I gave sperm to a friends 2nd cousin 33 years ago and it was at a drunken party... I actually forgot about it and the ridiculous 'turkey baister' insemination in the bathroom. The recipient was a little older than the rest of the group and I never heard of the woman again.. 5 years ago to my supprise my friend was told by her 2nd cousin she actually conceived from this.. The woman's 33 year old son has requested a DNA test and has already approached my adult children claiming to be their big brother and even my mother claiming to be her grandson... Plus other family members trying to establish some premature bonding... I am horrified at the whole situation and I have spoken to his family who are also appalled by his behaviour. He was raised by his grandparents who are devastated as his mother became a drug addict and they rescued him from that life, severely changing the course of their lives. It's a huge mess and my actions were irresponsible as a teenager I agree. However my anonymity was agreed at the time even though not believed would actually be necessary. My status however remains the same.. I am an anonymous donor and should have remained just that. I'm refusing this man's request for a DNA test...
I suppose, all children born with the help of reproductive medicine should know about their biological parents. Of course, not all clinics could provide parents with donor's open id, as it was with my clinic. We have opted for one in Ukraine and they told us all donors are anonymous. It's all because of Ukrainian legislation. Frankly, I became upset because I imagined how my little ones would ask why they don't have any similarities with me, why do they look after the father. What if they ask to show their real mother and I couldn't do it because my clinic didn't give that right.
I know that donors are often anonymous and I support this idea. It's not necessary to tell who you are when you want to help others without a specific purpose. When I undergo my IVF treatment in Ukraine I was choosing an egg donor from donor database and I was provided with essential information about those women, health state, parameters, family medical history. I don't want to know her name and adress, what for. I won't hide the fact of using donor eggs for getting pregnant but I don' want my baby to grow up thinking about how to find a woman whose egg gave him life. A parent is the one who cares, love and support a child all the time despite everything.
Yes, these children have every right to know who their biological parents are. No one has the right to deny that information to these children. They need to know their heritage, and what illnesses they may be facing when they get older. Secrets seldom remain secrets forever. It would be best to tell them as soon as they are old enough to understand than to have them stumble across the truth.
Yes, I think that children that are conceived by sperm or egg donation should know who their parents are. I say this for a couple of reasons, but one very specific reason. If a child grows up and have children they may need to know if there are any potential issues that may occur within their child. Also it is just human nature to wonder where one comes from.
Every egg and sperm donation is carefully recorded and the centers know exactly who the biological parents are and I feel if the child legitimately wishes to know the name of who their biological parent is that they have a right to know that information, I don't feel it would be right to withhold that information.
I don't think they deserve to know who the donor is considering that the donor in question probably would've requested to not be known and donated anonymously. Also, many do it just for the money so there is no emotional attachment between the two. The child would likely just set themselves up for disappointment anyway and harm their relationship with their original parental figures.
This sort of donation is intentionally anonymous. The donor may even be doing so just for some extra cash. There is no real bond in the relationship between a donor and a user, so the bond between the child and the donor is not necessary. There is some fringe scientific evidence that such an encounter is beneficial. However, the encounters are few, and often have negative results.
I do not believe that children who are conceived by sperm and egg donation should have a right to know who their biological parents are. The knowledge that a kid possesses should be left to his parents who are legally his guardians. I think that if they decide the child should know, then it is also up to the biological parents.