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  • Feminism touts independence, marriage is by definition not independent.

    If you're a husband married to a feminist you'll feel your marriage is grossly unbalanced, you're committed to, and have responsibilities to her, while she can choose whether or not to be responsible to you and not feel at fault, while at the same time, paradoxically, not be ok with you not fulfilling your role. (Try forgetting a birthday, or not being romantic, or sitting on the curb while she has to carry the couch in by herself and see how long before she throws something at you :) .) I believe people should be treated equally, but modern feminism is not at all about equality, it's about independence and isolation, and neither are good for marriage. Humans need each other.

  • Feminism does not mean gender equality

    Modern Feminism is in itself a self centered argument, as is misogyny or any of a series of other opposing movements. Marriage and selfishness do not go together. Let me put it this way. In marriage both parties agree to serve each other. That's what to have and to hold means. It means balancing your needs with the needs of the other. You do everything possible to keep your spouse happy and they do the same. That includes filling your "gender" role. The man provides and protects. The woman takes what he provides and uses it for the betterment of the home. If the circumstances are reversed then the man still protects and uses what the woman provides for the betterment of the home. If both work they partner on everything and don't make stand-alone decisions as they understand these decisions by virtue of affecting the other partner in the relationship require that they give them participation. There is an understanding that love, support, kind words, empathy, romance, loyalty and the need to feel desired are things that both parties require and both parties have a right to by virtue of entering in to marriage. Modern feminism creates the idea that men are not only women's enemy's and oppresors by default, but also that women do not need men. If men are not necessary in theory they will be treated as unecessary in practice. Tell me anyone, female or male who wants to live with anyone who does not take them into account, who maintains a transitory attitude towards the relationship and who in essence decides when and if they want to allow them to be involved in decision making or physical contact? Before attacking what I'm saying, think about what woman is ok with her husband/boyfriend/mate/lover/casual hookup etc refusing to have sex with them, or refusing to put money/time into the home because it "reinforces gender roles" or decides on their own to get a vasectomy or refuse to have children, or focus more on their appearance/car/career than them? Marriage is not a patriarchal construct, it wasn't invented by one specific culture and is simply a commitment between two people to stick with each other, provide for each other in every possible way and work together. Creating false sides and stripping away the basic parameters necessary for it to function by labeling them as oppressive and backward is making marriage now a hell for both parties. Nobody's happy, because who would? If you're a feminist wife pretty much anything your husband will want/need from you will go against everything you believe,

  • Feminism, when used correctly, is necessary for a marriage

    Feminism means equality between men and women. When I say feminist, I mean someone who supports gender equality, even if they don't personally identify as a feminist. Not women are superior to men, and if you think that, you've seen some truly terrible feminists and think that they're all like that, or you can't handle the fact that women are growing some individuality and the fact that patriarchy really exists. If your wife becomes a feminist and your marriage fails as a result, either she thinks feminism means women are superior, or you're a bad husband. Either way, splitting up is a good thing. An ideal marriage is where both partners are feminists (unless you're both men, in which case you should still be feminists but it's not necessary for the marriage). Feminism is necessary for a marriage, without it it is one-sided

  • Feminism, when done right, improves a marriage

    Feminism means equality between men and women. When I say feminist, I mean someone who supports gender equality, even if they don't personally identify as a feminist. Not women are superior to men, and if you think that, you've seen some truly terrible feminists and think that they're all like that, or you can't handle the fact that women are growing some individuality and the fact that patriarchy really exists. If your wife becomes a feminist and your marriage fails as a result, either she thinks feminism means women are superior, or you're a bad husband. Either way, splitting up is a good thing. An ideal marriage is where both partners are feminists (unless you're both men, in which case you should still be feminists but it's not necessary for the marriage). Feminism is necessary for a marriage, without it it's one-sided.

  • Feminism does not 'ruin' marriages

    Feminism is defined as equality between both genders (male and female). Feminism also says that a woman should be respected just as much as their male peers and not be sexualized, denigrated, or assaulted. If feminism does 'ruin' a marriage as you say, it is only because the man directly in the marriage and the woman realizes that she is worth more


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