I guess you have all given up on finding that one person you will stand by no matter what. Heck, you may have even given up on true love all together. Either that, or you are an inconsiderate person who doesn't stop and think that maybe! Just maybe, that your future partner might want your virginity because its special to them? Its a sign that you saved yourself for them even though your body itches for it? Try learning some self control so that you may resist a completely unneeded habit in hopes of bettering whatever love your future holds. However, if you are just happy having sex with anyone, I feel bad for since you will most likely screwed in the love department.
(However, if you are a Katagaria, I approve casual sex because that is the only way you will find your mate.)
In my opinion you should wait until marriage to have sex.Most people today lack self control and will hook up though.This sends a message that you are easy and maybe carry diseases.Casual sex is bad because you basically are having sex with a complete stranger.You should have a level of trust,love,and comfort in the fact that the other person cares about your feelings and maybe even insecurities the other person should care about you.Without thease and hooking up your just a notch on someones bedpost and are being used.
Sex is something special that should be only shared with that person who is to you special. Having a shag with someone you don't love or have feelings for is just wrong because you may end up having feelings for that person especially as a woman, Missing their company if you've done it with them several times and MOST IMPORTANTLY
sex without love has no meaning. When you do it with someone you love, Have feelings for and care about them sex is a way of showing how much you love them.
As a woman, I personally believe that if a guy wants lust over love then I feel I'm not a person but rather something to have sex with.
If you want sex so badly, Its better to do it with a toy or with your partner, Because at least you can improve the sex aspect
There might be bad arguments against sexual promiscuity, but I can think of no arguments in favour of it, other than something along the lines of "experience life". But that's hardly a compelling argument, I can experience life by taking cocaine and heroin as well.
Self-respect is also a decent, though more psychological than philosophical, approach. Do you really think the person who needs to have sex with a different partner every night is healthy? It's not that they're having sex, it's that they NEED to have sex. They've attached their self-worth to strangers' acceptance of them (otherwise they'd just settle down with one person and frankly have more sex anyway). They don't respect themselves, and we know this because they need to be told constantly through meaningless sex that they're worth it. After all, if only one person loves you, you still feel left out. But if lots of people like you enough to have sex with you, you must be doing something right! You can see this in action: the most sexually promiscuous people are, often ironically, the people no one wants anything to do with. And it's because they're outcasts that they're promiscuous, not the other way around.
So if we accept that sex is good in the same way that justice is good, then we should respect it. In other words, if we hold sex on a pedestal like we do things like justice, God, beauty et al, taking it down from there by having it be something like shaking hands seems unjust. But if it isn't good, you'd have to completely deny eroticism as a concept. A "slut" (male or female, for the record) is equivalent to a pornographer or a bad artist, who takes something beautiful and makes it ugly
The more people you have hit final base with, less time one have spent with a single person and therefore one knows less about that person as one would have.
Also, I want to point out few things: If one realizes one cannot adapt to their partner or find sufficient compatibility with his/her partner, it makes sense not to continue dating, but more failures will show one's lack of insight into others' personalities; this argument assumes significant (non-casual) sex, as casual sex is bound to lose romantic significance over use (the real duct-tape argument); the argument goes to men and women alike.
Will I judge you? Not at all. Would this perhaps make me second guess a relationship? There is an argument for that. And seeing as this debate is 50/50, half the population might fully disregard you as relationship material because they think since you are willing to show, what to them is the most private/ sacred thing, on the first date, there is no more levels to you and there is no point going deeper emotionally.
You don't know how it affects you so just approach it with fair trepidation.
The act of besmirching sex from love/ passion is a dangerous one, as even though it may numb you to emotional attachment, when the time comes to make those attachments you might have subconscious prejudices, a reliance on the aproval of others (preferring multiple over one) and problems forming a connection, potentially.
To the opposition that says that casual sex is an excerise in autonomy therefore good (even though virtue and strength is characterised as the standing in opposition to primal needs), you're assuming autonomy is good, which isn't necessarily true. I can think of many reasons where autonomy is practiced with bad results (drug abuse and self-harm probably being the most obvious ones). I can also think of many instances where autonomy is infringed upon with good results (forcing a mental patient to take their medication, for instance).
