Does monogamy ACTUALLY work for us naturally polygamous humans?

Posted by: thisisit1

  • Yes

  • No

71% 15 votes
29% 6 votes
  • Yes it does. That is why we have higher cognitive thought processes and don't act on animalistic instinct. Besides when you grow up, you normally have so much responsibility and a commitment to your spouse, worrying about multiple sexual partners is as it seems, teen ager's folly.

  • Monogamy is one crucial way in which civilization instills responsibility and personal accountability in people. This is something people in our nation (America) can always learn and use more of - responsibility and accountability.

  • This is what makes civilization work.

  • Monogamy is hardly unnatural. Monogamy can be found cross-culturally. Additionally, when we talk about monogamy in the animal kingdom, this does not imply a lifelong relationship, but one relationship at a time (especially for the duration of a certain period, such as a breeding season). Of course, many humans do not engage in monogamy, which is also natural. Thus, for some people monogamy works, while others may engage in polygamy, open relationships, etc.

    Posted by: kbub
  • well put ^^

  • Yes, monogamy works if people are acting out of love, not their egos. If the spouse dies then I agree they should choose another if they wish, or they should be free to escape an abusive relationship. Monogamy creates family stability, and trust, and holds people accountable and responsible. If multiple sexual partners is normal, WHY are there sexually transmitted infections. I find that disgusting, and its enough incentive to keep me faithful to one person, so I would expect the same. Also I would think that a society that encourages multiple partners run the risk of unknown parentage and could possibly lead to incest among siblings and other DNA issues with those offspring.

  • How are humans naturally polygamous? Silly.

  • Monogamy is unnatural and just the way people try to appeal to nature in the same-sex marriage debate; they forget that "one man, one woman" is actually unnatural because humans along with nearly every single other species, are naturally polygamous. Only a few species are actually monogamous and mate-for-life and humans aren't one.

  • No, but we try our best. You just have to see the rate of infidelity to know monogamy does not work.

  • It seems that monogamy has been selected by our species very recently, probably after agriculture allowed us to "civilize" ourselves. Monogamy is definitely beneficial for the welfare of the offsprings and thus favoured by the female, who would otherwise be solely responsible for the same. Additionally, the female would not be mating as she would be burdened with bringing up the children. The males however have no such incentives provided by his mental makeup. The male still wants to ensure that his progeny spreads as far and wide as possible. This is displayed by the still rampant infidelity due to the characteristic male sex drive unrestricted by a conscience and pushed by his instincts

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thisisit1 says2014-04-08T03:28:01.4297837-05:00
Jingram994 says2014-04-08T06:55:08.2658963-05:00
I would have thought that if humans were actually naturally polyamorous that monogamy wouldn't be effectively pan-cultural. You would think that would make more sense. I would also have thought that we (in general) would have a much easier time accepting our sexual partners having multiple partners if we were 'wired' to have multiple partners, ourselves. As it stands, trying to 'game' the current system and have more than one sexual partner at a time is a very good way to piss off both and end up single.
Juan_Pablo says2014-04-08T07:49:46.1522688-05:00
In our for our civilization to function, thrive, and be at peace, we humans need to adopt behavior that reduces our base animalistic urges to a minimum. Promiscuity, gluttony, greed without responsibility--all of these and many more "sins" contribute to the decline of our society.
FearTheBeard1 says2014-04-08T07:49:58.8041121-05:00
I have been Married to same woman for almost 9 years with no doubts or thoughts of adding to the equation.
Juan_Pablo says2014-04-08T07:50:16.6571038-05:00
Our = order (don't ask me how I got these two words mixed up.)
FearTheBeard1 says2014-04-08T07:52:38.5823847-05:00
One woman to love is hard enough without adding a plethora of concubines to please! Can you say nightmare! That goes both ways.
IamPlato says2014-04-08T08:28:15.5821122-05:00
Nicely put Juan_Pablo
IamPlato says2014-04-08T08:29:01.7739455-05:00
Congratulations FeartheBeard1! I have been married 35
Juan_Pablo says2014-04-08T08:36:57.4054572-05:00
Thanks IamPlato . . . And thanks for the friendship add!
FearTheBeard1 says2014-04-08T09:48:33.7164831-05:00
^IAmPlato, that is a rarity to say the least, 35 years strong. Wow, i commend you for the hard work, dedication and sacrifices you have made. Looking forward to my 35 year anniversary one day. What has been the secret to success plato?

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