to show us, the public, that they were normal families, functioning just like the rest of us do.
if it is mutual and non harmful then it should be able to be allowed. It is not for all but it is not morally or even Biblically incorrect The communication needs to be constant and the understanding of equality as well. It is not degrading, only if it is a cult status
From many standpoints legalizing polygamy makes sense. To start with, it is not morally wrong, but it is not for everyone. If you do not feel the pull, then you would not be obligated. But for many people who love more than one person and if they can all openly navigate the relationship, then as consenting adults, it should be their right to join as a legal family. To those who say it is morally wrong, that is a religious belief and is used for gay marriage too and is wrong headed. For one thing the Bible includes polygamy. For another thing, not everyone is Christian and feels compelled to follow it. Removing that obstacle and most arguments fall apart. As for those who think they know how it affects kids from the very few high profile cases, I would say you are not informed and need to wait until you know something or someone personally before you start passing judgement. It makes socio-economic sense in that allows there to be more adults under one roof to bring in funds and care for children, giving added stability. Monogamous marriage does not add stability, witness the divorce rate. It is not abusive to women, I would welcome a sister wife and my husband would be fine with a co-husband. It is not just about men collecting women, as there are different possible family formations. Too many people are assuming it is just for loose people or so men can have lots of women. Folks, most men would just date, it takes a man of character to openly commit to more than one woman. So as long as it is all consenting adults, I would take part in such an arrangement and think it should be legal.
The government has no right to stand between you and who you want to marry as long as it is between two consensual adults.
Any debate against this logic involving a religious opinion is worthless. If your God is against it then don't do it but you have no right to demand the government block someone else from doing it either simply because it violates your religious ethics.
I had to evolve on this issue the way President Obama had to evolve on gay marriage. If I'm in love with a man who is already married, I would rather become his second wife than be responsible for breaking up his marriage with the first wife. Besides, it's not banned in the bible and if it's between two or more consenting adults, government should mind its own business.
I hear people saying that polygamy is degrading to women, that it is against religion, that marriage is made between a man and a woman.
What makes marriage degrading to women? Is it the number of sister wives? I say NO. You can see it every day, monogamist relationships that are degrading to women (or men in some cases) where one partner abuses the other. Therefore the number of women in marriage is irrelevant.
Why is it against religion? What is religion? Is it Christianity, Judaism, Islam, Mormon, Scientology, or some other religion? I believe the question should be: Don't we have separation of church and state in this country? Have people forgotten the first amendment, which states that no law should be based on religious believes?Therefore basing laws on religious believes is irrelevant.
Marriage is between a man and a woman. Ok, if you strongly believe this, then only marry one person, but don't force your other people to believe what you believe, remember that this is what has caused many wars, imposing one's believes is a dangerous and harmful thing to do. This is the same reasoning behind gay marriage. If you believe that marriage is between a man and a woman and not between 2 men or 2 women, then don't marry a person of the same sex. Or do you really thing that by allowing gay marriage you will become gay. As simple as that.
Remember when being gay was evil, immoral, and illegal? Many gay men and women would have to hide their sexual preference during all their lives and live unhappy lives as married men and women. Living such a fake life would not only hurt them, but it will hurt their spouse and children by knowing that their parent and spouse was in love with someone else, and that it did not matter what they did, he or she will always be gay.
This is the same thing you see happening with polygamists and bigamists, they are all around us. You see them fathering many children with different women either through a sequence of marriage and divorce, or simply by having romantic relationships without being formally married. This is my opinion is degrading to women and affects children because they rarely see their father.
If the financial aspect of polygamy is what frightens you (provide benefits to all wives), then lets work something out. But I assure you that charging bigamists or polygamists with a felony is not the answer.
Polygamy is mentioned multiple times throughout the Bible and with no negative connotations to mirror it. Further more, think of the potential financial stability, rather than two incomes, there are three. The economy is tough right now, and while I don't suggest that polygamy is the answer to America's economic troubles, I do think in some cases it could be a solution if those involved are open minded and willing to make it work. Ultimately, 83% of the cultures around the world practice polygamy, just because we consider ourselves a "civilized society" we turn a stiff upper lip to it, when in reality in more cases than one, it is far more beneficial than a monogamist relationship.
