I have seen in myself and it is selfless I have experienced it though she was in love with someone else and I knew that so I never told her myself for the sake of her emotions. It is just the feeling of being in love that keeps you going on. I know if I had told her she might have said yes but that would have been unfaithful to her partner. So I kept being friends with her but from inside I was truly fallen for her. Till date I have never even indirectly told her to leave her partner or never tried to break them apart because she's so happy with him that I can't express my feelings for. I had been and I am in love with her so no matter what I would never hurt her for some selfish reasons of mine.
I being a sikh Knows it. I feel very sorry for those who say we are non racists but indeed idealize racism. There's so much distinction between sikhism and other religions. . .. . . . . . . . . . .. . . .. ... . . . . . .. .