Love is love. Just to start off, I'm a teen lesbian. When I grow up and meet the beautiful fantastic love of my life, I do hope to have children. We will love them so very much. As long as the parent loves their child and can bring them up to be amazing people, why does the gender of those parents matter?
Homosexual people are individuals. They have same rights we do. They can be responsible, loving and good parents- most of the time better than the heterosexual parents. People think many false things about homosexual people . Nowadays the world has changed. We must become more open minded. We must think more positively. We must think of the benefits of homosexual people adopting children and not only what is bad .
Supporting a child as a gay couple will not affect the child's quality in life. Studies according to your website (debate.org) help support my claim. Would you rather a child never have the authority and care that an adult can provide them just because the couple is gay? No. Should a gay couple be shunned the right to adopt a child that may never have a chance to go anywhere else? No.
Same sex couples should be allowed to adopt children because they need to have their rights as any other person. If they dont have rights then there is no freedom, or no pursuit of happiness. According to the Universal Declaration of Human Rights it violates our rights, article 2 says ''everyone is entitled to the same rights without discrimination of any kind''. If a man is able to impregnate a woman and raised his kids why he can't do it with his same sex partner. No one can't decide whether how or with who someone is going to raised a child. Is the person time, money and patience. They at least going to have someone to care about than nothing, than having children at orphanages, foster homes without affection or attention they really need. Is better to have two same-sex couples to have only one person taking care of children. If a person does not like being straight or not feeling well and find another way to be happy we should be just because it is his feeling.
Having loving parents is never a mistake! I grew up in a household with a mother and father who didn't want a child. I didn't have a good life. How much would I have preferred to be raised by parents who loved and wanted me, irregardless of their sexual orientation!
Denying gay couples the right to adopt a child is just wrong. Anyone who thinks a child having two dads or two women as parents is harmful to the child's growth and happiness obviously haven't been paying attention to the thousands of children being abused by heterosexual couples in the adoption and foster care systems and even by their own biological parents.
You say gay men shouldn't be allowed to adopt because they might molest the little boys? Why don't you take a look at all the cases involving little girls being molested by their adopted fathers behind their wives' backs? I bet there are millions of little girls like those, including all those whose claims were discounted as lies by the adults were supposed to be protecting them.
You want to say God himself is against gay couples adopting children? That it's sinful? I don't believe that and I'm Christian. You come show me where in the Bible it states that gay couples cannot adopt.
This is my personal opinion, I am a bisexual teenage boy who has sexual attractions to other boys, and romantic/platonic attractions to girls. Hence this opinion is biased.
The main reason is that, If two certain individuals can provide a stable and loving environment for a child to grow up in then why not?
The is no valid reason for same-sex adoptions to be illegal and not consented, the main reason why people disagree is that " A child needs male and female role models in their life", if this is true then how do only parents manage? Does the fact that they are hetero-sexual mean they can provide both the male and the female role model? Children often idolize celebrities and characters in movies or TV-series an not their parents.
Another argument against same-sex adoption is "It is disturbing for the child to imagine what bothersome sexual acts occur at night behind his "parents" closed doors." There are not many children who actually want to know any "act" that happen in their parents bed whether it is hetero-sexual or homo-sexual, so this is an extremely false argument.
"Children from same-sex parents will be targets of bulling" Better being bullied about their parents than themselves, children will get bullied for some reason or another sometime over the course of their lifespan and there is not much that is able to be done about it. Except maybe there being no plasibo effect against homo-sexual and their children.
In conclusion there has still to be found a valid and comprehensable reason apart from "its against nature" and "it is not good's will." Then what are we doing to our planet? But that is an entirely different topic.
Oh and the person who used Yin and Yang in their argument go learn the basics of Taoism before you ever use Yin and Yang in a conversation. One note: Yin starts and action and Yang ends it so what you said made no-sense...
Your sexual preference shouldn't effect the fact that you want to adopt. Every human being should have the right to adopt, after all we do not have the right judge someone based on their life decisions. As children we want a happy family in the future, even if you are a little different then the person sitting beside you. So yes, in conclusion same sex couples should be allowed to adopt. They're no different then you and me, they're human beings they just prefer something different.
There are many children in need of a loving home and they could have that. The only thing that makes same sex couples' lives unstable and difficult are the people who so adamantly try to deny them equal rights with their circular logic. What is best for any child is to have parents that truly want and love them. Bullying? Get real. Kids are horrible to each other, and that only enforces the need for a loving and supportive family. Bullies don't need a tangible reason to put others down. If it's not their parents it'll be their hair, or their glasses, or their freckles. Bullying is a reality of life, a horrible reality but a reality all the same, and even though it shouldn't happen, it will. Kids do it, adults do it. All the zero-tolerance policies in the world will never stop this, but a child with a family unit that loves and supports them will develop and grow stronger and more prepared for the real world which, let's be honest, is far more brutal overall.
Just because people think that its not right, or if its not going to benefit the children who they adopt. Well THINK AGAIN! The children who are being adopted by same sex couples are doing waaaaaaaay better in schools, and in their studies and their attitudes have changed. The world is changing, society itself is changing, and so are people. There are same sex couples n this world GET OVER IT! MOVE ON WITH LIFE! IT IS NOT AFFECTING YOU IN ANY WAY! Let them be, of they want to adopt I think they should, it's their life.