If you believe the whole bible, and not just parts of it, then you must condone the practice of polygamy as approved by God. In my own opinion, people are free to marry whomever they wish and shouldn't be held down by the dictates of a merely hundred year old law put in place by people who had very little understanding of what was morally correct.
People should have the right to be happy and marry whoever they want. If a guy wants to get married to two other women and both women agree to it then I don't see where the problem is. We are in the 21 century. It's simple--if you are against polygamy, you are against equality and against freedom. And if you think it's abusive to women then you don't understand that it doesn't matter if someone is married to one person or 20. It's illegal to abuse people and if someone is abused they need to get help.
Most arguments on the "no" side assumes women don't have a say...that they are abused and neglected and treated poorly. That couldn't be FURTHER from the truth...we're talking about CONSENSUAL poly relationships here, not "forced" marriages. All of the women I know ENJOY and APPRECIATE multiple partners, and have close rewarding relationships with the other women too, some even as an intimate spouse. None of these plural families are "forced" into anything...each member of the union has their own voice and an equal say. I'm in a FMF poly triad and we all equally love and respect each other...we're all deeply in love and couldn't be any happier!
I ended up with my second wife at around the age of fifty (both of them are the same age) quite by accident. All of the children were grown, educated, and self supporting. My wife had asked a friend who was single to stay with us while she was ill and one thing led to another. This was twenty four years ago and yes the three of us lived in the same home for all these years and rarely had a quarrel. Both are in nursing homes now and I miss them terribly. The three of us are educated and had professional positions untill we all had retired. I just do not see your argument against this arrangement. It has served us well for all these years.
It's in the Bible. and I feel like people should be able to have as many spouses as they want, they do it anyway, they're just not married. It would help a lot of single mothers out and be a benefit to both the parents and the children. They would be able to have three parents instead of one or two to help them with school work or advice.
I know I love two people. I know the two people love me. I don't think any financial status or religion should play a role in legalizing this "behavior" or idea. I don't have a particular religion I adhere to nor follow. I do have a basic acceptance of some higher entity, but at the same time believe in science, where death is just THE END (this is another idea I shouldn't go in depth with). Anyway, people say it's immoral...but based on what background/religion are we speaking from? I agree with that if Polygamy is legalized, some people would bring out ridiculous notions of, for example, different species marriages...but we know that that's messed up? WHY? b/c we should think marriages should be between adult humans. They can reason, they have their own individual rights, and can make their own decisions. If one woman and two men decide to get married, well, let them, as they all consented. If one man marries two women, let them, as they, too, had consented. Being married is not always forever--if it doesn't work out, then hey the polygamous life-style wasn't meant to be with the one opting out. If America is what it's supposed to known to be, let the Americans do, in my opinion, what they naturally do. Equal rights for all, no matter what relationship you have. If the law states one woman for one man marriage, then you should be able to have another marriage, which is another set of one man and one woman. Dual citizenship...CDL license, car license, motorcycle license...Dual Marriage? Why not?...one person can still get them? soon, it will come. I vote YES. For the NO people, providing better reasons than "morality"--what's moral to me is not moral to you, "not fair"--who says? the two wives agreed with it, "institution of marriage"--based on who? your definition? your life?; my idea of marriage is being happy with the one(s) I love, creating children with them, and growing old with them...happily!
Those of us who are in a Polygyny relationship where we are three in a family, in my case, FMF, would like to be considered as equals in the relationship. The legal wife has the right to call herself his wife, I on the other hand do not. It is painful; I wish to be his legal wife and he wishes to be my legal husband, it is in our hearts and we can't make it legal. It has nothing to do with money, assets, etc... People should approve of it as people having love for more than one person and wanted to be in a committed relationship with those people. We have children, we raise our families, pay our bills, etc... just like everyone else. Support Love!!
