Should sex ed teachers provide details about their sex life?

Asked by: Space_Milk
  • I see no reason not to.

    If the teacher wants to, then they should have every right to do so. If they have experience with the topic, then providing those details would give the students a better understanding. In 8th grade, my teacher gave us details. Without them, I would not have learned some of the things I did.

  • If it helps educates students, then yes.

    Not necessarily THEIR life but books about others, can help. Sex should be open, and students should be comfortable about it. Providing details about sex remove the giggles about it and help make it a normal topic that everyone can discuss. School is for education and this would help stretch sex ed.

  • It will help picture sex.

    It will help the student picture and get a better understand of sexual intercourse if the teacher talks about their sex life with the students, not only will it be very hot but It will provide the students (partially male(if the teacher is female)) with quite the hardon and make them want to have sex with their teacher.

  • They should be allowed, only if they give a slip to parents granting them permission to go into classes like that

    I would say that sex ed teachers should be allowed to do those type of things if parents allow their kids to be with teachers like that. I see it that way. There are parents who won't like that kinda of thing and it's only fair to warn parents ahead of time.

  • Of course not

    To begin with, that would be a huge invasion of privacy -- both for the teacher and for her/his partner/spouse. Further, it would most likely be against all sorts of school district policies. No teenager has the right to know about the sex life of his/her teacher. For that matter, nobody else does either, and word often travels outside the classroom.

    Posted by: cs2
  • That's just no right!

    I feel like a teacher is human and thus should not have to share their personal lives with students. They are held accountable however for their own privacy and so they can if they chose, share their personal stories. But a teacher discussing their experiences with sex with a student or group of students crosses the line--teachers should not be discussing things like that with students, it is just wrong.

    Now, because sexual education is so important, students should be introduced to the sex lives of other people who are already public with their sex lives (e.G Authors, Actors/ Actresses). This would be so they get a strong grip on the topic of sex ed and the true seriousness behind it. The fact that people can actually feel sex ed is unimportant and should not be taught in public and private schools is ridiculous.

    But still, no, teachers should not share their OWN sexual experiences, it's just wrong and crosses the border of being too much with their students.

  • No, they are educators.

    I do not think sex ed teachers should provide details about their personal sex lives. That seems to be crossing too many boundaries. They should give accurate and informed information without adding personal anecdata. There is plenty of information without a teacher having to discuss what goes on in his or her bedroom.

  • The focus of public school sex education lessons should be science.

    It is much safer to load kids up with real, verifiable data, and create a strong understanding of the biology of sex. That way they have the tools to distinguish between different attitudes, activities, and risk levels so that they can make informed choices for themselves. Also, it removes much of the parental meddling in the curriculum.

    I have taught sex ed classes in both California and in two metropolitan areas in Texas. When ANYTHING non-scientific is introduced, some parents and community special interest groups do counterproductive things, and impose educationally problematic rules, sometimes to the point of watering down the curriculum, and nullifying the educational aspects of the course.

    In Plano Independent school district, the only birth control method that can even be referred to is abstention. The teacher is prohibited from even mentioning condoms, even to state that the HIV is less than 3 microns across, an a hole in a condom too small to see under a standard microscope could be as large as 100 microns across. (The implications of this comparison should be obvious.)

    These groups usually start yelling at school board meetings in reaction to some teacher or other making a statement about morals, his/her own sexuality, or something other than the biology of what is going on. The result is that the science is replaced by propaganda, the curriculum gets watered down, and the kids leave the class just as uninformed as they were when they came in.

    I understand why many parents are paranoid.

    1) The diversity in any classroom includes a multiplicity of values and mores regarding sex. Even if this does not create social tension in the classroom, it can increase the social tension between the kids and their parents. To discuss in the classroom, outside of a parents direct view, ANY aspects of the teacher's sexual attitudes or actions implies that the student may come home with attitudes that are not balanced by the parents' social, religious, or financial beliefs. Getting a degree, passing a background check, and paying for a credential do NOT imply verifiable or demonstrable good judgment.

    2) Their kids are hormonal powder kegs. It is a potentially explosive situation to have ANY adult tell horny teenagers about their personal sex lives. The minute the kids see their teachers as sexual beings, the kids may actively pursue sexual interaction with their teachers. This is not an idle parental fear. We teachers fear it, too. It puts EVERYBODY at risk. Remember, teenager's have very limited experience on which to calculate the ramifications of their actions.

    3) Many parents realize that kids know when they are being propagandized. Usually the teen's response to propaganda is to ignore both the message and the information in which it is nested. Sometimes kids focus on the message and ignore the information, and thereby misunderstand the realities under discussion.

    The biology of sex, sexual maturation, reproduction, and STDs is complex enough. It's more educationally sound and expedient to stay focused on that.

  • Why? Can the parents not teach

    A teacher should not have to put themselves in any position that may face ridicule. Teachers have a difficult enough job as it is without airing their own personal laundry to immature students. This to me is just another point behind lazy parents expecting everything done for them, if parents really want their own children to learn about such a subject then would it not be more humane to do it themselves? Who knows, maybe if a person learns from people he/she can relate to, they may not make similar mistakes etc, or moreover choose another path.

  • Probably the dumbest question I've seen on here

    It is totally inappropriate, unnecessary, and idiotic. Why on earth would a teacher want to tell a bunch of their students about anything they do in their free time let alone sex? That's not even something you should be talking about with close friends or family members. Sex is a matter that should only be dealt with by whoever is engaging in it and is not to be spoken about to the entire world. It's nobody else's business.

  • Self disclosure is not needed.

    The teacher could open them selves up to all sorts of complaints and allegations.
    The need to self disclose personal details is highly questionable and probably always inappropriate.
    If the teacher wants to talk about their sex life a classroom full of children would hardly seem the right place to do it.

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