This survey is too funny--all of the yes votes that I have read are parents and all of the no votes I see are kids. LOL...When you grow up, CHILDREN, and pay your own bills you can have your privacy. The reason being is that we as parents have the responsibility of making sure you are making the right choices and sometimes with ever growing ways of communicating kids do not use their brains that God gave them and make a mistake that cannot be taken back. We are here to raise you and protect you from yourselves.
My child lives in my house, she does not have a job or money, she is under 18. I WILL read her texts until she is on her own. Period. Again, there is no 'allowed' about it. It is plain and simply something that WILL happen.
Until she is old enough to support herself, provide for herself and or any mistakes she might make, I will be aware of what going on in her life. She can have complete freedom from these things when she can provide it for herself.
Parents are legally responsible for their children. I know of past cases where parents have been arrested for crimes a child has done and they also can be held financially responsible. You are protecting your child by getting in front of activity that is suspicious
we should be allowed to see everything a cop or teacher or doctor and counselor can see I monitor my kids PC phone chat room Facebook everything they do I know it end of decision for me
I your a liberal and think you are invading their privacy welll have fun in jail and paying ou what they owe
I'm a Teen, and my phone is regularly checked. I understand why they do it however, and it is very justified, otherwise you might end up going places where you shouldn't, or end up messing up your life - forever. Nothing you post can truly go away, but with parent's monitoring what you post, you have a much less chance of doing something you shouldn't.
Because you shouldn't have anything on your phone that you would be ashamed or embarrassed for you parents to know, and if you do, then you deserve to get busted for it. I don't understand why teenagers think they can do whatever they like, things that they absolutely know they will get in trouble for and think that they can just hide it from their parents. I can 100% guarantee that hiding stuff and lying to your parent will always result in a much more severe punishment than if you'd told them upfront what you had done (or could just not be an idiot and not do those things).
Of course children / teens / young adults do not believe that you should be snooping into what they want to call "their privacy". They also think they know everything and can make wise decisions. They think it is ok to text and drive, drink and drive and show their private parts while on spring break....Young ones think they should not have to go to school or have a bedtime ...Do I have to go on....I think everyone gets the picture...... Bottom line is, THEY are not paying for a phone, internet, computers, ipads and the electricity it takes to keep them running and until they do those items are NOT THEIRS. They are the property of the parent or guardian and can be looked at, searched, monitored at anytime they please. I was paying for my 30 year old daughters phone and internet when she got a divorce and when I heard her gossiping and being mean on the phone I shut it off. When I found out the type of things she was posting on facebook I had the internet removed. She knew what the boundries where and chose to use those divices for avenues to hurt others which is unacceptable to me. She now pays for her own phone and what she chooses to do with it is her business but she will not be doing it on my dime. If you are not doing anything wrong then there should not be a problem with anyone looking at your text messages or emails which by the way are not private anyway and if you think they are you are grossly mistaken. If you feel you should have privacy and you are old enough then get a job, be responsible, and pay for all of your electronical gadgets yourself and you may also want to move out on your own until then, my house my rules....
Because parents need to know about their teens life and try to help them with any problems
Same thing goes with a cell phone. If the parent pays the bill every month, buys the phone, and listens to the kids complaining about how they need an upgrade every six months, then the parent has the right to monitor the kids' use of the phone. If teens don't like it, they can go out, get jobs, and pay their own cell phone bills. Everything has a price, and having lived through the kid's side of this one, having my dad glance through who I've been talking to every now and then is a very small price to pay for the privilege of a phone.
I'm a teenager and I think it is important for the children to be able to trust their parents and their parents to trust them. It is a good thing for the parents to check the child's messages because bullying can make the teen feel like they it's not worth living, and most teenagers who are being cyber bullied are too scared to tell anyone. If the parent checks the child's messages they will trust them more when it comes to letting them go out late at night, giving them gadgets, letting them visit friends houses. If the child has nothing to hide online then the parents seeing their messages cannot do any damage. It will create trust between the parent and the child. Another thing is, if the child can't be trusted to be sensible on their mobile, they won't learn to be sensible when they leave home, and they will make many more mistakes. The need to learn to be safe online when they are young, and this will teach them to be careful. The parents can't relax if their children won't let them see their texts. It isn't an invasion of privacy because parents are responsible for their children and it is their business what the children get up to on their phone. It isn't fair on the parents if they can't know more about their children's lives. It will make a better relationship between them.
Parents obviously should be allowed to read their children's text messages if they feel the need to do so. Prohibiting this would similar to prohibiting police from pulling over drunk drivers. Nobody wants to get pulled over by the police but we always worry about the other person driving drunk and recklessly. Similarly, parents need this right because of those children that are either problematic or incapable of making good decisions. Parents whose children do not fall into this category should be careful about betraying their children's trusts by overusing this right to look at their texts. Maybe they should just randomly check the text messages.