Same sex couples with a child is damaging for the child? The 'logic' behind that is that is that the mother and the father each provide masculine/ feminine influences (teaching the kid how to be a real man, or how to be a proper woman). Not only has it been scientifically and psychologically proven that this does not affect the child (such as by the APA), it's a little sexist for both men and women in the way it enforces gender roles. And what is that saying about single parents? That they're depriving their child of a need? Actually, most people i know raised by a single parent turned out fine, so I guess that means that the parent was able to to provide both masculine and feminine influences regardless of gender (If you want to think in that context)! Besides, i think having two dads would be awesome and most people could agree with me on that one.
Why is it your choice that two people of the same sex can't ever fall in love and decide that they want to have a family but aren't able to. One man and one woman can always adopt because to you its normal, well maybe the people who are in love with the same sex want to be normal to. Just because you are not in a relationship with someone of the opposite sex doesn't mean that its abnormal. You don't choose how the world goes round. Whats normal to you may not be normal to someone else. Face the fact that your not perfect and shut the hell up
Yes, they should be able to adopt children. A child raised by a same sex couple can be just a normal as any other child. Growing up I've known kids who were raised by same sex couples and they are just fine and heterosexual. A person cannot be forced or influenced to be homosexual, I am a straight woman, I'm only attracted to men, no one can force or influence me into being with a woman because that is not who I am. I was raised by a family of all women, my father left before I was born, I was raised by my mother, aunt, grandmother, and older cousin. I grew up just like everyone else, if someone is against same sex couples adopting then they must be against my family as well? It would only make sense, all women raising a child? Crazy right? I'm heterosexual, a good student, and on my way to college. Also, if anyone decides to argue "but then the child will become gay" why do straight couples have gay children? Why would a home-schooled child of a straight couple to turn out to be gay? Why do children of very religious/christian family become gay? And finally, why would the child of a homophobic straight couple be gay? It just happens, not influenced, not forced, it just happens. America has thousands upon thousands of children waiting to be adopted by a loving couple/person, if same sex couples were allowed to adopted so many more children would get adopted into safe, nurturing homes. It does not matter the orientation of the couple, or in my case the number of people raising the child, it matters if the child grew up with love, support, and care.
That is all. Love is love. There's no difference between heterosexual and homosexual parents as long as they are all capable of providing love to their children. As for people who say same sex couples shouldn't be allowed to adopt children because it will cause bullying, are you serious? Children are not born homophobic.
I believe same sex couples should be allowed to adopt children. They are just as capable to provide a good and stable home for the child just as well as heterosexual couples can. People who claim that gay couples might influence their children's sexual orientation, are wrong. You can't control your feelings. You can't choose to fall in love, nor can you choose who you'll fall in love with. Most of the studies show that gay couples raise just as many heterosexual and gay children, as heterosexual couples would.
We want to say that we are equal to all and that we consider that everyone shoud be given a chance well this is no different. There has been lots of documents stating that a child doesnt grow up any different and that it may help produce a generation which has even less bias than the one before, creating a more accepting culture
Yes, the should be allowed to adopt children. We all have the freedom to adopt, so i see no reason why same sex couples shouldn't be allowed to adopt. I see nothing wrong with gay couples adopting, it is there choice anyway. Everyone should be able to adopt, even same sex couples.
A child raised by a same sex couple can be just a normal as any other child. Growing up I've known kids who were raised by same sex couples and they are just fine and heterosexual. A person cannot be forced or influenced to be homosexual, I am a straight woman, I'm only attracted to men, no one can force or influence me into being with a woman because that is not who I am. I was raised by a family of all women, my father left before I was born, I was raised by my mother, aunt, grandmother, and older cousin. I grew up just like everyone else, if someone is against same sex couples adopting then they must be against my family as well? It would only make sense, all women raising a child? Crazy right? I'm heterosexual, a good student, and on my way to college. Also, if anyone decides to argue "but then the child will become gay" why do straight couples have gay children? Why would a home-schooled child of a straight couple to turn out to be gay? Why do children of very religious/christian family become gay? and finally, why would the child of a homophobic straight couple be gay? It just happens, not influenced, not forced, it just happens. America has thousands upon thousands of children waiting to be adopted by a loving couple/person, if same sex couples were allowed to adopted so many more children would get adopted into safe, nurturing homes. It does not matter the orientation of the couple, or in my case the number of people raising the child, it matters if the child grew up with love, support, and care.
They would just get as much care and love that a child would get if they were adopted by a straight couple. If single parents are considered good strong and capable of taking care of a child by themselves then the argument of the child not having the influence of the other sex in the relationship is completely invalid. There are kids being abused by straight couples who don't even deserve to be able to have children but then a completely loving and deserving homosexual couple would give the child a great life and they are not allowed. The world needs to get their priorities straight.
Love is love! A stable family environment is better than being in a foster care home with the constant worry about having to leave and start over again and again. If we, as Americans, end up with less children in foster care, why not? I wish people would accept people for who they are.