First off, polygamy is in NO WAY similar to incest or gay marriage, so I don't know why everyone puts them in the same category. I have a wife now that is insanely amazing, and although she doesn't agree with having more than one wife, more than one of her would make my life a true blessing.
Although marriage in the US is defined as between one man and one woman, nowhere does it prohibit having more than one marriage. Even at the state level it is not prohibited, they just simply will not issue you a new license unless the last one is void.
As for child abuse cases --- for every 1 you can show me involving polygamy I could show you 100 involving monogamy, same with spousal abuse, etc.
Also, of course men will get neglected in a place like the small communities down south because we (referring to the US) have forced them into small confines where there is a very limited number of resources. Polygamy legalized nation-wide would not run in to these sorts of issues.
Don't even start with the polygamy cases in the Bible, because not only is it supported fully, God gave commandments on specific persons you could not marry into a polygamous relationship (why would he give those unless he supported the practice in the first place). Also, please somebody tell me how God can have multiple billions of children with one woman.....that woman needs a break!
Anyways, we could go on forever, but I don't want people reading a novel. Ultimately it should be a person's choice to live how he or she wishes so long as that way of living is not directly affecting another's. (And there's no way you can say me having 2 wives affects your life).
All the evidence in nature, in the Bible, in many countries, indicate that men need more than one woman. If that is not the truth, why do all men wish to have more than one wife or partner? Why are men able to separate emotions from sexual intimacy and most women are not?
If you go by the bible it would be wrong, but the laws in the United States go by justice and what is right. If gay marriage is allowed, then if both partners agree to it, then why shouldn't multiple marriages at the same time be allowed. You shouldn't just allow one but not the other, it is a believe that is shared and probably would even be good for kids as well, where in a three way marriage two could be working and one would be at home to take care of the children. It could have many pros and the only con would be that it is morally wrong according to the bible. The symbol of justice in America is represented by a woman with a scale which is blind folded. This symbol means that justice is blind, not looking at the color, believe, religion, (a believe is different then a religion) or heritage of a person. And because of the freedom of believe and religion, it should be legalized.
What an adult does in their personal life is there business. If three or more people wish to enter into a marriage with one another, the government has no right to tell them that they cannot. As long as the people getting married are consenting adults, there is no reason to fear legalization of polygamy.
If you have one kid, your entire energy, love, attention and time is spent on him/her. But, nobody thinks in a complete negative way to have an additional kid based on the division of love. The love for sure is natural. It could go to the first kid or the other. All depends on the relationship with the kid. But in most cases, both the kids are being loved almost equally. It is just a little difference some times. This is the same exact case of polygamous relationship. I believe, in an environment when you can have open relationship with as many girls as possible, it is hundred percent wrong not to allow this under the banner of marriage. How come the relationship with responsibility (a marriage) is banned, and the same relationship without a responsibility (girlfriendship) is allowed. It is dual nature. Hypocrisy from top to bottom.
If we respect all religions and cultures, than we should respect polygamy also. If a man wants to have more than one wife and the women are in agreement than that should be their choice. If we support same-sex marriage we should support marriage to more than one person at the same time, if the families are happy.
Consenting adults should be allowed to marry who ever they want (man, woman, 2 men, 3 women etc.). We have a separation of church and state for a reason. I am a Christian BUT for the purpose of this discussion this is is a legal topic not a religious one. I definitely don't want our government to dictate to us what is morally right or wrong, stay out of our bedrooms.
A large gender imbalance. Marriage is a religious act. All monotheistic Religion supports polygamy. Polygamy establishes social justice between men and women wherein women will have someone to support them. Those that do not like it don't have to marry more than one. If gays have freedom, why not allow polygamist to have that same freedom?