There's little we can assume is totally good, I can think of pretty much just three: Beauty, Truth, and Goodness/Virtue. These are distinguished by being properly basic attributes: Why believe something? Because it's true. Why do something? Because it's good/virtuous. Why look at something? Because it's beautiful. These are perfectly good reasons for doing these things. Any rebuttal to these answers will consist of "that's not really true/beautiful/virtuous, actually". Saying "Why do something? Because I'm practicing my autonomy" seems silly. You're certainly practicing your autonomy by murdering someone or by taking drugs, but no sane person would accept that as a reasonable answer. Your autonomy is only good insofar as it relates to one of those three aspects of the Good. The question then is, is being sexually promiscuous any of them? Being erotic certainly falls under the category of beauty, but eroticism and sexual promiscuity are as different as pornography and art.
You're also conflating sexual promiscuity with having lots of sex. It's the difference between having sex 50 times with one person, or one time each with 50 people. Obviously these two ideas are different and reflect differently on the person. This is important, most of the flaws in your video come from this. Sex isn't bad, and no one who thinks about this with any seriousness believes that. It does a great disrespect to the debate to assume otherwise. On the contrary, sex is beautiful, and there have been countless works of art depicting eroticism as beautiful for hundreds if not thousands of years. Those in favour of chastity actually usually see sex as something far greater than those in favour of promiscuity, at least on a serious intellectual level. Sexual promiscuity, however, is the equivalent of pornography: it removes the person from the act, destroying the goodness and the soul that sex deserves.
Sex is a special bond two people are supposed to have with each other. It brings two people closer and is a way to express love for one another, however casual sex is randomly hooking up with people and having loveless sex. People argue that they do love the person in a way but not like a relationship which in the end is belittling the word love. When words like love lose it’s strong meaning, just as the word dies, so do the morals with it.
It's a good thing. Why not having fun under the sheets, if we weren't so judgemental then everything would be great. The only bad.Thing would be an unwanted pregnancy or STDs, guys;wear a condom and girls; take the pill or get a IUD, get tested!. We all need to enjoy our sexuality. It's great we live in a time birth control and Condoms exist.
The act of sex itself is an emotion not a act to finish of your Saturday night out, or pay your taxi fare with, i see this kind of thing going on every week,and i get asked if i have issues because i refuse to sleep around,seems clear cut to me why would you do the most intimate thing with someone you met a hour earlier and don, t even know their second name, have no feelings for,and they don,t care about you, i don,t think it,s me with the issues, i know what sex is all about and they don,t and use it like a cheap thrill .
Sex is not just sex. Why would you want to reveal the most intimate, personal part of your body to a complete stranger, someone you've barely spoken to? You don't know their history or who they are. Sex doesn't come without risk, emotion and responsibility, unfortunately. If a guy just wants to 'do a girl' then there's his right hand. That's not got any feelings. I'm not religious at all, these are just logical reasons why locking genitals with a random isn't the brightest idea.
Put simply, casual sex is two or more people implicitly or explicitly agreeing to suppress the natural emotions that arise before and from the act itself (hint: those "confusing" sex with love aren't actually the ones confused) for the sole purpose obtaining a high, much like a drug addict does, that could be obtained with much less of the negative consequences we see in the world today (ie. Stds, family domestic problems, other drug addictions) if only people were willing to to slow down and confront the real underlying priorities that encourage them to avoid dealing with other humans like....I don't know, humans; beings with emotions, thoughts, and dreams, rather than just another commodity in our capitalist society. It really boils down to misplaced values. That's not always detrimental, but in this cases, it fundamentally ruins the quality of our lives to make such compromises.
In my opinion, casual sex is about experimentation and exploring your sexuality. There is nothing immoral about sexual experimentation as long as you don't rape. In this age, casual sex is becoming more prevalent after the sexual revolution of the 1960s when society rebelled against the traditional principles of sex.