Same sex couples will clear out most of the children who are waiting to be adopted, which is great. Also, these children will gain a wider world view which is lacking in traditional marriages. I don't think their lives may be messed up because they think the right way to marry is with someone with the same sex. The adopting parents can teach them that, and they can learn about it themselves.
Having gay parents does not mean you will turn out to be gay. Marriage is marriage. Just because a couple is gay doesn't mean a child can not have a home. Many children go day by day hoping to get adopted but people in the world are trying to permit gays from saving a child. Not too many people know what happens to children when they turn 18 in a foster or group home. They get turned out on the street, just think if that was you and you had no home when you were younger and was not taught or shown love.
There is no reasonable argument against adoption by gay parents. Millions of children grow up in households that do not have one mother and one father. Surely the most important thing is that children grow up with loving and caring parents, in a safe home, which I don't see why heterosexual parents would be able to provide more than gay parents. It's 2013 and I live in a country that is very proud of it's equality, and therefor seeing the discriminating laws and views in countries like USA is upsetting and feels very primitive. "Land of the free" isn't it?
Every person deserves the right to be a parent. Being gay doesn't make you less qualified, there are "traditional"couples that don't even care for there child. It doesn't matter your sexual preference, as long as you love, nurture and care for your child. There are millions of orphans in the world, why leave them without parents, I hardly think a child would care if they have two moms or two dads.
They are humans, have feelings, want things, want a child so why not? Gay couples should have the same rights as straight couples, because all people are worth the same. They can be great parents in line with straight couples. I know same sex couples and it's nothing wrong with them. In fact it's something wrong with those who think gay couples can't be good parents!
Homosexual couples are devoted, loving , nuturing and will try harder than any hetrosexual couple for a child as they appreciate this right more and wont take it for granted. Yes, there are many hetro couples that have trouble having a child, but there are so many options for them and its also more likely that they will be approved for adoption
The existing body of research on outcomes for children with LGBT parents includes limited studies that consider the specific case of adoption. Moreover, where studies do mention adoption they often fail to distinguish between outcomes for unrelated children versus those in their original family or step-families, causing research on the more general case of LGBT parenting to be used to counter the claims of LGBT-adoption opponents. One study has addressed the question directly, evaluating the outcomes of adoptees less than 3-years old who had been placed in one of 56 lesbian and gay households since infancy. Despite the small sample and the fact that the children have yet to become aware of their adoption status or the dynamics of gender development, the study found no significant associations between parental sexual orientation and child adjustment, making the results consistent with notions that two parents of the same gender can be capable parents and that parental sexual orientation is not related to parenting skill or child adjustment. The findings point to the positive capabilities of lesbian and gay couples as adoptive parents
I'm 16 years old, gay male, and want to have children when I'm older more than anything. I tell my mom all the time I'm gonna make a great mommy. To me a mother is a supportive, gentle figure in their kids life. I'm a nurturer and you don't need to be a girl to be that for your kids.
I mean, to be honest I'm only 16 years old and I'm gay. So I don't really have a whole lot of room to put in my opinion. But I do know that when I grow up and have a husband, I want to be able to adopt children. I'm not ready now to be a parent, but I know that when I'm ready, I'd make a great dad. There is no reason why I shouldn't be able to have the right to have kids when I'm older, just because I'm gay and my spouse is the same sex as me.
Same sex couples would love the child just as much as any other traditional couple. I think a child growing up with two parents, whether same sex or not, is still better than a child in foster care or living with a single parent who may be struggling financially to support the child.
If two guys who are NOT romantically involved share a house etc, and raise children, nobody minds because it's two individual males supporting children during their childhood. If the two men like each other, people have a problem, because they are concerned with what the men do in bed.
Same sex couples should be as equally eligible as heterosexual couples. If they pass the same tests, background checks, etc. And meet the same requirements then there should be no reason why they should not have the same rights as couples equal to them in every other way. There are studies shown that same sex couples provide just as loving and healthy homes, if not better than, most heterosexual households.
Same - sex couples are not as different as us. They sometimes want the same thing you want in life such as a family and a strong home. In my point of view same-sex couples are more understandable and can reach out upon the kids such as talk to them more about things that they feel comfortable talking about. Same-sex couples can also run their home such as them.
All of us should be allowed to be equal and start a family. Same-sex couples give more love then you could ever imagine. We need to fight for all of us to be equal and fight for our civil rights. None of us are less because our sexual preference. Study shows, gay marriages last longer then heterosexuals anyways.
Why shouldn't they be able to. Scientific study has shown that it does not harm any child in anyway. Also its no ones business if they should be able to adopt or not, that's like saying they an interracial couple cannot adopt a Chinese child based on their skin color, why does it matter. And more heterosexual couples screw up children because they cannot get along, or because of divorce from the couple was a traumatic experience from the parents. Why would you leave an innocent child in a foster home when a nice, well deserved parents can adopt even if they are in a homosexual relationship. You are saving a child's life and providing a loving home for that human being. Like i said before its no ones business if they should be able to adopt that is their decision. I would rather a child go to a homosexual couple that are great role models and can take care of them and love them, instead of a heterosexual couple who could care less about that child in the first place.
