If I had to guess I'd say for every 10 bad things, there's 1 good thing. Also what is considered child marriage is variable by location... Anyway of small benefits they are more likely to have children; they are less likely to have the insecurity of "will I ever get married," which in many cases is replaced by something worse.
Of course this is only about two kids getting married: not the repulsive practice of an adult marrying a child.
When kids marry:
You grow up together.
Less clash of personalities.
The relationship is non-negotiable: like parents/siblings - and feels natural and does not weight you down.
The girl moves from her parents to her ILs early - before the former bonds/personality becomes too strong. And bonds with her ILs grow strong and naturally.
Also easier for ILs to receive a child more wholeheartedly than an adult - who they may view with trepidation, as someone who may want to change things around.
You evolve and understand each other without effort.
No agonizing about the stupid concept of 'right one', romance etc. Marriage is just about finding someone to take care of each other.
Strengthens the family - under constant attack today from individualistic tendencies. The whole paradigm of 'happiness comes from choice' will be resisted.
The system only needs to be updated to today's values: unhindered education for both children, sex-education and healthcare.
We have thrown the babies out with the bathwater.
I would definitely agree that by our standards today, child marriage is immoral and not a custom that should be followed. How do we know that this is such an immoral thing? Have we been in their shoes? Do we really know anything about this custom?
I completely understand when people say that a 6 year old girl marrying a 56 year old man is wrong, because that man would expect things of her that she wouldn't be able to give, physically. When it comes to the sexual aspect of their relationship, the girl would be put at a major disadvantage, and would either get extremely injured during the process and die, or when carrying a baby, would not be able to carry it to the full term and would quite possibly lose the baby as well as her own life.
However, when it is a child marrying another child, it is a different issue. For instance, if we had that same 6 year old girl marrying a 12-13 year old boy, the two of them would be able to live together without worrying about the sexual aspect of their relationship. They could have the opportunity to be friends, then grow into something more. Marriage just means that you have one person that will be your companion for life, and finding that companion early or late is not an issue. Even in our society, it is considered great when two best friends get married, because they know each other so well. Why can't that be the case for two children getting married?
I think that we should reconsider what we are saying before throwing sludge at other cultures. Yes, it is true that most people marry their daughters and sons for the sake of money, but I truly think that there are upsides as well as downsides. We cannot blind ourselves to almost 50% of the world and say that "We are right" when we don't know what goes through their minds.
In my opinion, if there were more explicit laws, I would be alright with the concept. For instance, if we said that the younger of the two must be at least 18 (or any reasonable age) before engaging in sexual activity, we would prevent a lot of the negatives of child marriage.
Common argument is that girls are not given choice to love. But when given choices, why they frequently change partners? Those not given choices remain with one partner all life.
How about teen pregnancies without marriage?
While surveying infanticide, why neglect abortions, contraceptions used to stop someone from taking birth?
There are obvious benefits to child marriages. For example child marriages create financial stability which in turn means that the family will have their needs met, not to mention that the child who is getting married will have all her needs provided for. Morality itself needs to be questioned...We can all agree that killing someone is wrong and immoral, but in times of war killing is not only morally acceptable but is also encouraged. SO MORALITY ALL DEPENDS ON SITUATIONS, by the child marrying she is basically saving her family.
I hoped this added some insight on the topic. There are no right or wrong answers...Sadly. All I can say is arranged marriages are needed in some cases and can save many lives.
It is true that many child marriages results in negative impact especially towards the bride. But what if this only happen in a number of countries? There are many occasions in few countries where the bride did not lose her rights. At the end of the day, everyone is happy. So why need to ban child marriage in the whole world? I suggest make the rules to child marriage more strict so that the future bride is protected. But there ARE countries that need to ban child marriage completely, considering their bad reputation so far.
Like someone above said, it is different, what kind of child marriage are we talking about? Well here is the answer to both.
Okay so I get it, a child of 12 marrying a man of 65 does not seem appealing. However in some cases marriage is the only way out of being in A LOT of trouble. Also in some religions that's just the way it goes and it's hard to change that.
Now if we are talking about child marrying child, it is different. I read a story about someone of 14 that was having a baby. She is not allowed to by the Law so she had to get married to dodge that law. Now instead of marrying the man that forced her to have, well a baby with her, she married her boyfriend. That I think is a much better solution.
But over all you really should not be able to have a baby in a marriage until you are 18, or something.
Girls who are below 12 in age are having sex with men who sometimes cross 40s in age. This is happening with consent but what happens the reason is we stick to only big newspaper to read news. Today every society is suffering from fornication and adultery.
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If a child can leave poverty behind by becoming a child bride it is a net gain for the child since she no longer has to worry about whether or not she is getting to eat. In impoverished countries, child marriage is a necessary evil for the people of the nation to grow and survive.
