I think that surrogate mothers should be allowed because if somebody can't have children they should still be able to raise a family of their own. To some people, having the same DNA as your child is very important. I believe that if someone is willing to be a surrogate mother to help somebody out, they should be able to. Also, gay people aren't able to have a baby with both of their DNA, so it would be nice to at least have one of the partners genes, and have the other legally adopt the child. If someone doesn't think they would be able to give away the baby after giving birth to them, they shouldn't of signed the contract, although there are now laws and they would have to give up the child to the other family.
I think surrogate motherhood should be allowed. It's giving a mother a chance to have a child that is biological to her, because she can't herself. Every woman should be given the chance to have her own child, just because she physically isn't able to shouldn't keep her away from being a parent. Yes, a woman can adopt a child, but some may want to be biological to a child and they should have that option. Genetically having a child that you've wanted would be a lot better then having one that isn't. Just because someone else is having the child for you doesn't mean it won't be loved as much, it will be loved even more because it's giving a woman a child that she couldn't have by herself. It isn't about the money, it's about giving the gift of love to a person who can't do that on their own. This is why surrogate motherhood should be allowed.
Without surrogacy I would not have experienced the joys of parenthood. Unless you are in the terrible predicament of not being able to carry your own child you can never understand. We are in the UK and the surrogate mother cannot be paid here: so it is far from a money making business. To top it all off we are a same sex male couple and without surrogacy we'd never achieve this dream.
Many couples have the issue of being unable to bear children. Gay couples, couples with health issues, even rich couples that just don't want to go through the birth process should be able to sign up for surrogacy. This seems a perfectly reasonable option and for women who NEED money AND fully consent to what they are signing up for, they can get paid large sums of money and make a couple very happy!
The world is full of couples who want desperately to be parents, but cannot, for physical health reasons, as well as women who are healthy and capable of childbearing, but in need of some extra income. Surrogate motherhood is a great way to solve both problems at once. Especially in a time of high unemployment, it could be a life-saver for some people.
If a woman has a choice of when and how she has children, then she has the right to make children she wants and can afford. We allow women to terminate pregnancies that are unwanted. We allow them to give away unwanted children through adoption. If a woman can choose to kill an inconvenient child, why not make a loved one? Why not allow a willing woman to carry her sterile sister's child? Why not allow an older woman to carry her infertile daughter's baby? As long as all parties consent, voluntary surrogacy is as much a woman's choice as abortion. Until there are viable and successful artificial wombs, surrogate motherhood is the only option for a biological family unit's creation in some cases. Why deny them that choice, when killing unwanted children is allowed?
What women choose to do with their bodies is their own personal business. Surrogate motherhood makes it possible for women who can't have children of their own to choose who they would like to carry their child. And if two consenting women come to the decision that this is the best option for them, it's no one's place to tell them they can't. Surrogate motherhood doesn't hurt anyone, and there is no reason to disallow it.
There are a lot of parents who can't have a child despite their eagerness to have children.
If the desire who want to have a children and who want to be a surrogate mother can be matched, it's a wonderful thing. I do know there is a lot of people who can't embrace the idea of the surrogate motherhood, but also there is a lot of people who support the idea. People who don't want to do this thing or don't want to be a surrogate mother, just don't do or be. I think it's a sad thing that to make void the goodwill that want to support the couples who can't have babies.
I feel this way because if you look at it this way, if you can't have a child and you really wanted one, you could use a surrogate and they will be delighted to give you their child because they want to help you be happy in life. From my experience, using a surrogate was delighting because they knew what I needed in my life to be happy. They will help you with the child. That is the reason I think that people that cannot have kids should use a surrogate.
In response to Trainlock's comments about the number of unwanted children; in an ideal world all of us parents who cannot conceive or carry a child to full term would be approved for adoption and take care of one of those children, but sadly not everyone is approved and it can take years before you are told you are not approved. Alternatively even if you are approved you can go before the matching panel, be told you are due to be matched but more than 1 set of parents can be lined up as possible parents.....yet again you can fall at the final hurdle when the other couple are chosen over you. There is only so much heartache a person can take. Surrogacy, although it is a journey that needs a lot of research, I feel is a better option for us personally. It is very important to make sure all aspects of the journey have been discussed, particularly the emotional side and the welfare of the surrogate Mum is paramount while she is carrying the baby. Please not this is not intended as a retort to Trainlock's comment, just my own personal opinion.