Why shouldn't they be allowed to adopt children? If a child needs a home, why should we deny them the right to be in a happy family? Is it because the adopting parents are gay? That shouldn't matter at all! Children aren't going to be affected that much just because of their parents. I believe it shouldn't matter as long as the child goes into a safe home with loving parents.
They can do as well being a parent just like heterosexuals.Parenting is not based on sexuality. Its based on the fact are they loving and caring! Can they support them finacially? Emotionally? Yes and nor sexuality is better then the other so i think a gay couple can do as good as a straight couple
I support same sex adoption should be allowed because they would give theyre childres the same love and attention as heterosexual couple! They also chose to adopt the child just like the same the heterosextual couples chose to abort abuse and give there child for adoption!
I SUPPORT SAME SEX ADOPTION
Gay/lesbian people are still humans. All a child wants/needs is love and care, and any gender can provide that. Dads provide just as much love as moms, and vice versa, so why can't a child have 2 of each? They can. In this day and age, homosexuals should not be discriminated, especially if they are trying to give a new opportunity to a child without a family.
I say yes because I think it is equal to the same love that the opposite sexes has. Love is love. It don't matter who you are because everyone has there own taste and you can't change someone's personality so easily and plus they want to take a further step in their lives by adopting a child to have a family with their partner.
I'm not gay. Not at all. But they are people just like everyone else. Same sex couples should have the same rights as anyone else. As long as they're responsible, caring, and understanding people brought up in a safe and normal environment (for a child) then I see no harm in it.
It's better to be adopted by a same-sex couple that growing up in a loveless traditional family.
Don't talk about the role of male and female because in a lot of families there is no father or maybe he's violent with his wife and his child.
The only thing that is important is that the child had to grow up in a loving environment and he also had to receive a good education. Both things don't depend by the sex of the parents.
I think that the same sex want a kid should be able to have one and not be turn down.. A kid out there needs a home and some one to be love .. I am adopted and i love the people i am with.. Soo be happy with the people you love.. And let the same sex have a kid..
If you do your research, you can discover significant evidence that children who are reared by homosexual parents are not any different than children raised in a heterosexual home. If nothing else, they tend to have a larger capacity for diversity. Gays and lesbians are more willing to adopt children that would normally be difficult to place.
What are u talking about???? How can you claim that children should live and grow up with a mother=female and a father=male??? How about children who have never met their fathers because they left when they had to become responsible??? Are these children characterized as ABNORMAL????????? Or what about children who grow up as orhpans and when they age out of the system they have NO FAMILY OR HOME TO GO...? It is easy indeed to talk and express an opinion when you are from the 'safe side' and nothing can change the most important facts of your reality. Nor me neither you who have been raised in "traditional families" can feel the way those children feel, withour having anyone to kiss you before going to bed. If I had to choose between living without parents or living with two duddies or two mommies I would definetely chose the second one because at least I would feel the happiness of being loved.....
People are not thinking about how much this could benefit the child. These people are giving a child a loving home. At the end of day, who cares what the sexual orientation of the parents are? As long as that child is given a loving home and a family who loves them, it really doesn't matter
It's ironic how people are so concerned about "family values" yet don't adopt themselves. Would you rather have a child move between foster homes, or have two loving parents? There are plenty of children who need to be adopted. Until there are zero children up for adoption; only then can you use the pathetic argument of "family values". I'm sure children themselves are more than happy to know someone wanted them, and someone loves them.
Single parents raise over 35% (25,900,000 kids) of the US children so they are to not having either a fatherly or motherly figure in the children's lives, are you saying their children should be taken away from them? Also if the gay couple did adopt a child that would be one less child that needs a loving home. Two loving parents is better than no parents at all.
Great parents aren't defined by the gender. You don't have to be a man and a women to be great parents. As long as that child or children are loved and cared for I don't see ANYTHING wrong with a same sex couple adopting. We don't necessarily need a 'father' figure to grow up. There are PLENTY of single mothers raising their children without a 'father' figure and those children grew up just fine.
A child deserves a loving family. If that family takes care of them and loves them, then what does it matter if they are gay, straight, or a single parent? Having gay parents does not harm a child, if anything, it makes them more accepting of other people. So many children need a loving family and are you really going to deny them that because the people who want to adopt them are two men or two women?
My personal stance on the situation is to allow same sex married couples to adopt. Others believe that same sex married couples shouldn’t be allowed to adopt because they may rear the child to have the same sexual orientation. I believe this topic can be debated fairly and adequately, from both aspects of the argument.
Homosexuals are not depraved individuals; being gay is not a mental disorder. As such, they are considered fully functioning members of society. They go to school, go to work, pay taxes, etc. There are no distinct qualifications for becoming a parent; however, most would suggest that a good parent possess the following characteristics: Responsible; Capable; Loving; Trustworthy; etc -- none of which are exclusive to heterosexuals. So, if we can accept that homosexuals are for all intensive purposes equal to heterosexuals in their personalities and behavior (outside of sexual endeavors), then there is no good reason to deny them the right to have or adopt children. It would seem that whom one sleeps with is a personal choice that should have no bearing on their qualification for parenting. As such, it would be wrong to deny gay couples the same parenting rights as other people in society. To do so would be to exhibit blatant homophobia, or the idea that gay people would somehow make inferior parents. The only way to eradicate this absurd ideal would be exposure; people need to see that gay people are just as competent as straight people in being good parents. Moreover, exposure to the homosexual lifestyle would decrease homophobia and other bigotry in general.