While I do not agree that there must be only one spouse or many, even for a polygamist which by nature can choose either, I do not think that we should disallow it simply because it is allowed in many religions. Any morality issues some may have is a moot point since it is a relative interpretation of their beliefs. Most of the world's religions allow for it including the three main world religions of Christianity, Islam, and Judaism. Not all interpretations allow for it, but let the individual make the right choice for them and tolerate the decisions of others. For those that argue that it damages marriages, there are currently at least twice as many women on the planet as men so this allows a way to cut down on adultery. I would also show that those that argue that it creates hardships on family are in error as well, as the division of household labor is more manageable and all families have problems. Also, polygyny is one man with multiple wives, and polyandry is one woman with multiple husbands, so gender inequality is impossible if you allow both. Any arguments to the contrary are based in Puritanical Christianity and are anti-American since the first amendment guarantees free speech, freedom of the press, and freedom of religion. This is a purely American concept in origin, and should be treated with reverence. Regulate it yes, but do not ban it. America is at it's strongest when all of it's citizens unite in tolerance of each other. United we stand, divided we fall.
We have laws against child abuse and domestic violence, and we should keep and enforce those. Polygamy would allow a man to marry multiple women and/or men, and would allow a woman to marry multiple men and/or women. Don't force your morality on others. If you won't want to be polygamous, you don't have to. Let others have the choice to consent to that. The logistics would mostly be easy to work out, but all civil rights changes have involved a little work. Think of the Americans With Disabilities Act. People who already have the right to marry the person they love might not feel motivate to change, but what about those denied their fundamental right to marry the persons they love?
Polygamy should be legalized in the united states. We open our boarders to many different cultures who come from areas where plural marriages are accepted. So, we are going to deny them the rights to practice those practices? We claim to be?" The land of the free.", but we deny immigrants and Americans to freely practice plural marriages openly. additionally, in the old testament- how many religious figures had multiple wives, concubines, and mistresses? The same goes for the new testament, some figures had multiple relationships actively. Many foreign religions practice plural marriages openly. When they come to our country, we expect them to stop observing their practices? That's like going to war in a foreign country and expected not to shoot or carry a firearm. Now again not to make this a religious arguement, but it does play a minimal issue in the arguement. Now, let us talk about the economical aspect of this arguement. We have many municipalities that cannot deal with a uprise in housing being built. So they have to expand into our much needed farmlands in order to accomithate the growth. Imagine having to give up your family farm or your prime land to allow the government to build housing. You cannot stop it! The government wants, they take it, regardless how important it is to your livelyhood. Imagine the advantages of a plural family home, the finacial stability, the open-ness of family values being instilled to the children, the strainlessness of the community to have to build more housing to accomithate growth. I feel that if the government can take my land and various other "freedom?" From me, why should I not be allowed to have more than 1 spouse? furthermore, by allowing plural marriages, there would be a decline in divorces, extra-marital affairs, and fatherless children. Television, news media, ministers, and the government want plural marriages seen as an abomination and sin. They would rather allow same sex marriages, a great sin, than allow a person to have more than 1 spouse. My bedroom and marriage should be my choice. I should not be
You should only be married to one person at a time. Having more than one spouse (usually more than one wife) is not fair to the women in the relationship, I feel. I am sure the men enjoy it very much but the way it should be is one on one.
I am a very spiritual person, and I believe that God meant for marriage to be between a woman and man, to be united and never broken. Marrying more than one woman or man means that you have lusted over another being, aside from your first spouse, which is indicated as adultery in the Bible.
Polygamy is an exploration experience, in my opinion. People who practice polygamy, only do it to get sexual pleasure out of it. It's one of those things that are for fun, not to be taken to something as serious as marriage. If someone really does love another person, they wouldn't want to be with anyone else, but them. Having other people that you supposedly "love" goes to show you obviously don't fully love either of them. And when you think about it, if one of the spouses died, the others could just get together, showing that love isn't really expressed in the relationship because they replaced that person quickly. Rather than feeling sadness because that person they said they loved died. Allowing polygamy in marriage is a joke because those people are obviously very immature and clearly don't know what love is. People who practice polygamy really only do it for sexual exploration, not because they are in love with more than one person. As for kids, that's even worse. Any sane person would want their spouse to only have children with them. My opinion here has nothing to do with the Bible because really, it's vague on the whole topic and if God was real he would have been more specific on whether it should or should not be practiced. Stop thinking in terms of a book and think with your mind. The past does not matter because people experimented with polygamy because they didn't know any better. We've evolved enough to see that marriage is for two people who really love each other.
