Respond to this thread if you still lurk DDOPosted 8 months Ago

Huh. Necroposting this, even if it's probable nobody will ever see it. Was lurking and figured, why not post?

Not sure if most of you would remember me - I was around in 2014 to 2015 mostly. In any case, I remember most of you.

This site was a big part of my childhood and popped back into my brain for some reason lately. Sad to see the hollow shell of what it used to be, but if any of the people I used to join Google Hangouts or play Mafia/Risk with see this, I hope you're having a good life. Know that you and this site helped at least one confused and lonely kid out for a couple years!

Also, because I only just today found out, I really hope Lannan is resting in true peace.

Goodbye one last time DDO! Going to abandon this account after this. Peace.
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There is something wrong with mePosted 5 years Ago

At 1/7/2017 10:16:40 AM, A-L-I-Hassan wrote:
At 1/7/2017 3:59:36 AM, Daltonian wrote:
Honesty time.

I don't know really where else to go in my life with this, so that's why I'm here. To tell you the truth, the reason I came back to DDO is because I'm trying to distract myself from the rest of my life right now.

I'm a well off, middle class, extremely entitled and lucky young guy (nearly 18) whose parents are helping put him through college. I graduated close to the top of my class in high school. I've received awards, scholarships, and all of that. I have no shortness of people who would call me their friend. I have a loving family. I have no reason to feel empty or to want to die. Or to have the disturbed thoughts that I do. But they persist anyways. There is something wrong with my head.

I don't know how to get better. I'm a gay teenager who feels alone. I've become obsessed with a boy - because that is what he is, a boy and not a man, despite his age - from my childhood who I know could never love me and it has made me forget what being happy feels like. I've managed to convince myself that being me being loved by someone is impossible, because of who I am.

I have dug a whole for myself, built of lies, manipulation, selfishness, and unreasonable expectations that I cannot escape anymore. From my selfless mother to my innocent baby sister to the other people in my life that I love, I cause them only pain and suffering now. They care about me and that is causing them only pain and no happiness. I cannot stand that.

I think I may have borderline personality disorder. I have read of how people who have that problem, become entrapped in a cycle of guilt, shame, emotions with which they cannot cope, addiction, and impulsive behaviour. I'm exposed to negative emotions and feelings that I am too weak to handle, I engage in impulsive behaviour and in dangerous behaviour to suppress those feelings that hurts those that I love, and I in turn feel incredible shame and guilt. And suicidal thoughts. And that leads me to start the cycle over again; because I'm unable to cope with that guilt. And it gets worse and worse until the only way I can cope with things anymore is to go back to the impulsive behaviour.

It feels like I'm trapped in a pathetic cycle of depression and angst and that there is no light at the end of the tunnel. Is there anyone else who has been diagnosed with depression, personality disorders, or experienced anything similar to what I've described that managed to escape this cycle? I feel pathetic constantly, and pathetic for asking, but this is what I've come to.

I know you'll tell me to "get help", but it isn't that simple or that easy. Real help is not as accessible nor as affordable as people make it seem. What help? Through what pathway? My family; I'm not ready for that and I can't be sure of how they would react. My school; they're not equipped to help me. And I don't know how to help myself. So I'm looking for alternate ways to help myself and for motivation.

Thanks and much love. <3

Cheers! Good to see you're being honest. You are eager to get out of this feeling. People go through these kind of feelings at some early age. Eventually these feelings erode, and as time passes by, your brain gets accustomed to, and then you overcome it! I'm there for you, message me any time you like. Expressing feelings alleviates grieves!
I certainly hope they erode. Thank you :)
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There is something wrong with mePosted 5 years Ago

At 1/7/2017 8:51:29 AM, Smithereens wrote:
At 1/7/2017 3:59:36 AM, Daltonian wrote:
I had a situation like this, it was very painful and there wasn't an easy way out. The eventual solution was that the feelings eroded over time until the cause of the issue was just a source of dispassionate concern that gradually faded into my memory.
Yeah, I understand that might be the sad reality of my situation.

My situation is also a little more complicated, though, because the person in question has also been my best friend for the last five years of my life. The situation has only escalated romantically in the last year... so even if I try to just slowly erode these feelings over time, he is going to resist completely leaving my life entirely, making that impossible.

I don't believe that optimism is a good way through what you're currently experiencing. I don't think you should get your hopes up for no reason, but what I can tell you is that you do pull through it eventually. It takes time and it's very painful. But if you need an ear I'm always listening. Message me if you want to.
Thank you for that offer.

