We are all selfish

Everyone's different.
You can't put everyone in the same box and you can't speak for everyone. There are people (such as myself) who would rather give than receive. Although it's nice to receive -- I, Nor some other people don't expect anything in return. I know many people like this. When I do something for my friends, I do it out of the kindness of my heart, Not to get something right back. I'm not the type to say "Well I did this for you so you need to do this. " It's good to give to others but you have to make sure you are good yourself. If you give too much into others and forget about yourself, That's not good. Because at the end of the day, You come first.

Selfless.
I take it that you think being selfless is wrong. It's good to give to others, And you deserve gratification from it. Gratification can simply be just feeling good afterwards. If one does a selfless act and feels gratification from it, How does that make them selfish? You did say "might not realize". This goes into the saying "What goes around comes around" When you do good to people, Good things happen to you. When you do bad things to people, Bad things happen to you.

Parent.
This doesn't even belong in this debate. It's a parent's job to take care of their children, They are supposed to be selfless. In my opinion, A child shouldn't even have to say thank you to the parent because that's the parent's job, It doesn't deserve a thank you. My parents once told me I don't have to thank them. Of course, This doesn't mean that the child should act like they are not thankful by disobeying the parent and things of that nature. By raising a child correctly and teaching them respect -- that's gratification enough to the parent. Back to the 'selfish' aspect, The parent shouldn't expect anything from the child as far as exchange. Would you mind elaborating what the exchange would be that the parent receives?

"No matter what you do for others, There is something you are getting out of it. "
Is that a bad thing? What if the person deserves it? For example, Jane does something good for Bill. Time passes. Bill decides to do something good for Jane back, Since she has done something good for him and she deserves it. Jane never asked Bill for anything though, Being the type of person Jane is -- she doesn't expect anything in return.

Selfish.
Lacking consideration for others; concerned chiefly with one's own personal profit or pleasure.
Yes selfishness is bad. There's no such thing is good selfishness. Explain what good selfishness is since you brought it up. What is "everything else"?