A) Marriage cannot regulate commitment and it doesn't mandate it, either in sexual or any other way. Marriage, in its current form, is a legal contract that mandates the way the property will be handled and it follows Soviet model of property split with no fault divorce and equal split of assets without regards on how much assets were owned by either party or how much did any side contribute in terms of earnings, expenses, or other non-monetary work. It is the only contract which doesn't bind any party to do anything else, people aren't expected to follow their vows given in front of hundreds of people and verified by a state official with plenty of evidence to confirm their consent, extensive legal checks and joint preparations before and after marriage. Your state will strictly enforce the monetary aspect upon marital dissolution, many men and women were robbed their money, courts simply follow the law which essentially transfers property from more affluent to less affluent individual.
B) Automatic presumption of paternity. Many men are fooled to be legally liable over children who weren't their own, even though they barely saw them because they separated or divorced within a year or two. Even if the fraud is exposed beyond a short period, nothing will change and the man will still be forced to pay, no sanctions are imposed upon the woman who fooled him. Marriage is invented to impose obligation upon a man to be responsible over a woman he married and her children which were presumed to be his. This norm demanded sexual fidelity on married woman's part. Every other norm was the invention of religion in attempt to further restrict activities perceived as dangerous for society's stability. We don't punish anyone for extramarital sex now, such practice exists only in the most rigid third world countries.
C) Expenses with divorce. While marriage ceremony can be justified by personal choice, divorce costs are forced upon both parties when one of them wants to divorce. Many couples will have courts and lawyers take every penny out of their pockets, some will be forced to sell their own homes. Divorce will be the final stage of about half of all marriages and marriages are the result of stable unions among couples who usually marry because of tradition and because they think that they won't divorce. Why even engage into an institution with such failure rate when there are no benefits other than the ones that our state creates through possible incentives? Why do you need or want third party determining anything? And why would anyone even want to differ married from unmarried couples? With all that on your mind, you cannot deny that marriage should be gone and nobody should give a damn that it faded away, it became a burden to society and personal relationships, it's a relic of an ancient past and people marry out of sense of duty or perception that it's the 'logical step' in their relationship.
Marriage does not mean love. Marriage is a social-economic and religious tradition that was invented to control people of both sexes, but especially women (particullary back in the old days). Weddings are also just a very narcissistic excuse to throw an expensive party where either the bride, the groom or both just want to be the center of the attention. Love is supposed to be intimate and personal, not a public event. Marriage is not a sign of true love either. True love is about sacrifices and completion of one another during the time when two people are together, not some "promise" they give each other in front of a lawyer/priest etc and with hundreds of witnesses.
We should abolish marriage. There is nothing wrong with wanting to commit to another person for the rest of our lives. However, besides the ceremony where is the benefit in traditional marriage anymore? I think anything that allows the government to control is just a bad idea. Plus I just want to hear Walter on Jeff Dunham break the bad/good news to his wife. Honey, we have a problem, get out.
It is legal binding contract enforced by the government to tell you how to manage your property, how to separate it in case of separation, how much taxes and "benefits" you can get, and puts shame on people to limit their sexual freedom. It is a sick and disgusting institution that needs to be abolished now. I cannot believe such an institution of slavery still exists in every society today. Nobody has the right to own anybody else or limit their emotional and sexual freedom. Whoever likes the concept of monogamy and marriage is a controlling, insecure, possessive, sick person. Get rid of this institution and kick it into the dustbin of history, just like the institution of slavery.
Marriage (in the United States) is an institution conferringmore than 1000 legal benefits, as well as submitting to social norms on relationships.
Filing joint income tax returns with the IRS and state taxing authorities.
Creating a "family partnership" under federal tax laws, which allows you to divide business income among family members.
Estate Planning Benefits
Inheriting a share of your spouse's estate.
Receiving an exemption from both estate taxes and gift taxes for all property you give or leave to your spouse.