As long as two people love each other, why does it count if the couple is homosexual or heterosexual? I'd rather have two moms or two dads who are in love than one mom and one dad who don't love each other. And if they love the child as much as they would if they were able to create it themselves, then why bother? I'm great friends with a same-sex married couple and they adopted a baby boy and he is as happy as he can be, and he has plenty of friends. There are tons of children in this messed up world who have no home, why would you deny them a happy home if the couple is gay? That's inconsiderate.
I live with my two mother that adopted me when I was 5 year old, and am very thank for them. They make my life so much better they love me the same as the opposite sex couples. But if they had never adopted me I don't know what would happen to me if they never came into my life and am thankful for that ever day of my life. I love my two mom.
Why should they not be happy and as for how this affects children priest of different religions rape children but yet there is no page saying religion is terrible for all of this so how is it we can stop a group of people from being happy when every one just needs to grow the hell up and let others be happy if it goes against what you believe who care shut up and suck it up all men and women are created equally so in this factor why restrict gays to not adopting children you say they can't pick because they are too young what is worse becoming tolerant or intolerant because of their adopted parents that say gays are evil no because if you ha the mental capacity to actually see how happy the same sex can make one another you would get over it instead it all comes down to the intolerance so who here really would be doing worse to all the kids
Most people aren't accepted as gay in other words people call it a sin. In my mind I call it love. We as humans can not control what we feel or love. One day my hopes are we won't come out to anyone then be judged but just say we love this person and that's all that matters.
Because they are human and of course a living person, This people are sensitive how they could show themselves in public and if we give a view of open-mind and they could open who they really are to the public and yet all couple do want a child, YES! All do but for same sex is a condition that consider more but they should be allow to have the same right like other straight couple do!
I feel as though same-sex couples have the right to adopt children because there are so many children out there who don't have families and they could use a good home, and because if heterosexual couples can, why can't same sex couples!! Its equal rights people, for all of us.
1) Gays raising children does not mean that those children will be gay. If that were true straight parents would only rise straight children. (Also why should this matter anyway?)
2) A child would choose a loving home with same sex parents over no home and no parents.
3) Children are not born homophobic, homophobia is taught to them.
4) There is a 0% child abuse rate in lesbian couples. Compare that to the 26% child abuse rate in straight couples.
5) Not everyone is Christian, why should everyone have to abide by Christian values?
6) In a study the boys of two-moms families spent more time with a parent than the boys of mom and dad couples who more readily relegated childcare responsibilities to babysitters.
7) Children raised by homosexual parents do as well in sports, school, and in extracurriculars as peers with heterosexual parents.
8) Children raised by homosexual parents are more self-aware, more adept at communicating their feelings, and exhibit more empathy for people different from themselves.
9) Children raised by homosexual parents learn early how to negotiate the outside environment, gauge other people's motives, and assess how open they dare to be in specific situations.
10) Research has reported children of gay parents feel less bound, less restricted, by gender stereotypes than those raised in straight households.
11) Gay parents "tend to be more motivated, more committed than heterosexual parents on average, because they chose to be parents," said Abbie Goldberg, a psychologist at Clark University in Massachusetts
12) Gays and lesbians are likely to provide homes for difficult-to-place children in the foster system.
Honestly this list could go on forever.
My best friend is gay, and her fiancé is in the marines. Why should they be denied the right to adopt children just because of their relationship? If her fiancé can serve this country and can keep this country safe then I think that they should be able to adopt and keep a child safe.
Yes because they have lots of love to give their children, it doesn't matter if you're homosexual or straight. It's not harmful for the child, it even might be better. Only how you raise a child matters, you can't judge a person if he or she is a gay, you judge people by personalities right? It's like saying a straight guy is a player and a cheater just because he presents the male sexuality! Ridiculous! And also rubbish! Bible can say whatever it wants, but I'd say books shouldn't have so huge opinion, not at all actually, it can only be a little guiding but there doesn't stand anywhere, mind you, that gays are banned! And if a child doesn't have any parents and has to live as an orphan, it would be great to have a pair of loving parents, two mamas or two papas, at least there's love, and they'd feel wanted. It'd be great if same sexes could adopt in Finland! Sorry my bad English, it's not my mother tongue and i'm only 17... I hope I made YOU think twice and change your mind, for the better future.
Gay couples should and have the rights to adopt the same sex but they shouldn't touch the kid... Some people think that god dont approve of gay couples that is not true... Gay men and women's should and will have the rights to adopt any sex because they need to take responsibility. Let me tell you something if you are a straight couple and you a man like girls/women the same thing can happen dont be scared to adopt gay couples and singles.
I feel gay couples should have the same rights as heterosexual couples do. When you find the one you want to be with and share your life with its an amazing experience. They want to have a family of their own to so my question to you is WHY NOT?