Whether we marry girl whose age is between 10-18 to a boy of same age or older person it is not the matter, but problem is social ills from which we must protect our children.
Sex is not the problem, every girl whether adult or minor is afraid for sometime.
As marriage counselor I seen case where an adult educated married women was feeling afraid of sex with husband and there are cases where girls of 6-8 are having sex without any hesitation (in case of trobriander tribe in Papua, New Guinea), and I am not joking about this. (You can google it)
It's about education, in case of trobriander tribe girl and boys are educated by there parents for marriage
Why don't you ask former child brides about it?
They all hated it. They were manipulated by their parent into wanting to get married. One did not want to and she was forced to anyway.
Most of them cried when they talked about their first night because it was rape.
It dose not matter what age the groom is. 65 or 25 or 16 that is rape on the girl.
They suffered from pregnancy complications and some lost babies and they did not know how to raise children.
And a lot were beaten and treated like property and then divorced because they got to old.
You sick perverts hide behind tradition but my God will judge you.
Child marriage is wrong. Period. You are robbing a child of their childhood, Of their freedom. Even if you wed two children, There's no guarantee that their marriage will have any benefits. They may grow apart as they grow up, They may learn that they're not attracted to each other anymore/never were in the first place (after all, We can't control or choose who we're attracted to), They may just become sick of each other, Or how about this: what if the relationship is/becomes abusive? What then? Can these children divorce, Or would their parents force them to stay together in a toxic relationship? What if their political/religious/life goals or so on don't line up? Those are just a few issues I can think of in regards to two children getting married who are hypothetically the same age. But if they're not even around the same age, And they're forced to wed, Many of the same issues I mentioned before come up, But also: they won't be anywhere the same maturity level, They won't have the same interests or have anything to talk about, And what happens as they get older? If a 6 year old marries a 12 year old, By the time the 12 year old is 18, Their partner is 12, So we end up in the same adult-married-to-a-child that everyone seems to mutually agree is wrong. What then? Imagine being a child and being married all you life. Just imagine how dreadful that would be for just a moment. Aside from all the issues I've brought up, That's one less freedom you have growing up, One less thing you get to choose yourself.
If it's a child and another child, Then great, They made that decision at like 13 that at 15 if they think they're ready, If you've raised them with good problem solving decisions they will be A-OKAY. I DON'T FREAKING LIKE PEDOPHILES trying to date kids. Anymore than 10 years of difference under 18 is SICK. NO other explanation. I'm talking about similar age consent.
Cuz most tweens start dating at 12 or 13 anyways (if not allowed, They do it behind their parents back or have major crushes) they understand what love is. They think their first boyfriend or girlfriend is going to with them forever so I'm pretty sure they are mature enough, Age-wise IF you've raised them to be, To take care of their own basic needs such as cooking for themselves, Feeding themselves, Bathing and clothing themselves.
Being married is better than them committing sexual immorality. Teenagers that date WITHOUT marriage sleep together, Have babies and end up one or the other raising the baby alone as a single parent. Better to prepare them for it if they want it. At like 10-12 I'd have that talk with them. "If you want to have sex, You're going to have to get married to him. If he purposes and I believe he actually means it as a mature young guy, At 15 or 16, Depending on your grades, You can marry him and then you can have sex with your husband. Outside of that, The answer is no. "
Again, We're talking about same age marriage, None of that other SICK mess that goes on in this world.
There girl's should be able to grow up and fall in love with someone. They should not be forced to be with someone way older than them and who is just using them. There is no love there. They should be able to have an education, Child marriage limits that. These grown men who are marrying these young girls are basically pedophiles. It's so wrong. It should be illegal everywhere.
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I think it is not good for someone to have an early marriage because they are too young and doesn't know how to manage theirselves. . . Besides their mentality just want to have fun and enjoying their teenage year and they felt like people will respect them more and look forward to them. . But instead they just ruined there own childhood. . .
Child Marriage isnt right. These kids need to learn and play. Not worry about having to marry a man 10 times her age. Or even having two children marrying each other isnt right because kids need to learn how to mature and about their body more. Marrying at a young age isnt right knowing these children are still babies themselves. BABIES HAVING BABIES ISNT RIGHT!...
All of the men who marry children are PEDOFILES. There all big hairy pedo's. And sorry but who wants to marry a 12 year old they have no arse and no tits and most of them will also die when giving birth because they haven't matured properly. And what would you rather living in poverty or living in wealth get raped and die giving birth think about that
I think child marriage is wrong because there are way to many negatives. For example a little 7 year old could be married to a 30 year old man. Now the 23 year difference is already bad enough, but just the fact that the man will most likely abuse and hurt her. SAY NO TO CHILD MARRIAGE!
The girls are usually married at age of 12. Where most of 12 years old are being educated and living their childhood. Being married at young age would obviously give the older man head start, such as forced sex and being abused. Which can lead to depression at such a young age. And why should they must suffer