Creating life estate trusts that are restricted to married couples, including QTIP trusts, QDOT trusts, and marital deduction trusts.
Obtaining priority if your spouse needs a conservator--that is, someone to make financial or medical decisions on your spouse's behalf.
Receiving Social Security, Medicare, and disability benefits for spouses.
Receiving veterans' and military benefits for spouses, such as those for education, medical care, or special loans.
Receiving public assistance benefits.
Obtaining insurance benefits through a spouse's employer.
Taking family leave to care for your spouse during an illness.
Receiving wages, workers' compensation, and retirement plan benefits for a deceased spouse.
Taking bereavement leave if your spouse or one of your spouse's close relatives dies.
Visiting your spouse in a hospital intensive care unit or during restricted visiting hours in other parts of a medical facility.
Making medical decisions if your spouse becomes incapacitated and unable to express wishes for treatment.
Consenting to after-death examinations and procedures.
Making burial or other final arrangements.
Filing for stepparent or joint adoption.
Applying for joint foster care rights.
Receivin a share of marital property if you divorce.
Receiving spousal or child support, child custody, and visitation if you divorce.
Living in neighborhoods zoned for "families only."
Automatically renewing leases signed by your spouse.
Receiving family rates for health, homeowners', auto, and other types of insurance.
Receiving tuition discounts and permission to use school facilities.
Other consumer discounts and incentives offered only to married couples or families.
Other Legal Benefits and Protections
Suing a third person for wrongful death of your spouse and loss of consortium (loss of intimacy).
Suing a third person for offenses that interfere with the success of your marriage, such as alienation of affection and criminal conversation (these laws are available in only a few states).
Claiming the marital communications privilege, which means a court can't force you to disclose the contents of confidential communications made between you and your spouse during your marriage.
Receiving crime victims' recovery benefits if your spouse is the victim of a crime.
Obtaining immigration and residency benefits for noncitizen spouse.
Visiting rights in jails and other places where visitors are restricted to immediate family.
In three simple words, I could define marriage in a nutshell. It is manipulative, it is controlling, and it is limiting. It limits the individual from achieving their personal desires, it controls who each individual can and cannot talk to. The reason for limiting who can and cannot be contacted? Well, they call it 'considerate' and 'respectful.' What specifically constitutes 'respect' and 'considerate' about limiting communication with other people? Oh, because they might cheat?
I think that is called paranoia, and if you believe this, you deserve to be cheated on. Only a fool would ever consider walking into a life such as this. What makes this interesting is not only can I see the flaws in marriage, but I have never been married. Even Immanuel Kant never married, and the man was extraordinarily brilliant. To believe that we need a 'significant other' in our lives, is something that we like to call co-dependency. Co-dependency is a difficult situation to get out of, I could go on and on as to why, but for those who have been through it, you know exactly what I mean.
In marriage, the spouse gets to mold you into their defining image, they tell you what you can and cannot do. As I had previously stated, "who you can and cannot talk to," and you cannot own what they do not approve of. Ultimately, it boils down to the spouse living your life through themselves. You have absolutely nothing, you have no say in the matter, as they now control your every move.
Might I remind you, this is all stuff that has been indoctrinated into our minds from the time we were to young to protest it. Young minds are the simplest, and that is what made us the most vulnerable. Romance is purely a subliminal interpretation in the way that we perceive another person. That 'funny' feeling you get when you see someone is a series of chemicals in the brain going off at once. Thus, you are 'in love' because no one really knows what to call it (other than bullshit).
Marriage and divorce are travesty of legal system and disastrous way of dealing with personal property, along with a number of other legal leverages commonly employed by family courts. It literally nullifies one of four fundamental rights of capitalist system. Instead of debating for and against "marriage equality" which happens to be dubious choice of words by itself (since the same people are usually strongly against first-cousin marriages, or marriages between adult siblings or parent-child marriages that involve legal adults), one needs to debate the outrageous concept of marriage in a free world.