Although polygamy is a practice that has been romanticized on recent television programs, I do not believe that the popular fascination with it should extend to legalization. I think that polygamy is a misogynist practice that lends itself to the abuse of small children and women. Polygamist leaders are notorious for cases of abuse.
I have watched a couple of documentaries on television that show the behind the scenes life of these families. As I watch these shows all I can see is how the kids seem to have a hard time explaining why their families are the way they are. It just does not seem right that the kids need to be subjected to this type of life.
I am against legalizing polygamy in the United States because the act itself goes against the moral fabric of the country. Whether it's a man and a woman, or two people of the same sex committed to each other, that is what marriage is -- love of two. It is immoral to expand that concept to include a person with many spouses.
Why polygamy should be illegal:
1. Where is my right to live in my house, with my wife, and nobody else? Nobody should have to move over, because their spouse is cheating on them.
2. Even the largest house, can't house a seriously polygamous marriage, and living apart isnt the best idea around, because it creates just more social instabilities.
3. Im not gay or bisexual and I will not lay in bed with a man.
This is my house, and nobody is coming into my house unless that MFer wants to die.
It seems like the dumb turd American liberals don't know when enough violence is enough...
Guess what ?
Any man that I find with my wife, is going to get his head busted open.
You want to legalize reasons to be violent, guess what?
You're going to get the violence, mess with my wife and I'll kill ya.
I am a fundamental Christian. I believe in creationism. Furthermore, I believe all of our world was created by one God and he rules over it all. God's plan is made clear through the Bible. Marriage is simply but specifically between one man and one woman. We are not allowed to transform God's plan nor conform it to accomodate our human lusts and desires, with the notion that it protects some 'human right'. One is good, the other evil. God advises us, and gives us the strength and power, to overcome evil.
Cool website. However polygamy hurts both parties.
1. Internal family drama is painful
3. Favoritism/ jealousy
4. Against God's initial plan
5. We are told in the Bible the best marriages are between one man and one woman
6. Hurts children
7. One man cant' care for all
The Bible teaches that one man and woman should live together for their lifetime. By legalizing polygamy, you are contradicting everything that the Bible teaches. By legalizing polygamy, you are teaching the future generations that marriage to one person really does not matter, and that sexual relations with numerous partners is OK. What happened to commitment to one person for the rest of your life? I think it would also create confusion for the children that grow up in those families.
The definition of marriage set forth clearly by God in the bible is that you are to be the husband of one wife (not many). That is where my belief system comes from and my opinions are based.
Polygamy (in the form of polygyny) causes massive social and economic imbalances that disrupt society and eventually lead to upheavel. Polygamy results in: degradation of human rights, massive economic imbalance, destroyed (if not heavily distorted) family values, places the acquisition of more wives above the welfare of current wives and children, robs other men of their rights to marry, which in turn causes civil unrest and a massive gap in social standards, reduces women to the status of cattle and polarizes society as a whole.
Think if you were a woman that lived happily with a man.Then you got uterine cancer and no longer bear children. Above all the hurt your husband will tell you that he needs another woman cause you can no longer provide children.
In case of divorce you'd walk away with your dignity. But condoning this practice it's like telling abused women that if a husband is no longer pleased with you, for whatever reason, he has the right to another woman. Your only say in this is leaving.
Polygamy that is not accepted by the law is like not accepting abuse. It's not marriage unless partners have equal rights in my own opinion and in this case these rights are infringed.
And it's degrading to women because it gives a sense of entitlement over them. If they sleep with another man it's cheating but if he sleeps with any of them it's polygamy.
