If marriage is about love, then why aren't friendships regulated by the state?

Posted by: Varrack

I've never found an answer to this question, thus forcing to conclude that the movement to redefine marriage lies on a flawed premise. If the state regulates marriage for the purpose of fulfilling love, there is no reason not to regulate friendships.

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Because friendships don't need to be regulated, whereas marriages do.

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Simple: Marriage isn't about love.

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Because you live with your spouse, and have tax issues together. You don't with friends.

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Because friendships aren't TRUE love.

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Because you can have many friendships at once

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Because the love in a marriage is different than in a friendship

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Varrack says2015-04-30T22:48:50.5600425-05:00
@TBR: Why must it be extended to the same sex? BFFs aren't necessarily different if marriage is just about love.
TBR says2015-04-30T23:36:52.7036953-05:00
Varrack - There is a long list of benefits the government gives based on marital status. That is the point. If you want an answer to your question, that is what it is different. The government don't give a special tax benefit to BFFs. If they DID than all types of friendships (love) would have to be recognized.
TBR says2015-04-30T23:40:09.0990696-05:00
Let me put it this way. I will include Mathgeeks issue with "civil unions" in this too. If the government wants to dissolve all marriages, and issue no more marriage licenses, fine. Churches have been marrying same sex couples for a VERY long time.
TBR says2015-04-30T23:42:45.3818732-05:00
As an aside... I don't know what state you live in, but this issue is all but done at this point. The discussion should move on to... I don't know, but something else. We are all but done with the battle over marriage.
Varrack says2015-04-30T23:49:46.4337935-05:00
I was hoping for a discussion..Not the "well it's over. Find something else to talk about" well ok then.
TBR says2015-04-30T23:51:12.4306479-05:00
I will talk about it Varrack, I just wonder if you get that the battle is won (lost if you like).
Varrack says2015-04-30T23:52:30.8053575-05:00
Pretty much I guess.
TBR says2015-04-30T23:53:25.5518107-05:00
So, if we COULD undo this. Would you accept government (and all other places marriage is accepted and shown preferential treatment) dissolved?
Varrack says2015-04-30T23:56:32.1456726-05:00
No marriage regulation at all? Nah, I'm not for that libertarian kind of stuff :p
TBR says2015-04-30T23:59:42.6318726-05:00
I agree. Look, when I got married I felt like my ring had some special power. I can't entirely describe this, but it is special. My father told me "keep the certificate save, you will need it". We were both right. There is emotional significance and legal significance. Both are good for our society.
briantheliberal says2015-05-07T22:49:16.7368806-05:00
I don't know, maybe it's because marriage is about the law?
Varrack says2015-05-07T23:13:34.3259674-05:00
Diqiucun_Cunmin says2015-05-08T01:36:59.9117760-05:00
Varrack, if you've ever discussed gay marriage with briantheliberal (which I don't know if you have), you should know that Brian believes marriage is a legal thing. :P
jaksunmadness says2015-05-10T23:07:30.1258438-05:00
Can you give an example on what the govt regulates on marriage?
jaksunmadness says2015-05-10T23:09:09.8104828-05:00
Marriage never was about love its intended use was wholly different to what you think.

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