It is even more attrocious when one knows that the marriage contract happens to only be valid when it comes to legal enforcements of attrocious and anachronistic practices in regards to asset redistribution, inheritance after death, paternity presumption and subsequent redistribution of income in the form of spousal support.
Is it just me or does it seem like men ALWAYS gets the short end of the stick when it comes to marriage and divorce? We lose our kids, our home, and our finances. So yeah we should abolish marriage. "Oh would you give up your dreams and aspirations for me?" No I won't because at the end of the day you will just leave me in the ditch. Marriage is a business contract that should not exist anymore.
"1. Weddings are too expensive. The billions of dollars spent on weddings could be put to much better use. You could travel the world, or make a large donation to charity.
2. Weddings take too much planning and are too stressful. Imagine what social miracles we could create if we channeled all that energy and brainpower into efforts for world peace and pleasure.
3. Divorce is expensive, messy and painful. Without marriage, people wouldn’t need divorce. They could simply break up and get on with their lives.
4. Marriage is outdated. Marriage once managed important legal and social issues, such as the perpetuation of the species, the granting of property rights and the protection of bloodlines. Our legal system now handles these issues. Women no longer need marriage for monetary support and most men know how to cook and do laundry.
5. Marriage is too limiting. You can only be married to one person at a time.
6. Marriage is unnecessary for effective child rearing. Raising a child can be done by one or two or more committed people in any form of relationship.
7. Marriage glorifies the romantic myth, an unrealistic and impossible idealization of relationship.
8. Married people are allowed over 2700 financial and social benefits that unmarried people are denied. The elimination of marriage would help create a fairer, more just society.
9. The separation of church and state is a good thing. The separation of relationships and state is an even better thing.
10. On a spiritual level all relationships are eternal; therefore marriage is redundant."
--Barbara Carrellas via Facebook
To me, marriage is a religious concept. The government has morphed the concept into a business relationship for the purposes of allocating taxes and regulating benefits. The two, in my mind, are totally different. I understand and respect both concepts. However, not when the two are combined. I feel that if the government used the "civil union" concept, even if just a terminology change, that the American culture would have far less indigestion.
First of all, I will say that the word "abolish" is out of place here. When you abolish things, you make them illegal, you ban them or maybe you tax them so heavily that they cease to exist. In democracies, you won't be able to abolish marriages because you won't be allowed to do so by the people and their elected representatives in parliament. I think what the opposition meant was "discouraged" or something similar in lieu of "abolished"
Why do people marry? Young minds will say sex and children but that's not it. We marry because of companionship. Now you have friends galore by your side but the day is not distant when you will be middle aged . Your friends will still be your friends but no one will have time to meet frequently and socialize. You will make new friends in life and again you will part ways. It is in those times that you will require companionship( not sympathy mind you) and your spouse will be able to give it as she or he will know you like no one else knows you. In return, you have to provide your spouse the same care and attention of course.
People say that marriage causes divorces but what is the real issue here..Is it the growing statistic of divorces or is it happiness? Husbands beat up their wives,Wives nag their husbands etc. But is marriage some kind of lasso which encircles you and makes a good man beat up his wife?Surely not. Those flaws were always present in the particular spouse but were not noticed because he or she did not live with someone 24 hours/day. You can't blame marriage for that.
I'm all for living together. But after 2-3 years,marry and give your progeny the right to be your lawful heir. Again people say that look around you -so many married people are unhappy, chances are that I will be unhappy too. To that my answer will be if you have to find out how to be happy in life from watching other people around you, chances are that you will be unhappy whatever you choose to do.
Finally there are those who say that majority of people are unhappy after marriage and therefore they must be right. Not true! Do you know what sexual activity the majority of people in the world practice the most? It is not heterosexual and nor it is homosexual. It is masturbation.
Have a good day.