Children need families. Families come in all shapes and sizes. But as long as there is structure, love, consistency, openness, boundaries, the child will flourish. Especially when compared with the dreadful circumstances they have had to be removed from in order to be placed with adopters in the first place.
I don't understand why a gay couple would like to adopt a child, knowing it won't have a happy family. A child needs male and female role models in their life. Having two mothers or two fathers might be uncomfortable for the child during their childhood. In addition the bullying has grown everywhere and when it comes to a child of a gay couple it even gets worst. If the child parents were bullied in their past, possibilities are the child may also feel bad about their parents and this may cause mental issues. Other issue also occur the sexual orientation is believed to be influenced both by environment and raise. So, if a child is raised by same sex couples, the child may not be able to develop as most of the other kids.
It is disturbing for the child to imagine what bothersome sexual acts occur at night behind his "parents" closed doors. The child is owed a truthful, concise explanation as to what past events occurred in both his "parents" lives to justify and rationalize the ungodly, immoral decision of homosexuality. Many doctors encourage their offspring to become doctors, politicians may encourage their offspring to become politicians. A "monkey see monkey do" theorem perhaps? Domestic history dictates some children develop characteristics of parents. Leading me to believe one orphan from homosexual parents may ultimately become another gay person adopting children. And the legacy continues.
That's nature. It's also nature in our species for families to form (and yes, families do exist in other animal hierarchies as well). And since a man and a woman are the only pair capable of child rearing, it is best for children to be adopted into this structure of nature.
I'm not saying 2 people of the same-gender can't parent, but it is ideal for there to be a man and women in the house.
Male and females are different - biologically, physically and emotionally - that's a fact. Both genders play an important role in a child's development. These roles are becoming increasingly confused and inconsistent, and that's the fault of the species - our fault for allowing the degradation of the natural state of being. If two PEOPLE want to have children, no problem! Let them genetically bond and create their own offspring... You will find that a gay couple are not able to do this - FOR A REASON.
Also - This is not about love or a good environment, it's about the right of the child to have a Mother and a Father! Everyone keeps talking about the rights of the parents - how about the rights of the child?
Should we just forget all the times, when people are talking about kid that looks sad, or did something stupid, someone says "kid misses his father"? Should we just pretend it's not important anymore just because someone think they have right to someone's else child, so they can fulfill their lives? And to put children in that kind of fatherless or motherless environment deliberately is preposterous. Same goes to rent-a-uterus - buy an egg - buy a sperm for the same purpose.
1.Let's look at simpler times: The Stone Age- in no bio history book is it written that two males had an offspring with each other: it usually took a male and a female- THAT SHOULD NEVER CHANGE.
2. A child needs to learn about both the male and female perspective. A MOTHER represents the FEMALE. The FATHER is the MALE.
3. Imagine a girl with two dads and no mom- who's gunna help her get through her period and understand the issue. *EXAMPLE*
4. Monkey see monkey do, and no child is immune. As my headline explains, we - the human race- will be replaced by robots. There will be no more reproduction. The generation Z won't exist.
This is the actual crisis- and worst of all people are oblivious to the fact that it's not even about 'LGBT Rights' it's about the pay check that the politician that allows all of this destruction of the human race to occur.
To many go on about its a gay couples choice to adopt and their right too. It should be a childs right to a mother and father. Not two of one or the other. No child should ever have to live without a father and mother. Bottom line kids know guy is wrong shouldnt we as well know its wrong.
It is wrong. Putting that child through all that trouble just because you want to "have" a baby with your partner. Its being selfish. There is a reason why you cannot have a baby with 2 men or with 2 women together. God did not make people that way. The child will be harassed and scarred all its life.
Every child needs a mother and a father. Men and women are different - just look around, its a shame these days how few children have a proper mother and father influence and you can see the effects it has on a child socially everywhere.
Although I can see it'd be different with two parents gay or straight, but I've personally gone through an upbringing without much of a father figure and I know its taken me a lot longer to gain confidence towards women without it, compared to a more normal upbringing where I would perhaps have had a role model to follow.
I can appreciate a gay couple could easily give as much love and devotion to a child as a straight couple, but I really don't see a woman being a suitable male role model towards a young boy and vice versa - simple!
They can't create life between them so why should they have right to raise a child that they can't create themselves. You can argue that some heterosexual couples can't have kids so why they can adopt. That's not the point. If they were healthy they could create a life however homosexual couples never will. It takes woman and man to create life. I am pro family.
Every child deserves a mom and a dad,, two moms don't make a dad , and two dads don't equal a mom. If homosexuals men were supposed , to be able to have kids with each other , they'd be designed that way. Just because a couple is heterosexual , this doesn't mean that they have the right to adopt.
I understand perversions of sexuality will lead people to get off in different ways. If you like sticking your most precious body part inside the hole that fecal matter comes out of and find that pleasurable, that's your choice.
However, biologically it is impossible for a man and man, or woman and woman to birth children. Just because you CAN do something doesn't make it right. Ultimately, the WHY we have laws in place come down to what society has chosen to be ethical. Otherwise we would allow rape and murder which we obviously don't because a majority of people disagree with the act.