Pretty much...Legalizing Polygamy is pretty much legalizing cheating... Which is already imm0ral. I've had one wife (Feminist...I was covered over by the 'Rose Glasses...) And she ended up cheating on me... Her excuse was that 'It's not cheating if we plan to marry...'... Quick divorce there. Polygamy is immoral... I can understand some men think it would be 'Exciting, fun!' and women might think 'More options more lovers more money and things...'. It won't be like that. It'd be several people sharing one person in their life. That means possibly not seeing that 'Wife' or 'Husband' for weeks, months at a time. Do you want that? The person you fell in love with catching STDs and getting comfort and love somewhere else? Most might answer no. So I ask you, whoever be reading this, to please consider that. Being cheated on left me dead inside, there is literally nothing left inside right now. I don't think this needs to go through because I don't want many other people getting that feeling. I think it could be legalized, though, if everybody the person plans to get married to knows each other, has met, and agrees on it... Otherwise it's basically cheating, and takes away the other person's ability to have someboy they can love and be happy with. I rest my story here... I hope this helps some of you out there. God bless.
In terms of rights, I guess we can't refuse them now that we've forbidden any established definition of marriage. But look at it this way: If we were to legalize polygamy, we would have to take an equality-based stance on it, meaning it can't be limited to any certain religion or gender. If FLDS Larry can have five wives, then so can Susan the Atheist. Now suppose Larry and Susan are married to each other. Larry has three wives altogether and Susan has four husbands. Each of Larry's other wives have anywhere from two to four husbands and Susan's husbands have on average about the same number of wives. They all have lots of kids and no one really knows which ones belong to who. I would continue, but Larry and Susan's tax preparer just went into a coma.
Polygamy should not be legalized anywhere. Marriage involves two people, not several. It is a sacred commitment meant for those in love, not those in lust. It is considered wrong for a reason, and if people want to have several sexual partners, they can outside of marriage. It shouldnt be legalized, nor should it be accepted.
What kind of tax form would one fill out with multiple spouses? What kind of extra tax breaks would they receive? How much extra would it cost health insurance companies to cover multiple spouses? I do believe that humans are monogamous at heart, even though it's not often practiced. Those beliefs are also not based on religious foundation either. If polygamy was legalized, it would have to be consenting polygamy and that would be very hard to prove, as we have already seen in Utah.
Being married to more than one person is gross. Why would I want to be with a man that sleeps with other women at the same time? Cheating is terrible, polygamy is basically cheating. If I am married to a man, I want to be the only one sleeping with him.
No because most people get angry and jealous even when their partner looks at another person. Those people that voted yes, imagine it this was your partner with someone else. Trust me it could never work look at African countries for proof- most of those marriages are not happy ones!
If a polygamist has children with all of his wives, won't the children have more "mothering" than "fathering"? Isn't that a problem in our culture already--not enough fathering? How do young men learn to be good fathers if they have limited fathering? How do young ladies learn what to look for in a husband if their time with father is limited? People's relationships with their fathers have a lot to do with how they view God the Father. Father-hunger is a huge problem.
Two spouses have equal footing - 50% of the union. With polygamy, there is no equality, which is not in accordance with the spirit of America. A quick review of any polygamist society - Muslim, fundamentalist Mormon, even the reality show Sister Wives - clearly shows this inequality. As a society, we cannot allow this inequality as it is not beneficial for the nation.
We have a lot of evidence about the practice of polygamy, and the results are mostly negative. For women, it means inequality, subjugation, stemming from the ability of the husband to usurp her place with a younger woman without giving her the rights due in a divorce. For society, it means that the rich have multiple wives leaving some of the poor with no one to marry. In Mormon polygamous communities, rich old men force underage girls into marriage while "extra" teenage boys are forced out of the community. The only situation where polygamy might be justified is when there is a gender imbalance, for example when a large number of men are killed in a war.
Polygamy shouldn't be legal for many reasons. It isn't even very common in the first place. Its only used by the flds, a radical Mormon community in rural utah and Arizona. Also, studies have shown that there are higher birth defects and mental retardation in children born into polygamy families. Polygamy is also the perfect recipie for rape and domestic violence.
