Depends on the situation. To get to a point were you want to punish your significant other severely both of you should have a conversation on the future of your relationship. If both of you can't settle your differences, That result in severe punishment, , It is best to go your separate ways.
No! Lets see about "Disobedient HUSBANDS should be punished". . . Men who were saying that women should be punished for not being how they want them to, Listen up. How would you feel if you were a women being thrown around because of something you did wrong. Its not even a question. Men-Woman-Trans should all be treated equally. And if your wive is disobedient, Then sit down and talk to them, And settle it in a better manner. You don't need discipline to solve a problem. Maybe somethings bugger her. And same with you ladies. If your guy is acting up, Ask whats wrong. Problem solved.