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Which Is Better? Being Single (Pro) or In A Relationship (Con) ?

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Started: 5/17/2014 Category: People
Updated: 7 years ago Status: Post Voting Period
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First round is for acceptance. Good luck!
Debate Round No. 1


Thank you for accepting this debate! I will now point out why it is best to be single.

Case 1: Time

When you get in a relationship, you will have to spend a lot of the time with your partner. This could mean blowing off friends and special occasions.

Sub point I: Friends

Here is the scenario. You and your best friend plan this awesome night of arcade, movies stunts, gaming, ETC, and he/she is really looking forward to it. Your partner calls up the day before. She says she wants you to go to the movies. Now you have a choice to make. Do you blow off the night of a lifetime and disappoint your friend, or do you go to with your friend to
disappoint your girlfriend and receive hell to pay afterwards. Many people would blow off their friend to keep their partner. However, if you were single, you wouldn't have to worry about choosing between your friends and your partner. You can do things to your time, or you can be in a relationship and have a constant worry that your partner will call up wanting to go out. You have more freedom when you are single.

Sub Point II: Special Occasions

Lets just say you finally won tickets to the NBA finals, and are getting ready to cheer on your favorite team. Partner wants a date. Boom, another tough decision. Again, you wouldn't have to worry about it if you are single.

Case 2: Emotional Stress

Having a partner signs you up for a lot of emotional stress. Games and fights are main concerns about being in a relationship.

Sub Point I: Games

Partners (mainly women) play games with their partners. Not the fun ones, but the mind ones. Here are some common games from my link. (1)

"Number 6The "we need to talk" game
This game usually begins when you're watching some major sporting event, like the Super Bowl. Once again, she's testing you and trying to see where your priorities are. She needs your attention and she wants it now.

What you should do: It might be wise to hit the mute button for five minutes, listen to her, and then get back to the game. If you tell her to wait until later, you might as well turn off the TV because you've just started a five hour discussion. She'll likely drill you about how you don't care about her and don't discuss your feelings anymore. Take your pick.

Breaking through the silent treatment..

Number 2The silent treatment game
You know you've done something wrong when she doesn't speak to you and gives you the cold shoulder. The thing is you have no clue why she's so ticked.

What you should do: Don't ask her over and over what the problem is; you'll only make matters worse. The fact is if you don't know what you did, you've just bought some more time in the penalty box. Let her cool off while you try to figure it out. When she's ready to talk, she'll likely approach you, glare at you, make huffing sounds, or throw something at your head. At that point, you can ask her what the problem is, then get on with resolving it.

Number 1The ultimatum game
This is the big kahuna of all games. It happens when the relationship is on the line. She expects something big. Possibly marriage, moving in together or a ring — and if you aren't ready to take the step with her, she's willing to move on. This may be a bluff or it may not.

What you should do: If you think she's bluffing, call it. Tell her you won't be bullied. If you think she's serious, you better sit down for a chat. If you aren't ready to take the relationship a step further, then it may be time to cut your losses."

Three serious games that can effect your mental state.

Sub Point II: The Inevitable: You Break Up With Your Partner

Eventually, the inevitable will happen. You choose to break up with your partner. You have to spend your time planning how to do that. Even if you do it nicely, you still feel awful afterwards, especially if your partner makes a scene. Friends of your partner may stop hanging out with you. This is a huge risk!

Sub Point III: The Inevitable: Your Partner Breaks Up With You

Your partner decides to end it, and you are crushed. It is proven that:

" Joiner estimates that “romantic disruptions” and other relationship issues trigger depressive episodes in about 75 percent of men between the ages of 20 and 40 who commit suicide." (2)

This basically means that 75% of suicides with men 20-40 are because of romantic disturbances and break ups.

I hand this debate over to con! Good luck!





I will argue for why it is better to be in a relationship than single. I will present counter-arguments to Pro's statements.

1st sub point - While yes i do agree this is a problem, you can also compromise in a relationship and while you may spend more time with your friends, you can still make time with your friends given you are in agreement with your partner. You can also offer to bring your girl to hang out with your friends for some of the time as you don't always have to be alone with your girlfriend.

2nd sub point:

Again, you can compromise to please both her and yourself.

Case 2

While yes, your girl will cause emotional stress and fights in a relationship, this occurs in every relationship, even friendships. Resolving conflict and managing stress is part of life. Being in a relationship will help you become a better person as you know yourself more.

Sub point "Games"

The "We need to talk" game scenario. This assumes that all girls will do this to you, of course not all will. If she thinks you don't care about her as you watch t.v then that is her flaw and it should be addressed accordingly.

Sub point "the break up"

Not in all relationships, some last for life, but others must end. Even though the break-up is a painful process, you become a stronger person and wiser if you analyze the whole relationship.

These men likely committed suicide over an emotional issue, but it doesn't imply that relationships are to blame.

With all of this in mind, being in a relationship will bring out the best in you and help you improve your character in relationship to others.
Debate Round No. 2


Cooldudebro forfeited this round.


With this in mind, it's better to be in a relationship than to be single.

Vote Con =)
Debate Round No. 3


Cooldudebro forfeited this round.
Debate Round No. 4
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Posted by SPENCERJOYAGE14 7 years ago
Posted by Teemo 7 years ago
I am assuming that pro is one of those forever alone people.
Posted by Ragnar 7 years ago
Define Better.
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