I believe that relationships between two people are usually complicated enough. But when there are more people involved, it ets even harder. Talking about positive sides, people usually mention such aspects like sharing family responsibilities among wives, and enough sex for a man, etc. But think about emotional sides. Imagine yourself in this situation. Most people would simply be jealous, upset not being "the only one". That didn't work well before, this is a reason why our society doesn't accept polygamy now.
People should be able to show their affection and love to a person they care about, and be able to stay committed to that person and no one else. By having multiple spouses you're being unfair to both them. It can only lead to economical issues in the future for that family, or even more likely one person may become jealous of the other.
In all societies that have allowed polygamy there has been a constant theme: It was gender specific, meaning one gender was allowed to have multiple spouses but not the other. This is, of course, unacceptable in an equality-based society, so polygamy, if allowed, would have to be open to both genders. Why is this a problem? Well, let's imagine a family under this system. Bob and Susan are married. Bob has three other wives and Susan has two other husbands. Each of these spouses has their own individual spouses, some of which are married to each other, but not all of them. All of these people have their own children and no one is quite sure who the fathers are of many of them. I could continue, but Bob and Susan's tax preparer just slipped into a coma and I think you see my point.
There are a lot of problems with polygamy and it is EASILY findable in the problems in the other countries that practice it. Marrying girls off young, trapping them in marriages, abusing them, turning them into nothing more than baby making machines. There is no intimacy between multiple people like that.
I could not imagine ever sharing my partner with anyone else. On top of that, the people claiming it's a gene are just asking for excuses to cheat, "I couldn't control myself. I was born to sleep with multiple people."
You have to draw the line somewhere, no one can give themselves 100% in multiple places. A polygamist family can be damaging to kids with absent fathers(or mothers) going else where, not giving the kids 100% because there are too many. It's an excuse to be greedy. If people want multiple partners, why do they need marriage?
These women are told to marry into these relationships because God wants them to. It's complete BS. When the man can't support the family anymore once it gets too large, guess who gets to foot the bill??? I don't think its right or fair. Especially after what's probably STILL going on with the FLDS.
I feel that polygamy in the sense of marriage is unethical for a multitude of reasons. First of all, I feel that it send a poor message to younger girls who are raised having multiple moms and only a single dad who controls the family. It would essentially indoctrinate young women into feeling inferior to men.
Additionally, marriage and finances use the assumption that there are two people involved in a marriage. By having 4 or 5 people involved, it is giving that family an "advantage" or a more complicated situation in regards to taxes.
Its not mature. Just because women have babies doesnt mean that they have to share 1 man. Men would not want to share their wife with other men. Men compete for women to satisfy her and to procreate with her. Women compete for men just the same, that is why women doll themselves up and are pretty much immodest for competition purposes. Our society cannot handle polygamy, can you imagine the female competition. All the wives would be trying to one up the other wives to compete for the husbands bed. It is unhealthy and feeds the falls of men.
Just because our society is saying everything is ok and people are doing everything imaginable and it us becoming the normal does not mean we need to claim these things as normal.
If our society was as exploitive with say murder or child abuse as it is with sexual exploitation of women then would we be voting for legalizing child abuse and murder?
This should not be allowed because this is a christian nation and there would be a lot of conflict discrimination and problems within our society. What is wrong with being married to just one person? The divorce rate is up real high for monogamy marriage and to have polygamy around? Not good.
You get jealous if your boyfriend has another girlfriend why in the world would you want your husband to have another wife?
There are tv shows being made about people running away from their families just so they don't have to marry someone who is already married .
Polygamy was invented so men could have sex with more than one woman and not get punished for it.
Polygamy should not be legalized in the United States because of the negative effects that such a marital structure has on children. Research has shown that in polygamous marriages, the fathers are rarely involved with their children. Some of these fathers don't even know how many children they have, or even the names of their children. In these cases, the children in effect do not even have a father. The results of father absence have been studied endlessly over the years, and nothing good ever emerges because of it. Girls suffer with low-self esteem which leads them to make bad life choices, and boys have a difficult time figuring out how to act because they don't have a role model to look to.