I believe there is far much psychological trauma that we don't understand nor need to experiment with when children are adopted by same sex couples. Think of how the child will be treated at school and by peers.
What two mature adults do with each other is one thing. Don't try to raise an innocent child birthed naturally into a confusing environment.
According to The Week Magazine UK, gay couples can’t give to children the role model of both sexes they need, and it could be prejudicial for the balanced development of the kids in their growth (www.Theweek.Co.Uk, 2008). Also, children who grow in a two-men/two-women home are exposed to prefer and choose being gay and it could result in a multiplier effect.
They all have different stories but I hear that saying it was hard for them although they love their father.
First guy I know was that he was raised by single gay father. He was adopted as child and he was very much loved. But it was hard for him to put up with all the attention from school.. From his teachers and his friends. I am sure not everyone was judging him but he said he just felt insecure and always had low self esteem. He also suffered with rumors that his father has been touching him. His father kept on changing his boy friend and it was hard for him because he felt he was also looked as a sexual objects time to time with these guys his father dated. He got married when he was quite young because he wanted to run away.
Second guy I know is that he was his father married his mother at first. But he became gay. He was raised by his father but his father had a boyfriend who was very young. He always had to compete with his father's boyfriend. His father's boyfriend would get very jealous of small things. And he was still very angry for the world. He has a girl friend. His girl friend loves him very much but she is having a very difficult time. He was very depressed and sometimes angry and sometimes say things that are very rude comments at her. Not because he doesn't love her but he somehow feels the pain from his childhood. Even now, his father's priority is his love life, not the family.
The last person I know has a single mother. His mother is a successful business woman and lived in different country. So his mother hired a nice guy and he was looked after by this guardian. Apparently, after couple of years later when he went inside his room, he discovered that his guardian was making out with his boyfriend. He got quite shocked. He was very close with his guardian but he was mentally shocked and he got confused.
Animals do not make out with same sex. It's not natural. We are not designed to go against what is natural. I do respect people have different taste but if we start compromising then there won't be any moral values left.
People tells me everyone cheats. But it's not right.
People tells me I should be sleeping around more so I know what I like. But it's not how it should be.
Having sex isn't a sport or amusement. It's an activity and commitment between two person in love to start a family and have a child. Multiplying and being fruitful is what it means. Some parents are not responsible enough and yes there are situation when they can not raise the child, but it doesn't mean this world should start to compromise.
Firstly. When children are adopted everything should be in there interest. The way children are brought up will shape the future so having only two dads/mums is already at a disadvantage due to one way (Male/Female) example. A mother AND father have very important roles to any child. Even though you could say this society accepts this. There are still and will always be people who do not, and its the children that will suffer. Its almost as if a gay couple would rather risk a child's upbringing or social acceptance just because they want a kid. Even though they cant physically make one, being selfish. Not saying gay people couldn't be good parents but the combination is simply wrong. A child could be bullied. Frowned upon by religion and organisations and possibly the burden of their parents. If the gay couples really wanted the best for there children they would support a good stable family where all is for the benefit of the child.
If you asked someone if they would rather have both a Mum and Dad or two of either. I'm sure you'd know the answer. So why are people trying to convince themselves otherwise. It's not about them. There's almost a sense that gay couples want children as accessories.
I am not against same sex couples being allowed to adopt children but in the current time we live in its socially not accepted so just wait until people see that its okay for same sex couples to have children 50 years ago being a same sex couple was not even allowed now its being accepted so i think the best plan for now would be to wait.
It is a great feeling to be a parent. However being a parent is not only about YOU and YOUR feelings, its more about this child. What is the best for him/her? What makes a good childhood? Children should grow in a family with both husband and wife. Unless you wish him/her to grow up like you. But don't forget, it is not the kid's choice. Be responsible, don't just adopt a kid cos you need one, think about the kid's future.
The gay couples have their rights okay but they don't have to make their right affect a minor who cannot make a choice for themselves , if minors cannot choose our best bet is to take nature's intended way. We do not want children to turn homosexual because of the way they were raised it's just not cool. Here is an idea, why don't gays try having their own children then, that way we won't have a fuss.
When a child is raised by two gay parents the last thing you could think about is that the kid would be normal. At the end of the argument the kids choice to be gay or not its what is important. The parents would try to give their best to raise the child but what matters is the kids point of view and his opinion.
I'm straight female. I wish I could imagine how it looks/feels like being gay so I could avoid having one sided perspective, but I can't. So,being totally honest, I would vote YES if I were absolutely certain that it will not impede child's natural biological and psyhological development. Saying that heterosexual orientation is an overwhelming biological standard is not a result of prejudice , it is a fact. Since it is the life of the child that matters most, and I'm not absolutely sure that same sex couples will provide unimpeded opportunity for the child to naturally develop into a heterosexual - Id rather vote NO. I'm trying to imagine having no mother and two dads for example. Lacking someone to talk to about my painful periods, advices about boys….Being shy, I remember how much my mom's full support and understanding meant to me. One thing is certain: This being a complex question that involves children's welfare and it goes beyond the rights of individuals, it should not be taken lightly.