I can't say I was ever enthusiastic about my chances. I guess, its just, once everything fell apart and the truth was revealed both in my mind and to him, everything, mentally, just fell to pieces for me.
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There is something wrong with mePosted 5 years Ago

At 1/7/2017 8:30:59 AM, missbailey8 wrote:
At 1/7/2017 3:59:36 AM, Daltonian wrote:
I don't know you, but I just want you to know that I'm here if you ever need to talk. My PMs are always open. It takes plenty of bravery to open up about this, especially to a whole community of people. I applaud you for that. *hugs*
Thank you.
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There is something wrong with mePosted 5 years Ago

At 1/7/2017 8:19:59 AM, The-Voice-of-Truth wrote:
At 1/7/2017 3:59:36 AM, Daltonian wrote:

There was a time before DDO and then earlier this year where I felt exactly this. I have severe depression and anxiety, so I am no stranger to people struggling with a disturbed mental state. If you need to talk things out, I'm just a PM away.
Thank you. It's sometimes reassuring to know there are other actual people out there who suffer from these disorders and problems, and have gotten through it. I might take you up on that offer sometime.
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There is something wrong with mePosted 5 years Ago

At 1/7/2017 4:20:35 AM, ESocialBookworm wrote:
At 1/7/2017 4:15:17 AM, Daltonian wrote:
At 1/7/2017 4:08:34 AM, ESocialBookworm wrote:
At 1/7/2017 3:59:36 AM, Daltonian wrote:
*hugs you tightly*

I'm here if you ever want to talk.
Thank you, Annie, very much for that offer. <3

How are you finding the Canadian life?
so fvcking cold
As opposed to the Caribbean, I'm sure, haha.

Are you liking college?
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There is something wrong with mePosted 5 years Ago

At 1/7/2017 4:08:34 AM, ESocialBookworm wrote:
At 1/7/2017 3:59:36 AM, Daltonian wrote:
*hugs you tightly*

I'm here if you ever want to talk.
Thank you, Annie, very much for that offer. <3

How are you finding the Canadian life?
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There is something wrong with mePosted 5 years Ago

Honesty time.

I don't know really where else to go in my life with this, so that's why I'm here. To tell you the truth, the reason I came back to DDO is because I'm trying to distract myself from the rest of my life right now.

I'm a well off, middle class, extremely entitled and lucky young guy (nearly 18) whose parents are helping put him through college. I graduated close to the top of my class in high school. I've received awards, scholarships, and all of that. I have no shortness of people who would call me their friend. I have a loving family. I have no reason to feel empty or to want to die. Or to have the disturbed thoughts that I do. But they persist anyways. There is something wrong with my head.

I don't know how to get better. I'm a gay teenager who feels alone. I've become obsessed with a boy - because that is what he is, a boy and not a man, despite his age - from my childhood who I know could never love me and it has made me forget what being happy feels like. I've managed to convince myself that being me being loved by someone is impossible, because of who I am.

I have dug a whole for myself, built of lies, manipulation, selfishness, and unreasonable expectations that I cannot escape anymore. From my selfless mother to my innocent baby sister to the other people in my life that I love, I cause them only pain and suffering now. They care about me and that is causing them only pain and no happiness. I cannot stand that.

I think I may have borderline personality disorder. I have read of how people who have that problem, become entrapped in a cycle of guilt, shame, emotions with which they cannot cope, addiction, and impulsive behaviour. I'm exposed to negative emotions and feelings that I am too weak to handle, I engage in impulsive behaviour and in dangerous behaviour to suppress those feelings that hurts those that I love, and I in turn feel incredible shame and guilt. And suicidal thoughts. And that leads me to start the cycle over again; because I'm unable to cope with that guilt. And it gets worse and worse until the only way I can cope with things anymore is to go back to the impulsive behaviour.

It feels like I'm trapped in a pathetic cycle of depression and angst and that there is no light at the end of the tunnel. Is there anyone else who has been diagnosed with depression, personality disorders, or experienced anything similar to what I've described that managed to escape this cycle? I feel pathetic constantly, and pathetic for asking, but this is what I've come to.

I know you'll tell me to "get help", but it isn't that simple or that easy. Real help is not as accessible nor as affordable as people make it seem. What help? Through what pathway? My family; I'm not ready for that and I can't be sure of how they would react. My school; they're not equipped to help me. And I don't know how to help myself. So I'm looking for alternate ways to help myself and for motivation.

Thanks and much love. <3
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Idiot Paul Ryan: Defund Planned Parenthood!Posted 5 years Ago

At 1/6/2017 7:06:10 PM, Vox_Veritas wrote:
Look, I'd be just fine with Planned Parenthood if they weren't killing nearly as many people each year as the total number of deaths from the Syrian Civil War.
Somewhere around 1.2% of the abortions PP performs occur outside of the first 12 weeks of pregnancy. Zygotes are not people. Embryos are not people. Other than raw genetic material, they have none of the attributes that separate complex human beings from any other piece of organic matter.

Those dying every day in Aleppo and beyond, on the other hand, are very much real, complex, thinking, feeling, extremely scared *people*. I do not like this comparison.
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A clarification of my positionPosted 5 years Ago

At 1/4/2017 3:07:58 PM, YYW wrote:
At 1/4/2017 8:33:42 AM, Daltonian wrote:
At 1/4/2017 1:19:55 AM, YYW wrote:
At 1/3/2017 11:55:57 PM, Daltonian wrote:
necroposting because i can

Naughty boy...
https://en.wikipedia.org...

lol...

I thought you were in college now?
Yeah, I am, but still technically a minor (I turn 18 this year). I was just kidding though haha
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