I caught my mom reading my messages one day when I accidently left my phone in her room just cause its there doesn't mean you have the right to look through it. I have never given my mom the reason to not trust me. Never drink never smoke I grew up around a church and have never done anything bad at school. I'm 16 and I just think if I wanted to tell you something I was talking to about my friends then I would have don't force your way into my life. I cant trust her much anymore she always lies to me about things I know about already don't try to be so controlling that you need to read your kids text. Well I'm getting a lockable phone in a couple of months and I'm excited because I don't want to have my parents always knowing what I'm talking about with my friends sometimes my friends just get it unlike parents since your friends are more modern and they do spend a lot more time with you. Just don't do it unless you want your kid to not trust you. Parents these days are way to controlling just back off and stop trying to control your teen its their life not yours so just let them breathe!
At the moment my parents are no longer on speaking terms with me as a result of them going through all the messages on my phone. The main reason for this is the crude language one of my friends very infrequently used. When they are reading my messages they are taking everything entirely out of context, and while I agree the language was inappropriate the reason for it made it almost justified. I think all teenagers can agree with me that high school does but huge strain on relationships with family and even how you see yourself. At times the only people you want to talk to are your friends. My parents refuse to believe this, claiming that in our family friends should only be told the trivial funny stories and the really troubling things should be told to them. Then when I came out to find them going through my phone I decided to always delete every message I get immediatley and them reading the messages in the first place has only ended up distancing us even further. Parents should not read their teen's messages, it is as simple as that.
It is a complete intrusion of privacy, my mum has recently done it to me and it has left a dent in out relationship, I have now put a lock on my phone and don't feel I can trust my mum. Nothing can make reading someone elses messages without permission justified! My mum checked my messages because she saw I was messaging a 19 year old guy and I am 14 and she didn't approve and told me to stop messaging him as it was inapropriote, but my mum got the complete wrong idea about it, the guy is like an older brother to me and has given me some good responsible advise like this?ouraging alcohol etc. He was a gap student at my school which is how I met him. I no longer trust my mum like before. So the moral of the story, never read your teenagers messages, trust them to come to you with issues
Well it's true that parents are concerned about their children but allowing them to read child's text messages is wrong, every one have his/her personal life and not everything can be shared with parents. Also relationship between parents and child should be that much strong that they don't need to read his/her messages for knowing what's going on his/her life.
I think that teens need there privacy and I believe that if a parent need to check a teens phone than they definatly didnt do a good job at parenting first of all when your in their teen years you start to have male or female friends and I think that it private what you and your male or female friend is conversating about I remember when my mom thought I was talking to older guys when I clearly wasnt just because I was private, it immbarrising to sit and see your parents read text messages and viewing call records and I feel that when a parent feel the need to do so anyway there I definantly no trust their and I strongly believe that that belittles a teen
It destroys the trust between the parent and child. Would parents like it if I went through their texts, their purses, and their phones? Legally they have a right but honestly that's the stupidest and most pathetic thing I have heard. Your child deserves respect.
It is a serious invasion of privacy and a voilation of trust. Yes, teens could be doing bad things through texting, but to look through the messages would be very bad! It is basically like the parents screaming at the child, 'we don't trust you, you cant be trusted to do the right thing. We want to know everything you and your friends/(boy/girl)friend talk about!' it is just wrong.
I'm 15 years old, my parents had been hacking my Facebook account 2-3 times a week without telling me, they read all my messages and it was not okay! I understand I am mature enough to know my parents love me, they want the best for me, a bright future, however I need space to build my personality and to find who I am, I'll learn by doing rather than my parents lecturing me. It makes me lose trust in them. I spent years showing my parents I'm mature, bubbly and hardworking daughter who is perfect. But I can't be like that 24/7 I also have a life out of home where I can be myself. I socialize a lot now that it's summer but during exam time I stopped all of that. I studied. I did my best to make my parents proud. But when they go checking my texts and inbox without telling me. Its frustrating, it makes me not try to please them anymore.
I personally don't think it is fair because even though adults still have control of their teens, doesn't mean they should be able to get into their privacy. The parent could at least check their phone randomly so if the child was doing something bad, the parent could catch them. Either way, being able to check everything the child is saying is unfair. We are all people and even though teens are younger doesn't mean that parents are better because there are a whole lot of teens are a lot more responsible and smarter than most adults.
I believe that parents shouldn't snoop around their teens things because it will cause them to act up and maybe even stop talking to you. If you're concerned that your child is having problems or you think their talking with some stranger. Instead of snooping around in their stuff just ask them. That would bring you guys closer. Just don't look through their things they'll believe you did something wrong or that you don't trust them. Thank you and have nice day!