If your wife had another man's child, would you take care of it?

Posted by: YamaVonKarma

Not including rape

  • Yes. I would.

  • No. I'm out.

27% 6 votes
73% 16 votes
  • I'd advise her to get an abortion first but if she didn't want to then yes I'd take care of it. Just because it's not your child doesn't make it irrelevant to whether you should care or help. Given when the fetus becomes a person after it's born, it is now a human and deserves to be treated with love, respect and given happiness. Saying no is like giving up on a child just because it's not yours and that's wrong.

  • I would. You can't punish the child for something her mother did. If I felt I could trust her when the baby was born - and surely that's implied by the question - I would, I hope, forgive her for it. Single parenting can be very damaging for a child and he or she wouldn't deserve to go through that.

  • It is not the child's fault that my wife cheated on me.

  • It's not the child's fault.

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bigdave says2014-08-13T10:39:58.2459157-05:00
In many States, the husband is presumed to be the father, and is legally bound to care for the child. The only way out would be by a DNA test, followed by a divorce.
knu says2014-08-13T11:02:23.9311938-05:00
Man that's rough.
1814Username says2014-08-13T11:03:29.2150492-05:00
Let the woman lay in the bed she made. But the problem is that our laws are so anti-men, the guy may be forced to take care of the kid. Read up on the laws. They are too one sided in America. Women aren't equal --- they are favored. This is why you should never ever get married if you have any kind of money.
YamaVonKarma says2014-08-13T11:11:14.4159952-05:00
The wife can chose to keep, abort, or give away the child without us even knowing. We can also be forced to pay for a child that isn't ours. The system is VERY much rigged.
The_Immortal_Emris says2014-08-13T11:12:49.3750213-05:00
Men cannot be forced to pay for a child that is not theirs.
YamaVonKarma says2014-08-13T11:15:45.8054452-05:00
It's happened before. http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2013/07/29/child-support_n_3672474.html
knu says2014-08-13T11:20:57.1652017-05:00
Tie her tubes, I bet she didn't know who the father was, so she put his name down.
The_Immortal_Emris says2014-08-13T11:23:22.2791923-05:00
Eh, that's one very convoluted state law, and they dropped the court order, so the fellow didn't actually have to pay.
YamaVonKarma says2014-08-13T13:15:53.4338197-05:00
@discomfting... So you don't mind your wife cheating, deciding to keep the child, and having you raise it?
discomfiting says2014-08-13T13:17:01.3731262-05:00
I would mind the cheating part but no for the raising the child.
YamaVonKarma says2014-08-13T13:19:07.2363466-05:00
Would you stay with her?
discomfiting says2014-08-13T13:20:18.2179596-05:00
Trust is earned not given; I'd give her the chance to earn the trust back to preserve the marriage but this isn't baseball, if you screw up twice, I'm out but I'll still care for the child.
YamaVonKarma says2014-08-13T13:21:59.6953091-05:00
Hmm... I was about to call you beta. But that seems like a more lenient version of our stances.
knu says2014-08-13T19:22:00.3139788-05:00
@Everyone Who voted yes. What if you're wife takes you're kindness for weakness and start popping out other guy's babies like a soda machine? I only ask because I seen females like that.
Shield says2014-08-13T23:46:33.2136210-05:00
LOL why are all the NO votes assuming that the woman cheated???? The question was obviously talking about meeting a woman with children
Shield says2014-08-13T23:47:47.6832507-05:00
Oh nvm, i see the OP has proved me wrong, I guess I am the one who assume wrong, though optimistically

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