Absolutely against it ! Gone are the days when two people got married and just wanted to have a child without love and care of each other , gone are the days of prostitution today - what is one of the beautiful feelings for a women or for a family is being misused and I would rather say women are being used as machines to make babies ! - It is a paid service for an emotional drain on a women !!
Love shouldn't be given only because of genetic connection because it is extremely selfish. Lots of children are now in awful situation without parents, care and love. They are hoping that one day someone takes them home and then they’ll have a future. If a woman carries a baby for 9 months without any developing an attachment to the child inside, she maybe has some mental problems or cares only about money. Adoption should be the only option for those who can’t have own babies.
Firstly, think about the child who will find out about his biological mother being different. No child will be happy to find out this his mother didnt actually gave birth to him. I wonder why DNA and genes are so important that you are ready to keep a surrogate mother who could rent her womb for you? I mean, its just so mean. And the surrogate mother have to trade her baby for money because of her critical, financial circumstances. Imagine how hurt she must've been while trading her baby when whom she've already bond over for almost 9 months. Even after giving birth to the baby, if she says she doesnt want to give up being a mother yet, she's forced to just because she have signed a stupid contract? This is by far the most mean thing humans created. In this four people process i.e. surrogate mother, mother(might be), father, child. One of them is sure to get hurt.
There are children that need to be adopted and need parents. Just creating a new baby is wrong. When there are other people in need helping I think that people should help them instead. Although I understand why people would choose surrogate motherhood, I do not believe that it is the right thing to do.
Read this blog by sad CHILDREN looking for SURGATE mom and blogging of how they rejected them or how their sperm father rejected them.
Here's one post from one poor kid.
JJ truthMay 6, 2015 at 2:11 PM
Children are never given a voice in this country as to the decisions, policies and behaviors that have and will directly effect them. This is because people really don't want to hear. Therefore they vilify and block out the voices of the adults who try to advocate for the best interests of children and their lives. Most adults care only about themselves and what's best for them. Its never thought through only what's good for the adults involved. No consideration is given to the well being of the child. I hope you resolve your situation and find the peace and closure you're looking for in this life. May God bless you in your journey and keep you well.
It's disrespectful. To the child and to the mother. There should be no debate about this. Isn't the issue already clear. Imagine growing up a learning that your parents aren't your parents. You wouldn't ever be able to trust anybody ever again. It causes more problems than it solves .
Women are very emotional beings. I can understand that before being surrogate mother she has not experienced joy of carrying a human so she was not attached to child but after knowing the feeling how can she be able to give up child and never contact and forget it and be like it never happened.
It must be restricted to only infertile couples that are unable to give birth to children naturally. Optional surrogacy is disgusting. If the surrogate mother is doing this for money, even worse. Surrogacy should be exception, not a convenience. A woman that gives natural birth gets alienated from the child she kept in her womb for 9 months and nurtured from her body. What future are we looking at- rich and super rich leasing wombs for their children to avoid pain and risk, maybe 2-3 wombs at a time!! Every case of surrogacy should be looked into and allowed only after determining the conditions involved and after consent of surrogate mother that is independent of her financial compulsions.
Not everyone has children. There are many reasons. To engineer it so that you have them when you are physically unable to is putting many people at risk for emotional hurt: the child, the actual mother who carries and gives birth and perhaps even the couple who adopts the baby. With a planet overloaded with people please remain childless or adopt someone already here.
Why can't people just adopt a child? I understand wanting a biological child, but it wouldn't kill you to adopt one. Firstly, people will understand why you cannot bear children, and second, that child will be happy knowing that two good, loving people were willing to take care of him/her when THEIR biological parents couldn't.