It is often said, "gay people should not be denied the right" ;however what people must come to understand is that first and most important of all, it must always be about the rights of the child not the other way around. Just as a child cannot be tried as an adult for a crime because they have not developed the level of capacity to understand between right and wrong, a child should also be at a level of maturity to be able to decide if an adoption by a gay couple is what he or she wants or not.
It confuses children about gender roles and expectations of society and only a man & woman can pro-create. What else, the same-sex couple 's lifestyle is not something to be encouraged as a lot of research shows, it leads to a much lower life expectancy, psychological disorders and other problems.
How are these people going to bring the children up in a Godless environment? It is bad enough that the couples are living a life of sin but to expose it to children by saying it is alright when God says it is wrong is wrong. Jesus died on the cross for every person and will forgive anyone if they ask for forgiveness but to blatantly sin over and over without any remorse towards God's commandments show that that person is not a Christian and is headed for an eternal separation from God. Raising a child in that type of environment has serious ramifications for that child.
Just to be clear: I do not discriminate gay people, not even a bit, not even to an atom.
From what I have understood, one of the major argument of gay people to be treated equally is they are NATURALLY BORN this way. There's no help. It's not a choice. It is a natural yet different type of love.
When you are gay, the biological circumstances also do not allow you to have kids. It's natural for gay couple! Sperm and sperm, egg and egg is just not meant to make kids. It has nothing to do with borne genetic defect or cell mutation unlike heterosexual infertile parent .
Therefore, allow me to make a bold statement, gay couple are not meant to have the right of parenting, it would be unfair if they have the right to have a child as heterosexual parents do. They are biologically not meant to do so, even when all their sex organs are healthy they cant have one.
I am not opposed to the LGBT marriages from a legal perspective. Two loving people should be allowed to share their lives in any way they like to like any other heterosexual couple. I am sure they are great people too, but I am afraid the same sex couples cannot match the emotional, biological and physical chemistry of the heterosexual couples when it comes to parenting. It is debatable whether a kid would be better off raised in an orphanage than being adopted by the same sex parents, but not even every heterosexual couple is suitable to raise children either. The responsibility is beyond just a legal right in my opinion.
The father is the first example of what it means to be a man to both his son and daughter. The mother is the first example of what it means to be a woman to both her son and daughter. A man cannot teach his daughter how to become a woman, nor can a woman teach her son how to become a man.
Children need both a man and a woman in the household, so they know how a man is supposed to interact with a woman and vice versa.
2 sexes, 2 very different outlooks on life. It creates balance. Even the most feminine man or the most masculine woman can't replace that. Only a real woman knows what being a woman really feels like and vice versa. It's the yin and the yang. Feminine and masculine. Penis and vagina. You can't make it? Then you shouldn't have it. Nature made it this way for a reason.
No they should not be able to adopt, because you are taking away the opportunity to see what a traditional family is supposed to look like. Even the gay couple has had an opportunity have heterosexual parents before they made their own individual choice to be gay. In other words at least they HAD a choice; and now the adopted child is not exposed to the norm and the child's decision to be gay or not may or may not be influenced by their gay parents. It should be free choice.
In terms of the love for the kids, many like argue that love is love. When you say that statement you are correct, but when it comes to raising a child, it's far more than just loving them. One of the main things a child looks to their parent for is protection from everything that hurts them, whether it be physical or mental. When you go into a same-sex marriage, you are opening up doors for the child to be hurt. Like homosexual are often bullied and singled out, you are setting the child up for the same behavior. Homosexuality is not something that everyone in society accepts; there will be parents who don't want their kids around your kids. There will be kids asking question as to why the child has two moms and or two dads. It is a given that kids learn by what they see, so how can you argue that this wouldn't have a influence on the way a child may think, in terms of what they should like when they are older? I would agree that parents play different rolls, and no matter how hard you try, a mother can never teach her son the roles of a man, and in return a man cannot teach his daughter how to be a woman.
Children, being impressionable, are more likely to follow the practices of their adoptive 'parents'. Therefore these children, having no genetic tendency too be homosexual, would be more likely than others to choose sexual practices that nature did not intend. This, in my opinion is tantamount to child abuse, akin to for example those given to substance abuse being allowed to raise children.
A child should have a father and mother. That is the natural way of things in mankind and there should be less restriction on couples on being banned because of their weight for example. I am sorry but a family unit of father and mother should teach self control and discipline and loving environment. It has nothing to do with religion and as a lapsed Catholic I do not care about that. However, a man and a women bring different elements to a family unit which a same sex couple can never do. As foot note I do not like anal sex, I find that disgusting and personally unnatural whether its same sex or hetero. That is none of my business if its between consenting adults.
No, same sex couples should not be allowed to adopt children. Same sex couples, as any other couples, should put their own wants aside and think about what is best for children. As children get older and start school, they enter a world where there is bullying, teasing and out right cruelty. Children are notoriously mean to other children. A child with same sex parents could easily become the target for a lot of taunts and bullying, putting the child through an emotional nightmare.
No, same sex couples should not be allowed to adopt children because it can affect how the adopted children are raised and therefore their sexual orientation. Sexual orientation is believed to be influenced both by nature and nurture. So, if a child is raised by same sex couples, the child may not be able to develop as most of the other kids.