Sex is a natural desire like eating so there is nothing wrong with casual sex. But just like anything doing something has consequences as such one should be aware that you could hook up with a crazy psychopath or you could get an STD etc. As long as you know the risks have fun.
It can bring diseases but with right medication plus condom it's alright. Brings pleasure and intimate romance and deepens the relationship between the two who are getting it on. Also, there's a bunch of healthy benefits as well as calories burnt. Yep, Don't see anything wrong with casual sex! :D
It's also fun.
Don't be a prude.
If you don't want to have sex, that's fine, but don't judge others for having fun.
Just because you're too frightened to ride the roller coaster doesn't mean others are evil for being brave enough to try, and even enjoy it.
Sex is a fun time, and nearly everyone wants it in some form or fashion, save for the folks who are asexual.
In my opinion, the debate of morality in casual sex is at this point redundant. Sex is personal, no? Then if two personal-if even not relevant-people decide to copulate, then the sex remains personal. Sex is not only personal, but natural. Let us assume a world in which obstinacy rules as the primal standard for casual (unwed) sex. Science will tell you now and again that a world without sex results in more cortisol, less dopamine, and decreased levels of sex drive. Regulating human-created concepts is one matter (ie; economy, law, etc.) however, regulating nature is another. Morality is an issue purely based on interpretation. The standard for what is 'moral' changes constantly. Sex as a natural phenomenon does not. Primitively speaking, mates didn't start the roller coaster after a ring was put on. Back to the present: Technology, science, medical engineering and proliferated testing has advanced such that sexually charged diseases and ailments can be prevented if not cured entirely. Casual sex is not the problem. Education, preparation, and a proper understanding between causes and effects of such are the issues at hand.
There is nothing wrong about knowing what you want and getting what you want, as long as it is safe, consensual and legal. People should be allowed to experiment and explore their sexuality without being judged.
I tried it before and now I know more about what I want. I realise casual sex is simply not my thing. It is just part of self-discovery.
Just saw someone saying people need to get married before having sex. What a load of phooey. I am sorry to break it to you but not everyone wants to get married, and we are not some sexless pandas down at the zoo.
If all parties involved are willing then ok. Let people accept the consequences (stds and the like) of they're actions. If it doesn't involve you and proper contraceptives are used then why do you care. No kids by accident (or on purpose) then no harm done. I rest my case
It's okay .It's consensual.The only problem is disease and unwanted pregnancies.This can be thwarted by rubbers, safe sex acts,birth control devices and check ups between partners .It's oppose by the white Pickett fence majority cause they see them as a competitive threat in their behavior and resources of survival and because there are more monogamous,they think everybody is suppose to be like them.
Many people seem to be mistaking casual sex as a random, thoughtless moment of lust with a random stranger. This is not the case. Casual sex refers to any and all intercourse held between any persons not in a committed or loving relationship, for the purposes of easing their sexual tensions and fun. Casual sex is 100% consensual, and whether or not the participants use protection is their own decision, like it would be for a married couple.
As stated before, almost everyone has libido, some people more than others. Masturbation and sex toys do exist for the purpose of easing sex drive and/or frustration, but it's hard to beat the sensation of having a physical human whom you can trust, respect, and get aroused from being there to give you the pleasure you seek whilst you give them the pleasure they seek. Sex is a natural urge, and so long as those involved are consenting and not breaking any vows or promises, it's ok to indulge in this urge.
"But what if their future partner doesn't want them having sex?" - If anyone has so much of a problem with their partner having sex in the past that they're going to make a scene out of it, then clearly they're unable to see everything else that person can bring to their life, and are therefore not deserving of them. One's true future partner would be accepting of who they are and what they've done, and one would view them in the same light. Granted not everyone will have this kind of blessing, but if you're going to mention 'the one' as a staple in your argument, you have to consider the fact that anyone who doesn't accept you for who you are is not deserving of you.
In summary - there's nothing morally wrong with casual sex, it's a natural human solution to a natural human dilemma, and anyone who refuses to be with you because you've had casual sex should not be with you.